Great advice Sarah

The questions are easy yet the answers are very hard and may inevitable lead to resentment in such scenarios!

Certainly you should step away from the situation for a while then when you come back, agree you understand a decision needs to be reached which may not completely satisfy all parties! Agree that you understand resentment may eat away at the fabric of your relationship and needs to be discharged before you start so that decisions are reached from a level playing field without your emotions muddying the water!

It may help to enrol a third party, or a piece of paper to write all factors, two columns "FOR" and "AGAINST!" Never throw this sheet away and it may help to write at the outset your short, medium and long term GOALS perhaps for the next ten years!

If you reach a point where two options exist and yet you still cannot decide without one party seeming the loser, sleep on it, and if absolutely necessary let any blame or resentment fall as if on the toss of a coin rather than the fabric of your relationship!

You may even use a coin!

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