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Sounds like neither generosity or stupidity

Submitted by Jo on March 18, 2008 - 21:01.

This behaviour sounds controlling and manipulative to me. Behind a veneer of altruism, he's plastering over some deep psychological wounds, e.g. a low sense of self worth. Like Finance Girl said, some guys try to buy the love of their children. He could be trying to buy friendship, or paying his ex not to bad mouth him.

But when push comes to shove, when he throws your money back in your face when you try to pay your own way, he's still controlling your behaviour to fill his own neurotic needs. It's no wonder that some of his friends are taking advantage. He's setting himself up for co-dependent relationships.

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