I'm sorry if my replies yesterday were a *tad* dramatic and overbearing and if I caused any bad vibes here. That wasn't where I was coming from.

Other than that, you might want to check out http://kuchinskas.typepad.com/hug_the_monkey/ and http://www.birthpsychology.com/primalhealth/primal13.html and any other resource for oxytocin - the hormone which is transferred between mother and infant and back again during breastfeeding and is later re-created (or unfortunately not) in other relationships. See also human bonding, relating, normative patternings etc. - virtually hard-wiring the brain and body for love, reciprocity, compassion or as was mentioned - pathology (addictions, disorders, criminal behaviors and others).
Positive behavior ~can~ be learned, healing can be achieved to a very high degree, however transformation of self, communities and world requires the re-wiring - re-prioritizing of our desires - and that can only be achieved via re-membering - re-connecting the severed parts (neurotransmitters and receptors of the 9 components of love - 9 amino acids formed in a chain).

Heavy stuff. But necessary to know that love is our birthright and it's high time it was realized.

Take care - joy