Frugal sex? - Page 2

Looby · 03-10-2008, 07:37 PM

@ GOTO, I'm a little concerned that your OB is saying that when there is not a lot of literature to support it. On the contrary withdrawal and periodic abstinence have failure rates that are twice as high as barrier methods and three times as high as hormonal methods. (Trussell & Vaughan, Family Planning Perspectives, 1999).
I'm going to have to say, birth control pill, in a committed relationship, or condom and pill, is the best method to keep sex frugal.
My friend calls this the double or nothing rule (pill and condom or do without!)

Megan · 03-11-2008, 03:39 AM

GOTO, I agree with Looby. That is some very disconcerting advice from your OB, seeing as all the research doesn't back it up.

Both methods are touted by religious groups as the only acceptable means of birth control (though some don't even agree with withdrawal). And I agree that if your religious beliefs don't let you use any other forms of birth control, well, then periodic abstinence and withdrawal are your best bet. But they're not all that effective.

NaturallyCheap · 03-11-2008, 01:10 PM

I wonder how people do birth control before the condom?

Looby · 03-11-2008, 01:35 PM

@ Naturally Cheap- Badly- see above.

mcnerd · 03-11-2008, 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by NaturallyCheap

I wonder how people do birth control before the condom?

I think it was called "Castration."

GOTO Fashion · 03-12-2008, 12:24 AM

@ Looby and Megan - you both make good points. My OB may have also been factoring into the equation the fact that I was exclusively breastfeeding at the time, which was my reason for wanting to forgo hormonal birth control in the first place. Breastfeeding itself has a natural fertility suppression effect.

Combined with breastfeeding, these methods worked for us for two years. Our second (entirely planned) baby is due this summer.

purplefdu · 03-12-2008, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by GOTO Fashion

Breastfeeding itself has a natural fertility suppression effect.

Not a very big one I would think. My best friend has 5 kids, all less than a year apart using the same methods you are...granted she and her husband aren't the best at math but they do use a calendar to track it and still got pregnant every time.

As for my "frugal" methods, I've got a small stack of condom samples including a sheepskin one (husband is afraid to use that one) as well as a stack of KY that cost me .25/box after coupons. We paid $2 last time for condoms between the sale and coupon. Didn't even have to buy a weird brand.

My mom's best frugal tip has always been :wear old lady flannel nightgowns and put your hair in curlers. If you scare off your husband/partner you won't need other methods of birth control, lol.

Drew · 03-12-2008, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by mcnerd

Historically frugal sex occurs after a couple gets married and has children.

Ha ha ha. That's good.

NaturallyCheap · 03-12-2008, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by purplefdu

My mom's best frugal tip has always been :wear old lady flannel nightgowns and put your hair in curlers. If you scare off your husband/partner you won't need other methods of birth control, lol.

I have heard that even that turn on some guys :P

rainysparadigm · 03-16-2008, 08:29 PM

Found 4Play adult box sets at the 99 cent store - too weird, had to get them (there were 3). Actually a few smorgasbord condoms (minty fresh! lol), a tip card, and either oil or body paint or some other small trinket. The laugh we got out of it was worth the 99 cents...lol....and they were fun to play with. Saw the same thing at walgreens for like 5 or 6 dollars a box.

You can also buy condoms at the dollar store. Expiration date good. Can't say I've tried them yet though lol

03-11-2008, 03:39 AM	#12
Megan Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 308 Reputation: (63)	GOTO, I agree with Looby. That is some very disconcerting advice from your OB, seeing as all the research doesn't back it up. Both methods are touted by religious groups as the only acceptable means of birth control (though some don't even agree with withdrawal). And I agree that if your religious beliefs don't let you use any other forms of birth control, well, then periodic abstinence and withdrawal are your best bet. But they're not all that effective. __________________ Counting My Pennies

03-12-2008, 12:24 AM	#16
GOTO Fashion Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: L.A. Posts: 80 Reputation: (11)	@ Looby and Megan - you both make good points. My OB may have also been factoring into the equation the fact that I was exclusively breastfeeding at the time, which was my reason for wanting to forgo hormonal birth control in the first place. Breastfeeding itself has a natural fertility suppression effect. Combined with breastfeeding, these methods worked for us for two years. Our second (entirely planned) baby is due this summer. __________________ GOTO Fashion/Haus CecilyBee Family Maven Frugal Style&Beauty CoolSavings LinkShare

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03-10-2008, 07:37 PM	#11
Looby Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 74 Reputation: (14)	@ GOTO, I'm a little concerned that your OB is saying that when there is not a lot of literature to support it. On the contrary withdrawal and periodic abstinence have failure rates that are twice as high as barrier methods and three times as high as hormonal methods. (Trussell & Vaughan, Family Planning Perspectives, 1999). I'm going to have to say, birth control pill, in a committed relationship, or condom and pill, is the best method to keep sex frugal. My friend calls this the double or nothing rule (pill and condom or do without!)

03-11-2008, 01:10 PM	#13
NaturallyCheap Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 57 Reputation: (10)	I wonder how people do birth control before the condom?

03-11-2008, 01:35 PM	#14
Looby Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 74 Reputation: (14)	@ Naturally Cheap- Badly- see above.

03-16-2008, 08:29 PM	#20
rainysparadigm Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 55 Reputation: (12)	Found 4Play adult box sets at the 99 cent store - too weird, had to get them (there were 3). Actually a few smorgasbord condoms (minty fresh! lol), a tip card, and either oil or body paint or some other small trinket. The laugh we got out of it was worth the 99 cents...lol....and they were fun to play with. Saw the same thing at walgreens for like 5 or 6 dollars a box. You can also buy condoms at the dollar store. Expiration date good. Can't say I've tried them yet though lol