Marriage advice for a younger guy

[mobilephone7]

i think it is too small (19 years old) to marry!

[starshard0]

Originally Posted by mobilephone7

i think it is too small (19 years old) to marry!

A lot of people tell me that, but by the same token people seem to think it's okay for an 18 year old to enlist in the Military. Putting arbitrary ages on something like marriage seems silly to me.

[ninjaowen]

once you're married you have to adjust everything in your life. say going on a bar or travelling for leisure in your single times/moments now you will have to set it aside.. there are more serious responsibilities now that you have to maintain and must fulfill once married. you have to be very careful now on every decision you make. you have to to be firm for your family's future and a lot more.

[starshard0]

Originally Posted by ninjaowen

once you're married you have to adjust everything in your life. say going on a bar or travelling for leisure in your single times/moments now you will have to set it aside.. there are more serious responsibilities now that you have to maintain and must fulfill once married. you have to be very careful now on every decision you make. you have to to be firm for your family's future and a lot more.

I'm not really into traveling and I don't drink, nor do I plan to (too expensive). I definitely look forward to the responsibility of providing for a family, and that's one of the reasons I've been getting as much advice about it as possible.

[RickLee]

..you each may have different habits and priorities when it comes to money. Don't assume that your ways will match with hers. You might want to talk about things like:

1. Joint or Separate Bank Accounts
2. Bills
3. Pre-marriage debts
4. Gifts to family members - how much, etc
5. Wedding spending - how much
6. Honeymoon spending - how much
7. etc.

Best wishes for a successful marriage!

RICKLEE

[ModernTightwad]

We got married when my husband was 19 and I was 23 (I know, I know). Something that helped us, is we set rules for communication. We weren't allowed to say, "Whatever!", "Nevermind", or "Nothing" because that's not communication, that's game-playing. After almost five years, I've learned that all of our perfect planning had little to do with how much we had still to learn. Be flexible with each other, and also flexible enough to take in new information and apply it to your situation. If you're going to be gone for long periods of time, you might want to budget some emotional spending, or extra trips for her to be with family if she needs. Taking into consideration each others needs (you trying to create the most stable, financially secure environment, her potential loneliness and isolation if you're deployed) will allow you to make good decisions in the best interest for each other, and your marriage.

[trustno1]

The following has no relevance specific to being in the military, or any other career. It is simply general advice on the institute of marriage.

"Always make sure you are worth more alive than dead!"

lol

[trustno1]

Ok, I guess I could toss out something constructive...

When you are communicating with each other, actually pay attention to what the other person is saying when they are speaking, instead of spending that time thinking about what YOU are going to say next.

[FinanciallySMART]

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