romance http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/1013/all en-US 8 Relationship Mistakes Everyone Makes http://www.wisebread.com/8-relationship-mistakes-everyone-makes <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/8-relationship-mistakes-everyone-makes" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple_relationship_trouble_000013834490.jpg" alt="Couple making relationship mistakes everyone makes" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>One of the biggest issues I've found with relationships &mdash; in practically all of them &mdash; is that there are cracks in every façade; we just don't like to talk about them.</p> <p>Even though it's not the easiest topic of conversation to engage in, I'm a staunch advocate for laying our problems out on the table with people we trust. Among close friends, we can talk about what's going on in our lives, receive feedback and advice, and most importantly, recognize that we're not alone in the problems we face with our significant others. After all, the truth will set you free, right?</p> <p>In lieu of such grand admissions, let's back it up and start smaller, by identifying the universal relationship issues we all face but rarely talk about.</p> <p>See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-money-mistakes-everyone-makes-but-no-one-talks-about">20 Money Mistakes Everyone Makes But No One Talks About</a></p> <h2>1. You Do Things Just to Please Your Partner</h2> <p>There's nothing wrong with doing something nice for your partner, even going out of your way at times to make them happy &mdash; consider it a byproduct of being in love. But when you start doing things just to please your partner &ndash; and you're doing them excessively &ndash; you run the risk of being disappointed, even more so when your proactiveness isn't warranted or requested. Eventually, you'll start to notice an imbalance in your relationship &ndash; you're pleasing your partner in various ways and he or she isn't following suit. It may be a situation that you created though, so how can you really be mad at that?</p> <p>As a result, according to Michele Fabrega, love, intimacy, and sexuality coach for men, we can feel resentful when we start to expect our partner to make sacrifices for us.</p> <p>&quot;It can end up being a sort of ledger that we keep inside our heads, a competition of sorts,&quot; she says. &quot;Instead, I like to invite my clients to really ask themselves, before they say yes to their partner's request, 'Is this something I can feel good about?' And if not, I invite partners to collaborate, not compromise.&quot;</p> <h2>2. You Become Codependent on One Another</h2> <p>We've all seen it happen to our friends: They start dating and spending more time together until eventually they can't spend time apart. That's not healthy, and if you're in this type of relationship, it's time to reevaluate your priorities.</p> <p>&quot;Some people don't allow themselves to sail through the infatuation stage, and because of this, some couples tend to lose their own lives and become intertwined in each other's,&quot; explains dating and life coach <a href="http://annahrose.com/">Annah Rose</a>. &quot;Their lives then become solely about each other.&quot;</p> <p>Becoming codependent on one another is bad habit for any relationship, but especially one in the early stages. Even when you're trying to build the relationship in the beginning, each partner needs his or her space. Without breathing room, tensions eventually will mount, likely ending in a blow-up when someone feels smothered.</p> <h2>3. You Snoop on Each Other</h2> <p>&quot;Once someone snoops they are labeled as 'crazy,' but here's the thing &mdash; in this day and age of social media and smartphones, more people than not are snooping. This becomes one of the unhealthiest traits to bring into a relationship,&quot; says Rose.</p> <p>Let's dissect that. On one hand, most people in a relationship are guilty of snooping in some form of another; most likely as a result of something that raised their suspicion, but it's important to note here that it's not just women; men are doing it &mdash; in their own way, and whether they'd like to admit it or not. Secondly, snooping is never good for the relationship. People rarely get away with it, but it also signals a bigger problem &mdash; a complete lack of trust. Maybe that's justified, but I can tell you from firsthand experience that once this habit is established, it won't stop, and neither will the activity that facilitated it. In that case, you're both going to have a hard road trying to keep that relationship together&hellip; because it probably should've ended a long time ago.</p> <h2>4. You Blame Each Other When Things Go Wrong</h2> <p>Nobody likes to admit they're wrong or at fault for whatever goes awry in a relationship, and that's never clearer than when romantic partners are in an argument. Accusations fly and fingers are pointed in an attempt to absolve oneself from responsibility for whatever you're fighting about. As we all know, however, that gets us nowhere, and Fabrega offers an alternative solution.</p> <p>&quot;Relationships are complex and the way each of us responds or reacts to life situations are infinitely unique,&quot; she says. &quot;Rather than go into blame or criticism, I like to encourage people to bring compassionate curiosity to the situation. What am I feeling? What happened here? What led to this outcome? What can I learn from this situation? What do I wish I had done differently? If partners can come together and be on the same team to address a problem, they can be part of the solution. This is key relationship skill that partners can strengthen over time.&quot;</p> <h2>5. You Try to Change the Other Person</h2> <p>I think we've all watched enough <em>Oprah</em> and <em>Dr. Phil</em> to know that we can't change our partners, no matter how hard we try. It's a fool's errand that will end up in heartbreak, so it's best to accept your partner's flaws, or move on.</p> <p>You also should do some soul searching of your own. If you want your partner to change so badly, they're probably not right for you. Find someone else who more closely embodies what you want in a man or woman, if only so you're not making your partner feel like they're not good enough all the time. That's not fair to them, and you're doing what's best for you either.</p> <h2>6. You Aren't Empathetic Enough With One Another</h2> <p>When two people love each other, they want the best for each other. Which is why it's interesting and confusing and sad that when couples argue with one another, they can be downright evil. Passion has a way of taking over sometimes, but it's important to remember that there's no taking back what you say to one another.</p> <p>&quot;Humans are pretty self-centered and we rarely look at another person's circumstances,&quot; says couples' therapist and relationship podcaster Eboni Harris. &quot;If your partner says something hurtful, think about times that you have used the wrong words and it led to an argument. Wouldn't you want the chance to explain what you meant in a safe conversation before your partner jumped down your throat? If you know that your partner loves you and is not in the habit of purposefully hurting you, give them an opportunity to explain.&quot;</p> <h2>7. You Withhold &quot;Uncomfortable&quot; Information</h2> <p>Here's something to chew on: We communicate more than ever with text messages, social media, dating apps, etc., but we rarely <em>talk</em> about anything worthwhile anymore. That goes double for those touchy subjects that we've always had a hard time discussing, and not being forthcoming with our partners can create a wedge in the relationship that sometimes drive us apart.</p> <h2>8. You Create Impossible Expectations</h2> <p>We've all pretty much been brainwashed to believe that we deserve the perfect partner. You know the one: amazing credentials online, they live incredible lives according to their various profiles, have the best families, are well-traveled, neatly dressed, blah blah blah. And physically, they're the ideal specimens &mdash; fit, attractive, curves in all the right places, and so on. So, of course, good luck (and God help you) with that!</p> <p>But as Mitch Kahan, co-founder of the dating app<a href="http://www.inviteup.com/"> InviteUp</a>, warns, spending too much time cultivating relationships online instead of offline can set up you up for failure, over and over again.</p> <p>&quot;All the pre-date chatting builds up expectations, possibly to an unreachable level,&quot; he says. &quot;The same goes for spending too much time texting your significant other; most people can't compete in person with the version of them you create in your head. Spending weeks chatting online are better served spending time in person where you can get a real feel for your chemistry without the buffer of text communications.&quot;</p> <p><em>What other relationship mistakes are we making but not talking about? I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-relationship-mistakes-everyone-makes">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/spice-up-the-conversation-by-skipping-what-do-you-do">Spice Up the Conversation by Skipping &quot;What Do You Do?&quot;</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/make-these-6-relationship-moves-now-or-youll-regret-it-in-20-years">Make These 6 Relationship Moves Now or You&#039;ll Regret It in 20 Years</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-much-should-you-actually-be-spending-on-a-date">How Much Should You Actually Be Spending on a Date?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-be-happy-and-married-24-tips-from-a-24-year-old-marriage">How to Be Happy and Married: 24 Tips from a 24-Year-Old Marriage</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-much-personal-finance-info-should-you-share">How Much Personal Finance Info Should You Share?</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Lifestyle breakups dating mistakes dating tips love relationships romance Mon, 21 Dec 2015 12:00:03 +0000 Mikey Rox 1621620 at http://www.wisebread.com 9 Ways to Spend Less on Your Significant Other (And Not Get Killed!) http://www.wisebread.com/9-ways-to-spend-less-on-your-significant-other-and-not-get-killed <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/9-ways-to-spend-less-on-your-significant-other-and-not-get-killed" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple_opening_gift_000054352330.jpg" alt="Couple opening gift" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Being in a relationship is expensive &mdash; whether you've been together a day or a decade. That means that at some point you'll need to reign in the spending (unless your last name is Gates or Rockefeller). Here are nine ways to do it without ending up on your partner's hit list.</p> <h2>1. Buy Dollar Store Greeting Cards</h2> <p>Tangible cards are quickly losing their appeal in this digital world (I stopped sending out holiday cards five years ago to preserve time, money, and paper), though they're not bygone relics just yet. It's still nice to receive one every now and again. But at an average price of $3 to $7 a pop &mdash; yes, some cards cost as much as a small meal now &mdash; they can put a considerable dent in your gift-buying budget over the course of a year. To scale back, ditch the premium greetings and hit up the dollar store.</p> <p>&quot;I've been purchasing greeting cards from the dollar store ever since I discovered them a few years back,&quot; says Kedal Perez,&nbsp;<a href="http://www.couponsherpa.com">Coupon Sherpa</a>'s resident money-saving expert. &quot;I often find the perfect card &mdash; sometimes two &mdash; for just 50 cents, compared to Hallmark cards costing $4 and up. In addition to holidays, I like to buy 'just because' cards for my husband when I remember to be a good wife. This habit saves me a ton and conveys the sentiment I'm looking for.&quot;</p> <p>While you're there, don't forget to pick up other gift-giving essentials like gift bags, balloons, tissue paper, ribbons, and more.</p> <h2>2. Decorate a Gift Instead of Wrapping It</h2> <p>On one occasion, I didn't have birthday-specific gift wrap for a present for one of my nephews, and in a bind I decided to decorate the plain cardboard box with crayons. My lack of resources resulted in a gift with a thoughtful presentation that didn't cost any additional money. I've kept up this habit with other gifts throughout the year, keeping a considerable amount of cash in my pocket. You also can adopt this practice. Get creative, too. You can use all kinds of items &mdash; markers, glue and glitter, and other crafty-type items like bows and ribbons that you may have lying around.</p> <h2>3. Celebrate a Holiday Post-Holiday</h2> <p>Ready to be a prime-time savings boss? Celebrate big holidays like Valentine's Day and Christmas after February 14 and December 25. It'll probably take a bit of convincing on your part &mdash; having nothing to open on Christmas morning will seem strange &mdash; but if it works out for the both of you, you're looking at substantial markdowns on all the coveted gifts.</p> <p>&quot;My husband and I recently agreed to celebrate certain holidays [like Valentine's Day] after the fact to avoid mark-ups,&quot; Perez says. &quot;He bought me a beautiful bouquet of orange roses and white lilies on February 15, and I loved them just as much as I would have a day earlier.&quot;</p> <h2>4. Buy Flowers From the Grocery Store</h2> <p>Speaking of flowers, you're spending too much if you're going to a local florist. It's an unfortunate fact, because I like to support small business &mdash; but they just don't have the discount buying power that large chain supermarkets do. You will have to contend with a more limited selection, perhaps, but that's an easy compromise to make when a beautiful bouquet doesn't make you weep for all the wrong reasons.</p> <h2>5. Shop the Clearance Section for Gifts</h2> <p>I'm always keeping my eye out for the perfect gift for my husband, and I hit the jackpot when it's from the clearance section. Whenever I'm shopping &mdash; for anything &mdash; that's the first place I go. I bypass the new arrivals, to the eye rolls of the associates, and get my discount on. This is a great tactic to cut costs on birthday, holiday, and anniversary gifts (or just ordinary wardrobe updates), and you can walk away with some amazing deals if you're shopping well out of season.</p> <h2>6. Make a Gift If You Have the Skills</h2> <p>I like receiving shiny gadgets as gifts from my husband, but I would equally appreciate anything he gave me that was completely handmade. The kind of dedication it takes to make a handcrafted gift sends the message that he'd rather spend time on something thoughtful than buy an item that will never have an ounce of sentiment. Those handmade Christmas ornaments would be treasured forever, but I would replace the iPhone he bought me as soon as a new one was released.</p> <p>Brett Hamilton, whose business <a href="http://www.simple.be">SIMPLE.BE</a> was built on the idea of handmade gifts, agrees.</p> <p>&quot;My favorite way to give great gifts to my wife without spending too much is to custom-make practical gifts for her,&quot; he says. &quot;One year I made her a new waterproof duffle bag from vinyl trucker tarps for soccer games. Last year it was a black and white tote bag made from old recycled sails. She loved it so much.&quot;</p> <p>There is one slight complication with this tactic, however: Your SO might get used to the idea of receiving handmade gifts, so you may have to keep it up once you start it. But is that kind of appreciation really so bad?</p> <h2>7. Get Accustomed to Discount Dating</h2> <p>My husband and I have one rule for our dates (or at least I do): Never pay full price.</p> <p>Seriously, if you're planning dates at full retail value, you're doing it all wrong &mdash; and you're paying dearly for it.</p> <p>There's absolutely no reason you shouldn't be saving money on every date you have together, given the abundance and availability of daily-deal sites, coupon codes, free activities, BOGO deals, and other discount dating opportunities. Even when you can't find a discount, there's probably a way to shave off a few bucks if you're willing to adjust your plans. Take the movies, for instance. In my neck of the woods, a regular screening is no less than $12 (up to $22 when you start throwing in 3D and IMAX). But if you plan the date before noon, you can score $7 tickets at certain theaters like AMC. All you need is a little creative thinking to reduce of the cost of virtually any activity or meal date.</p> <p>Also, don't forget to use your military or students discounts where available. My husband forgets to ask about military discounts all the time, which is why it's a good thing he has me. I never forget, and with the money I saved him on this-and-that admission, he has enough left over to buy me lunch.</p> <p>I love when it works out like that.</p> <h2>8. Buy Refurbished Electronics When Appropriate</h2> <p>Some people are picky about the newness of their electronics, so you need to know your partner well enough to be certain they won't act like an ungrateful brat when they find out their gift is previously own or refurbished. Personally, I prefer that my phone is new &mdash; I don't like the idea of someone else using something that touches my face (I know it's clean, but still) &mdash; though I have no qualms with receiving, say, a refurbished iPad. Buying refurbished can save you hundreds of dollars &mdash; and these deals are available for a wealth of electronics, including video games &mdash; so whether or not to implement this tactic is a relevant conversation to have with your guy or girl.</p> <h2>9. Spend More Time and Effort Than Money</h2> <p>Now that we're past the materialistic and superficial things, let's get real: No amount of money you spend will ever equal the value of your time and effort. I touched on this a bit when I talked about handmade gifts, but it really applies to all aspects of your relationship. Gifts are nice, of course, but a reasonable person (read: a keeper) will choose a free date, gift, meal, or experience with you over something with a price tag any day. Learn how to pay attention to one another's needs before it jeopardizes the relationship, and you're on the right track to a happy life together. Good luck!</p> <p><em>Do you have any ideas on how to spend less on your significant other without getting killed? Let me know in the comments below.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-ways-to-spend-less-on-your-significant-other-and-not-get-killed">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/regifting-a-simple-how-to-guide">Regifting: A Simple How-To Guide</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-stuff-i-try-never-to-buy-new">The stuff I try never to buy new</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-wrap-gifts-with-leftovers">How to wrap gifts with leftovers.</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/big-list-of-senior-discounts">Big List of Senior Discounts</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/90-off-is-not-a-deal-if-you-don-t-need-it">90% off is not a deal if you don’t need it.</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> General Tips Shopping bargains cheap gifts Dating Holidays romance Mon, 23 Mar 2015 17:00:07 +0000 Mikey Rox 1351086 at http://www.wisebread.com 20 Valentine's Day Gifts for $10 or Less http://www.wisebread.com/20-valentines-day-gifts-for-10-or-less <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/20-valentines-day-gifts-for-10-or-less" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/iStock_000033431802_Full.jpg" alt="man woman kiss" title="man woman kiss" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>It's easy to forget that Valentine's Day is about celebrating love over material things &mdash; what, with all the swag being shilled in the name of Cupid &mdash; but you can put more of an emphasis on your actual relationship while still gifting a small, thoughtful present with a smidge of effort.</p> <p>Alas, I can't help you with what you'll <em>do</em> to recognize your partner or loved ones on February 14, but I can make a few suggestions on several special items you can <em>give</em> to bring a smile to that someone's face. Best of all, everything is $10 or less. Let's go shopping.</p> <h2>1. Aqua Love Notes</h2> <p><img width="201" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/AquaNotes.jpg" /></p> <p>Specially designed for Valentine's Day, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00A3VJ7UK/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B00A3VJ7UK&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=QZRWQTOUE2EB6DST">Aqua Love Notes</a> &mdash; a waterproof pad for the shower for you and your honey to exchange sweet greetings &mdash; comes with a pencil, suction cup holder, and 40 sheets of waterproof paper. You'll bring a grin to your significant other's face on a regular basis by leaving sexy messages every time you hop in for a scrub.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $7</strong></p> <h2>2. Love Photo Album</h2> <p><img width="189" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/LovePhotoAlbum.jpg" /></p> <p>If your beau is a bit old school, this <a href="http://www.joann.com/mini-photo-album-4inx6in-holds-24-photos-love/13929005.html">mini, love-inspired photo album</a> holds 24 memorable moments in the form of 4x6 photographs that he or she can cherish in hard copy for years to come. To fill the album quickly and easily, download the photos via the CVS app or website to your local CVS. Prints are 19 cents each at most locations and can be done within an hour. You can make a more elaborate gift by also including memories such as movie stub tickets, notes to one another, a hotel key card, and other mementos.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $6.65</strong></p> <h2>3. Excelsior Cabernet Sauvignon 2012</h2> <p><img width="141" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/Excelsior_Cabernet_Sauvignon.jpg" /></p> <p>Nothing says &quot;I want to get drunk with you&quot; better than a bottle of red wine, and the <a href="http://www.wine.com/v6/Excelsior-Cabernet-Sauvignon-2012/wine/131327/Detail.aspx">Excelsior Cabernet Sauvignon 2012</a> is an affordable way to get that sultry sentiment across. Featuring notes of blackcurrant, black cherry, and plum with subtle hints of dark chocolate and spice, it's a perfect complement to a homemade Valentine's dinner.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $9.99</strong></p> <h2>4. Design a Tea</h2> <p><img width="467" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/Design_A_Tea.jpg" /></p> <p>You'll earn big points with a gift from <a href="http://www.designatea.com/designatea.php">Design a Tea</a>, which allows you to create and personalize your own loose or easy-fill teabags. With a wide selection of ingredients from which to choose, you can put together a package of drinkable delight, especially if you know the recipient's favorite foods and flavors.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $4.95</strong></p> <h2>5. It's All Buttah Bath Salts</h2> <p><img width="361" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/EtsyBathSalts.jpg" /></p> <p>The handmade bath salts from Etsy store <a href="https://www.etsy.com/shop/ItsAllButtah">It's All Buttah</a> are just what the doctor ordered for those who like to kick back in a relaxing bath. Scented with organic lavender essential oil, the salts are soaked for a week to ensure that they're highly fragrant and moisturizing.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $8.25</strong></p> <h2>6. &quot;Good For One Mediocre Shoulder Rub&quot; Coupon Book</h2> <p><img width="477" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/GoodForOneMediocreShoulderRub.png" /></p> <p>If you've been married for a while, you're sure to find the humor in this <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1612433987/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1612433987&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=UDIKM2HM6PVCQMVH">quirky coupon book</a> that allows the recipient to redeem for special domestic treatments like the eponymous mediocre shoulder rub, a night off from doing the dishes, and more. Pair it with some special edition Hot Tamales candies &mdash; emblazoned with the word &quot;Hottie&quot; on the box in celebration of Valentine's Day &mdash; for an even more gratifying gift.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $9.34</strong></p> <h2>7. BBQ Sauces and Rubs</h2> <p><img width="283" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/PirateJonnysBBQRubs.jpg" /></p> <p>If you've got a serious meat lover in your midst, touch his heart by way of his stomach with <a href="http://www.piratejonnys.com">Pirate Jonny's Caribbean BBQ</a> rubs and sauces. I recommend picking up one bottle of <a href="http://www.piratejonnys.com/content/sauces#!/Syrenas-Seduction-Hot-Sauce-5-OUNCE-BOTTLE/p/37510578/category=9301220">Syrena's Seduction Hot Sauce</a> and pairing it with a new <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002SU7GHK/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B002SU7GHK&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=EPNZI4LTA2VQRHSL">silicone basting brush</a>, or spring for two bottles in <a href="http://www.piratejonnys.com/content/sauces#!/Pirate-Jonnys-Hot-Saucey-Combo-Pack/p/44530035/category=9301220">Pirate Jonny's Hot Saucey Combo Pack</a> for double the deliciousness.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $9.25 to $9.74</strong></p> <h2>8. Sharetapes</h2> <p><img width="375" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/Sharetapes.jpg" /></p> <p>Mixed tapes are a thing of the past, but the concept of compiling musical content to express your feelings to someone you love is alive and well in the present.</p> <p>Next-generation <a href="http://www.sharetapes.com/">Sharetapes</a> enable you to give a classic mixtape-style gift in the form of a digital production by connecting to services like Spotify, YouTube, SoundCloud, and 8tracks. Once complete, all the recipient has to do is activate his or her Sharetape with NFC or QR enabled smartphone or tablet. Packs of five are available at $9.99 &mdash; which will eat up your entire budget &mdash; so I suggest picking up one Sharetape for $2.49 and pairing it with another music-inspired gift, like framed ticket stubs from a memorable concert or this <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ATSLKXE/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B00ATSLKXE&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=WF3W2BKK2L7TM2Y3">music note bottle opener</a>.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $7.79</strong></p> <h2>9. Panasonic Earbuds</h2> <p>Instead of a Sharetape for your musically inclined paramour, go another route by creating a playlist in iTunes and secretly uploading it to his or her device. Leave a note instructing your partner how to find the playlist along with a pair of new <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;high-price=10&amp;keywords=panasonic%20earbuds&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;low-price=&amp;qid=1430423712&amp;rh=n%3A172282%2Cn%3A281407%2Cn%3A172532%2Cn%3A172541%2Ck%3Apanasonic%20earbuds%2Cp_36%3A1253503011%2Cp_89%3APanasonic&amp;rnid=386442011&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;x=3&amp;y=12&amp;linkId=NIF4ZUB3TD7GQQYY">Panasonic headphones</a> with which to listen.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $9.99</strong></p> <h2>10. Dappertime Cufflinks</h2> <p><img width="375" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/Dappertime_Cufflinks.jpg" /></p> <p>If your man prides himself on his put-together appearance, the gift of a glittering brass accessory will definitely make his day. These gold-colored, crown-shaped <a href="http://www.dappertime.com/collections/dapper-cufflinks/products/rex">Rex cufflinks</a>&nbsp;from Dappertime's Cuffmachines collection let him know that he's king of the castle &mdash; even when you know better.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $9.99</strong></p> <h2>11. Melt-Your-Heart Brownies</h2> <p>For this <a href="https://www.hersheys.com/celebrate/valentines/recipedetail.aspx?id=96449&amp;name=REESES-Melt-Your-Heart-Brownies">DIY gift</a> you'll need a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00ODSY5ZQ/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B00ODSY5ZQ&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=DVMSMI2GTYJQZVIX">heart-shaped silicone baking mold</a>, Hershey's cocoa, Reese's Peanut Butter Chips, 18 Reese's Peanut Butter-Filled Hearts, and a few pantry staples. The result is decadent candy-topped brownies made from scratch that you and your boo can share anywhere &mdash; even in bed.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $5.59 + a few ingredients</strong></p> <h2>12. Coracao Confections</h2> <p><img width="250" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/FeelGreatChocolate.jpg" /></p> <p>Get a little fruity &mdash; then nutty &mdash; as you put together a special selection of chocolates for your S.O. Eclectic choices from <a href="http://www.coracaoconfections.com">Coracoa Confections</a> include the Ghost Pepper Baby Bar, Kale Granola Bark, Rose Truffles, Berry Caramel Hearts, and more.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $3.25 to $5.99</strong></p> <h2>13. Inkling Scents</h2> <p><img width="328" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/InklingScents.jpg" /></p> <p>Breathe in the aroma of love with a five-fragrance sample package from <a href="http://www.inklingscents.com/">Inkling Scents</a>. Select from a dozen women's scents, seven men's scents, and one unisex scent to create a personalized package. Each milliliter vial is packaged in a clear pillow box tied with a bow.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $10</strong></p> <h2>14. &quot;I Love You Mom&quot; Trinket Dish</h2> <p><img width="250" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/ILoveYouMomTrinketDish.jpg" /></p> <p>You can't forget mom on Valentine's Day &mdash; she's the reason you're here after all. Show her a small measure of your appreciation with the <a href="http://www.kennebugboutique.com/pd-i-love-you-mom-trinket-dish.cfm">&quot;I Love You Mom&quot;trinket dish</a> from Kennebug Boutique. This cream-colored ceramic dish with a flower border and terra cotta backside will be Mom's new favorite place to keep all her cherished charms and baubles.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $6.99</strong></p> <h2>15. Pop Vinyl Figures</h2> <p>Let him know he's your Superman (or that she's your Superwoman!) with Funko's officially licensed <a href="http://www.fun.com/search.aspx?q=pop+heroes">Pop Heroes collection</a>, available at Fun.com. These vinyl figures, which stand 3.75 inches tall, are molded and painted to look like your favorite comic book heroes (and villains), like Batman, Superman, and Wonder Woman, among other favorites. The full collection features a wider array of characters from other pop-culture mainstays, including The Wizard of Oz, Elf, Game of Thrones, Big Bang Theory, Goonies, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Star Wars, Adventure Time, Masters of the Universe, and Disney.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $9.99</strong></p> <h2>16. Credit Card Survival Tool</h2> <p><img width="250" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/credit-card-survival-tool.jpg" /></p> <p>Maybe I've watched too much Walking Dead or perhaps I'm just keenly aware of what's really happening in the world, but either way I'm taking precautions to prepare for a catastrophe that will render me self-sufficient. Given the world in which we live nowadays, you probably have a similar person in your life &mdash; and they'll totally appreciate the thoughtful and functional <a href="http://www.thegiftsformen.com/credit-card-survival-tool.php#">Credit Card Survival Tool</a>&nbsp;from Gifts for Men. This compact, stainless-steel lifesaver (it's no bigger than a credit card) features 11 useful applications, including a saw, box opener, bottle opener, can opener, wrench, ruler, and more. Perfect for camping, backpacking, or bugging out when the ish hits the fan.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $5</strong></p> <h2>17. Homemade Treats</h2> <p><a href="http://www.effortlessgirl.com">Effortless Girl</a>'s Julie Loven provides a few ideas on how to bring the heat &mdash; and the sweet &mdash; in the comfort of your own kitchen.</p> <h3>Valentine's Cookie Sandwiches</h3> <p>Bake chocolate cookies in the shape of hearts and use strawberry ice cream, frozen yogurt, or gelato in the center so you have Valentine colors of chocolate and pink.</p> <h3>Valentine's Marshmallow Pops</h3> <p>Purchase pink marshmallows from the supermarket. Place them on lollipop stick and dip half of the marshmallow in melted chocolate. Allow to harden and serve pops for stirring in hot chocolate. Very delicious.</p> <h3>Chocolate-Dipped Strawberries</h3> <p>An old standby. Easy to make. Dip each berry into melted chocolate and allow to harden.</p> <h3>Optional Add-On: Breyer's Gelato Indulgences</h3> <p><img width="494" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/BreyersGelatoIndulgences2.jpg" /></p> <p>If you happen to have money left in your budget, spring for a container of <a href="http://www.breyers.com/product/category/694165/gelato">Breyer's Gelato Indulgences</a> &mdash; which just introduced its mint chocolate chip flavor &mdash; to pair with any of your homemade treats for a little extra indulgence.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $4.49-$5.99</strong></p> <h2>18. Love With Food Box</h2> <p>For the health-conscious humanitarian in your life, send a <a href="https://lovewithfood.com">Love With Food box</a>, an organic or all-natural snack box that helps fight hunger in America. The Tasting Box includes eight or more surprise snacks that are either organic or all-natural, GMO-free, gluten-free, or free of artificial junk. Each box donates one meal to hungry children in America. Long-term subscriptions are available, but you also can purchase a one-time box.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $10</strong></p> <h2>19. Konectidy Bracelets</h2> <p><img width="366" height="250" alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5123/Konectidy_Bracelets_0.jpg" /></p> <p>Empower your children to be the best they can be with a surprise from <a href="http://konectidy.com">Konectidy</a>, color-coded bracelets that you design, name, and own with a specific positive meaning for the recipient. Konectidy was built on &quot;the spirit of 'paying it forward' for both individuals and charities&hellip; in whatever colorful way you choose.&quot; Pre-made bracelets also are available to support various causes like Legacy of Hope, Domestic Violence Ended, and R.I.S.E. &amp; Stand.</p> <p><strong>Cost: $9.95</strong></p> <h2>20. Yiftee eGifts</h2> <p>You know I love a good discount, and <a href="http://yiftee.com/">Yiftee</a> is a great way to deliver almost effortless but thoughtful savings to someone special with just a few clicks. Just choose a merchant (like a cool neighborhood bar, cafe, shop, or spa), select a gift value, write a personal message &mdash; &quot;Hey Sallie, meet me at Mike's Bar at 8 p.m. tonight; here's something for your first glass of wine in case you get there early&quot; &mdash; and send instantly via e-mail or text. Sallie then receives the eGift on her smartphone with the ability to instantly thank the sender, and she can redeem the eGift by presenting the mobile voucher to the service provider. Sounds like the beginning of an awesome date, if I do say so myself.</p> <p><em>Do you have any other Valentine's gift ideas for under $10? Let me know in the comments below.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-valentines-day-gifts-for-10-or-less">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/30-meaningful-mothers-day-gifts-for-every-budget">30 Meaningful Mother&#039;s Day Gifts for Every Budget</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/80-stocking-stuffer-ideas-for-10-or-less">80 Stocking Stuffer Ideas for $10 or Less</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/21-perfect-holiday-gifts-for-book-lovers">21 Perfect Holiday Gifts for Book Lovers</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-budget-gifts-you-can-bring-to-a-holiday-party">7 Budget Gifts You Can Bring to a Holiday Party</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/what-to-buy-and-avoid-buying-in-december">What to Buy (and Avoid Buying) in December</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Frugal Living cheap gifts gift guides gifts product reviews romance Valentine's Day Tue, 10 Feb 2015 18:00:08 +0000 Mikey Rox 1286594 at http://www.wisebread.com 14 Ways to Spend Less Money on Valentine's Day http://www.wisebread.com/14-ways-to-spend-less-money-on-valentines-day <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/14-ways-to-spend-less-money-on-valentines-day" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple-valentines-day-breakfast-Dollarphotoclub_73459350_0.jpg" alt="couple valentines day" title="couple valentines day" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>If you're rolling your eyes at the fact that you have to loosen your wallet once again so soon after Christmas, you're not alone. Because while Valentine's Day is an excellent excuse to concentrate on reconnecting with our significant others, it's also a day that we've come to dread because of the anticipated cost of expressing such love.</p> <p>This year, however, you don't have to be a slave to the dollar sign if you're willing to put in a bit of thoughtfulness, creativity and time. Check out these 14 ways to celebrate your better half without going broke &mdash; then add your own low-cost ideas in the comments below.</p> <h2>1. Skip the Restaurant &mdash; Prepare a Home-Cooked Meal</h2> <p>My husband once tried to take me to dinner on Valentine's Day without a reservation. That's all I'll say about the situation since I'm pretty sure you can figure out how it went down after that. To avoid being frustrated and annoyed on Two-Fourteen, we now skip dining out altogether and opt to make a homemade meal instead &mdash; but one decidedly more fancy than an ordinary night's dinner.</p> <p><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">If you're not exactly a whiz in the kitchen, don't fret just yet. There are plenty of apps available to walk you through the cooking process. </span><a href="http://www.sidechef.com" style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">SideChef</a><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">, in particular, is an ideal resource for step-by-step instructions on how to prepare wow-inducing meals like </span><a href="http://www.garlicandzest.com/bourbon-marinated-flank-steak" style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">Bourbon-marinated flank steak</a><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">,</span><a href="http://hapanom.com/herb-roasted-cornish-game-hen/" style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;"> herb-roasted Cornish game hen</a><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">, and </span><a href="http://www.expatcucina.com/2012/10/26/lemon-baked-cod-fish/" style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">lemon-baked cod fish</a><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 1.7em;">.</span></p> <h2>2. Use Daily Deals for Discounts If You'd Like to Dine Out</h2> <p>If you're a gambler and want to roll the dice by dining out on Valentine's Day, at least hedge your bets by picking up a daily-deal discount, says Bakke.</p> <p>&quot;If you want to visit a restaurant, use the websites Groupon or LivingSocial to find 50% off vouchers to local eateries,&quot; he suggests.</p> <p>But buyer beware: Some of the vouchers make have blackout dates that include holidays like Valentine's Day, so be sure to read the fine print before purchasing the discount.</p> <h2>3. Make a Handcrafted Valentine From a Favorite Memory</h2> <p>I'd much rather receive a handmade gift &mdash; even if it looks like it was made by the three-year-old trapped inside my husband's body &mdash; than an arbitrary gift that equates cost to affection. And there are innumerable ways you can make something from the heart.</p> <p>&quot;Print out a photo of your favorite memory together and glue some embellishments to an inexpensive frame,&nbsp;<a href="http://www.krazyglue.com/product/details/krazy-glue-20g-craft-gel#.VL1TSEfF-mE%3E">suggests a rep at Krazy Glue</a>. &quot;This cost-effective gift is made with love and shows how thoughtful you can be.&quot;</p> <p>Alecsy Christensen, Miss Utah USA finalist and author of the blog <a href="http://www.glittergatsby.com">Glitter Gatsby</a>, offers another dynamic idea.</p> <p>&quot;Show your valentine how much you care by gifting something special anyone can make,&quot; she says. &quot;My Valentine's Day gift idea would be '52 Things I Love About You' on a deck of cards. Write something you love about your loved one on a piece of paper, glue it to a card, do this for all 52 cards, and hole punch all the cards together and secure the cards with binder rings.&quot;</p> <p>These are gifts that keep on giving for years to come, and they let your partner know that they're worth your time and effort.</p> <h2>4. Complete Unfinished Projects Around the House in the Name of Love</h2> <p>In lieu of a gift this year, get to work and earn your partner's affect instead of buying it. Revisit your &quot;Honey Do&quot; list to see what projects still need to be completed around the house &mdash; surely there's a thing or two that needs a little TLC. You can kill two birds with one stone by going this route, if your partner appreciates the man (or woman) hours you put in.</p> <h2>5. Plan a Romantic Movie Night in With Valentine's-Inspired Snacks</h2> <p>Movie nights are a staycation staple, but they're perfectly acceptable (even better, I think) on Valentine's Day. Let your partner pick the flicks &mdash; or share the title-choosing responsibility &mdash; and prepare a few easy-to-make snacks to enjoy during the screenings. Try this <a href="https://www.hersheys.com/recipes/recipe-details.aspx?id=8447">peanut butter and chocolate-drizzled popcorn recipe</a> with only 190 calories per one cup serving, these <a href="http://insidebrucrewlife.com/2012/01/cherry-marshmallow-rice-krispy-treats/">cherry-marshmallow Rice Krispies treats</a> (which also include M&amp;Ms!), or candy shop-quality <a href="http://mrsfoxssweets.blogspot.com/2012/01/chocolate-dipped-valentines-pretzels.html">chocolate-covered Valentine's pretzel sticks</a>.</p> <h2>6. Plan a Low-Cost &quot;Experience&quot; Date to Facilitate Interaction</h2> <p>Doing is much better than saying &mdash; which is why you two need to get out and about to show your affection instead of exchanging it verbally.</p> <p>Zina Kumok, author of the blog <a href="http://www.debtfreeafterthree.com/">Debt Free After Three</a>, agrees.</p> <p>&quot;Experiences are always more valuable than things so instead of buying gifts for Valentine's Day, we try to do things together,&quot; she says. &quot;Last year we went to an arcade together. We played lots of games together and it was so fun doing something silly for a couple hours. On the way back we stopped by a flea market and walked around. It should be more about celebrating your relationship than getting a gift.&quot;</p> <p>Josh Aaron, author of the blog <a href="http://www.tobuildmyown.com">To Build My Own</a>, feels similarly.</p> <p>&quot;Don't spend anything at all,&quot; he says. &quot;Instead, give your girl an experience. Take her to watch the sunset, cook her a light but tasty dinner, use candles and romantic music, and dance with her a little bit. The key is to make her feel special. Expensive gifts help, but they aren't better than meaningful experiences that show her you care.&quot;</p> <h2>7. Get Creative and Shake Things Up in the Bedroom</h2> <p>One of the best parts of Valentine's Day is the facilitation of intimacy that's often put on the back burner the rest of the year. This year, kick your bedroom antics up a notch and get creative. I can't go into too much detail in this regard (family blog and all), but I'm sure if you put your mind to it you can put together a night to remember.</p> <h2>8. Hold Off on Buying Jewelry Until After Valentine's Day</h2> <p>Offers.com savings expert Amber Sager says &quot;if you're planning to buy jewelry for your Valentine, hold off until <em>after</em> February 14. Right after Valentine's Day, the demand for jewelry goes way down, and retailers supply huge discounts to attract customers.&quot;</p> <p>This is a tricky tactic, because what's the point of giving a gift after Valentine's Day, right? But if your partner is flexible and understanding and loves to save a few dollars just like you do, waiting to buy jewelry until the holiday has passed may result in significant savings.</p> <p>I think this is something you two should discuss in advance, however &mdash; sure, it won't be a surprise, but it's much better than saying nothing and giving nothing on February 14; disappointment will abound &mdash; so you're both on the same page in terms of expectations and perhaps can plan an alternative activity in the meantime.</p> <h2>9. Compare Prices Before You Buy Your Valentine's Gifts</h2> <p>You compare prices on almost everything else you buy &mdash; or at least you should &mdash; so why wouldn't you do it when trying to find an ideal Valentine's gift?</p> <p>&quot;Just because you found one bouquet for $100 doesn't mean it costs that much everywhere,&quot; Sager points out. &quot;Offers.com has a <a href="http://www.offers.com/valentines-day/">Valentine's Day Savings Center</a> that allows you to compare the best deals and coupons for Valentine's Day, and we update it with the best offers daily.&quot;</p> <h2>10. Create a Coupon Book That Your Significant Other Can Redeem From You</h2> <p>This is another tried-and-true low-cost gift that puts more of an emphasis on doing rather than saying.</p> <p>About an action-inspired coupon book, Sarah Edison of <a href="http://www.theloveyourjobproject.com">The Love Your Job Project</a> says some of &quot;the best Valentines Day gifts are the least expensive. The best I had was a homemade book of 'coupons' (things that my significant other would do for me), such as one free hour-long massage, no laundry duty for a week, a homemade dinner, car wash and vacuum, breakfast in bed, and other romantic gestures that don't really cost anything. This can be a great gift because it is creative and unique to your relationship.&quot;</p> <h2>11. Satisfy His or Her Valentine's Sweet Tooth With From-Scratch Baked Goods</h2> <p>Take note, gentlemen: If you ever have the pleasure of dating me in the future, you'll always win my heart with freshly baked cookies, cakes, pies, and pastries. Hope you like 'em pudgy.</p> <p>Seriously though, if you're an aspiring baker, start with these decadent, easy-to-make <a href="http://recipeforperfection.com/ultimate-deep-dish-brownies-recipe/">Ultimate Deep Dish Brownies</a> from Katie Moseman, writer at Recipe for Perfection, to make the holiday all the more delicious.</p> <h2>12. Try the $1 Anti-Commercialism Valentine's Challenge</h2> <p>Valentine's Day for $1? Seems unlikely, but if you take your cue from Angela Reed-Fox and her husband, both directors of a<a href="http://www.foxcycling.com"> cycling center in the UK</a>, you can do it &mdash; and have some fun while you're at it.</p> <p>&quot;For several years, my husband and I have taken the $1 challenge. This is mainly because he thinks V-Day is a day for businesses to make guilt money out of men, and partly because being original says 'I love you' more than picking up flowers from the garage on your way home,&quot; she says. &quot;A couple of ideas we've done in the past is an 'I love you' box &mdash; an inexpensive wooden box filled with tiny little scrolls printed with 'I love you' reasons &mdash; some of them mainstream, some more bizarre. Or using sticky notes to plant 'I love you' messages everywhere. Seriously, everywhere! That sucker in the bottom of the hole punch took months to find &mdash; but having 'I love yous' popping up well after the day itself leaves you with a lovely, warm glow.&quot;</p> <h2>13. Spring for the Practical Household Gift That Was Already on Your List</h2> <p>Instead of buying a present that doesn't have a true function, decide together that this year's Valentine's gift will be something that you both want to make your lives more convenient or something that you need to replace an old, perhaps non-working household item.</p> <p>&quot;Don't waste your money on flowers that are perishable or a fancy box of chocolate that will probably be misinterpreted because of added pregnancy weight,&quot; advises Zaida Khaze, mother of two and inventor of the <a href="http://www.wiggletot.com">Wiggletot Diaper Changer</a>. &quot;Be economical, buy the gift you already intended to buy for the home that will help save you money.&quot;</p> <h2>14. Just Go With the Flow and Find the Extra in the Ordinary</h2> <p>This is by far the best solution to saving money on Valentine's Day that I've heard in a long time. It's cute, clever, and these two seem to embrace the irony of such a simple outing on a day that otherwise can be taken over the top.</p> <p>&quot;A few years back my girlfriend (now fiance) and I were shopping at Costco on Valentine's Day,&quot; recalls Brent C., founder of personal-finance site <a href="http://www.vosa.com">Vosa.com</a> and all around awesome boyfriend. &quot;After shopping we were talking about where to go for dinner. We mutually decided on getting hot dogs at Costco, which I think are $1.50. We sat there, talked and laughed while enjoying our $3 Valentine's dinner. This has now become a tradition that we do every year, although sometimes we do spring for the chicken fingers, which totally blows the $3 budget. We make it fun, and I often joke throughout the year and especially as Valentine's Day gets closer that I better call to reserve the 'best table by the tire section' before someone else does. This year we'll be in San Diego over Valentine's Day and we are already planning our Costco hot dog dinner date &mdash; and we're planning to get a $1 churro for desert!</p> <p>&quot;I think it's possible for anyone to find fun ways to share the sentiment without breaking the bank,&quot; he continues. &quot;It's all about making it about the experience rather than the price of the dinner and wine.&quot;</p> <p>Touché. Let's all take a page from Brent's playbook this year.</p> <p><em>Do you have low- or no-cost Valentine's ideas to add? Let us know in the comments below.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/14-ways-to-spend-less-money-on-valentines-day">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/from-5-to-30-date-ideas-for-every-budget">From $5 to $30+, Date Ideas for Every Budget</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-cheapest-dates-that-dont-seem-so-cheap">9 Cheapest Dates That Don&#039;t Seem So Cheap</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/flower-power-a-guide-to-frugal-valentines-flowers">Flower Power - A Guide to Frugal Valentine&#039;s Flowers</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/single-parent-try-these-10-tricks-for-entertaining-kids-on-a-budget">Single Parent? Try These 10 Tricks for Entertaining Kids on a Budget</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-holiday-mistakes-that-can-ruin-your-cheer">8 Holiday Mistakes That Can Ruin Your Cheer</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Entertainment Lifestyle cheap dates entertainment Holidays romance Valentine's Day Fri, 06 Feb 2015 18:00:09 +0000 Mikey Rox 1285755 at http://www.wisebread.com Want to Be More Attractive? Work These 5 Magic Words (and Phrases) Into Your Vocabulary http://www.wisebread.com/want-to-be-more-attractive-work-these-5-magic-words-and-phrases-into-your-vocabulary <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/want-to-be-more-attractive-work-these-5-magic-words-and-phrases-into-your-vocabulary" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/happy-couple-whispering-167615685-small.jpg" alt="happy couple whispering" title="happy couple whispering" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Many people say the beauty is in the eye of the beholder.</p> <p>As the years go by, it's very liberating to realize that you're the most important beholder. Feeling confident and comfortable in your own skin is one key to becoming more attractive.</p> <p>Want to speed up that process? Here are five magic words and phrases to find that balance of body, mind, and spirit, and become more attractive.</p> <h2>1. &quot;Damn&quot;</h2> <p>It may appear as an indecent proposal, after all certain types of cursing may completely turn off a potential partner.</p> <p>However, the smart use of this curse word has positive effects on your speech. Using the word &quot;damn&quot; at the beginning or end of your speech significantly <a href="http://www.niu.edu/user/tj0bjs1/papers/ss06.pdf">increases your persuasiveness and your perceived intensity</a>.</p> <p>When you use this word, people tend to have a more positive attitude about the main topic of your speech. The logic is that you present yourself as giving your candid opinion and showing passion about a topic. These two qualities are refreshing and make you more attractive in the eyes of others.</p> <p>Now, there is an important difference when saying &quot;damn&quot;:</p> <ul> <li>If you're a woman, say it with a smile. <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21604870">Men find happiness as the most attractive female expression</a>.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>If you're a man, say it with pride instead. <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-1390319/Scientists-happy-men-significantly-attractive-ladies.html">Women consider men with a raised head or a puffed-up chest more attractive</a>.</li> </ul> <h2>2. &quot;I Like You a Lot&quot;</h2> <p>There's no escaping the law of reciprocation. In a nutshell, this law states that you become obliged to give back what a person gave to you in the first place.</p> <ul> <li>If Peter invites you to a party, you feel obligated to invite him back.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>When Mary buys you a cup of coffee, you promise to buy her one the next time.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Steve bought you a present for your birthday, so you make a note to buy him one on his birthday.</li> </ul> <p>In a study in which women were shown Facebook profiles of men, the <a href="http://pss.sagepub.com/content/22/2/172">women were more attracted to the men</a> who had said that they liked the women a lot. The study showed that women were more attracted to men that &quot;like them a lot&quot; over those that just &quot;liked them.&quot;</p> <p>So if you like somebody, say it with passion! That way the feeling has a higher probability of being reciprocated.</p> <h2>3. &quot;Thank You&quot;</h2> <p>Good manners are sexy.</p> <p>Joint research from the Harvard Business School and the Wharton School found two important <a href="http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2013/03/the-power-of-thanks/">effects from receiving a &quot;thank you&quot;</a> after completing a task for somebody.</p> <p>First, individuals that receive thanks after completing a task feel higher levels of self-worth than those that don't receive a note of gratitude. It's no secret that we like to be around people that make us feel better about ourselves. Saying &quot;thank you&quot; when somebody does something nice for you makes you stand out from the crowd.</p> <p>Second, individuals that receive gratitude are more likely to help the person giving that gratitude. Remember the law of reciprocation? It applies here as well. By saying &quot;thank you,&quot; you create an opportunity to bond with members of the opposite sex and create your window to talk often in the future.</p> <p>Don't miss a chance to thank others &mdash; they will definitely remember it.</p> <h2>4. &quot;You&hellip;&quot;</h2> <p>If you're already close to being intimate with your crush, seal the deal by being specific and using &quot;you.&quot;</p> <p>According to a renowned psychotherapist and author, <a href="http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/sexy_things_to_say_to_her/printer.php">&quot;you&quot; is the hottest word you can say to a woman in bed</a>. This subtle modification intensifies feelings and acts as a strong stimulant.</p> <ul> <li>Say &quot;you're great&quot; instead of &quot;this is great.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Whisper &quot;I want you&quot; instead of &quot;I want this.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Shout &quot;you feel good&quot; and not &quot;this feels good.&quot;</li> </ul> <p>By working &quot;you&quot; into your talk with your partner you convey that you care and focus on your partner. This makes you more attractive and desirable.</p> <h2>5. &quot;What Do You Think&hellip;?&quot;</h2> <p>Whether it is a simple &quot;What do you think we should get for dinner?&quot; or a more profound &quot;What do you think about the new mass transportation proposal for the city?&quot; asking for the opinion of somebody else is a surefire way of making yourself more attractive in their eyes.</p> <p>This way you're asserting that his or her opinion is important to you and that you take it into consideration.</p> <p>No matter how big or small the decision, if you involve somebody in the decision-making process, it makes them feel special and appreciated. This phrase is particularly effective with good looking people because it shows that you care not only for their looks, but also for their brains.</p> <p><em>What words or phrases do you find attractive? Whisper them in comments!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/damian-davila">Damian Davila</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/want-to-be-more-attractive-work-these-5-magic-words-and-phrases-into-your-vocabulary">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-ways-to-feel-more-attractive-without-actually-changing-how-you-look">12 Ways to Feel More Attractive Without Actually Changing How You Look</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-ways-to-gain-more-confidence-today">15 Ways to Gain More Confidence Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second">If You&#039;re Doing This on Your First Date, You&#039;re Not Getting a Second</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/17-little-ways-to-feel-more-confident">17 Little Ways to Feel More Confident</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-do-things-that-scare-you">How to Do Things That Scare You</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development attraction attractiveness confidence romance Mon, 03 Nov 2014 11:00:05 +0000 Damian Davila 1248273 at http://www.wisebread.com 8 Ways to Save on a First Date Without Looking Cheap http://www.wisebread.com/8-ways-to-save-on-a-first-date-without-looking-cheap <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/8-ways-to-save-on-a-first-date-without-looking-cheap" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple-first-date-80471436-small.jpg" alt="couple first date" title="couple first date" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>A first date is your chance to get to know someone better &mdash; and if you're lucky, make a love connection. However, if you come off as a cheapskate, you may never get the chance. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second?ref=seealso" style="text-decoration:none;">If You're Doing This on a First Date, You're Not Getting a Second</a>)</p> <p>Like so many others dealing with the aftermath of a recession, you may not have the resources to wine and dine your date. But this doesn't mean you can't show her (or him) a good time. Luckily, you don't have to break the bank to guarantee a second or third date. Here are eight ways to save on the first date without looking cheap.</p> <h2>1. Know Your Date's Interests</h2> <p>There's no law that says you have to spend a lot on a first date to make a good impression. If you're trying to keep the date within a specific budget &mdash; but you don't want to appear cheap &mdash; you need to find low-cost activities that match your date's interest. Maybe your date enjoys outdoor activities like hiking, or maybe she's an animal lover. After you know what makes her tick, research inexpensive options in your area. With this trick, even if you choose a super cheap activity, your date won't think you're being cheap. Instead, you'll score big points for being intuitive or observant, which practically guarantees a second date.</p> <h2>2. Pick Seasonal Activities</h2> <p>Choose seasonal activities that don't cost a lot and you'll save money without looking like a miser. Since these activities are once-a-year events, your date may enjoy the experience regardless of how little or how much it costs. Seasonal activities might include a hayride, a parade of holiday lights, strawberry picking, or fireworks in the park.</p> <h2>3. Wine and Dine at Your Place</h2> <p>Going to a nice restaurant and catching a movie isn't exactly cheap. You can easily spend $40 or $50 on dinner and another $30 at the movies. If you cannot afford a $100 night, offer to wine and dine your date at your house &mdash; or hers. Choose a budget-conscious meal and create a romantic ambience. Perhaps a bottle of inexpensive wine, candlelights, fresh flowers, and an after-dinner movie on Netflix. Your date will be so impressed by your effort, that he or she won't give thought to how much you actually spent to make the evening possible.</p> <h2>4. Plan an Early Date</h2> <p>If you want to take someone on a date but you can't afford the experience, get creative with the times. Instead of an evening or night date, how about a lunch date? Go to brunch or lunch and you'll save money by ordering smaller lunch portions. After you finish the meal, catch a matinee and pay $3 or $4 less for a movie.</p> <h2>5. Miniature Golf</h2> <p>Going to dinner is a cliche first date night. If you're looking for something a bit more casual and fun, take your date miniature golfing. Get outdoors and enjoy some activity as you laugh at each other's struggle to make a hole-in-one. Laughing can ease nervousness, and when you're finished playing enjoy a cup of coffee or ice cream.</p> <h2>6. Pay in Advance</h2> <p>If you want to checkout a concert, a play, or another cultural event but can't afford two full-priced tickets, use websites like Groupon to score discounts. Using a coupon on a date is a controversial subject (I think it's perfectly fine, frankly), but your preference may be to avoid showing up with one. You can get around that by picking up the tickets from the box office in advance. Your date won't be any the wiser.</p> <h2>7. Spend the Day at a Lake</h2> <p>If your date is the outdoorsy type, he or she might enjoy spending an afternoon in the park. But you don't just walk around holding hands and chatting &mdash; create a memorable, romantic experience. There are plenty of low-cost park activities suitable for a first date. You can rent paddle boats or go kayaking, or locate a shady spot underneath a tree for a picnic lunch or dinner prepared by your hands.</p> <h2>8. Skip the Expensive Flowers</h2> <p>Some people bring flowers on a first date, but this practice isn't really necessary. A bouquet of roses can set you back as much as $50, which is too much to spend when you don't know what the outcome of your date will be. Besides, if you're meeting your date at a public place, she probably doesn't want to carry a bouquet of flowers in her hands the entire evening. And even if she's able to leave the flowers in her car or at home, a big bouquet might be too much too soon. However, if you can't let go of tradition and you insist on bringing something, a single rose or flower will do &mdash; and it's much easier on your wallet.</p> <p><em>Do you have other ways to save on a date without looking cheap? Please share in comments!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-ways-to-save-on-a-first-date-without-looking-cheap">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-cheapest-dates-that-dont-seem-so-cheap">9 Cheapest Dates That Don&#039;t Seem So Cheap</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/14-ways-to-spend-less-money-on-valentines-day">14 Ways to Spend Less Money on Valentine&#039;s Day</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/from-5-to-30-date-ideas-for-every-budget">From $5 to $30+, Date Ideas for Every Budget</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/find-love-with-these-fun-and-cheap-first-date-ideas">Find Love With These Fun and Cheap First Date Ideas</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-watch-movies-in-the-theater-for-free">How to Watch Movies in the Theater for Free</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Entertainment cheap dates dates first date romance Thu, 30 Oct 2014 15:00:06 +0000 Mikey Rox 1246352 at http://www.wisebread.com 9 Cheapest Dates That Don't Seem So Cheap http://www.wisebread.com/9-cheapest-dates-that-dont-seem-so-cheap <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/9-cheapest-dates-that-dont-seem-so-cheap" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple-flea-market-76728941-small.jpg" alt="couple flea market" title="couple flea market" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Going out on dates doesn't have to break the bank.</p> <p>There are tons of fun ideas that work great for first dates or tenth dates, and may even help set you apart from the other Drinks/Dinner Daters. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/18-frugal-and-romantic-dates-at-home?ref=seealso">15 Frugal and Romantic Dates at Home</a>)</p> <p>Here are nine cheap date ideas that won't make you look like a cheapskate.</p> <h2>1. Stargazing</h2> <p>If you live in a big city, chances are good that you don't get a very good view of the celestial heavens. The solution? Hop in your car and get outside of the big city. Show your date something they haven't seen since they moved to town &mdash; the natural beauty of the stars. Pack a dinner and maybe even some candles.</p> <h2>2. Flea Market</h2> <p>Whether you buy anything or not, flea markets can be great places to wander around. Not only are you going to see some cheap items you didn't know you couldn't live without, you're also going to see some downright weird stuff you and your date will talk about for weeks to come.</p> <h2>3. Go Fly a Kite</h2> <p>When the weather is windy go get a kite and fly it. Not only will it end up setting you back less than ten bucks, it will also bring out a childlike whimsy neither of you have likely experienced for decades. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-fun-toys-and-games-you-can-make-at-home?ref=seealso">10 Fun Toys and Games You Can Make at Home</a>)</p> <h2>4. Brewery and Winery Tours</h2> <p>For the couple that likes to imbibe there's always a tour of the local brewery or winery. Don't drink? Try checking out the local creamery or an ice cream factory. Experience joy you haven't felt since your age was in the single digits.</p> <h2>5. Book Readings</h2> <p>Are you a cultured kind of person? Looking for someone else who shares your interest in the arts? Book readings are generally free and wrap in about an hour. From there, the two of you can grab a cup of coffee, and you'll have a lot to talk about after a reading &mdash; good, bad, or ugly. In the same neighborhood? Hit up an art gallery. Either go on a day when it's not expensive or find a cheap (or free!) one that's a little off the beaten path.</p> <h2>6. Volunteer Together</h2> <p>Volunteer dates show off your compassionate side while also allowing you to have a lot of fun. For example, you can head down to the local dog shelter and play with dogs that are in need of love. Watch out, though: You might end up taking one home with you.</p> <h2>7. Foreign Language Movie Night</h2> <p>One of the problems with a movie date is that it doesn't give you much opportunity to get to know one another. Solution: Get some foreign movies and turn off the subtitles. Make up the plot as you go along. Crack up laughing and get to know each other.</p> <h2>8. Take a Class Together</h2> <p>It doesn't matter what you don't know: There's a great chance you can learn it on the cheap through Groupon or HowAboutWe. The bonding experience can be great and you'll certainly remember it longer than even the best meal.</p> <h2>9. Bar Trivia</h2> <p>Here's one where you can actually leave with more money than you went out with: Go out to bar trivia and play to win. Even if you don't win you won't spend much money on beer and drinks.</p> <p><em>Got any great ideas for cheap dates? Please share in comments!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/nicholas-pell">Nicholas Pell</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-cheapest-dates-that-dont-seem-so-cheap">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-ways-to-save-on-a-first-date-without-looking-cheap">8 Ways to Save on a First Date Without Looking Cheap</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/14-ways-to-spend-less-money-on-valentines-day">14 Ways to Spend Less Money on Valentine&#039;s Day</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/from-5-to-30-date-ideas-for-every-budget">From $5 to $30+, Date Ideas for Every Budget</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/find-love-with-these-fun-and-cheap-first-date-ideas">Find Love With These Fun and Cheap First Date Ideas</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-watch-movies-in-the-theater-for-free">How to Watch Movies in the Theater for Free</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Entertainment cheap dates dates romance Mon, 25 Aug 2014 11:00:03 +0000 Nicholas Pell 1192000 at http://www.wisebread.com If You're Doing This on Your First Date, You're Not Getting a Second http://www.wisebread.com/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/bad-date-163136286-small.jpg" alt="bad date" title="bad date" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="136" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Dating has certainly changed since the world became tech-savvy. With the advent of smart phones, dating apps, and social media, making that awkward first move is not nearly as tough as it used to be. But, once you've both agreed to go on a first date, how do you make sure you get a second? (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/find-love-with-these-fun-and-cheap-first-date-ideas?ref=seealso">Find Love With These Fun and Frugal First Date Ideas</a>)</p> <p>The following behaviors will guarantee that your first date will almost certainly be your last. Oh, and these apply to both men and women, so don't kid yourself that some of these don't concern you.</p> <h2>Turning Up Late</h2> <p>Leave your date chewing on breadsticks for 45 minutes without so much as a call or text message, and two things will happen. First, if your date has been polite enough to stick around, you'll be sitting through the most painful hour of your year. And second, you will not be making plans to do this again. Ideally, you should show up five minutes early. If you are going to be considerably late through no fault of your own, let your date know. If it is your own fault (and really, it always is), apologize but perhaps cushion the blow with something flattering (&quot;I wanted to look really nice for you and completely lost track of time.&quot;) (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-always-be-on-time?ref=seealso">How to Always Be On Time</a>)</p> <h2>Paying Too Much Attention to Your Cell Phone</h2> <p>Really, paying <em>any</em> attention to your cell phone. This is supposed to be a time when you only have eyes for each other. Constantly pulling out your phone to check messages, read Facebook updates and scroll through Reddit and Twitter will not make you very popular. Why would anyone want to give you a second date if you can't put them first for a few hours?</p> <h2>Getting Completely Drunk</h2> <p>Hey, first dates can be nerve-wracking, and a glass of wine or beer can definitely ease the tension. However, you cannot let a few drinks turn into a bender. If you start knocking back the booze like it's ice water in a heat wave, you will come across as an irresponsible jerk that cannot be trusted. You also do not look attractive when you're face down in the dessert and drooling like you've just had major dental surgery. Do yourself a favor. Have one or two drinks, and stop.</p> <h2>Turning the Date Into 20 Questions</h2> <p>First thing's first; people love talking about themselves. So, if you ask questions that get people to open up and talk about their favorite subject, you'll be doing well. Being a good listener is a very attractive quality, and asking about someone's life is just as becoming. But, you can go too far.</p> <p>If it goes from &quot;tell me more about the kind of work you do&quot; to &quot;how much do you earn?&quot; &quot;how many dates have you been on this year?&quot; and &quot;do you vote Republican or Democrat?&quot; your date is going to feel like they're being interviewed for the role of your next partner. That's a big turn off. To curb this, try to make sure the questions you're asking are open-ended, and follow on what was asked before, as opposed to running down a pre-planned checklist.</p> <h2>Talking About Sex</h2> <p>Flirting is good. Being lecherous is bad. This is a first date, and you should be on your best behavior. By all means respond to the signals you're getting in an appropriate manner, but have some decorum. By diving into the subject of sex, you're giving the impression that you're only after one thing. Even if you both decide that the first date will also be your first intimate encounter, there's no need to become aggressive with it. Show some class.</p> <h2>Being Cheap</h2> <p>Both men and women should come to the date expecting to pay for half of it. This is not the dark ages, both sexes deserve equal treatment, and no one should just sit there expecting the other person to dive into their pocket and pay for everything. If the other person wants to pay, by all means acquiesce politely to their wishes. But being cheap is as off-putting as being drunk. You should show your date consideration. Dating can be expensive, and if you are both willing to meet up, you should both be willing to share the costs.</p> <h2>Bringing Your Buddy</h2> <p>There's not really much to say about this. You may have your doubts about the person you're meeting, and you may also want your best friend to give them the once-over. However, there is a time and a place for that kind of consultation, and it is not on the first date. Bring yourself to the date, and no one else.</p> <h2>Focusing On Your Ex</h2> <p>We all have horror stories about our past. We have also had dream dates. Neither should really be discussed unless the conversation naturally turns to it. Even then, it's good to treat an ex the same way you would a former employer in a job interview. Acknowledge them, but move on quickly. If you stay focused on a bad ex, your date may just wonder if you were the problem. If you go on and on about a great ex, they may feel they can never live up to that ideal.</p> <h2>Playing It Too Cool</h2> <p>There's cool. There's aloof. And there's just plain rude. By all means, dull your enthusiasm a little. You don't want to come across as a desperate eager puppy just dying to go home with someone and be their partner forever. But then the whole &quot;I'm so cool I could freeze hell&quot; routine won't cut it either. &quot;Where would you like to go for dinner?&quot; should not be answered with &quot;hey, whatever, I don't really care.&quot; Be happy to be there, just not so happy your kittens are having kittens.</p> <h2>Being Keener Than Mustard</h2> <p>Perhaps even worse than being too cool for school is being an eager beaver. You turn up for the date with armfuls of gifts, and have pre-arranged for a string quartet to play your date's favorite song (which you found out by cyber-stalking them). It's just too creepy, and honestly, no one wants to be around someone that desperate (even if that is not your intention). Ease off on the gas. By all means show that you're happy to be around, but if you could be a contestant on The Price Is Right, you might want to think about toning down your hyperactivity.</p> <p><em>So, what first date mistakes have you made? What about mistakes your date made? Please share in comments!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/paul-michael">Paul Michael</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-ways-good-manners-make-you-wealthier">5 Ways Good Manners Make You Wealthier</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-ways-youre-driving-your-coworkers-insane">12 Ways You&#039;re Driving Your Coworkers Insane</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/3-supposed-etiquette-faux-pas-that-actually-make-you-look-good">3 Supposed Etiquette Faux Pas That Actually Make You Look Good</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/18-things-people-with-good-social-skills-never-do">18 Things People With Good Social Skills Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Family Lifestyle Personal Development Dating etiquette first dates manners romance Wed, 09 Jul 2014 17:00:07 +0000 Paul Michael 1154565 at http://www.wisebread.com The First Thing You Need to Work on If You Want a Better Relationship http://www.wisebread.com/the-first-thing-you-need-to-work-on-if-you-want-a-better-relationship <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/the-first-thing-you-need-to-work-on-if-you-want-a-better-relationship" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple-5097920-small.jpg" alt="couple" title="couple" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="141" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>It's easy to want to be a good partner. After all, doesn't everyone want to be seen, heard, understood, and loved for who they really are? Those things seem fundamental to any good relationship, but particularly to a romantic partnership.</p> <p>However, in order to find these things, it turns out that we need to be able to offer those things to others. No one is going to want to expend the effort to understand a person who doesn't try to understand them and, at least over the long term, no one is going to try to love a person who doesn't make an effort to love them. In order to have a good relationship with a partner, then, we need to learn to be better partners ourselves.</p> <h2>Happy Relationship, Happy You</h2> <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-happiness/201202/does-marriage-make-us-happy-should-it">Marriage and happiness go together</a>. While scientists aren't exactly sure how they work together, the science shows us over and over again that people in strong and long-term romantic relationships are happier than those who are not.</p> <p>Add that to the fact that close and supportive relationships in general, whether romantic or not, <a href="http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/topic/connecting/connection-happiness">improve our overall wellbeing</a>, and that's strong motivation for making our partnerships as good as they can possibly be. Being a good partner can involve a lot of hard work, especially when it means changing behaviors that are deeply ingrained, or choosing to change in the context of a relationship that is already difficult.</p> <p>If making those changes can lead to long-term happiness, though, it seems like they should be worth the effort. And you may not have to change as much as you think. Instead of starting with external actions, start by thinking differently.</p> <h2>Know Yourself</h2> <p><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-happiness-project/201206/want-know-yourself-better-ask-yourself-these-questions">Knowing yourself is the basis for all of life</a>, let alone for any relationship, romantic or otherwise. Most of us think we know ourselves pretty well, but the truth is that there is always more to know.</p> <p>Knowing yourself is also <a href="http://www.ohrd.wisc.edu/onlinetraining/resolution/step1.htm">the basis for good conflict resolution</a>, which is essential for every relationship. After all, any time there is more than one person involved in a situation, it's only a matter of time until there is disagreement.</p> <p>Taking the time to work through the questions listed at the link at the beginning of this section can help you think about aspects of yourself that you may never have pondered otherwise. Most people find that questions like these are just a jumping-off point for deeper and more intense self-knowledge.</p> <h2>Accept Yourself</h2> <p>I don't know a single person who, in the course of getting to know themselves, has not encountered something that they didn't really like. We are all human, we all make mistakes, and we all have negative characteristics and habits that we aren't proud of.</p> <p>We can beat ourselves up over these things, or we can accept them. While accepting them is the harder road, it is also the one that makes us better partners, because it leads us to being secure in who we are.</p> <p>When we are secure, we aren't looking for a partner to give us that, and we are free to simply be ourselves with someone else who is secure in themselves. This takes a lot of pressure off the relationship and allows it to simply be what it is.</p> <h2>Know Your Partner</h2> <p>Many of us <a href="http://www.wired.com/2010/10/love-ignorance/">don't know our partners</a> as well as we think we do. People change, or we simply don't bother to really get to know them in the first place.</p> <p>John Gottman, one of the leading researchers into what makes relationships work, calls knowing your partner &quot;<a href="http://www.gottmanblog.com/2012/11/the-sound-relationship-house-build-love.html">building a love map</a>.&quot; When you know someone well, you know how to love them. You know what things mean to them, what is happening when you say one thing but they seem to be hearing another, and which things seem like they would indicate love but, for whatever reason, don't do that for your partner.</p> <p>Have fun and learn more about your partner by playing Gottman's <a href="http://www.gottmanblog.com/2011/11/love-maps-20-questions-game.html">20 Questions Game</a>. Even if you don't do very well, you will learn about your partner and can do so in a fun, low intensity way.</p> <h2>Accept Your Partner</h2> <p>Once you know your partner, you have to accept them. It's much easier to get to know someone, choose several things you'd like to change about them, and set about that task. However, you <a href="http://www.embracepossibility.com/blog/how-to-get-along-with-your-spouse/">can't change someone</a> who doesn't want to change. Trying to do this will exhaust and frustrate not only you, but your partner as well.</p> <p>Accepting someone starts when you realize that your partner, too, is human. They aren't perfect, because no one is. And this will be true no matter who you are with. There will always be something about your partner that you wish was different.</p> <p>If you have already worked to accept yourself, this will be an easier task. When you know where your own humanity is frail, it is easier to accept the frailties of others.</p> <h2>Listen and Share</h2> <p>Listening to your partner, accepting them, and then sharing yourself with the trust that they will also accept you, <a href="http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-margaret-paul/recipe-intimacy-revealing-and-accepting">is the path to intimacy</a>. You have work on both the giving and receiving sides, though. If you just work one side, the relationship will be lopsided, and neither you nor your partner will be happy.</p> <p>Learning how to listen and how to share can be an awkward path. Every relationship is different, and so there will be times when it is appropriate for you to listen and other times when you will need to share. It can help to be open with your partner about this awkwardness. You can begin by simply asking them if it is a good time when you want to talk, or inviting them to share when you realize you haven't listened in a while.</p> <p>Being a good partner isn't something that you can achieve overnight. It takes work, intention, and opportunity to learn how to love another person well. When you put your relationship first and give yourself time, many of these things will fall into place as the days, weeks, months, and years pass.</p> <p><em>How do you strengthen your relationships? Please share in comments!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-first-thing-you-need-to-work-on-if-you-want-a-better-relationship">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-relationship-rules-you-should-be-breaking">10 Relationship Rules You Should Be Breaking</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/100-small-things-that-can-bring-you-joy">100 Small Things That Can Bring You Joy</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-feel-better-fast">25 Ways to Feel Better Fast</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-be-a-better-person-today">25 Ways to Be a Better Person Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/want-to-be-more-attractive-work-these-5-magic-words-and-phrases-into-your-vocabulary">Want to Be More Attractive? Work These 5 Magic Words (and Phrases) Into Your Vocabulary</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development happiness marriage partnership romance Wed, 14 May 2014 08:00:28 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1139231 at http://www.wisebread.com 99 Affordable Date Ideas http://www.wisebread.com/99-affordable-date-ideas <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/99-affordable-date-ideas" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/7134946449_9b2ae33f8f_z.jpg" alt="happy couple" title="happy couple" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Going on dates doesn't always have to mean draining your wallet at fancy restaurants. There are plenty of affordable and entertaining dates you can go on with your beloved. After all, it's really the time you spend with your sweetheart that matters and not how much you're spending on the dates. Here are 99 frugal dates for you to try.</p> <p><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/Who-Pays-First-Date-18263016">RELATED: How to Gauge Money&nbsp;Habits on the First Date</a></p> <ol> <li>Cook each other's family recipes for each other.</li> <li>Nostalgia movie night. Watch your favorite movies from during your school years.</li> <li>Watch a free improv show.</li> <li>Go for a hike in a beautiful park.</li> <li>Picnic outdoors and prep delicious foods to feed each other with.</li> <li>Explore the farmers market together, and share some juicy fruits or tasty snacks to munch on.</li> <li>Take a tour around a museum the both of you haven't been to (preferable on free museum day!).</li> <li>Go to open mic night and sing your heart out.</li> <li>Visit a board game cafe and play games to your heart's content.</li> <li>Pal up with your partner for trivia nights in neighborhood bars.</li> <li>Create your own city tour, and visit historic landmarks.</li> <li>Pick a documentary, and discuss it after watching.</li> <li>Have a book club date night. Choose a book to read together, and hold an intimate book club meeting for two when you're both done with it.</li> <li>Volunteer together at the pound, homeless shelter, or your favorite nonprofit.</li> <li>Go swimming together.</li> <li>Stargaze and try to name the constellations you're staring at with the help of an app or book.</li> <li>Watch birds and wildlife, and try to identify them with a book or app.</li> <li>Pick fruit from a farm, and find recipes to cook the fruit with.</li> <li>Plan a trip together, and share pretty pictures and hot-spot descriptions with each other.</li> <li>Buy a travel book of your dream travel destination, and read it together.</li> <li>Visit the library, and read books together.</li> <li>Take a free meditation class together.</li> <li>Bike around the city.</li> <li>Bring $5 to the mall and see who ends up with the best buy.</li> <li>Rollerblade together or go to a roller skating rink.</li> <li>Try ice skating.</li> <li>Go on a free factory tour.</li> <li>Go bowling.</li> <li>Play a sport together.</li> <li>Make desserts for each other.</li> <li>Become a kid again, and play games at the arcade.</li> <li>Throw a fondue night, and experiment with unique ingredients.</li> <li>Go fishing.</li> <li>Watch a movie in a drive-in theater, and make a sundae or a root beer float to consume at home before going.</li> <li>Visit the zoo.</li> <li>Go to a jazz bar.</li> <li>Build a jigsaw puzzle together.</li> <li>Go to a local festival.</li> <li>Visit a flea market or thrift store, and try to find things you can restore together.</li> <li>Walk around Ikea, and get a meal there after exploring.</li> <li>Miniature golf.</li> <li>Attend a tasting of your favorite liquor.</li> <li>Check out an art exhibit.</li> <li>Paint together.</li> <li>Try to fold challenging origami pieces.</li> <li><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/Sharpie-Mug-DIY-Project-24955886">Design mugs</a>&nbsp;for each other.</li> <li>Go to a playground, and exchange childhood memories.</li> <li>Visit a dog park with your dog.</li> <li>Attend a pet show or meetup in your area.</li> <li>Make a scrapbook of your best memories together.</li> <li>Practice photo shoots if one of you is into photography.</li> <li>Attend free lectures.</li> <li>Go to a book signing.</li> <li>Doing crossword puzzles together.</li> <li>Take a dance class.</li> <li>Go to '80s or '90s night at a club or bar in your city, and dress up in clothes from that era.</li> <li>Paint ceramics together.</li> <li>Take a scenic road trip.</li> <li>Play video games from your childhood.</li> <li>Go to an airport, and watch planes take off together.</li> <li>Make and experiment with cocktails. Come up with your own names for the concoctions.</li> <li>Take a ferry ride.</li> <li>Camp in your room, and make blanket forts. Make s'mores with your microwave. Tell ghost stories.</li> <li>Fly a kite together. Perhaps even make the kite together before flying it.</li> <li>Play truth or dare with each other.</li> <li>Go on a coffee date.</li> <li>Visit movie locations in your city, and watch the movies after your tour.</li> <li>Go to the beach, and enjoy activities like building sandcastles and skipping rocks.</li> <li>Do a spa night at home, and give each other massages.</li> <li>Learn a new skill together from YouTube tutorials.</li> <li>Start watching a TV series together.</li> <li>Start a blog together.</li> <li>Go to the rooftop of a very high building and enjoy the view. Bring some sparklers to play with.</li> <li>Tackle an upcycling project. See this list of&nbsp;<a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/Cool-Upcycling-Projects-24338804">111 suggestions</a>.</li> <li>Write out your bucket list with each other.</li> <li>Admire the architecture in your city.</li> <li>Watch a play together. There are plenty of affordable plays hosted by colleges and local community groups.</li> <li>Pet-sit together.</li> <li>Go to a dive bar, and challenge each other to a game of pool, darts, or shuffleboard.</li> <li>Go open-house-hopping together.</li> <li>Check out an indoor rock climbing gym.</li> <li>Play in the snow. Make snow angels and snowmen. Start a snowball fight, and slide down a hill on a sled.</li> <li>Check out a local band.</li> <li>Redeem a daily deal together.</li> <li>Visit a candy store or ice cream parlor, and spend time talking and enjoying sweets.</li> <li>Watch a sports game together.</li> <li>Attend a poetry reading.</li> <li>Participate in a Nerf war.</li> <li>Attend free mixers in your city.</li> <li>Explore a haunted house.</li> <li>Go on a bus or train and get off at a random destination; then spend time exploring that neighborhood.</li> <li>Make a pizza together with all your favorite toppings. Get creative, and attempt to make a dessert pizza.</li> <li>Watch a high school or college sport together.</li> <li>Go to a foreign film night. They usually host one at a school or the library.</li> <li>Volunteer at an archeological dig.</li> <li>Attend a&nbsp;<a target="_blank" href="http://www.homedepot.com/webapp/catalog/servlet/ContentView?pn=HT_WS_WeeklyWorkshops">Home Depot workshop</a>.</li> <li>Learn a language together.</li> <li>Go&nbsp;<a target="_blank" href="http://www.geocaching.com/">geochaching</a>&nbsp;together.</li> </ol> <div class="field field-type-text field-field-blog-teaser"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> Dinner and a movie maybe be classic, but it also gets expensive. Instead, try one of these 99 awesome, inexpensive ways to spend time together. </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-type-text field-field-guestpost-blurb"> <div class="field-label">Guest Post Blurb:&nbsp;</div> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <p style="text-align:center;"><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com" style="border:none;"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u4/savvysugar-300-small.jpg" alt="" /></a></p> <p><em>This is a guest contribution from our friends at </em><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/"><em>SavvySugar</em></a><em>. Check out more useful articles from this partner:</em></p> <ul> <li><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/Cheap-Ways-Treat-Yourself-22129255">22 Cheap Ways to&nbsp;Treat Yourself</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/Financial-Mistakes-Women-Make-22946014">7 Money Mistakes Women&nbsp;Often Make</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/How-Divide-Expenses-Couple-21473777">4 Ways to&nbsp;Divide and Conquer Expenses as a Couple</a></li> </ul> <p>&nbsp;</p> </div> </div> </div> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/popsugar-smart-living">POPSUGAR Smart Living</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/99-affordable-date-ideas">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/flashback-friday-143-fun-and-frugal-ways-to-spend-your-weekend">Flashback Friday: 143 Fun and Frugal Ways to Spend Your Weekend</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second">If You&#039;re Doing This on Your First Date, You&#039;re Not Getting a Second</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/from-5-to-30-date-ideas-for-every-budget">From $5 to $30+, Date Ideas for Every Budget</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/14-ways-to-spend-less-money-on-valentines-day">14 Ways to Spend Less Money on Valentine&#039;s Day</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-relationship-mistakes-everyone-makes">8 Relationship Mistakes Everyone Makes</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Lifestyle budget dating free things to do romance Tue, 05 Feb 2013 11:00:36 +0000 POPSUGAR Smart Living 967629 at http://www.wisebread.com Job-Search Romance http://www.wisebread.com/job-search-romance <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/job-search-romance" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/romance.jpg" alt="couple at sunset" title="couple at sunset" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="194" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p><em>[Editor's note:&nbsp; If you recently lost your job, take a look at Wise Bread's collection of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/lost-my-job-tips-for-the-recently-laid-off">tips and resources for the recently laid off</a>.]</em></p> <p>How is a job search like a romantic adventure or misadventure? Let me count the ways: nine. If you&rsquo;ve ever wondered how to tell if a company is truly interested or just isn&rsquo;t into you, here are clues on interpreting the signals.</p> <p><strong>One</strong></p> <p>A. You get a call within 24 hours of submitting your r&eacute;sum&eacute;. <br /> B. You hear nothing and don&rsquo;t even receive an acknowledgement that the company received your r&eacute;sum&eacute;.</p> <p><em><strong>Romantic Equivalent:</strong></em> He&rsquo;ll call very soon after your first meeting if he&rsquo;s interested.</p> <p><strong>Two</strong></p> <p>A. You think the interview went fabulously and you&rsquo;re already scheduled for a follow-up meeting. <br /> B. You think the interview went fabulously and the company promised to call you by next Wednesday. Now it&rsquo;s Friday and you&rsquo;ve heard nothing.</p> <p><strong><em>Romantic Equivalent:</em></strong> You think the first date went very well (according to my recruiter friends, all position candidates think the interview went well, often contrary to the company&rsquo;s opinion). But was she really fascinated by your cross-country, year-long kayaking trip and did she adore your sense of humor or did she find the way you buttered your bread irritating and your laugh annoying? If you have a second date lined up already, she is intrigued and wants to know more; but if she is avoiding your calls, she&rsquo;s probably not interested.</p> <p><strong>Three</strong></p> <p>A. Your qualifications, professional approach, and leadership style are a great fit for the job and the company.<br /> B. You have some but not all of the qualifications required by the position.&nbsp;<em><strong>&nbsp;</strong></em></p> <p><em><strong>Romantic Equivalent:</strong></em> You are the person he&rsquo;s been hoping to meet for a long time; he didn&rsquo;t realize that someone like you even existed but now that you&rsquo;ve appeared, he&rsquo;ll do whatever it takes to keep you happy.</p> <p>Or, you might be okay but you&rsquo;re not exactly what he&rsquo;s looking for; if you were blonder, taller, thinner (or had a master&rsquo;s degree in logistics, spent 10 years managing&nbsp;an overseas office, and speak English, Spanish, and Mandarin Chinese rather than just English and Mandarin Chinese), you&rsquo;d probably be perfect.</p> <p><strong>Four</strong></p> <p>A. You&rsquo;ve had meetings with your potential colleagues and staff. <br /> B. The group interview was nerve-wracking and you weren&rsquo;t sure exactly who you were supposed to be directing your comments to but you think everything went okay.&nbsp;</p> <p><strong><em>Romantic Equivalent:</em></strong> She is ready to commit to you whether her dysfunctional family agrees with her decision or not.</p> <p>Or, her commitment will be dependent on what her friends think about you.</p> <p><strong>Five</strong></p> <p>A. The company runs a credit check, confirming that you are a responsible person.&nbsp; <br /> B. Your credit rating reveals that you have not been fiscally responsible.&nbsp;</p> <p><strong><em>Romantic Equivalent:</em></strong> He wants to make sure you are financially solvent (or on your way to being financially solvent) before making a commitment. How you manage money is a good indicator of how you manage your life.</p> <p><strong>Six</strong></p> <p>A. You can easily get time off to go to your kids&rsquo; baseball games. <br /> B. The job requires working every weekend, no exceptions.</p> <p><strong><em>Romantic Equivalent:</em></strong> There are more conditions on the relationship than you&rsquo;d like. It seems to you that the annual weekend away with the girls or spending every other holiday with your parents is reasonable, so why doesn&rsquo;t he think so?</p> <p><strong>Seven</strong></p> <p>A. The company can&rsquo;t afford to match your salary from your now-bankrupt employer but has a great healthcare plan, pays large performance-based bonuses, and rarely asks you&nbsp;to work more than 45 hours per week. <br /> B. The company thinks you are greedy when you share your salary expectations.</p> <p><strong><em>Romantic Equivalent:</em></strong> He wants the best for you within his budget.</p> <p>Or, he wants to go out with you as long as it doesn&rsquo;t cost him much in time or money or lost opportunities with friends or other potential alliances.</p> <p><strong>Eight</strong></p> <p>A. An offer is structured and extended within a couple of weeks of your first meeting.<br /> B. There is talk of an offer but it&rsquo;s been several weeks and nothing has materialized.</p> <p><strong><em>Romantic Equivalent:</em></strong> If you are the one she wants to spend the rest of her life with, you will know within a reasonable time.</p> <p>Or, if things seem to be headed for a long-term arrangement but stop short of&nbsp;a commitment (or starting date), then maybe you two just weren&rsquo;t meant for each other.</p> <p><strong>Nine</strong></p> <p>A. You are offered the opportunity to start a new office in London or Hong Kong. <br /> B. If you don&rsquo;t relocate, you&rsquo;ll lose your job.</p> <p><strong><em>Romantic Equivalent:</em></strong> He&rsquo;d like to relocate as long as you&rsquo;ll be with him.</p> <p>Or, he'll let you go if it means moving.</p> <p>But, there is at least one job-search rule that deviates from romantic ones: PLAY THE FIELD. Don&rsquo;t wait around to get a definitive answer from Company X before you start pursuing Company Y or entertaining offers from Company Z (unless you have signed a contract saying otherwise).</p> <p>Hiring managers&nbsp;don&rsquo;t call when they say they will. Calling once to check&nbsp;with a potential employer is reasonable but more than a couple of voice mails makes the sanest job-seeker seem like a stalker. Often, there is little you can do to make the employer love you if you&rsquo;re not the one.</p> <p>You may realize that you need to earn a professional certification, learn another language, or get a graduate degree to snag that position with your ideal company. But be sure that you are pursuing improvements for yourself, not for a fickle employer. I hope you find your perfect match.&nbsp;</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/julie-rains">Julie Rains</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/job-search-romance">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-use-glassdoor-to-earn-more-money">How to Use Glassdoor to Earn More Money</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-dream-jobs-youre-never-too-old-to-pursue">9 Dream Jobs You&#039;re Never Too Old to Pursue</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-high-paying-jobs-that-didnt-exist-10-years-ago">9 High-Paying Jobs That Didn&#039;t Exist 10 Years Ago</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-not-to-answer-10-of-the-most-common-interview-questions">How NOT TO Answer 10 of the Most Common Interview Questions</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-words-to-never-use-in-a-job-interview">10 Words to Never Use in a Job Interview</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Life Hacks Career Building job search job seekers romance Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:14:49 +0000 Julie Rains 1899 at http://www.wisebread.com Take back St. Valentine’s Day from Hallmark and Hershey’s. http://www.wisebread.com/take-back-st-valentine-s-day-from-hallmark-and-hershey-s <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/take-back-st-valentine-s-day-from-hallmark-and-hershey-s" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/98174687_9a5daf5c11.jpg" alt="Broken Heart" title="Broken Heart" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="187" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Today is St. Valentine’s Day. Delivery vans filled with flowers are passing each other on the highways; the supermarket aisles filled with pink and red cards are chock full of men and women, frantically buying that last-minute love note. And I have to wonder…why do we bother?</p> <p>I knew very little about St. Valentine’s Day so I did some digging around at the library and on the Internet. I won’t bore you with all of the details, so here’s a brief summary in spectacular bullet-point style:</p> <ul> <li>Many Christian martyrs were called Valentine.</li> <li>Up until around 40 years ago, there were 11 (yes 11) Valentine’s Days recognized by the Catholic Church.</li> <li>Prior to the works of Chaucer, no link between love and the Valentine Saints existed. </li> <li>St. Valentine’s Day has appeared in Shakespeare plays.</li> <li>The current day revolves around the legend of a priest named Valentine and Roman Emperor Claudius II. Claudius wanted young men to remain single, Valentine secretly performed marriages and was executed. A note he left to his beloved, the jailer’s daughter, read “From Your Valentine.”</li> </ul> <p>So, that’s the brief, brief history of the day. But now, as with most holidays in the world, corporate interests are heavily invested in capitalizing on this day. Expensive cards, flowers, chocolates, little teddy bears, lingerie, teddy bears wearing lingerie and holding chocolates, you name it, there’s a tacky gift with a heart on it. </p> <p>And that made me wonder, is this day at all necessary? After all, why do we need a special day to remind our true love that we do indeed love them? Listening to the radio this morning, I heard a caller say that men need this day to remind us to do something special for our partner, or we’d just not bother. Does that mean we’re paying the price for our laziness through cards and flowers? Can’t we do better?</p> <p><img src="http://healthcarehacks.com/files/fruganomics/u17/100261919_68b638140c.jpg" alt="Cards" title="Cards" width="335" height="251" /><br /><em>St. Valentine&#39;s Day cards for Mom, Dad, Sister, Cousin, Dog, Cat and backyard squirrel.</em></p> <p>What has also disturbed me is the vast number of people now eligible to receive a St. Valentine’s Day card or gift. Now, when I was in Britain seven years ago, St. Valentine’s Day was a celebration of romance. Couples and would-be lovers would send cards to each other. But now, you can wish your grandma, your niece or your best friend a Happy Valentine’s Day. Seriously, why? It was bad enough that large corporations had hijacked this holiday for lovers, but now they’ve expanded it to include everyone on the planet. </p> <p>However, being a realist I’m well aware that St. Valentine’s Day is here to stay. But, as the mighty consumer we have the power to take it back. Reject the card companies, forget the flowers, kiss goodbye to the Hershey’s kisses. Instead, do something that takes more thought and less money.</p> <p>One year, I found a small craft box for a few dollars. I painted it burgundy and filled it with small notes, each one endorsed with a small phrase about why I loved my wife. The notes were tied with ribbon, the whole cost of the project was around $6. And it’s one of my wife’s most treasured possessions, still taking pride of place on the dresser some 5 years later. </p> <p>The point is, I think this day allows us to be lazy. It’s easy to order flowers or gifts, it’s simple to sign your name at the bottom of a $5 card. But we can all do better if we try, giving more of our true love to our partners and a lot less of our hard-earned money to places like Hallmark and Hershey’s in the process. </p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/paul-michael">Paul Michael</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/take-back-st-valentine-s-day-from-hallmark-and-hershey-s">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-valentines-day-gifts-for-10-or-less">20 Valentine&#039;s Day Gifts for $10 or Less</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/couplehood-avoiding-the-valentine-cliches">Couplehood: Avoiding the Valentine Clichés</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/expert-tips-to-help-you-make-your-own-holiday-cards-and-save-a-small-fortune">Last minute tips for quick and easy homemade Holiday cards. .</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/80-stocking-stuffer-ideas-for-10-or-less">80 Stocking Stuffer Ideas for $10 or Less</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-classic-impulse-buys-we-need-to-stop-falling-for">10 Classic Impulse Buys We Need to Stop Falling For</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Frugal Living Consumer Affairs candy cards flowers gifts Hallmark Hershey's lovers romance Thu, 14 Feb 2008 18:11:04 +0000 Paul Michael 1795 at http://www.wisebread.com Weird Things You Didn't Know About Valentine's Day http://www.wisebread.com/weird-things-you-didnt-know-about-valentines-day <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/weird-things-you-didnt-know-about-valentines-day" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/92395757_05add3c550_z.jpg" alt="birds" title="birds" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="166" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>We've been offering a lot of practical advice about Valentine's Day lately.</p> <p>Sure, it's nice to know how to <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/flower-power-a-guide-to-frugal-valentines-flowers" title="Flower Power - A Guide to Frugal Valentine's Flowers">save money on flowers</a>, <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/14-mostly-frugal-valentine-s-day-recipes" title="14 (Mostly) Frugal Valentine&rsquo;s Day Recipes">make affordable romantic dinners</a>, and find <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-greatest-story-ever-sold-is-a-fantasy-covered-in-blood" title="The Greatest Story Ever Sold is a Fantasy Covered in Blood">good excuses not to buy your girlfriend jewelry</a>. But what is the <em>real </em>story behind this expensive holiday? (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/wise-breads-guide-to-valentines-day?ref=seealso" title="Wise Bread's Guide to Valentine's Day">Wise Bread's Guide to Valentine's Day</a>)</p> <h2>The Price of Love</h2> <p>&nbsp;<img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5170/rose_money.jpg" width="605" height="340" alt="" /></p> <ul> <li>The average American will spend $119.67 on Valentine&rsquo;s Day this year, up from $100.89 last year.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Men spend almost <strong>twice as much</strong> on Valentine&rsquo;s Day as women do. This year, the average man will spend $156, while the average woman will only spend $85.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>More than one-third of men would prefer not receiving a gift. Less than 20% of women feel the same way.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Around this season, a dozen long-stemmed roses can cost an average of $75, or about 30% more than the normal price of $58.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>More than nine million pet owners are expected to buy gifts for their pets this Valentine's Day.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>15% of U.S. women send themselves flowers on Valentine's Day.</li> </ul> <h2>The Birds and the Bees</h2> <ul> <li>According to the condom company Durex, condom sales are highest around Valentine's Day, which are 20&ndash;30% higher than usual.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>More at-home pregnancy tests are sold in March than in any other month.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Penicillin, a popular treatment for venereal diseases such as syphilis, was introduced to the world on February 14, 1929.</li> </ul> <h2>I Choo Choo Choose You</h2> <p><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5170/valentine_card.jpg" width="605" height="340" alt="" /></p> <ul> <li>Teachers receive the most valentines, followed by kids, mothers, wives and sweethearts.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Over 50% of all Valentine's Day cards are purchased in the six days prior to the holiday.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>The oldest surviving valentine dates from 1415. It is a poem written by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife. At the time, the duke was being held in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt.</li> </ul> <ul> <li class="MsoNormal">One billion valentines are sent each year worldwide, making it the second largest card-sending holiday of the year behind Christmas. Women purchase approximately 85% of all valentines.</li> </ul> <ul> <li class="MsoNormal">In a classic Simpsons episode, Lisa gives Ralph a valentine with a picture of a locomotive saying &quot;I Choo Choo Choose You.&quot; According to BoingBoing, a fan has lovingly recreated that card which you can <a href="http://blog.deconcept.com/2005/02/02/i-choo-choo-choose-you/">download here</a>.</li> </ul> <ul> <li class="MsoNormal">Hallmark produced its first valentine in 1913.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Today, Hallmark employs an 80-person research staff to analyze the sales pattern of previous valentines. That analysis, combined with more than 100,000 annual customer interviews, focus groups and in-store observations, will help create roughly 2,000 cards in Hallmark's core Valentine's Day line.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>While Hallmark offers thousands of different cards for Valentine's Day, one card was the top choice of customers in New York, Los Angeles, and virtually every other city in the country in 2006.</li> </ul> <h2>Sharing Love Around the World</h2> <p><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5170/star_wars_valentines.jpg" width="605" height="340" alt="" /></p> <ul> <li class="MsoNormal">In Japan, women are expected to give chocolate and other gifts to men on Valentine's Day. This tradition was started as a marketing campaign by Japanese chocolate companies. Men are not off the hook, unfortunately. They are expected to return the favor on March 14th, commonly known as White Day.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>BBC reports that Shiv Sena, a nationalist political party in India, has spoken out against Valentine's day, calling it &quot;Nothing but a Western onslaught on India's culture to attract youth for commercial purposes.&quot;</li> </ul> <ul> <li>The Ivory Coast is the world's largest producer of cocoa, the main ingredient in chocolate. In 2001, the U.S. State Department reported child slavery on many cocoa farms in the Ivory Coast. A 2002 report from the International Institute of Tropical Agriculture estimated there were 284,000 children working on cocoa farms in hazardous conditions.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>&quot;I love you&quot; in German is &quot;Ich liebe dich.&quot;</li> </ul> <h2>History, Legends, and Rumors</h2> <p><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u5170/3799781709_4c1526e633_o.jpg" width="605" height="340" alt="" /></p> <ul> <li>The roots of St. Valentine's Day can be traced back to the Roman fertility festival of Lupercalia. On Lupercalia, a young man would draw the name of a young woman in a lottery and would then keep the woman as a sexual companion for the year.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>In the Middle Ages, young men and women drew names from a bowl to see who their valentines would be. They would wear these names on their sleeves for one week. Today, to wear your heart on your sleeve means being transparent with your affections. (I'm having a tough time verifying this one, so please file this under &quot;legends&quot; instead of &quot;history&quot; for now.)</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Three different Saint Valentines have been mentioned by the martyrologies of the Roman Catholic Church.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>The Catholic Church struck St. Valentine&rsquo;s Day from its official calendar in 1969.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>The phrase &quot;Sweets for the sweet&quot; is a line from Shakespeare's Hamlet, Act 5, Scene 1.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Famous Valentine's Day weddings: The Captain and Tennille, Elton John and Renate Blauel, Meg Ryan and Dennis Quaid, Jerry Garcia and Deborah Koons, and Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>Famous Valentine's Day birthdays: Thomas Malthus (1766), Frederick Douglass (1817), Jack Benny (1894), Jimmy Hoffa (1913), Hugh Downs (1921), Florence Henderson (1943), Carl Bernstein (1944), Tim Buckley (1946), Gregory Hines (1946), Jules Asner (1968), Rob Thomas (1972), Steve McNair (1973).</li> </ul> <h2>You Had Me at Hello<strong><br /> </strong></h2> <ul> <li>University of Maryland has a team of academic experts dedicated to educating the media about Valentine's Day. &ldquo;No matter what angle you&rsquo;re covering, the University of Maryland has the Valentine&rsquo;s Day expert for you,&rdquo; says their official website.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>For every 120 single men who are in their 20s, there are 100 single women in the same age range.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>The story changes drastically when we look at people over 65. Beyond 65, there are 33 single men for every 100 single women of the same age range. I guess all that extra spending for Valentine&rsquo;s day takes a toll.</li> </ul> <ul> <li>How do Americans celebrate Valentine's Day? U.S. Census Bureau has the answer:</li> </ul> <table border="0" width="80%"> <tbody> <tr> <td width="31%">Greeting Cards</td> <td width="30%">65%</td> <td width="26%">Plush</td> <td width="13%">21%</td> </tr> <tr> <td>Date Night</td> <td>44%</td> <td>Other Gifts</td> <td>17%</td> </tr> <tr> <td>Candy</td> <td>38%</td> <td>Perfume/Cologne</td> <td>12%</td> </tr> <tr> <td>Flowers</td> <td>32%</td> <td>Jewelry</td> <td>11%</td> </tr> <tr> <td>Gift Cards</td> <td>29%</td> <td>&nbsp;</td> <td>&nbsp;</td> </tr> </tbody> </table> <ul> <li>Don't want to send mixed signals with your bouquet? Make sure you check out the secret color code of roses:</li> </ul> <table border="1" width="555" style="border-collapse: collapse" id="table1"> <tbody> <tr> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#cc2234"><strong> <font face="Verdana" size="2" color="#ffffff">Red</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ffff00"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Yellow*</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ff99cc"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Pink</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">White*</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#cc99ff"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Lavender</font></strong></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">True Love<br /> Respect<br /> Courage<br /> Romantic<br /> Love<br /> I Love You<br /> Congratulations<br /> Job Well Done<br /> </font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Joy<br /> Gladness<br /> Freedom<br /> Friendship<br /> I Care<br /> Welcome Back<br /> Remember Me<br /> Jealousy</font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Perfect<br /> Happiness<br /> Gentleness<br /> Sweetness<br /> Please Believe Me</font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Reverence<br /> Purity<br /> Innocence<br /> Secrecy<br /> I Am Wothy Of You<br /> Keep a Secret</font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Enchantment</font></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ffe9e8"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Light Pink</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#f279b2"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Dark Pink</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ffcc99"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Peach -Pink</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ffe5b4"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Peach</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ff6600"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Orange</font></strong></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Grace<br /> Joy</font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Thankfulness</font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Gratitude<br /> Appreciation<br /> Admiration<br /> Sympathy</font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Lets Get Together<br /> Sincerity<br /> Gratitude<br /> Appreciation</font></td> <td width="20%" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Fascination<br /> Enthusiasm</font></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ff7c5d"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2">Coral</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#cc2234"><strong> <font face="Verdana" size="2" color="#ffffff">Red &amp; White</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#000000"><strong> <font face="Verdana" size="2" color="#ffffff">Black</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#990033"><strong> <font face="Verdana" size="2" color="#ffffff">Deep Burgundy</font></strong></td> <td width="20%" valign="top" bgcolor="#ffff00"><strong><font face="Verdana" size="2" color="#cc2234">Red &amp; Yellow Blend</font></strong></td> </tr> <tr> <td width="20%" height="87" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Desire</font></td> <td width="20%" height="87" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Unity</font></td> <td width="20%" height="87" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Farewell<br /> Death</font></td> <td width="20%" height="87" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Unconscious Beauty</font></td> <td width="20%" height="87" valign="top"><font face="Verdana" size="2">Jovial and happy feelings</font></td> </tr> <tr> <td colspan="5" width="100%"> <p align="center"><font face="Verdana" size="2"><strong>* </strong>Note: In some cultures white and yellow flowers are used for funerals and considered bad luck. (Thanks Andrea and Yan!) </font></p> <p align="center">Source: Every Rose and <a href="http://www.tilliesflowers.com/rosefaq.asp#meaning">Tillie's Flowers</a></p> </td> </tr> </tbody> </table> <p><em>Sources: <a href="http://money.cnn.com/2007/01/30/news/economy/valentine_spending/index.htm?postversion=2007013015">CNN Money</a>, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valentine's_Day">Wikipedia</a>, History Channel, <a href="http://www.americancatholic.org/Features/ValentinesDay/default.asp">American Catholic</a>, The Hoya, KHNL, <a href="http://japanesefood.about.com/cs/holidays/a/valentinechoco.htm">Japanese Food @ About.com</a>, <a href="http://www.religionfacts.com/christianity/holidays/valentines_day.htm">Religion Facts</a>, <a href="http://www.collegesextalk.com/questions/sexualfunction.htm">College Sex Talk</a>, <a href="http://www.taipeitimes.com/News/taiwan/archives/2005/12/31/2003286749">Taipei Times</a>, <a href="http://www.treehugger.com/files/2007/02/the_bitter_trut.php">Tree Hugger</a>, ABC 7, Denver Federal Executive Board, Corsinet, and Dr. Spock.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/will-chen">Will Chen</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/weird-things-you-didnt-know-about-valentines-day">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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