words http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/10632/all en-US Using These 5 Words Will Help You Feel More Successful http://www.wisebread.com/using-these-5-words-will-help-you-feel-more-successful <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/using-these-5-words-will-help-you-feel-more-successful" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/successful_000025801356.jpg" alt="Woman using words to make her sound more successful" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>You have the knowledge, the work ethic, and the passion. Now, it's just a matter of getting other people on board, and to do that, you have to <em>sound</em> successful.</p> <p>And most of us don't always do that part well. While there's a lot that goes into inspiring confidence, like the way you hold yourself when you speak and your overall presentation, some of the most important factors are, yes, the actual words that come out of your mouth. With that in mind, here are five&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-magic-words-to-say-to-get-the-best-new-car-price">words and phrases</a> that can help you sound as successful as you know you are.</p> <h2>1. &quot;Challenge&quot;</h2> <p>Instead of thinking in terms of problems and solutions, think in terms of challenges. In particular, make sure you use the word &quot;challenge&quot; in conversation. &quot;Problem&quot; is a word with negative connotations. A problem feels like a big, hard thing that you're going to have to work really hard to overcome.</p> <p>A challenge, on the other hand, is kind of fun. Solving a challenge is an adventure. It's stimulating. And speaking about challenges rather than about problems makes you sound successful because it makes you sound confident. You aren't overwhelmed. You aren't scared or worried. You're just gearing up to overcome a challenge.</p> <h2>2. &quot;Assist&quot;</h2> <p>&quot;Help&quot; is another word with negative connotations. Asking for help makes you seem weak rather than successful, like you can't do what you are supposed to do or what you would need to do in order to get a task done.</p> <p>Instead, use the word &quot;assist.&quot; Asking for assistance comes across as asking someone to walk with you rather than to do your job for you. For instance, when people ask for help carrying something, they usually want the helper to do it for them. When they ask for assistance, it sounds like they want someone to carry one end while they carry another.</p> <p>Offering to assist, rather than to help, empowers the people around you, too. Sure, they can do their jobs, they just need an assist now and then. This inspires them to see you as successful because you are lifting them up, not knocking them down.</p> <h2>3. &quot;I Don't&quot;</h2> <p>When you want to say &quot;no,&quot; use &quot;I don't&quot; instead of &quot;I can't.&quot; Studies show that people who say &quot;I don't&quot; are more likely to stick to their decisions than people who use &quot;I can't.&quot;</p> <p>If you say that you can't do something, it sounds like you are subject to the whim of forces stronger than you. You sound weak, like you don't make decisions based on your own convictions and beliefs.</p> <p>When you say that you don't do something, it immediately comes across as a deliberate choice. You could do something, but you don't, and you have chosen that way of being in the world.</p> <h2>4. &quot;Done&quot;</h2> <p>Use the word &quot;done&quot; in written and oral communications, and you will both sound and become more successful. When you let people know that you have finished a task or have already taken care of some objection they are raising, you show them that you are on top of your game and, therefore, successful.</p> <p>&quot;Done&quot; also helps you feel good about the work you are doing. It is similar to checking something off a list, except that &quot;done&quot; is even more powerful for helping you feel like you have accomplished something. You are a mover and a shaker because you are someone who sees things through &mdash; who gets them done.</p> <h2>5. &quot;Commit&quot;</h2> <p>No one really cares about what you are hoping for, what you want to see happen, or what you wish for. Nope. When it comes to success, they care about what you are committed to.</p> <p>Telling people where your commitments lie will help them trust you, but it will also help them see you as successful. When you know what you value and why, and how that plays out in whatever endeavor you're discussing, you sound confident and competent.</p> <p>&quot;Commit&quot; is a powerful word, and it makes you sound trustworthy, thoughtful, and intentional, all of which are characteristics that lend themselves to success.</p> <p><em>Are there words you try to use when you want to sound more successful? What are they and how have they worked for you?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/using-these-5-words-will-help-you-feel-more-successful">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/this-simple-negotiating-trick-puts-money-in-your-pocket">This Simple Negotiating Trick Puts Money in Your Pocket</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-words-to-never-use-in-a-job-interview">10 Words to Never Use in a Job Interview</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-use-the-holiday-quiet-time-to-boost-your-career">How to Use the Holiday Quiet Time to Boost Your Career</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/spice-up-the-conversation-by-skipping-what-do-you-do">Spice Up the Conversation by Skipping &quot;What Do You Do?&quot;</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-7-best-free-tools-to-improve-your-work-performance">The 7 Best Free Tools to Improve Your Work Performance</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Life Hacks Career Building conversation language presentation public speaking words Thu, 16 Jul 2015 15:00:09 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1485965 at http://www.wisebread.com The 10 Stupidest Things Smart People Say http://www.wisebread.com/the-10-stupidest-things-smart-people-say <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/the-10-stupidest-things-smart-people-say" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/man-covering-mouth-492264131-small.jpg" alt="man covering mouth" title="man covering mouth" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Have you ever explained something or told a story, only to later think, <em>wow, I must have sounded like an idiot</em>? Even the smartest of us fall into some unexpected speech traps, using crutch words that can only harm one's image. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-10-stupidest-things-smart-people-do?ref=seealso">The 10 Stupidest Things Smart People Do</a>)</p> <p>Here are the 10 stupidest words and phrases that smart people say.</p> <h2>1. &quot;Literally&quot;</h2> <p>Most of the time what you really mean is &quot;metaphorically.&quot; Sure, Merriam Webster has added the definition most people find technically incorrect to the dictionary. However, we still overuse the word in a way that sometimes does not fall into either definition. There are more illustrative ways to describe action than starting with &quot;literally.&quot;</p> <h2>2. &quot;It Is What It Is&quot;</h2> <p>While it may feel zen to say this, what you are really saying is, &quot;I have nothing to add to the situation, no means of fixing it, and I can't even describe it.&quot; If you want to sound insightful, focus on one aspect and comment on that.</p> <h2>3. &quot;Irregardless&quot;</h2> <p>This is a great example of a prefix that adds absolutely no value or meaning to the original word. Just say &quot;regardless&quot; and no one will think you're trying too hard, which is the hallmark of the ignorant attempting to sound smart!</p> <h2>4. &quot;Like&quot;</h2> <p>We used &quot;like&quot; as punctuation in high school, but sadly we've taken it into our adult lives as well. Even if you replaced every &quot;like&quot; with a pause, you would sound a tiny bit smarter.</p> <h2>5. &quot;I Could Care Less&quot;</h2> <p>We have all heard and dismissed this phrase when others use it, but even intelligent people use it from time to time. The correct phrase is, &quot;I could <em>not</em> care less,&quot; because that is what you really mean. That said, it's an outmoded expression that we can all do without.</p> <h2>6. &quot;Basically&quot;</h2> <p>There is always a hint of condescension when smarties use this word. One is trying to explain something in an understandable or relatable way, but it makes one sound as if he or she is &quot;dumbing it down&quot; for the other person. No one wants to sound like a jerk, right?</p> <h2>7. &quot;Anyways&quot;</h2> <p>Thanks to books, TV, and movies, saying &quot;anyways&quot; has been cemented as an indicator of ignorance. &quot;Anyway&quot; is a word, while &quot;anyways&quot; is the same word with an 's' added. Why add letters to a perfectly good word?</p> <h2>8. &quot;Less&quot; Instead of &quot;Fewer&quot;</h2> <p>Most people underuse the word &quot;fewer&quot; in favor of &quot;less,&quot; and anyone who studied in a STEM field will cringe when you do. The simple rule is to use &quot;fewer&quot; with things you can count and &quot;less&quot; with things you can't. We'll use both definitions in a sentence: Fewer people should use the word &quot;less,&quot; but unfortunately, people are less aware of its correct usage than they should be.</p> <h2>9. &quot;I Really Think&quot;</h2> <p>Another bad way to start a sentence, &quot;I really think&quot; is a way of saying, &quot;What I'm about to say can't be proven, and I am too arrogant to consider what you've said.&quot; Avoid this one to prevent sounding pretentious, which is something smart people do when they are self-conscious.</p> <h2>10. &quot;Apparently&quot; and &quot;Ostensibly&quot;</h2> <p>Nearly everyone overuses these words, especially educated people. Simple language is almost always better; some better alternatives are &quot;it seems,&quot; or, &quot;it appears.&quot; Ten dollar words are a scourge. No one wants to converse with a college entrance exam.</p> <p><em>Agree? Disagree? Let us know (using proper vocabulary, of course) in comments below.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amanda-meadows">Amanda Meadows</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-10-stupidest-things-smart-people-say">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/stop-10-words-to-never-use-at-work">STOP: 10 Words to Never Use at Work</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-one-word-you-need-to-get-rid-of-for-a-better-life">The One Word You Need to Get Rid of for a Better Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-everyday-words-that-are-making-you-look-stupid">5 Everyday Words That Are Making You Look Stupid</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-benefits-of-being-a-morning-person">9 Benefits of Being a Morning Person</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-self-improvement-apps-to-make-you-smarter-stronger-and-happier">10 Self-Improvement Apps to Make You Smarter, Stronger, and Happier</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development dumb words smart people vocabulary words Fri, 19 Sep 2014 11:00:06 +0000 Amanda Meadows 1215196 at http://www.wisebread.com The One Word You Need to Get Rid of for a Better Life http://www.wisebread.com/the-one-word-you-need-to-get-rid-of-for-a-better-life <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/the-one-word-you-need-to-get-rid-of-for-a-better-life" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/businesswoman-talking-176558909-small.jpg" alt="businesswoman talking" title="businesswoman talking" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="151" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Do you want to start living a better life today? I mean, right this very moment?</p> <p>Then stop saying &quot;<em>should</em>.&quot; That's it.</p> <p>Don't just stop saying it out loud, but stop repeating it in your thoughts, too. Don't tell yourself what you should be doing instead of what you're actually doing or what you should have done in the past. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-doing-less-helps-you-get-more-done?ref=seealso">How Doing Less Helps You Get More Done</a>)</p> <p>If you do this, your life will improve faster than you'd have thought possible.</p> <p>This isn't a trick or a gimmick, and it's actually harder than it might seem to change the way you talk to yourself and to others. But it's based on research and on the experience of people who have changed their language and, in the process, changed their lives.</p> <h2>How We Speak Shapes How We Think</h2> <p>The words that we use every day play a powerful role in determining how we think. Words and the images they portray shape how our minds deal with everything from emotions to abstract concepts.</p> <p>For instance, different cultures have different ways of thinking about time. Most cultures discuss time as something that passes, either right-to-left or left-to-right, or back-to-front. However, there's an aboriginal culture in Australia that ties the <a href="http://pss.sagepub.com/content/21/11/1635.abstract">passage of time to movement from east to west</a>. This gives people in that culture quite a different understanding of time, as well as of direction.</p> <p>Language also shapes how we remember. English tends to use an active, agented voice more than Spanish does. If both an English speaker and a Spanish speaker view a car accident, the English speaker is more likely to think, &quot;The blue car hit the red car,&quot; while the Spanish speaker will often think something like, &quot;The cars hit each other,&quot; or &quot;The cars hit themselves.&quot; This difference in language means that <a href="http://psych.stanford.edu/~lera/papers/who-dunnit.pdf">English speakers often remember WHO</a> did something (especially something bad) more often than Spanish speakers.</p> <p>If <a href="http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2013/12/30/258376009/how-language-seems-to-shape-ones-view-of-the-world">words are so formative</a> for the human mind that they shape the concepts we can and cannot grasp and shape our memories, it seems to follow that they would have power in our daily lives, as well. Some people go as far as to say that &quot;the <a href="http://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20121026164951-101706366-change-your-words-change-your-life-the-simplest-tool-i-know-for-immediately-transforming-the-quality-of-your-life">words we attach to our experience</a> become our experience.&quot; If we choose to describe a negative experience with intense words like &quot;horrible&quot; or &quot;furious,&quot; we will feel more negative than we would if we use words like &quot;annoyed.&quot;</p> <p>It makes sense, then, to do our best to get rid of the words that are making us miserable and replace them with ones that will make us feel better.</p> <p>And &quot;should&quot; is one of the worst offenders.</p> <h2>What's Wrong With &quot;Should&quot;</h2> <p>There are several key problems with &quot;should,&quot; and they all have to do with the way it shapes our thinking in negative ways.</p> <h3>Should Is Indecisive</h3> <p>&quot;Should&quot; is, inherently, <a href="http://www.theminimalists.com/deciding/">a word of procrastination</a>. How many times have you said something like, &quot;I should go exercise&hellip;&quot; and then ended up sitting on the couch watching TV instead? A should is more like a wish than an action, and so we often don't actually DO the things we think we should do.</p> <h3>Should Is Negative</h3> <p>When we say that someone should do something, we are implying that they are not currently doing it. There's almost always an unspoken end to sentences that include &quot;should.&quot; Think about it: &quot;I should eat more vegetables&quot; can almost always be followed by &quot;&hellip;but I won't.&quot;</p> <h3>Should Denies Reality</h3> <p>When we say that we should do something, <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/hannah-braime/stop-saying-the-word-should_b_4790797.html">we aren't accepting the current reality</a>, in which we aren't doing whatever it is. <a href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-power-of-acceptance-stop-resisting-and-find-the-lesson/">Accepting reality, however, seems to be a key to happiness</a>. Even if the reality isn't what we want it to be, accepting it is the first step to real change (as opposed to simply <em>wishing</em> it was different).</p> <p>If saying &quot;should&quot; forms our minds in these negative ways, it's no wonder we're unhappy when we say it a lot. But what else can we do? What works better than &quot;should?&quot;</p> <h2>Replacing &quot;Should&quot;</h2> <p>Follow these steps to eliminate &quot;should&quot; from your vocabulary.</p> <h3>1. Notice Where &quot;Should&quot; Pops Up</h3> <p>Take some time to pay attention the to the ways you think and speak, so you can see when and where you are most likely to say &quot;should.&quot; While it's a pervasive word in our culture, some people find that they are more likely to use it when they are tired, upset, or in stressful situations. Knowing when you use &quot;should&quot; will help you pinpoint exactly what needs to change.</p> <h3>2. Choose Replacement Words</h3> <p>Depending on the situations where you use &quot;should,&quot; there are a lot of options for replacing it. You might replace &quot;should&quot; with &quot;could&quot; or &quot;get to&quot; &mdash; thus, &quot;I should exercise&quot; becomes &quot;I could exercise&quot; or &quot;I get to exercise.&quot; If you use &quot;should&quot; a lot when discussing the past, maybe you need to come right out and say, &quot;I regret that,&quot; rather than &quot;I shouldn't have done it.&quot;</p> <h3>3. Find a Reward</h3> <p>When you want to change a behavior, <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-surprisingly-easy-way-to-change-your-habits-and-your-life">coming up with a reward is key</a>. Feeling happier is definitely a reward in and of itself, but it may help you to choose something tangible, like a small edible treat or a couple minutes with a good book, that you can give yourself every time you successfully catch yourself and replace your &quot;should.&quot;</p> <h3>4. Give Yourself Time</h3> <p>It takes <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-break-bad-habits">about a month</a> to replace an old habit with a new one, and you won't be successful every single time. Since thinking in terms of shoulds is something that we often do unconsciously, changing this habit might take even longer than changing other habits, like making your own lunch or exercising. First, begin to notice your shoulds, then figure out the best way to replace them, and finally, let that habit become as ingrained as &quot;should&quot; once was.</p> <p>As always, changing a habit is hard work. In this case, you stand to feel more positive, more decisive, and more accepting of yourself as you actually are. These benefits outweigh the amount of work you'll have to put into it to make the change.</p> <p><em>When do you find yourself saying &quot;should?&quot; What do you want to replace it with? You should share with us in comments.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-one-word-you-need-to-get-rid-of-for-a-better-life">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-more-things-people-who-make-a-lot-of-money-do">12 More Things People Who Make a Lot of Money Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/4-money-resolutions-you-should-skip-this-year">4 Money Resolutions You Should Skip This Year</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-habits-you-must-start-right-now-and-be-a-better-person">20 Habits You Must Start Right Now and Be a Better Person</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-less-creativity-can-make-you-more-creative">How Less Creativity Can Make You More Creative</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-things-you-can-do-on-your-lunch-break-to-change-your-life">11 Things You Can Do on Your Lunch Break to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development goals habits should words Tue, 15 Jul 2014 21:00:08 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1157887 at http://www.wisebread.com STOP: 10 Words to Never Use at Work http://www.wisebread.com/stop-10-words-to-never-use-at-work <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/stop-10-words-to-never-use-at-work" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/businessmen-talking-176880948-small.jpg" alt="businessman talking" title="businessman talking" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="167" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Assuming you have a place of work right now, you likely did something very right in an interview. Maybe you even successfully avoided these <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-words-to-never-use-in-a-job-interview">10 Words to Never Use in a Job Interview</a>. So that's the good news.</p> <p>The bad news is that minding your tongue still matters now that you've got the job, and the wrong word still has the power to separate you from said job. Though none of the below words and phrases will necessarily get you fired on the spot (like obvious slurs and profanity might), they may be even <em>more</em> insidious: you very well may be using them, hurting yourself with each utterance, and not even knowing it. (See also:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wisebread.com/you-re-fired-20-signs-that-a-pink-slip-is-coming?ref=seealso">You're Fired! 20 Signs That a Pink Slip is Coming</a>)</p> <p>So take a look at the list, and remember that even if you have a good reason for using one of these words, others may be perceiving something negative every time you use it. Nobody said this was fair.</p> <p>Speaking of which&hellip;</p> <h2>Fair</h2> <p>You may be treated exceedingly fairly at work. You may not be. But pointing out the &quot;fairness&quot; (or lack thereof) of any given situation in the office isn't an effective way to bring about change. This is because it misses the point, which is that a business place is about creating value. If you feel something's unfair, better to analyze the ways in which said injustice hurts the company, and then present those in a measured argument.</p> <p>Even in cases of customer service, &quot;fair&quot; doesn't have much relevance. Is it fair for any angry customer to take out frustration on a service rep? No. And would it be fair for the service rep to hang up on said customer? Yes. But again, &quot;fairness&quot; isn't the goal of the interaction &mdash; protecting the company's reputation (and by extension, furthering its value) is.</p> <h2>Try</h2> <p>There are no certainties in the workplace, and everyone understands this at some level. So from a logical perspective, explaining that you'll &quot;try&quot; something instead of that you'll &quot;do&quot; something is redundant. Everything is a try. And from a rhetorical level, the word communicates a lack of confidence in your ability &mdash; a hedging of bets, preparing for possible failure. Better to &quot;do&quot; everything and then apologize when you can't successfully &quot;do&quot; one thing down the line than &quot;try&quot; everything. Yoda said it best, &quot;Do or do not. There is no try.&quot;</p> <h2>Whatever</h2> <p>This word is an insult, and it's a lazy one at that. It's a one-size-fits-all exasperated gasp that communicates to the other person, &quot;I can't think of a more intelligent response,&quot; or &quot;you're not worth hearing my more intelligent response.&quot; Either way, the word demeans you, them, and the conversation. If you have a problem with someone or something, and you think it's an appropriate time to communicate the problem&hellip; then communicate! Don&rsquo;t use a passive aggressive word like &quot;whatever&quot; to show you're unhappy without explaining why.</p> <h2>I Guess</h2> <p>See above. At best, this phrase communicates dissatisfaction without communicating its cause. Like &quot;try,&quot; it also expresses a desire to shirk off ultimate responsibility &mdash; to establish that you agree with something, but not so much that you stand up for it if it fails.</p> <h2>We'll See</h2> <p>While seemingly an indication of a coming decision, this phrase actually does the exact opposite: it's a placeholder, delaying a decision indefinitely. Clearly, all decisions aren't ready to be made as soon as someone asks, and telling someone that you're not quite ready to make a certain call yet is acceptable. But &quot;we'll see&quot; is often used in place of an explanation as to why or when the decision will be made, effectively giving the other person nothing to go on.</p> <h2>I'll Get Back to You</h2> <p>Like &quot;we'll see,&quot; this phrase is often used as a stalling technique. It communicates nothing about <em>when</em> you'll get back to them, depriving them of the ability to plan or prepare. Further, it's dismissive &mdash; it acknowledges that you're not giving the other person a timetable, which can come off as demeaning. Give the person a timetable, even if you can't be exact on a date and time.</p> <h2>You Guys</h2> <p>Even if your workplace is informal, this can come off as particularly unprofessional. More to the point, it's shorthand that addresses a group less precisely than things like &quot;your team&quot; or &quot;your company,&quot; which are easy and effective substitutes. And finally, if women are present, it's inaccurate at best, and offensive at worst.</p> <h2>I May Be Wrong, But&hellip;</h2> <p>Just like &quot;try,&quot; there's a redundancy here. Of course you may be wrong. Everyone may be wrong, always. So it goes without saying. But if you're making a statement, you should have some confidence that you're right. And if you're unsure of something, that's fine too, but then it'd be better to ask a question than offer an uninformed opinion.</p> <h2>Okay?</h2> <p>As an acknowledgment, this is fine (as in, answering &quot;Can you take care of that?&quot; with &quot;Okay&quot;), but when used as a question, it's problematic. Tacking on &quot;okay&quot; at the end of a declarative statement is validation-seeking: it implies that your statement only holds true if the person you're making it to agrees. So lose it &mdash; it's okay to be wrong!</p> <h2>Impossible</h2> <p>The idea that &quot;nothing is impossible&quot; may seem cheesy for a work setting and may not even be true&hellip; some ideas in the workplace are impossible. But it's very unlikely that you've really exhausted thinking about all possibilities, so it's not your place to deem someone else's idea. As such, &quot;I can't see a way to make that work right now&quot; is more accurate.</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/joe-epstein">Joe Epstein</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/stop-10-words-to-never-use-at-work">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-ways-to-suck-up-at-work-that-wont-make-you-feel-slimy">15 Ways to Suck Up at Work That Won&#039;t Make You Feel Slimy</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-ways-youre-sabotaging-your-next-promotion">5 Ways You&#039;re Sabotaging Your Next Promotion</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/unconventional-career-advice-from-parks-and-recreation">Unconventional Career Advice From &quot;Parks and Recreation&quot;</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-times-you-should-demand-a-raise">5 Times You Should Demand a Raise</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-ways-to-improve-your-work-reputation">7 Ways to Improve Your Work Reputation</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Career Building Personal Development words work Fri, 06 Jun 2014 21:00:22 +0000 Joe Epstein 1140960 at http://www.wisebread.com The Recession Glossary http://www.wisebread.com/the-recession-glossary-1 <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/the-recession-glossary-1" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/dictionary.jpg" alt="Girl reading the dictionary" title="Girl reading the dictionary" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="187" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>The recent economic uncertainties have given rise to an array of new financial terms. Certainly you have heard of terms such as staycation and bailout over the last few years; some of these terms have become so common that they are now included in major dictionaries. Below are 15 of the top recession terms; feel free to add yours in the comments section. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-frugal-changes-you-can-make-today">25 Frugal Changes You&nbsp;Can Make Today</a>)</p> <h2>1. Stress Test</h2> <p>Derived from cardiac stress tests, a financial &quot;stress test&quot; is an assessment of a bank's ability to survive a potentially deteriorating economy. It ensures that banks have sufficient capital reserves to avoid liquidity problems in a downturn.</p> <h2>2. Consumer Confidence</h2> <p>A measure of consumers&rsquo; confidence in regards to the economy. Indicating the general public's optimism about economic activity, the consumer confidence level tends to be directly correlated to GDP growth and the employment rate.</p> <h2>3. Funemployment</h2> <p>This refers to enjoying one&rsquo;s time during unemployment. Funemployment does not mean people are not actively seeking employment or are happy with their lack of jobs. However, it does mean they are taking this opportunity to spend time doing things they would not normally have time for and enjoy.</p> <h2>4. Insource</h2> <p>The opposite of <em>outsource</em>, insourcing is performing duties yourself that were once outsourced to other parties in order to cut costs in times of financial hardship. For example, cooking at home while previously ordering takeout.</p> <h2>5. Staycation</h2> <p>Taking a staycation refers to vacationing at home or close to home due to financial constraints. This can include a <a href="http://financialhighway.com/4-fun-and-affordable-ways-to-spend-family-night-at-home/">fun family night at home</a>, barbeques with friends, or even short trip in the nearby area.</p> <h2>6. Underwater</h2> <p>When your current home value is below its current outstanding mortgage value, it's &quot;underwater,&quot; making refinancing virtually impossible, as you owe more then the value of your home. This phenomenon has been the primary cause of record level of home foreclosures in the recent years.</p> <h2>7. Bailout</h2> <p>This refers to providing financial aid to failing or near-collapse corporations. The term became widely used during the financial meltdown of many corporations in 2008. Merriam-Webster named &ldquo;bailout&rdquo; its &ldquo;Word of the Year&rdquo; in 2008.</p> <h2>8. Madoffed</h2> <p>Named after ponzi scheme runner Bernard (Berni) Madoff, it refers to individuals who have been conned out of their life savings by their brokers, bankers, or advisors.</p> <h2>9. Recesionista</h2> <p>A fashionable individual who maintains his or her current life standards by finding creative means during harsh economic times. With the recent economic conditions, more and more people are aiming to live a frugal lifestyle while maintaining some of the pleasures of their prior luxuries.</p> <h2>10. Intaxication</h2> <p>Derived from <em>intoxication, </em>intaxication is an intoxicating feeling one feels upon receipt of their tax refund. In financially difficult times, even a small tax refund can go a long way.</p> <h2>11. Zombie Bank</h2> <p>A bank with a negative net worth. Although these banks have higher liabilities than assets, they can continue business as usual thanks to government backing and handouts.</p> <h2>12. Homedulgence</h2> <p>Similar to staycation, this refers to the tendency of indulging and entertaining at one&rsquo;s home versus going out due to financial constraints.</p> <h2>13. Bleisure</h2> <p>As more people opt to <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-productivity-hacks-from-a-work-at-home-mom">work from home</a>, the division between business and leisure hours have blurred. Whereas previously there has been a concrete divide between work and leisure time, workers are now managing the two simultaneously.</p> <h2>14. Stagflation</h2> <p>A combination of stagnated economy, i.e. no growth, combined with a very high inflation rate.</p> <h2>15. Double-Dip Recession</h2> <p>A double-dip recession refers to a recession followed by a short term recovery that then back into another recession. Also referred to as a &ldquo;W-shaped&rdquo; recession.</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/ray-jamali">Ray Jamali</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-recession-glossary-1">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/what-i-miss-about-the-recession">What I Miss About the Recession</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/should-george-w-bush-write-for-wisebread">Should George W. Bush write for Wisebread?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/recession-journal-v-mind-the-gap">Recession Journal V: Mind, The GAP</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-build-wealth-in-a-depressed-economy">How to Build Wealth in a Depressed Economy</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/recession-journal-vi-its-over-any-questions">Recession Journal VI: It&#039;s OVER!!!!!!!!!!!! Any Questions?</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Financial News language recession words Mon, 12 Sep 2011 10:36:17 +0000 Ray Jamali 699235 at http://www.wisebread.com Beat the Nirvana fallacy: why doing something is better than nothing http://www.wisebread.com/beat-the-nirvana-fallacy-why-doing-something-is-better-than-nothing <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/beat-the-nirvana-fallacy-why-doing-something-is-better-than-nothing" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/legotton.jpg" alt="" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="188" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Ever found yourself in a position where you were going to contribute to a good cause: for instance, volunteering at a women's shelter to directly help victims of domestic abuse, only to find yourself rebuked a friend who went, &quot;Why bother? More women will just get beat up everyday.&quot;</p> <p>It probably stung. Do you remember how <em>you</em> reacted? Did you decide not to help, or did you press on ahead?</p> <h2>The Nirvana fallacy is for people who waste their lives.</h2> <p><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nirvana_fallacy">It</a> basically states that if you can't do something perfectly (like solve all spousal abuse problems or world hunger in the twinkle of an eye), then you shouldn't bother at all. The problem with that is simple: <strong>there's NEVER a perfect solution</strong>, only shades of choices that are better than others, and mistakes you make and can hopefully learn from. Most mistakes aren't grievous and are fantastic &quot;Lego blocks&quot; to build progress upon.</p> <p>Ramit Sethi, author of the new hit book <em>I Will Teach You To Be Rich</em>, makes this point. He was recently <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/bestselling-author-ramit-sethi-giving-free-trip-anywhere-in-the-us-to-one-lucky-wise-bread-reader">blogged by Will Chen on Wise Bread</a>, and this quote from the book is the moment I knew Ramit was onto quality (as opposed to being just another yappy guru):</p> <blockquote><p>It sounds sexy, but when individual investors talk about complicated concepts like this [referring to buzzwords like &quot;hedge funds&quot;], it's like two elementary school tennis players arguing about the string tension of their racquets. Sure, it might matter a little, but they'd be much better tennis players if they just went outside and hit some balls for a few hours each day.</p> </blockquote> <p>Ramit doesn't specifically cite &quot;Nirvana fallacy&quot;, but that's what he's talking about. <strong>Everyday progress in increments, even when you don't feel like it, is far better than delaying and waiting for a &quot;perfect day to start getting rich&quot;.</strong> That day will NEVER come. Ramit also compares personal finance to weight loss &mdash; the latter being plagued by buzzwords and too many arguments over which diet works best. I connected fad diets to <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-ways-to-spot-a-social-media-snake-oil-salesperson">social media snake oil salespeople</a> earlier, so you can clearly see all these fields have a strong commonality:</p> <p><strong>Too many words, not enough action. </strong></p> <h2>Words are overrated.</h2> <p>Yes, they have many uses but they're often used as an excuse for action. <strong>Words are often a stall tactic to debate points that disintegrate once you begin moving.</strong> Just like Tiger Woods must follow through on his golf swing after observing the scene and knowing what he has to accomplish, you must follow through on your plans &mdash; which are just theory. Words set the scene for what's to come, but will NEVER be a substitute for making progress, even if it's small victories.</p> <h2>9 steps to combat the Nirvana fallacy:</h2> <ol> <li><strong>The vast majority of criticism is useless</strong>, <a href="http://www.changethis.com/53.05.CriticalPublicity">as I've written before</a>, so throw away those doubts like you treat email spam. Critics don't like to hear this (and look where they are).</li> <li><strong>Ditch unsupportive friends and family</strong>, or at least distance yourself. Harsh, but they need to be contributing positively to your life (and you to theirs).</li> <li>If you find yourself in the middle of an argument, whether it's offline or on the Internet, quickly <strong>consider (trust your gut) if it's worth continuing</strong>. The answer is most likely NO: feel free to stop in the middle of a sentence and leave. Humans are drawn to many self-destructive behaviors and you need to be keenly aware that artificial conflict is bypassed by acting; blabbing on is stupid slop.</li> <li><strong>Even if you can only devote 15 minutes a day to a goal, that's substantially better than 0.</strong> True, many things require intense focus, so ask yourself: &quot;What can I chop out of my day? What would I not recall fondly on my deathbed?&quot;</li> <li><strong>Accept that the biggest gap lays in between not doing something and getting started:</strong> your mind may be set against exercise, but once you're mid-routine, it feels easier to climb higher. Think, but don't overthink: always be observant of how your words can flow into actions, and over time, you'll be more confident. The impact of growth becomes most relevant in hindsight, so <em>dive in!</em></li> <li><strong>Be biased towards iterating swiftly</strong>, which means making many changes in a short period of time so you can spot mistakes and adapt quickly. Do cheap, lightweight experiments to test the waters so even if you fail, it won't destroy your dream. For instance, if you have your sights set on being a master painter, buy an affordable kit and dabble. Not just casually, but make the most out of your tools &mdash; really MacGyver 'em! Then, you can tell in weeks, even days, if you're ready to move up.</li> <li><strong>It pays to be prolific.</strong> You simply can't gain experience in work or play without putting yourself through a variety of life situations. Some of these can be accelerated (making productivity more enjoyable), others can't (pregnancy). The effectiveness of nearly all experiences can be improved by your attitude towards them.</li> <li><strong>Live with your fears.</strong> Things don't turn out the way you expect, but they might turn out better if you allow yourself to be more playful than worried. When I composed music, I was under the pressure to deliver a masterpiece. Then my counterpoint went: &quot;If I have a great idea that doesn't make it into this song, I'll include it in the next one.&quot; The ongoing result of pairing courage + prolific-ness was that I had plenty of ideas and plenty of songs, instead of freezing at the starting line.</li> <li>Realize that combating the Nirvana fallacy, in turn, leads to a heightened state of consciousness &mdash; not just a spiritual one, but you can apply that if it suits you. And you'll be more aware of others' failings in the world around you due to lack of action, which means you <strong>should give back and encourage more achievements</strong>. However, be graceful about how you help others (don't lambast them with words, that's hypocritical).</li> </ol> <p>The above isn't an end-all (like I said, words are overrated), but will help get you started.</p> <p>The Nirvana fallacy may not be well-known yet (shy of 3,000 Google hits as of this writing), but its effects &mdash; too much talk, too little action are a common inhibitor to human potential. In fact, it almost stopped me from writing this article. That's when I ran through the list above, which I've had floating around in my head for some time now, and didn't just decide to do something about it &mdash; I <em>did</em> it.</p> <p><strong><em>Do you see the Nirvana fallacy taking a foothold in your life? Then it's time (now, not tomorrow) to make your move. Let me know your experiences!</em></strong></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/torley-wong">Torley Wong</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/beat-the-nirvana-fallacy-why-doing-something-is-better-than-nothing">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-5"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-reasons-why-youre-not-reaching-your-goals-and-how-to-change-that">10 Reasons Why You&#039;re Not Reaching Your Goals (and How to Change That)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-ways-to-get-people-to-respond-to-your-email">15 Ways to Get People to Respond to Your Email</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/being-routinely-creative">Being routinely creative</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/kill-boredom-with-these-34-fun-and-productive-projects">Kill Boredom With These 34 Fun and Productive Projects</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-7-best-free-tools-to-improve-your-work-performance">The 7 Best Free Tools to Improve Your Work Performance</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Productivity achievement action diet fallacy goal iterate lazy nirvana perfect procastination productivity progress rich task words Sat, 28 Mar 2009 14:10:18 +0000 Torley Wong 2985 at http://www.wisebread.com