Personal Development http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/216/all en-US Best Money Tips: 7 Behaviors of Emotionally Wealthy People http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-7-behaviors-of-emotionally-wealthy-people <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-7-behaviors-of-emotionally-wealthy-people" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/happy_woman_outdoors_000057044022.jpg" alt="Woman exhibiting behaviors of emotionally wealthy person" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on the behaviors of emotionally wealthy people, why more restaurant chains are offering delivery, and ways to get more use out of your old makeup.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.dumblittleman.com/2015/07/7-behaviors-emotionally-wealthy-people-emulate.html">7 Behaviors Of Emotionally Wealthy People That You Should Emulate</a> &mdash; Emotionally wealthy people value their time. They do things that help them grow and satisfy their souls. [Dumb Little Man]</p> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/The-Bite/2015/0708/Taco-Bell-expands-trial-of-food-delivery.-Why-more-chains-are-coming-to-you.-video">Taco Bell expands trial of food delivery. Why more chains are coming to you.</a> &mdash; Taco Bell and other chains that are testing the waters with delivery services hope to attract customers who like convenience and want to save time. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://thekrazycouponlady.com/tips/style/13-free-simple-ways-to-save-old-makeup/">13 Free and Simple Ways to Save Old Makeup</a> &mdash; Mix your old lipstick with a bit of petroleum jelly for smooth, creamy blush on your cheeks. [The Krazy Coupon Lady]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/5-Household-Uses-Denture-Cleaner-8116869">5 Surprising Household Uses For Denture Cleaner</a> &mdash; Denture cleaner tablets are great at cleaning hard-to-reach places. Break one up, drop them into the drain trap, and run hot water to unclog your drain like a boss. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.moneytalksnews.com/how-much-does-100-really-buy-your-state/">How Much Does $100 Really Buy in Your State?</a> &mdash; A hundred bucks goes the furthest in Mississippi, while it's worth the least in Washington, D.C. [Money Talks News]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2015/07/10/12-things-not-to-do-to-save-time-money-sanity">12 Things NOT to Do to Save Time, Money &amp; Sanity</a> &mdash; Cooking elaborate meals can be fun for some, but it gets time-consuming and expensive on a day-to-day basis. On regular weeknights, it's probably better to stick with plain, easy, and tasty meals. [Living Well Spending Less]</p> <p><a href="http://productivitytheory.com/five-tips-for-finishing-what-you-start/">5 Tips for Finishing What You Start</a> &mdash; Narrow down your list of goals, projects, and to-dos and prioritize your non-negotiables &mdash; the ones that are time-sensitive and the ones that others are counting on you to finish. [Productivity Theory]</p> <p><a href="http://www.modestmoney.com/how-to-purchase-big-ticket-items/">How to Purchase Big Ticket Items</a> &mdash; Unless you need an item immediately, try not to finance your purchase. The monthly interest rates will cost you more in the long run. [Modest Money]</p> <p><a href="http://www.goodfinancialcents.com/financial-planning-basics">Financial Planning Basics in 9 Steps</a> &mdash; Make sure you leave room in your budget for building an emergency fund and retirement savings. [Good Financial Cents]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/discovering-your-hero-is-a-monster-one-moms-reaction-to-the-cosby-scandal">Discovering Your Hero is a Monster: One Mom's Reaction to the Cosby Scandal</a> &mdash; When we expect celebrities to be our heroes, we may experience disbelief, sadness, and anger when we find out they did something horrible. [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-7-behaviors-of-emotionally-wealthy-people">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-7-exercises-are-scientifically-proven-to-increase-happiness">These 7 Exercises Are Scientifically Proven to Increase Happiness</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-be-a-better-person-today">25 Ways to Be a Better Person Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-things-scientists-say-will-boost-your-happiness-today">11 Things Scientists Say Will Boost Your Happiness Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-reasons-youre-not-as-happy-as-youd-like-to-be">6 Reasons You&#039;re Not as Happy as You&#039;d Like to Be</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-feel-better-fast">25 Ways to Feel Better Fast</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips happiness Mon, 13 Jul 2015 19:00:12 +0000 Amy Lu 1486503 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Quick and Easy Tips to Become a Millionaire http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-quick-and-easy-tips-to-become-a-millionaire <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-quick-and-easy-tips-to-become-a-millionaire" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/rich_couple_vacation_000043062232.jpg" alt="Couple using quick and easy tips to become millionaires" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on quick and easy tips that&rsquo;ll make you a millionaire, small changes for a happier you, and health risks to watch out for this summer.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.financiallypoor.com/mind-over-money/4-quick-and-easy-tips-that-will-make-you-a-millionaire/">4 Quick And Easy Tips That Will Make You A Millionaire Fast</a> &mdash; Think positive. If you aren't supportive of yourself, if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will. [Financially Poor]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/How-Become-Happier-36454534">Little Changes That Will Make You a Happier Person</a> &mdash; Let yourself cry when you feel like it. Holding in your negative feelings never leads to happiness. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://adebtfreestressfreelife.com/summers-most-serious-health-risks/">Summer&rsquo;s Most Serious Health Risks</a> &mdash; Summer BBQs are a lot of fun&hellip;unless you get food poisoning from undercooked meat or spoiled dishes. Use a meat thermometer to make sure your meat is cooked thoroughly and keep food chilled at all times. [A Debt Free Stress Free Life]</p> <p><a href="http://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2015/06/26/10-pantry-staples-to-always-keep-on-hand">10 Pantry Staples to Always Keep on Hand</a> &mdash; Salsa is a great way to add tons of flavor without paying for it. Use it in dips and soups or as a topping. [Living Well Spending Less]</p> <p><a href="http://www.mydollarplan.com/9-tips-to-stretch-the-life-of-common-household-items/">9 Tips to Stretch the Life of Common Household Items</a> &mdash; Your car needs regular maintenance to run smoothly, and so does your vacuum cleaner! Periodically change the belt, clean the filter, and check the beater bar for hair or carpet fibers that may strain the motor. [My Dollar Plan]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.dontmesswithtaxes.com/2015/07/6-tax-moves-to-make-in-july.html">6 tax moves to make in July</a> &mdash; If you itemize your deductions, set a bunching strategy to make sure you meet the thresholds by the end of the tax year. [Don't Mess With Taxes]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/indoor-fun-all-the-best-board-games-for-families">Indoor Fun: All the Best Board Games for Families</a> &mdash; Elementary school kids are old enough to appreciate mentally stimulating games. Play Jenga, Battleship, Rummikub, and other games to help them understand cause and effect, strategy, and logic. [Parenting Squad]</p> <p><a href="http://ptmoney.com/how-much-house-can-i-afford/">How Much House Can I Afford?</a> &mdash; Besides a mortgage plus interest, you also need to account for property taxes, maintenance and repairs, and utilities. Estimate your monthly costs and put that amount into a high yield account every month to see if you can manage the payments. [PT Money]</p> <p><a href="http://www.northerncheapskate.com/how-to-budget-with-a-fluctuating-income/">How to Budget With a Fluctuating Income</a> &mdash; Figure out how much you need to survive. Anything leftover goes into a savings account. [Northern Cheapskate]</p> <p><a href="http://www.lifehack.org/279725/give-new-life-old-clothes-these-8-quirky-ways">Give New Life to Old Clothes in These 8 Quirky Ways</a> &mdash; An old shirt with a loose weave can be used as a strainer in the kitchen! [Lifehack]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-quick-and-easy-tips-to-become-a-millionaire">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-7-exercises-are-scientifically-proven-to-increase-happiness">These 7 Exercises Are Scientifically Proven to Increase Happiness</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-easy-ways-to-have-energy-after-work">7 Easy Ways to Have Energy After Work</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-apps-that-pay-you-to-exercise">5 Apps That Pay You To Exercise</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s">The 8 Life Skills You Must Learn in Your 40s</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips millionaire Thu, 09 Jul 2015 19:00:09 +0000 Amy Lu 1484058 at http://www.wisebread.com 10 Ways Even Shy People Can Fake Confidence and Get Ahead http://www.wisebread.com/10-ways-even-shy-people-can-fake-confidence-and-get-ahead <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/10-ways-even-shy-people-can-fake-confidence-and-get-ahead" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/shy_happy_woman_000017846770.jpg" alt="Shy woman learning how to fake confidence and get ahead" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>You have an interview. Or a presentation. Or you want to ask your boss for a raise, or ask that hot somebody at the gym on a date. But there's one problem.</p> <p>You're shy. You don't feel confident about this and you fear they'll see it.</p> <p>Fortunately, <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/17-little-ways-to-feel-more-confident">confidence is pretty easy to fake</a>. If you can change some things about the way you carry yourself and the ways you interact with people for the duration of your challenging situation, you will come across as much more confident than you might actually feel. (And of course, faking it can be a big step towards making it!) Here's how.</p> <h2>1. Whatever You Do, Don't Apologize!</h2> <p>People who aren't confident apologize when they don't have to and, in doing so, act as if they don't matter as much as the people they're talking to. If you have done something wrong, apologize by all means. But don't do it unless it is completely warranted and you are actually sorry. Some shy people even open conversations this way, saying, &quot;I'm sorry, do you have a minute?&quot; or &quot;I'm sorry to bother you, but...&quot; This conveys the opposite of confidence.</p> <h2>2. Slow Down</h2> <p>Many shy people tend to move and speak quickly or erratically when they feel uncomfortable. Instead, slow everything down. Speak precisely, making sure each word is clear. This shows that you are comfortable enough with yourself that you don't have to either steal or avoid the limelight to make sure you are heard. If you feel like you are going too fast, stop, smile, take a deep breath, and continue.</p> <h2>3. Stand Up Straight</h2> <p>If you can't do anything else, you can probably square your shoulders and lift your chin until the situation you aren't feeling confident about is over. This makes you look bigger, which alone may be enough to project more confidence. But good posture also says that you are ready for anything and sure of your ability to handle it.</p> <h2>4. Be Bold With Eye Contact</h2> <p>Eye contact is really hard for a lot of shy people, but maintaining it is key to looking confident. It may take some mental focus, but appearing engaged and interested in whatever is going on is important when you want to look confident. If looking at someone's eyes is awkward or too uncomfortable, at the very least you can focus on their mouth or their nose.</p> <h2>5. Turn Towards People</h2> <p>If you're shy, you might find that you're often partially turned away from a conversation, even one you're engaged and interested in. Make sure that both your toes and your torso are aimed toward the people you're speaking to, and you will look like you are <a href="http://www.scienceofpeople.com/2014/05/look-feel-confident-using-body-language/">put together and focused</a> on what is at hand. This also shows an immense amount of respect to the other people in the conversation, which shows that you are confident enough to let others be important, too.</p> <h2>6. Think Positive Thoughts</h2> <p>Specifically, think about your ambitions in a particular area before you go into a situation in that area where you want to appear confident. If you want someone to go on a date with you, write or imagine where you see that scenario ending. If you want a new job, think about what it would be like to work at the company and where that might lead you in the future. You will then automatically present yourself more assertively and people will think better of you when you're in the actual situation.</p> <h2>7. Laugh</h2> <p>If there is an appropriate opportunity for laughter, be sure to take it. This makes you seem happy, and happiness comes across as confidence. Make sure that you don't laugh awkwardly, though, or at someone else. It's best when you can laugh at yourself, which shows that you don't take yourself too seriously and that whatever happened isn't enough to shake you. Even if you truly are shaken, think about something funny and laugh at that, instead. No one will know the difference.</p> <h2>8. Practice Your Body Language</h2> <p>Many shy people rehearse potentially difficult situations ahead of time to make sure that they have their words down. When you do this, rehearse some body language, too. Specifically, make sure that your body language reflects the emotion you're trying to convey with your words. This will make you seem more consistent and convincing, so people will be more likely to trust you and follow where you want to lead.</p> <h2>9. Use Power Poses</h2> <p>If you want to appear more confident, <a href="http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/241052">practice power poses</a> before a potentially difficult encounter. These trick your brain into actually feeling more confident, so you will automatically present yourself that way during your meeting. You probably don't want to use these during an actual encounter, because that would look at least a little bit awkward. But you can use them beforehand, even in a bathroom stall if you have to.</p> <h2>10. Ask Good Questions</h2> <p>If you are the one asking questions, it means you're the one leading the conversation, and that always projects confidence. You can ask anything &mdash; ask someone how their day is going, or how they are feeling about a situation. Once you've asked, listen to the response. Then, you can ask another question, offer your own ideas, or at least give them a genuine smile.</p> <p>When you put these all together, you have one confident presentation of yourself. And these are all things you can &quot;fake,&quot; so you can do it even when you're feeling shy.</p> <p><em>When are you most likely to fake confidence? Has it worked well for you in the past?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-ways-even-shy-people-can-fake-confidence-and-get-ahead">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-3"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-ways-to-feel-more-attractive-without-actually-changing-how-you-look">12 Ways to Feel More Attractive Without Actually Changing How You Look</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-5-habits-you-must-break-to-become-more-self-confident">The 5 Habits You Must Break to Become More Self-Confident</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/want-to-be-more-attractive-work-these-5-magic-words-and-phrases-into-your-vocabulary">Want to Be More Attractive? Work These 5 Magic Words (and Phrases) Into Your Vocabulary</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/confident-people-have-these-10-things-in-their-homes-do-you">Confident People Have These 10 Things in Their Homes — Do You?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-dumb-little-things-holding-you-back-from-a-healthy-relationship">8 Dumb Little Things Holding You Back From a Healthy Relationship</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development confidence faking it meeting people shyness social Wed, 01 Jul 2015 17:00:16 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1469518 at http://www.wisebread.com 11 Signs You Need to Dump Your Friend http://www.wisebread.com/11-signs-you-need-to-dump-your-friend <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/11-signs-you-need-to-dump-your-friend" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_arguing_friend_000056429574.jpg" alt="Woman realizing it&#039;s time to dump her friend" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Having good friends is an important piece of the lifestyle puzzle. For some of us, <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-types-of-friends-who-are-costing-you-money">our friends</a> are closer to us than our family members, and we share much of our life's up and downs with them.</p> <p>Not all &quot;friends&quot; are the same, however. Every once in a while you come across an individual who seems benign in the beginning, but eventually reveals himself to be a devil in disguise. (Or just, you know, isn't a great fit for you.) Here are some of the signs that you're keeping bunk company.</p> <h2>1. They're Talking Smack Behind Your Back</h2> <p>Gutter-dwelling gossip was par for the course in high school, but now that you're a real-life adult it shouldn't have any place in your life. &quot;Frenemies&quot; might sound fun in theory &mdash; the people on TV are having a great time stabbing each other in the back between air kisses, after all &mdash; but it's an immature status to put on your relationships. If you suspect that a friend is tarnishing your good name, confront them. Maybe it's a misunderstanding you both can get past. If it's not a case of miscommunication but rather one of Mean Girl/Boy-itis, accept the situation for what it is and kick Regina George to the curb.</p> <h2>2. They Don't Invite You to Do Anything</h2> <p>I'm speaking from experience on this one, and it became such a chronic situation with several people when I'd invite them to parties, events, and on dates with no reciprocation that I had to do major friend housekeeping (and a bit of soul-searching) a few years ago to remedy it.</p> <p>My &quot;Aha!&quot; moment stemmed from an annual holiday party I used to host at my home in Manhattan. I'd invite everyone &mdash; friends, colleagues, acquaintances &mdash; and we'd have a blast drinking, eating, and laughing all night long. While I didn't mind not hearing much from colleagues and acquaintances frequently (we weren't &quot;friends,&quot; so I couldn't expect much), I did expect some level of return friendship from those who I thought were, well, my friends.</p> <p>Outside of the holiday party, I'd invite them over for game and movie nights, we'd go out to brunch or a movie, and I'd lend a hand when needed. Yet, I was rarely-to-never invited to the things they were doing that they proudly posted all over social media. Of course my feelings were hurt, and the pain evolved into anger. They didn't mind drinking my booze and eating my food and using my free movie coupons, but I wasn't good enough to think about otherwise. Thus, I had to make a conscious decision to cut those people out of my life if only to stop feeling sorry for myself. Yeah, it sucked, but I'm much more content with the quality of people I have in my life now opposed to the quantity I had back then.</p> <h2>3. They're Not There for You When You Need Them</h2> <p>Friends not inviting you to do things is a red flag for sure, but friends not being there for you when you need them most is a three-alarm fire that needs to be extinguished immediately.</p> <p>&quot;Having close friends is not just about having fun together but also supporting each other when times are tough,&quot; says John Boese, founder of friend-making social media site&nbsp;<a href="http://www.gofindfriends.com">GoFindFriends</a>. &quot;Great relationships involve both friends supporting each other in times of need. If the relationship feels one-sided, look for someone who wants to build a real relationship that will last through good times and bad.&quot;</p> <p>The rough times are the ones where you'll find out who your true friends are, as they say. If you wanted a particular presence and that person purposefully wasn't around, bury that broken friendship with whatever tragedy you just went through. Time to move on.</p> <h2>4. They Don't Respect Agreements or Boundaries</h2> <p>It may seem like an innocent oversight when a friend borrows something of yours and &quot;forgets&quot; to return it, but if it's a consistent problem, the issue should be addressed. Same goes for crossed boundaries. Did your friend push too far without so much as an apology? Nip that problem in the bud, too.</p> <p>&quot;During any kind of relationship, boundaries become established by both parties communicating what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior,&quot; says Ilianna Luna, licensed marriage and family therapist. &quot;A friend will know your likes and dislikes, and if he or she hurts you by doing something you don't like &mdash; and does nothing to make amends &mdash; it's time to speak up and let him or her know you don't want that kind of friendship.&quot;</p> <h2>5. They're Emotionally Draining</h2> <p>Ever had a friend that you started to avoid because every time you're with that person the conversation is so emotionally draining that you wish God would invent a whiskey swimming pool?</p> <p>Rest assured, we all have one of those. Dr. Ben Michaelis, clinical psychologist and author of the book&nbsp;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1440540764/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1440540764&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=T7ELL6G5QBWHFWMT">Your Next Big Thing: 10 Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy</a>, offers advice.</p> <p>&quot;None of us wants to see friends and family as having a negative influence on our lives, but if they are holding us back from being truly happy and fulfilled, we need to take a hard look at the role they play,&quot; he says. &quot;Be honest with yourself and take a look at the relationships that may not be right for you, or which you may have outgrown. You can't force or expect your friends and family to change, but you can make choices about who you choose to let into your life.&quot;</p> <h2>6. They're Overly Critical of You</h2> <p>There's an old saying that implies that we're our own worst critics (I know I am) &mdash; so why the heck would we want somebody else judging us? Nerp. Turn that harsh bus around, anti-friend.</p> <p>&quot;An occasional constructive comment is fine, but friends who constantly make you feel bad about yourself are not worth your time,&quot; Boese says. &quot;If they often criticize you for how you act, look, or how you choose to live your life, then it's probably best to find someone who is more supportive.&quot;</p> <h2>7. They're Jealous of Your Life</h2> <p>You think you've made a great new friend, but before you know it she's living in your house, breastfeeding your newborn baby, putting the moves on your husband, framing your handyman, and plotting the murder of your bestie in the greenhouse. Okay, so that's the plot of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/6305213305/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=6305213305&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=JR7P37AY7GBBZMSF">The Hand That Rocks the Cradle</a>, but if you're not careful the same scenario could totally happen to you.</p> <p>If you suspect that there's an unhealthy jealousy between you and a friend, it's time to back away from that friendship. There's very little you can do to make that person not jealous (notwithstanding the fact that it's totally creeper to be jealous of a friend in the first place, of course), and it could get ugly down the line. You don't want to have to push the weirdo off the roof, do you? Back away from the friendship slowly and say so long.</p> <h2>8. They Have a &quot;Me-Me-Me&quot; Attitude</h2> <p>&quot;Some people seem to make everything about themselves,&quot; Boese says. &quot;Your conversations always end up focusing on them and you may even struggle to get a word in while they're speaking. This can lead to an unequal relationship where you're getting out of it much less than you're putting in. It's best to find someone who understands the give-and-take of building a strong, lasting relationship.&quot;</p> <p>Alas, Luna offers a more congenial way of handling people with SPD or Selfish Personality Disorder (not a realdisorder, but it is).</p> <p>&quot;When one friend constantly takes from the relationship but gives nothing back, it becomes a breeding ground for resentment and back-stabbing,&quot; she says. &quot;In all fairness, you should let the person know they have hijacked the friendship and give them a chance to change. They may not know they are doing it. If you bring it up in a non-threatening way and the friend continues disregarding your thoughts and feelings, it's time to end it.&quot;</p> <h2>9. They Court the Kind of Drama Fit for Primetime TV</h2> <p>I'm gonna be honest and tell you that I sort of wish I lived in a world where <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00T6KIK4S/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B00T6KIK4S&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=75YTM3LBVBEBY7JO">Empire</a> and <a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=as_li_ss_tl?_encoding=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;fst=as%3Aoff&amp;keywords=Dallas&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;qid=1433516884&amp;rh=n%3A2625373011%2Cp_n_format_browse-bin%3A2650304011%2Ck%3ADallas&amp;rnid=2941120011&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=BKQE3I3BYOQ4M75E">Dallas</a> were real and all the boys wanted to date me. But unless you're bringing the kind of hotness to the table that makes platinum records spin and/or oil derricks explode all over Texas, save the drama for your mama. Personally, I've never had any patience for premature Emmy Award winners with no TV credits whose hashtags are always &quot;epic&quot; because they're having the WORST. DAY. EVER. Do yourself a favor and exit stage left if you've got a Monday morning thespian bringing you down.</p> <h2>10. They're a Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire</h2> <p>One the best things about being a self-sufficient adult in my 30s is that I don't have to lie to any of my friends (or anyone else, for that matter). I'm not responsible for anyone, I'm not accountable to anyone, and I generally live my life as a grown-up dude who doesn't care what anybody thinks about what I say or do &mdash; because I alone pay my bills. In summary, I won't blow smoke up your bum, because it's absolutely unnecessary.</p> <p>It's also unnecessary for you to accept lies from your friends. It's a juvenile practice common among kids (hopefully that will put things into perspective), or those who have something to hide. While I don't expect that you're hanging out with nine-year-olds, if you happen to have somebody in your life who's lying to you, I suggest getting to the root of the problem right away. Perhaps there's a good reason (embarrassment is an acceptable reason for someone to lie in my book; I can at least understand that point of view) for which you can forgive them. Just don't let your guard down completely and forgive willy-nilly.</p> <h2>11. They Use You for What You Can Give Them</h2> <p>There are two reasons I've identified that compel people to hang out with me other than just being friends. The first is that I work in media, so I'm often invited to cool events and receive neat products to try; people like that. I also have a house on the Jersey Shore, very close to the beach, and people like that, too. I don't mind sharing these perks of my life with them &mdash; I like seeing my friends smile &mdash; but I also don't let either of those reasons define our friendship.</p> <p>If I get even an inkling that I'm being used, that person is shown the door, sometimes quite literally.</p> <p><em>Are there other signs that we need to a dump a friend that you'd like to add? Let me know in the comments below.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-signs-you-need-to-dump-your-friend">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-4"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-things-you-need-to-stop-doing-today-to-be-a-better-friend">12 Things You Need to Stop Doing Today to Be a Better Friend</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/friends-and-goals-dont-let-a-blue-falcon-bring-you-down">Friends and Goals: Don&#039;t Let a Blue Falcon Bring You Down</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-ways-to-be-a-better-friend-without-any-effort">6 Ways to Be a Better Friend Without Any Effort</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/16-ways-you-are-causing-road-rage">16 Ways You Are Causing Road Rage</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/fixing-mistakes-7-steps-for-any-situation">Fixing Mistakes: 7 Steps for Any Situation</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development friends lifestyle maturity moving on relationships Thu, 25 Jun 2015 11:00:16 +0000 Mikey Rox 1462285 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Top Ways to Fix a Bad First Impression http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-top-ways-to-fix-a-bad-first-impression <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-top-ways-to-fix-a-bad-first-impression" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/man_bad_impression_000024595690.jpg" alt="Man finding ways to fix bad first impression" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on the best ways to fix a bad first impression, fun 3-ingredient summer cocktail recipes, and why you should always check prices when shopping on Amazon.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.dumblittleman.com/2015/06/top-5-ways-reverse-negative-first-impression.html">Top 5 Ways to Reverse A Negative First Impression</a> &mdash; Turn around and show a different side of your personality to reshape the original image that someone has of you. [Dumb Little Man]</p> <p><a href="http://smartycents.com/slideshows/summer-cocktail-recipes/">10 Three-Ingredient Summer Cocktail&nbsp;Recipes</a> &mdash; It doesn't get any more summery than whiskey and lemonade with a honey stick! [Smarty Cents]</p> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/Saving-Money/2015/0623/Always-check-prices-before-buying-on-Amazon.-Here-s-why">Always check prices before buying on Amazon. Here's why.</a> &mdash; There are multimillion dollar businesses devoted to buying things at retailers and reselling them on Amazon or eBay &mdash; at a premium. You can do a quick search on Google Shopping to check if you're getting something at the best price. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Signs-Hoarding-Tendencies-33911301">11 Signs You Have Hoarding Tendencies</a> &mdash; Are there areas in your home (like the dining table) that need to be cleared off before you can actually use it for its intended purpose? [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/7-ways-to-survive-summer-vacation-with-your-family-or-close-friends">7 Ways to Survive Summer Vacation With Your Family or Close Friends</a> &mdash; When vacationing with a large group, it might be worth it to splurge on accommodations so that individual families have their own space. [Parenting Squad]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.cleverdude.com/content/4-ways-to-engage-your-customers/">4 Ways to Engage Your Customers</a> &mdash; Use radio ads to reach out to potential customers! Many drivers still listen to the radio while they're on the road. [Clever Dude]</p> <p><a href="http://www.debtroundup.com/10-ways-to-make-extra-cash-in-college/">10 Ways to Make Extra Cash in College</a> &mdash; Many freelance writing gigs are specifically looking for college students. [Debt Roundup]</p> <p><a href="http://www.mybanktracker.com/news/lazy-habits-that-are-hurting-your-finances">5 Lazy Money Habits That Are Hurting Your Finances</a> &mdash; If you use a credit card for your everyday purchases, make sure you're getting (and using!) rewards for it. [My Bank Tracker]</p> <p><a href="http://www.listenmoneymatters.com/travelers-rights/">Traveler&rsquo;s Rights</a> &mdash; It's important to know what you're entitled to and how to get it before your flight is delayed, or your baggage is lost, or you're late for hotel check-in. [Listen Money Matters]</p> <p><a href="http://www.aspiringmillionaire.com/2015/06/when-to-say-yes-and-when-to-say-no.html">When to Say Yes, and When to Say No</a> &mdash; If something makes you uncomfortable because it's outside your comfort zone, consider saying yes to see what opportunities may come up. But if it's uncomfortable because it's outside your moral code, then don't do it even if you're pressured to. [Aspiring Millionaire]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-top-ways-to-fix-a-bad-first-impression">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-5"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-simple-ways-to-make-a-fantastic-first-impression">6 Simple Ways to Make a Fantastic First Impression</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-7-exercises-are-scientifically-proven-to-increase-happiness">These 7 Exercises Are Scientifically Proven to Increase Happiness</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-easy-ways-to-have-energy-after-work">7 Easy Ways to Have Energy After Work</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-apps-that-pay-you-to-exercise">5 Apps That Pay You To Exercise</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips first impressions Wed, 24 Jun 2015 19:01:33 +0000 Amy Lu 1468293 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Habits of the Happiest People in the World http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-habits-of-the-happiest-people-in-the-world <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-habits-of-the-happiest-people-in-the-world" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/happy_woman_000037496470.jpg" alt="Habits of the happiest woman in the world" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on daily habits of the happiest people in the world, ways to save big at Ikea, and the types of people you should avoid if you want to become rich.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/8-daily-habits-the-happiest-people-the-world.html">8 Daily Habits Of The Happiest People In The World</a> &mdash; The happiest people have a dream, something they want to do. It's the reason they wake up in the morning. [Lifehack.org]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/How-Save-Money-Ikea-35593579">11 Secrets to Saving Big Bucks at Ikea</a> &mdash; Check your local Ikea's store website for special coupons and offers. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://fitzvillafuerte.com/7-types-of-people-you-should-avoid-if-you-want-to-become-rich.html">7 Types of People You Should Avoid If You Want to Become Rich</a> &mdash; Hanging out with the YOLO Spender may convince you that only your immediate happiness matters. [Ready To Be Rich]</p> <p><a href="http://blog.quizzle.com/2015/06/5-tips-for-creating-a-meal-plan-thats-healthy-and-saves-money/">5 tips for creating a meal plan that&rsquo;s healthy and saves money</a> &mdash; Buy a little more meat and produce when they're on sale, then create freezer packs so they'll last longer. [Quizzle Wire]</p> <p><a href="https://www.dailyworth.com/posts/3634-how-to-budget-when-you-don-t-have-a-steady-paycheck">How to Budget When You Don&rsquo;t Have a Steady Paycheck</a> &mdash; Give yourself a monthly paycheck based on what you need to life off of, and put the rest away into savings. [Daily Worth]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.threethriftyguys.com/2015/06/try-this-tip-to-get-the-edge-on-a-house-offer/">Try This Tip to Get the Edge On a House Offer</a> &mdash; Attach a hand-written note to your house offer that introduces you and explains why you love the house. It gives a personal touch and may create a connection with the buyer. [Three Thrifty Guys]</p> <p><a href="http://www.thepennyhoarder.com/weird-things-public-library/">9 Weird Things You Didn&rsquo;t Know You Could Borrow From the Library</a> &mdash; Many libraries loan out basic tools like hammers, drills, and rakes. Or, you can check out dedicated tool libraries to loan or rent the gear for your next DIY project. [The Penny Hoarder]</p> <p><a href="http://timemanagementninja.com/2015/06/10-tweaks-to-keep-your-phone-from-interrupting-you">10 Tweaks to Keep Your Phone from Interrupting You</a> &mdash; Pretty much every app wants to send you notifications. Feel free to turn off all but the most important ones! [Time Management Ninja]</p> <p><a href="http://www.thadthoughts.com/2015/06/ten-easy-ways-to-stay-cool/">10 Easy Ways to Stay Cool This Summer</a> &mdash; Install thicker, better quality blinds to keep the summer sunlight out. [Thad Thoughts]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/8-ways-to-keep-your-childs-math-skills-intact-without-relying-on-computer-games">8 Ways to Keep Your Child's Math Skills Intact (Without Relying on Computer Games)</a> &mdash; Dice games can help kids learn math facts, strategic thinking, and memory skills. [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-habits-of-the-happiest-people-in-the-world">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-6"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-7-exercises-are-scientifically-proven-to-increase-happiness">These 7 Exercises Are Scientifically Proven to Increase Happiness</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-easy-ways-to-have-energy-after-work">7 Easy Ways to Have Energy After Work</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-apps-that-pay-you-to-exercise">5 Apps That Pay You To Exercise</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s">The 8 Life Skills You Must Learn in Your 40s</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips happy habits Thu, 18 Jun 2015 19:00:20 +0000 Amy Lu 1461953 at http://www.wisebread.com 8 Old School Manners We Want Back http://www.wisebread.com/8-old-school-manners-we-want-back <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/8-old-school-manners-we-want-back" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/bad_date_000015888248.jpg" alt="Woman wishing her date had old school manners" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Do you groan when you think about manners? Do you remember your cotillion or your mother telling you to chew with your mouth closed? I get it.</p> <p>But the thing is, <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">manners were important</a> to people for a reason. They were based on common courtesies that people wanted to see reflected throughout society. In some cases, when we lost a particular set of manners, we lost the courtesy. And if we can reclaim those manners, we will reclaim the courtesy.</p> <p>Don't worry! I'm not going to go all Emily Post on you (though you get extra points if you don't have to Google her!). But I am going to suggest a fews simple ways we can go about treating each other better. If we can reclaim some of these manners, we'll be happier both as individuals and as a culture.</p> <h2>1. Making Eye Contact</h2> <p>Let me be the first to tell you that I am terrible at making and maintaining eye contact. It makes me nervous, and I'm highly visually distractible, so anything that moves draws my eye. But it's these very reasons that have moved me to focus on making eye contact more often.</p> <p>Looking someone in the eyes tells them that they are important. It tells them that they have your full and complete attention. In this age where so many people are distracted by cell phones, where we text in the middle of meals with friends and take calls in the middle of meetings, stopping and taking the care to make eye contact can change things. People matter. We should let them know.</p> <h2>2. Not Staring</h2> <p>This may seem like it opposes the previous point, so let me explain. Eye contact involves some sort of exchange. In order to look someone in the eyes, they must also be looking into your eyes (or else you end up looking at their forehead). But staring usually involves looking at someone when they are not returning that look.</p> <p>Watching people can be interesting and fun, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But there's no need to stare, to watch someone in a way that is overly intense or invasive: it is rude and potentially hurtful. Instead of staring, say hi or offer a smile, then mind your own business.</p> <h2>3. Remembering &quot;Please&quot; and &quot;Thank You&quot;</h2> <p>These words have been nearly deleted from the vocabularies of almost everyone who does not work in customer service. But they shouldn't just be words that we say to give a particular professional impression.</p> <p>Saying &quot;please&quot; and &quot;thank you&quot; isn't just polite &mdash; it can change the ways we think. When we say &quot;please,&quot; it can help us remember that we are asking someone to go out of their way for us. And when we say &quot;thank you,&quot; it can spark actual gratitude in us, can remind us that we have something to be grateful for even in the middle of a day that is mundane or difficult.</p> <p>And these words remind the people we're speaking to that we appreciate them, that they have value to us, and that we honor their presence.</p> <h2>4. Making Conversation</h2> <p>By &quot;making conversation,&quot; I don't mean making small talk. It used to be that learning how to carry on a conversation was considered good manners. This means learning how to ask good, appropriate questions of people you're just meeting or of acquaintances, and how to answer questions, too.</p> <p>We have lost this art. Today, we seem to engage in small talk or we want to go deep. However, it's hard to go deep without some sort of foundation, and making conversation can provide this foundation for the relationships we crave. So, next time you ask someone what they do for a living, follow up by asking them how they got into the field, or why they chose that career, or what their favorite part of the job is.</p> <h2>5. Writing Thank You Notes</h2> <p>I feel like I hear a lot about thank you notes when manners come up, and that can get old really, really fast. But the truth is that a handwritten thank you note expresses more than gratitude.</p> <p>Think about the last one of these that you got and how it made you feel. Taking the time to write out your gratitude says that you see something of the heart behind the gift or action you're expressing gratefulness for, and that you recognize the love behind the gift.</p> <h2>6. Remembering to RSVP</h2> <p>If someone asks you to RSVP to an event, do it. Even if you really don't know if you'll be able to come, let the organizer know that. They will appreciate the fact that you valued them and their invitation enough to let you know.</p> <p>When you RSVP, you honor the fact that someone values you enough to invite you to a special event. Even if you can't go, your response acknowledges the relationship between you and says that you value it.</p> <h2>7. Holding Doors Open</h2> <p>This is not just a call for men to hold doors for women. It's a call for all of us to open our eyes to the world around us, to the other people in our midst, and to help them when they need it.</p> <p>I can't tell you how many times I've been grateful for someone holding a door for me when I've been balancing a screaming toddler, a shopping cart, my purse, and a diaper bag. It's particularly awesome when I don't even have to struggle first, when someone sees that I'm going to need help and jumps in.</p> <p>This simple action has changed my day before, and I've become intentional in trying to notice and change a day for other people. No one wants to struggle with a door, to hold up a bunch of people and create a bottleneck. So notice, and help them out.</p> <h2>8. Making Proper Introductions</h2> <p>I think we all know the awkwardness of finding ourselves in a group conversation where we don't know everyone. I don't think we go into a situation intending to <em>not </em>introduce someone, but we do it all the time. It ends up being disrespectful to almost everyone involved.</p> <p>If you don't have time to prepare an introduction, simply introduce people by name and by their relationship with you. If you do have time to prepare, focus on how people might connect and mention these things in your introduction. No matter how you introduce people, though, they will feel valued and honored that you made the effort.</p> <p><em>Are manners important to you? Which ones are you intentional about incorporating into your life? </em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-old-school-manners-we-want-back">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-7"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-ways-youre-driving-your-coworkers-insane">12 Ways You&#039;re Driving Your Coworkers Insane</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second">If You&#039;re Doing This on Your First Date, You&#039;re Not Getting a Second</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/3-supposed-etiquette-faux-pas-that-actually-make-you-look-good">3 Supposed Etiquette Faux Pas That Actually Make You Look Good</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-rules-of-etiquette-we-wish-were-still-around-today">8 Rules of Etiquette We Wish Were Still Around Today</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development courtesy etiquette manners politeness Wed, 17 Jun 2015 21:00:28 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1454505 at http://www.wisebread.com 10 Essential Steps to Take Before a Job Interview http://www.wisebread.com/10-essential-steps-to-take-before-a-job-interview <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/10-essential-steps-to-take-before-a-job-interview" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_job_interview_000051198936.jpg" alt="Woman taking essential steps before job interview" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Once you've snagged a job interview, the inevitable nerves that follow can make it difficult to focus on preparation. With a little bit of planning, though, you can bring your best business-ready self to the table. Follow these tips leading up to your big moment.</p> <p>RELATED:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Habits-Considerate-People-35402792">29 Habits of Extremely Considerate People</a></p> <h2>Several Hours Earlier</h2> <h3>1. Eat Well</h3> <p>It's important to have a healthy, substantial breakfast, of course, but it's just as important to eat well the night before so that you feel your best in the morning. Choose nutritious foods that fill and satisfy, and remember to limit caffeine to one or two servings. Chances are you'll already be feeling jittery, so put a cap on your coffee consumption.</p> <h3>2. Check the Weather</h3> <p>Check the hourly forecast and grab any extra items that you may need: an umbrella, a raincoat, gloves, or suitable footwear, for instance.</p> <h3>3. Mind Your Footwear</h3> <p>Shoes are important: make sure your pair is both weather-appropriate and easy to walk in, because the last thing you want to do is trip your way through the office. The night before your interview, wear the selected shoes with socks for a couple hours to guarantee that they're broken in and comfortable.</p> <h3>4. Pack Your Day Bag</h3> <p>Pack a small bag with all the hygiene necessities: floss, travel-size deodorant, a compact mirror, and any makeup essentials that you may want to use for a morning touch-up. Include a tin of mints and avoid gum in case you forget to throw it away beforehand.</p> <p>RELATED:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Can-I-Lie-Interviewer-22943027">4 Lies You Shouldn't Tell Your Interviewer</a></p> <h2>One Hour Prior</h2> <h3>5. Chat With a Friend</h3> <p>Call a friend for a quick conversation that will place you in a lighter frame of mind. Try not to talk about your interview. Instead, focus on carefree, upbeat topics that will put you at ease.</p> <h3>6. Pump Up the Jams</h3> <p>Turn up the volume to amp up your energy. Nobody wants to talk to a tired deadbeat, let alone hire one. Companies want lively, enthusiastic employees, so listen to a special pump-up playlist featuring your favorite fast-tempo songs. Let yourself loosen up so that your personality can shine.</p> <p>RELATED:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Best-Cities-Jobs-37523431#photo-37523431">The 25 Best Cities For Jobs in the US</a></p> <h2>With Minutes to Go</h2> <h3>7. Hush Your Phone</h3> <p>Turn off your phone. It's a no-brainer, but nothing screams &quot;unprofessional&quot; quite like a vibrating purse &mdash; not to mention a loud, awkward ringtone.</p> <h3>8. Get Hydrated</h3> <p>Drink up: hydration is key to staying alert, so bring a full water bottle to sip throughout the day. Once you reach the office, kindly accept any drink offers from the receptionist in case your mouth dries out midinterview.</p> <h3>9. Breathe</h3> <p>Take deep breaths, inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. Anxious butterflies can cause headaches and hazy vision, so concentrate on breathing to clear your mind.</p> <h3>10. Smile</h3> <p>Attitude is everything, and positivity packs the greatest punch when it comes to boosting your appeal.</p> <p>Have your own interview prep tips to share? Leave them in the comments.</p> <p>RELATED:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Neat-Freak-Tips-35312800">How to Become the Neat Freak You've Always Dreamed of Being</a></p> <div class="field field-type-text field-field-blog-teaser"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> You&#039;ve made it to the interview; don&#039;t blow it now. You won&#039;t if you follow with 10 step pre-interview plan. </div> </div> </div> <div class="field field-type-text field-field-guestpost-blurb"> <div class="field-label">Guest Post Blurb:&nbsp;</div> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <p style="text-align:center;"><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com" style="border:none;"><img alt="" src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/u921/POPSUGARrgb.jpg" style="height:95px; width:300px" /></a></p> <p><em>This is a guest contribution from our friends at </em><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/"><em>POPSUGAR Smart Living</em></a><em>. Check out more useful articles from this partner:</em></p> <ul> <li><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Habits-Considerate-People-35402792">29 Habits of Extremely Considerate People</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Can-I-Lie-Interviewer-22943027">4 Lies You Shouldn't Tell Your Interviewer</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Best-Cities-Jobs-37523431#photo-37523431">The 25 Best Cities For Jobs in the US</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Neat-Freak-Tips-35312800">How to Become the Neat Freak You've Always Dreamed of Being</a></li> </ul> <p>&nbsp;</p> </div> </div> </div> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/popsugar-smart-living">POPSUGAR Smart Living</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-essential-steps-to-take-before-a-job-interview">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-8"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/using-times-new-roman-on-your-r-sum-is-like-wearing-sweatpants-to-an-interview">Using Times New Roman on Your Résumé Is Like Wearing Sweatpants to an Interview</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-6-craziest-things-people-have-done-to-land-a-job">The 6 Craziest Things People Have Done to Land a Job</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-effective-ways-to-make-yourself-more-employable">6 Effective Ways to Make Yourself More Employable</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-words-you-need-to-delete-from-your-resume-right-now">12 Words You Need to Delete From Your Resume Right Now</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-things-you-can-do-right-now-to-become-more-hirable">10 Things You Can Do Right Now to Become More Hirable</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Job Hunting Personal Development interview job search resume Fri, 12 Jun 2015 17:00:14 +0000 POPSUGAR Smart Living 1452447 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: 25 Morning Habits for a Great Day http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-25-morning-habits-for-a-great-day <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-25-morning-habits-for-a-great-day" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/breakfast-iStock_000064711529_Small.jpg" alt="family eating breakfast" title="family eating breakfast" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="166" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on morning habits for a great day, ways to save $100 this week, and things you can do this summer to boost your career.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Good-Morning-Habits-34931838">Up and at 'Em! 25 Good Morning Habits For a Great Day</a> &mdash; Start your day with a brain exercise like Sudoku or a crossword to get those wheels turning! [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.moneytalksnews.com/21-ways-save-100-this-week/">18 Ways to Save $100 This Week</a> &mdash; Set a cash-only expenditure budget for the week. When your cash is gone, your spending is done! [Money Talks News]</p> <p><a href="http://frugalbeautiful.com/blog/5-summer-build-career/">5 Things To Do This Summer To Help Build Your Career</a> &mdash; Volunteer at a charitable organization! You'll grow your network, gain more experiences to put on your resume, and give back to your community. [Frugal Beautiful]</p> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/Saving-Money/2015/0604/How-to-make-your-laptop-last-longer">How to make your laptop last longer</a> &mdash; If you have an older laptop with a hard drive, replace it with a solid state drive. They're more expensive than your average hard drive, but they're also much faster. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://bargainbriana.com/five-common-frugal-cooking-substitutes">Five Common Frugal Cooking Substitutes</a> &mdash; Substitute juice for wine if you don't want to pop open bottle. [Bargain Briana]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://liveyourlegend.net/passionate-work-framework-to-do-work-you-love/">The 3 Simple (&amp; Absolutely Required) Steps to Doing Work You Love</a> &mdash; Become a self-expert! To do this, you need to constantly experiment and learn new things about yourself. [Live Your Legend]</p> <p><a href="http://momsneedtoknow.com/10-ways-to-cut-your-electric-or-gas-bill/">10 Ways to Cut Your Electric or Gas Bill</a> &mdash; On warm days, cook on the outdoor grill or an electric skillet on your patio to keep your house from heating up. [Moms Need to Know]</p> <p><a href="http://www.shebudgets.com/personal-finance/5-ways-youre-sinking-financially-stop/59134">5 Ways You&rsquo;re Sinking Financially&hellip;And How to Stop</a> &mdash; It's easy to forget about automatic payments...long after you've stopped using the service! [SheBudgets]</p> <p><a href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/technology/8-tools-boost-your-social-media-performance.html">8 Tools To Boost Your Social Media Performance</a> &mdash; Nimble combines your schedule, contacts, emails, and social media accounts into one centralized hub. [Lifehack.org]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/all-the-best-award-winning-children-s-books-of-2015">All the Best Award Winning Children&rsquo;s Books of 2015</a> &mdash; This year John Newbery Medal goes to <em>The Crossover</em> by Kwame Alexander! [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-25-morning-habits-for-a-great-day">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-9"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-easy-ways-to-have-energy-after-work">7 Easy Ways to Have Energy After Work</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-self-improvement-apps-to-make-you-smarter-stronger-and-happier">10 Self-Improvement Apps to Make You Smarter, Stronger, and Happier</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/kill-boredom-with-these-34-fun-and-productive-projects">Kill Boredom With These 34 Fun and Productive Projects</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-ways-to-improve-your-decision-making-skills">10 Ways to Improve Your Decision-Making Skills</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/you-can-too-7-amazing-things-people-have-accomplished-in-under-a-year">You Can Too: 7 Amazing Things People Have Accomplished in Under a Year</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development Productivity best money tips good habits Mon, 08 Jun 2015 19:00:12 +0000 Amy Lu 1448906 at http://www.wisebread.com The 8 Life Skills You Must Learn in Your 40s http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_meditating_000015079887.jpg" alt="Woman meditating and learning important life skills at age 40" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>I turned 40 last year. It was not celebrated in quite the same way as when I turned 18, or 21, but it's a milestone nonetheless. And it got me to thinking&hellip;what should I be learning now that I have hit this major landmark? What can any of us who are in our 40s learn to make life even better, and prepare for the next 40 years? Here are eight of the <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-modern-life-skills-everyone-should-master">best life skills</a> you can embrace once you reach the big 40.</p> <h2>1. Overcoming Procrastination</h2> <p>When we're young, it's easy to think that there's plenty of time to do this, or that, <em>later</em>. But after hitting &quot;middle age,&quot; perspective is everything. You should realize that there is no time like the present to get things done, but also that you must have achievable goals. Saying &quot;That's it, I'm redecorating the kitchen this weekend&quot; will probably lead to failure because you have set yourself too great a task in too short a time. Instead, portion out the tasks ahead into very attainable goals. So, this weekend, you will remove the wallpaper from two walls, and choose new paint or paper from the home improvement store. Use your smartphone to set these goals, and have a checklist. When you see the list getting shorter, you'll feel good about your progress.</p> <h2>2. Meditation</h2> <p>Say meditation to some people and they think you're some new-age whacko or &quot;hippie.&quot; But meditation is simply a way to internalize and focus on ourselves, rather than the hectic world around us. It's a way to find a little peace, without grabbing a drink, watching TV, or flat out falling asleep. This is awareness, and helps us achieve an emotional balance. It's very easy to get started, too.</p> <p>You need to find a place in your home, or office, free from distractions. You cannot do this with constant interruptions. Then, make yourself comfortable, but don't lie down. This is no time for a nap, this is about being focused. Sit up straight, preferably without the help of back support. Begin to breath, in and out, and pay close attention to your breathing. Some people use an affirmation or chant, some like to listen to some instrumental music or sound effects. Others simply focus on their own heartbeat. This is about finding time for you, and some inner peace. Do this for 15&ndash;30 minutes per day, and you will be amazed at the results it generates for you.</p> <h2>3. Yoga</h2> <p>On the back of meditation comes another skill that many people confuse. Yoga is obviously not meditation, but it can bring about some of the same benefits. It can internalize your thinking, and bring you a great sense of peace and relaxation. However, yoga is also good at this time of life, when our bodies aren't as supple and regenerative as they were 20 years ago. There are <a href="http://www.realsimple.com/health/fitness-exercise/stretching-yoga/types-yoga">many types of yoga</a> available, including bikram, power, ashtanga, iyengar, hatha, and more. Try your local athletic club for yoga classes. Some employers even offer them for free, as they are very beneficial to the workforce.</p> <h2>4. Patience</h2> <p>They say it's a virtue. When we're kids, we don't have it. When we're in our 20s, we fake it. By the time we're in our 30s, we often let it slide because &quot;I've been doing this a long time and I deserve what I want, when I want!&quot; Now, after hitting 40, it has dawned on me that learning how to be patient is something I should have done a long time ago. And it's not difficult.</p> <p>The most important part of learning patience is figuring out what triggers your impatience. For example, one of my biggest bugbears is lateness. If people aren't on time, I get irritated&hellip;quickly. Or at least, I used to. Now, I try to remember that my attitude cannot change their schedule. I can either be annoyed, or use the time wisely. I breathe deeply, remember what good things are happening on that day, and realize that some things are just out of my control.</p> <h2>5. Arguing</h2> <p>In a perfect world, we wouldn't have to argue with other people. Then again, it sounds like quite a dull world, too. Arguments happen wherever there are other people to argue with. They are unavoidable. However, learning how to argue is going to save you a lot of time, energy, and even money. In our youth, arguments can be childish and uncivilized. There can be name-calling and hurtful statements. The arguments can start out being about something small, and end up becoming monstrous. Knowing how to argue well, or fairly, can really be of great service to yourself, and those around you.</p> <p>Try to see things from the other person's point of view. Always think before speaking, and make sure that whatever you are saying has a positive intention. You want to reach an agreement, not hail yourself as a victor and puff up your chest. If you're in your 40s, you should be beyond such trivial wins anyway. You want the best for both parties, and you get that by listening, having empathy, and working as a team trying to solve a problem.</p> <h2>6. Forgiveness</h2> <p>For many years in my 20s, and even into my 30s, I had a passionate dislike of certain people. And the reason &mdash; they did something to me that I just couldn't forgive. As it turns out, the &quot;unforgivable&quot; acts were very easily forgivable, I was just young when I was hurt, and let it build up into a mountain of disdain over time. This is no way to live. A famous quote says &quot;holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.&quot; Oh, how true.</p> <p>So, start learning how to really forgive people now. You don't have to forget what that person did to you, but you can make a concerted effort to talk it over with them, and offer your genuine forgiveness. Remember, the person suffering the most from these feelings is you. The other person probably doesn't think about it half as much as you do, so let it go. Forgive them, move on, and you'll feel better.</p> <h2>7. Thinking on Your Feet</h2> <p>You could also call it decision making, but that doesn't put the emphasis on time. I was in a restaurant a few weeks ago, and I heard a couple trying to figure out what they were going to eat. After 20 minutes, they still hadn't decided. It was starting to become a heated argument, and for what? The difference between ordering lasagna or spaghetti? In many aspects of life, quick thinking is invaluable. And the biggest enemy of it is self-doubt, or second-guessing. By the time you hit 40, you should know what you like, what you want, and where you're going. Trust your gut, listen to yourself, and stop umming and <em>aaahing</em>. This doesn't mean making hasty decisions, but it does mean getting to the right decision quickly, and confidently.</p> <h2>8. Letting Go</h2> <p>We have a dogged determination to stick with things in our teens, 20s, and 30s. If we give up, we fail. We don't want to be seen as failures, so we will often keep on going with something that should have been dead and buried long ago. This can apply to anything, from personal projects and careers, to relationships and ambitions.</p> <p>Now, I know some people will think &quot;You should never let go of your dreams,&quot; but what if your resoluteness to achieve something unattainable is getting in the way of something that could be just as great? Some teens want to be astronauts. Is that something to keep gunning for when you hit 40? Are you in a relationship that you keep promising yourself will get better? Maybe it's time to let go. It can also be as simple as walking out of an awful movie. Think about it. Time is a precious resource, and one that we have less of every day. Is it worth sticking things out when we could move onto greener pastures?</p> <p><em>What lessons have you learned at 40? </em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/paul-michael">Paul Michael</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-10"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-secrets-to-a-joyful-life">6 Secrets to a Joyful Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-work-habits-from-country-music">5 Work Habits From Country Music</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/learn-all-the-frugal-skills-you-need-with-these-9-great-video-tutorials">Learn All the Frugal Skills You Need With These 9 Great Video Tutorials</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-7-exercises-are-scientifically-proven-to-increase-happiness">These 7 Exercises Are Scientifically Proven to Increase Happiness</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development 40s life skills middle-age wellbeing Wed, 27 May 2015 21:00:08 +0000 Paul Michael 1432205 at http://www.wisebread.com Is Your Personality Sabotaging Your Saving? http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/nervous_guy_000034996236.jpg" alt="Man with personality type that sabotages savings" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>They say it takes all types &mdash; but some types have a harder time <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-unexpected-ways-stay-at-home-parents-save-big">saving</a> than others. Are you allowing some of your less flattering character traits to derail your finances? Here are four personality types that sabotage saving.</p> <h2>1. The Insecure</h2> <p>In a consumer economy, advertisers work tirelessly to link products to personality. Do you drive a domestic car, or an import? Are the countertops in your home Formica or granite? Are you a Mac person or a PC person? Often, the answers don't simply explain what we prefer &mdash; they suggest who we are, or at least who we'd like to be.</p> <p>Playing upon consumers' insecurities works like a charm. Ego sells lots of products and keeps huge swaths of the population on a treadmill of debt. Fight back by getting comfortable in your own skin and learning little ways to feel more confident every day.</p> <h2>2. The Impulsive</h2> <p>Let's admit it: we live in a consumer-centered universe. Every screen we gaze into promises to deliver more delights to our doorstep (with free shipping and cashback rewards, of course). There are entire armies of designers, marketers, and retailers whose sole purpose is to anticipate what will tickle us next and magically make our wallets fall open.</p> <p>In a consumer Candyland like ours, those who haven't learned how to overcome impulse spending don't have a chance. Without a dependable restraint system, they're sure to wander toward the Gumdrop Mountains, fall into the Molasses Swamp, and never be heard from again.</p> <h2>3. The Impatient</h2> <p>Just one word separates a saver from a spender. A saver says, &quot;I need it.&quot; A spender says, &quot;I need it <em>now</em>.&quot; Purging that one pesky word from our consumer vocabulary can save us thousands of dollars over a lifetime. &quot;Now&quot; eliminates the option of shopping around for the best deal, it means we don't have to plan and save, and it means we'll think about the consequences to our budget later. If you're trying to spend wisely, stop being impatient and start thinking of &quot;now&quot; as a hair-curling, four-letter word.</p> <h2>4. The Fearful</h2> <p>Spending wisely and saving for the future takes a bit of fortitude. To make real progress, we have to know who we are deep down, learn how to conquer fear, and take a few chances. Those who are afraid of money likely don't understand it, or grew up in households where money was a constant source of anxiety. They might be able to pinch a few pennies, but profound success will always be elusive. The fearful wouldn't dream of negotiating on price, they don't feel comfortable making independent investment decisions, and they're afraid to spend when presented with real wealth-building opportunities.</p> <p>Saving money over the long term is no different than achieving any other goal. We have to duck and weave around our own insecurities and impulses and surround ourselves with like-minded people who can cheer us on and serve as role models for success. If you find yourself struggling, it might be time to take a hard look at the company you keep.</p> <p><em>Is there someone in your life who's sabotaging your saving success or their own?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/kentin-waits">Kentin Waits</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-11"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-5-best-pieces-of-financial-wisdom-from-suze-orman">The 5 Best Pieces of Financial Wisdom From Suze Orman</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-inspiring-people-who-each-paid-off-over-100000-in-debt">5 Inspiring People Who Each Paid Off Over $100,000 in Debt</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-personal-finance-milestones-every-20-and-30-year-old-should-hit">7 Personal Finance Milestones Every 20 and 30 Year Old Should Hit</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-one-woman-retired-at-60-and-traveled-the-world">How One Woman Retired at 60 and Traveled the World</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-5-best-pieces-of-financial-wisdom-from-warren-buffett">The 5 Best Pieces of Financial Wisdom From Warren Buffett</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Debt Management Personal Development money personality savings self sabotage Thu, 21 May 2015 11:00:10 +0000 Kentin Waits 1424390 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Foods That Feed Your Creativity http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-foods-that-feed-your-creativity <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-foods-that-feed-your-creativity" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/creative_woman_food_000022925486.jpg" alt="Woman eating foods to feed her creativity" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on the foods that spur creativity, clever kitchen tips and tricks, and the cities with the lowest taxes in America.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://gigabiting.com/7-foods-to-feed-your-creativity/">7 Foods to Feed Your Creativity</a> &mdash; A few bites of dark chocolate gives you three hours of increased blood flow to the brain! [Gigabiting]</p> <p><a href="http://christianpf.com/kitchen-tips-tricks/">15 Kitchen Tips &amp; Tricks that would Make MacGyver Proud</a> &mdash; Got sticky ingredients? Spray your measuring cups and spoons with non-stick spray, first, and they'll come right off. [Christian PF]</p> <p><a href="https://smartasset.com/taxes/lowest-taxes-in-america">The Lowest Taxes in America</a> &mdash; Anchorage, Alaska has no income or sales taxes! [SmartAsset]</p> <p><a href="http://www.shebudgets.com/lifestyle/15-types-texts-never-send-anyone-ever/57459">15 Types of Texts You Should Never Send to Anyone, Ever</a> &mdash; Don't be a jerk. If you want to break up with someone, do it in person. [SheBudgets]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Lessons-Moms-Taught-Us-34691895">11 Things Our Moms Said That Turned Out to Be 100 Percent True</a> &mdash; Always bring a jacket! Thinking ahead and being prepared for the unexpected will give you the tools to handle whatever comes. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.epicgardening.com/5-great-vegetable-garden-ideas">5 Great Vegetable Garden Ideas</a> &mdash; A vertical garden allows you to plant more without using a lot of space. [Epic Gardening]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/7-cheap-or-free-ways-to-have-fun-this-weekend">7 Cheap or Free Ways to Have Fun This Weekend</a> &mdash; Host potluck night! Invite your friends and neighbors over, and ask them to bring a dish to share. [Parenting Squad]</p> <p><a href="http://www.creditsesame.com/blog/good-credit-buy-a-home-zero-down/">Got Good Credit? Here&rsquo;s How to Buy a Home With Little or Zero Down</a> &mdash; Your state or county may be able to help you with your down payment. [Credit Sesame]</p> <p><a href="http://www.cheapism.com/blog/3560/cheap-landscaping-ideas">10 Tips for Landscaping on the Cheap</a> &mdash; Find out which plants are native to your region. They won't need much attention, so you'll save on fertilizer, pesticides, and water. [Cheapism]</p> <p><a href="http://gradmoneymatters.com/money-making-ideas/5-ways-to-prepare-for-an-interview.html">5 Ways To Prepare For An Interview</a> &mdash; Always bring extra copies of your resume and other paperwork. [Grad Money Matters]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-foods-that-feed-your-creativity">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-12"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-make-you-happier">7 Foods Scientifically Proven to Make You Happier</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-power-of-lists-getting-more-creative-and-efficient">The Power of Lists: Getting More Creative and Efficient</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-places-to-go-for-inspiration">10 Places to Go for Inspiration</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-increase-your-sex-drive">7 Foods Scientifically Proven to Increase Your Sex Drive</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-tested-tips-for-creative-efficiency">15 Tested Tips for Creative Efficiency</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Food and Drink Personal Development best money tips creativity Fri, 08 May 2015 19:00:09 +0000 Amy Lu 1416511 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Things You Can Do to Be Happier http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-things-you-can-do-to-be-happier <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-things-you-can-do-to-be-happier" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/happy_woman_sunshine_000049123168.jpg" alt="Woman learning what she can do to be happier" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on science-backed ways to be happier, things we tend to miss when budgeting, and supermarket tricks to get you to buy more.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Happiness-Studies-30444303">9 Things You Can Do to Live a Happier Life, According to Science</a> &mdash; Happiness really is infectious! Surround yourself with positive people and you'll feel happier, too. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.northerncheapskate.com/7-things-you-might-miss-when-budgeting/">7 Things You Might Miss When Budgeting</a> &mdash; When you set a budget, it's easy to forget about things like home maintenance and activities for the kids because these expenses don't come up very often. [Northern Cheapskate]</p> <p><a href="http://adebtfreestressfreelife.com/supermarket-tricks-that-get-you-to-buy-more/">Supermarket Tricks That Get You To Buy More</a> &mdash; You're more likely to overspend when you shop with a larger cart. [A Debt Free Stress Free Life]</p> <p><a href="http://pakwired.com/5-motivation-killers-to-beware-of/">5 Motivation Killers to Beware Of</a> &mdash; Failure can suck the motivation right out of you, and you're more likely to fail if you set unrealistic standards. [Pakwired]</p> <p><a href="http://www.moneyunder30.com/how-being-organized-can-save-money">How Being Organized Can Save Money: Organization Ideas For All Corners Of Your Life</a> &mdash; Take your mail organization to the next level by creating a command center for mail and everything you'll need when you step out the door. [Money Under 30]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/Saving-Money/2015/0428/How-to-fix-these-three-common-credit-card-reporting-errors">How to fix these three common credit card reporting errors</a> &mdash; If you find incorrect details on your credit report, call the bank or lender that is providing the credit agency with the information. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://www.mydollarplan.com/3-important-legal-documents-for-unmarried-couples/">3 Important Legal Documents for Unmarried Couples</a> &mdash; A power of attorney will give your partner the ability to make health related decisions on your behalf if you are unable to do so. [My Dollar Plan]</p> <p><a href="http://www.thousandaire.com/smart-ways-to-finance-your-failing-business/">Smart Ways to Finance Your Failing Business</a> &mdash; Offer prepayment discounts to some of your bigger customers. [Thousandaire]</p> <p><a href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/money/10-signs-youre-committing-financial-suicide-though-you-dont-feel-you-are.html">10 Signs You&rsquo;re Committing Financial Suicide Though You Don&rsquo;t Feel You Are</a> &mdash; You're in for a rough ride if you decide to have kids before you're financially stable. [Lifehack.org]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/6-things-i-actually-want-for-mothers-day">6 Things I Actually Want for Mother's Day</a> &mdash; Unsurprisingly, sleep is at the top of the list! [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-things-you-can-do-to-be-happier">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-13"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-7-exercises-are-scientifically-proven-to-increase-happiness">These 7 Exercises Are Scientifically Proven to Increase Happiness</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-be-a-better-person-today">25 Ways to Be a Better Person Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-things-scientists-say-will-boost-your-happiness-today">11 Things Scientists Say Will Boost Your Happiness Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-reasons-youre-not-as-happy-as-youd-like-to-be">6 Reasons You&#039;re Not as Happy as You&#039;d Like to Be</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-feel-better-fast">25 Ways to Feel Better Fast</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips happiness Wed, 06 May 2015 19:00:31 +0000 Amy Lu 1414063 at http://www.wisebread.com 10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/child_manners_000019524370.jpg" alt="Kid learning basic manners from his parents" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>I'm sorry, but it's going to be a lot harder than you thought to teach manners to your children. You behaved at home, as a child, and then you went to college, where you likely <em>misbehaved.</em> Eventually, you found yourself in a relationship, and were probably very free about what you said and did. And then came the children, who are just tiny sponges. They soak up everything their parents say and regurgitate it, most often inappropriately.</p> <p>Time to clean up your act.</p> <p>The best way to teach manners to your children is not to immediately hand them the 18th Edition of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061740233/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0061740233&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=2UL2RQJJZHRWNIE5">Emily Post's Etiquette</a> (although I do think that's a lovely graduation gift). They need to learn the rules below before they can read. They need to learn them from you, their parents, and you need to <em>model</em> these manners. Consistently.</p> <p>You want your kids to be successful and get ahead in life, and they won't be able to get through job interviews without shaking hands properly. They need to know they cannot talk on their cells at the symphony. They will need to write thank-you notes. If you don't show them how, who will?</p> <p>Below are 10 types of etiquette rules you really need to teach your children. These are not <em>behaviors</em>, such as not being a bully; they are the rules of a civilized society.</p> <h2>1. Etiquette 101</h2> <p>Here we have the holy grail of beginning etiquette for children. Master these four phrases, and practice them around, and with, your kids.</p> <ul> <li>&quot;Please, may I&hellip;?&quot;</li> <li>&quot;Thank you.&quot;</li> <li>&quot;No, thank you.&quot;</li> <li>&quot;Excuse me.&quot;</li> </ul> <h2>2. Do Not Interrupt</h2> <p>I work with a guy who interrupts anyone and everyone, all the time. Every time he does it, I think, &quot;Your mother failed.&quot; It is rude to not let someone finish their thought. Children are, by their nature, impatient &mdash; but they need to learn patience, which includes not interrupting. When the interruptions happen, say &quot;Please don't interrupt. Let me finish what I was saying.&quot;</p> <h2>3. Introductions</h2> <p>Making introductions is difficult for adults, let alone children. As an adult, though, isn't it nice when someone introduces you? I have found that kids can master this, but they are going to need prompting to remember (&quot;Ben, did you introduce your friends?&quot;). Even the very young can handle &quot;This is Jason, and this is Katie.&quot;</p> <p>If an adult comes to your house, your child should stop what they are doing, and come say hello. Ideally, the child should offer their hand to shake, and say &quot;Hello, Mrs. ____.&quot; If their friends are present, further introductions should be made by the child. When the adult leaves, the child should come and say good-bye. Many children are very shy about introductions, so be patient and keep working on it.</p> <h2>4. Responding to a Polite Question</h2> <p>Following an introduction, or a greeting, an adult will usually attempt to talk to a child. Most of the time, the question will be &quot;How are you?&quot;</p> <p>Respond to the adult and let them know how you are, kiddo. But then, ask the adult how<em> they</em> are. Here is how Uriah, age four and two doors down, handles this one:</p> <p>&quot;How are you today, Uriah?&quot;</p> <p>&quot;I'm GREAT! I have T-ball today! Uhh, how are you? Do you want to see me hit this ball? I had CAKE today! Last week I made it to third base!&quot;</p> <p>Yes, I find him completely charming. Most children, though, I find, just ignore the adults. That's not okay, parents. Even if your child is shy, teach them to smile and say &quot;I am fine, thank you. How are you?&quot;</p> <h2>5. How to Behave at the Table</h2> <p>It is my sincere hope that your family, no matter what its makeup, sits together at least for the dinner meal. A good chore for even young children is to learn to set the table. Once seated, you may say grace, or have a family custom &mdash; but please, no cell phones or other electronic devices at the table. Use this time to reconnect as a family, and instill some basics.</p> <ul> <li>Before each meal, wash your hands.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Do not chew with your mouth open.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Do not interrupt another family member's story. This is an important time for everyone to share their day.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>If the child wants second helpings, this is when we use &quot;Please pass the ___.&quot; When the food is passed, they should say &quot;Thank you.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Burps happen. They should be silent, and followed by &quot;Excuse me.&quot; No belching contests, please.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>If you have a cold or cough, sneeze or cough into your tissue, and then go dispose of the tissue and wash your hands again. If you have no tissue, sneeze into your sleeve, and then go wash.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Absolutely no picking or scratching.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>When the child is done with dinner, they should say &quot;Please, may I be excused?&quot; and when permission is granted, they should take their plate, utensils, and napkin to the kitchen (and follow whatever cleanup rules you have).<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Do not nag (&quot;I told you a thousand times...&quot;) at the table. Just keep correcting, or the dinner experience becomes associated with battles.</li> </ul> <p>You will be really glad you taught them table manners at home before you take them to restaurants, which can be intimidating to children who have no practice with napkins, silverware, and complicated place settings.</p> <h2>6. How to Behave at a Play, Concert, or Movie</h2> <p>Movies are a good place to start teaching your children about how to behave at a public performance. Hit the bathroom and get snacks ahead of time, and encourage them to be quiet, or whisper. Next, try a play or concert, and talk about intermissions, listening, watching quietly, and staying in your seat. Before the event, explain the usher's job. Not okay: Gum, candy wrappers, cell phones, or kicking the seat ahead of you.</p> <h2>7. Writing Thank-You Notes</h2> <p>Being able to compose and send a thank-you note is another skill that will serve a person all their lives. You should write them with the child until approximately age eight or nine, when they should have the ability to write their own. You may need to help them get started.</p> <p>My &quot;trick&quot; in getting thank-yous done was to get out a nice array of stationery, cards, stickers, fun stamps, and colorful pens. I also had my address book at the ready, and mugs of cocoa and snacks. Then, we would do our notes <em>together</em>.</p> <h2>8. How to Shake Hands</h2> <p>Ah, the limp handshake. It still exists, which surprises me every time I encounter it. It's so easy to do it correctly! Here are the instructions.</p> <p>Stand up. Extend your hand. Using a firm grip (not a bone-crusher), grasp the other person's hand and grip/shake while you introduce yourself and the other person introduces him/herself. Here is a great video of some kids who have this <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0CH6hq2gGA">handshake skill</a> down!</p> <h2>9. Avoiding Bad Language</h2> <p>It's very simple: if you swear in front of your kids, they are going to swear, too. The problem is (and I'm Exhibit A): They will use these words at some very inappropriate times. Often, they may not know what the bad words mean, and explaining can help (they will probably be horrified).</p> <h2>10. When Not to Use Electronics</h2> <p>This is especially hard because adult modeling is so poor. You can be a part of that change, though. Readers will probably disagree, but I don't think electronics, or most specifically cell phones, belong at the table, movies, concerts, performances, weddings, funerals, churches, or school. I will hopefully assume you do not use your cell while driving (and that includes texting), which is simply dangerous.</p> <p>I was recently at a picnic, and one of my old friends did not bring her daughter, saying &quot;She is too much of a brat.&quot; I remember thinking, well, that's your fault, and what a shame, because the other children were having so much fun. Yes, teaching manners to children will try your patience, but it will ease their passage into adulthood when they master the basics.</p> <p><em>Anything we've missed? What manners do you consider absolutely essential?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/marla-walters">Marla Walters</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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Today we found some great articles on how to think like a millionaire, tips to grow the best organic garden, and money-saving ways to use cornstarch.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.goodfinancialcents.com/millionaire-mindset/">4 Ways to Think Like a Millionaire</a> &mdash; Millionaires have an internal locus of control &mdash; they see themselves as being in charge of their own lives. [Good Financial Cents]</p> <p><a href="http://afewshortcuts.com/2015/04/10-tips-for-the-best-organic-garden">10 Tips for the Best Organic Garden</a> &mdash; Learn about companion planting so your plants can help each other grow. [A Few Short Cuts]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Uses-Cornstarch-35705053">18 Uses For Cornstarch That Will Save You Money</a> &mdash; Make a paste of cornstarch and water. Spread it over a sunburn or bug bites to soothe sore skin. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/Saving-Money/2015/0425/Best-hotel-promotions-this-Spring">Best hotel promotions this Spring</a> &mdash; A number of hotel chains are offering bonus reward points or free nights for their spring promotions. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/10-necessary-items-for-healthy-shopping-list.html">10 Necessary Items For A Healthy Shopping List</a> &mdash; Fill your basket with dark green leafy veggies. The paler variety, like iceberg lettuce, will contain less quality nutrition. [Lifehack.org]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://blog.highperformancelifestyle.net/how-to-be-happy/">Want To Be Happy? Optimize Your Downtime (3 Easy Steps)</a> &mdash; Step 1: Spend about half an hour making a list of your happiest moments ever. [High Performance Lifestyle]</p> <p><a href="http://www.moneycrush.com/gaining-extra-space-on-a-shoestring/">Get Extra Space Without Breaking the Bank</a> &mdash; Take inventory of any and all free space in your home. Empty area in the middle of the kitchen? Write it down. Half a closet is clear of stuff? Write that down, too. [Money Crush]</p> <p><a href="http://blog.mint.com/how-to/how-to-spend-less-and-get-healthy-042715">How to Spend Less and Get Healthy</a> &mdash; Try making international dishes &mdash; many contain less pricy ingredients like rice, beans, and chickpeas. And if you live near an ethnic market, check them out for your grocery needs! [Mint Life]</p> <p><a href="http://www.themoneyprinciple.co.uk/dont-worry-about-money-sort-out-your-life-instead/">Don&rsquo;t Worry About Money: Sort out Your Life Instead</a> &mdash; If you don't have a handle on your financial situation, then other parts of your life are probably a mess, too. Once you have those in order, then your money situation will improve, too. [The Money Principle]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/7-brilliant-ways-for-kids-to-keep-in-touch-with-grandparents">7 Brilliant Ways for Kids to Keep in Touch with Grandparents</a> &mdash; Use technology to play games with relatives who live far away. Play board games online, enter a fantasy sports league, or play 20 questions via text messages. [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-how-to-think-like-a-millionaire">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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