Personal Development http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/216/all en-US The 8 Life Skills You Must Learn in Your 40s http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_meditating_000015079887.jpg" alt="Woman meditating and learning important life skills at age 40" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>I turned 40 last year. It was not celebrated in quite the same way as when I turned 18, or 21, but it's a milestone nonetheless. And it got me to thinking&hellip;what should I be learning now that I have hit this major landmark? What can any of us who are in our 40s learn to make life even better, and prepare for the next 40 years? Here are eight of the <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-modern-life-skills-everyone-should-master">best life skills</a> you can embrace once you reach the big 40.</p> <h2>1. Overcoming Procrastination</h2> <p>When we're young, it's easy to think that there's plenty of time to do this, or that, <em>later</em>. But after hitting &quot;middle age,&quot; perspective is everything. You should realize that there is no time like the present to get things done, but also that you must have achievable goals. Saying &quot;That's it, I'm redecorating the kitchen this weekend&quot; will probably lead to failure because you have set yourself too great a task in too short a time. Instead, portion out the tasks ahead into very attainable goals. So, this weekend, you will remove the wallpaper from two walls, and choose new paint or paper from the home improvement store. Use your smartphone to set these goals, and have a checklist. When you see the list getting shorter, you'll feel good about your progress.</p> <h2>2. Meditation</h2> <p>Say meditation to some people and they think you're some new-age whacko or &quot;hippie.&quot; But meditation is simply a way to internalize and focus on ourselves, rather than the hectic world around us. It's a way to find a little peace, without grabbing a drink, watching TV, or flat out falling asleep. This is awareness, and helps us achieve an emotional balance. It's very easy to get started, too.</p> <p>You need to find a place in your home, or office, free from distractions. You cannot do this with constant interruptions. Then, make yourself comfortable, but don't lie down. This is no time for a nap, this is about being focused. Sit up straight, preferably without the help of back support. Begin to breath, in and out, and pay close attention to your breathing. Some people use an affirmation or chant, some like to listen to some instrumental music or sound effects. Others simply focus on their own heartbeat. This is about finding time for you, and some inner peace. Do this for 15&ndash;30 minutes per day, and you will be amazed at the results it generates for you.</p> <h2>3. Yoga</h2> <p>On the back of meditation comes another skill that many people confuse. Yoga is obviously not meditation, but it can bring about some of the same benefits. It can internalize your thinking, and bring you a great sense of peace and relaxation. However, yoga is also good at this time of life, when our bodies aren't as supple and regenerative as they were 20 years ago. There are <a href="http://www.realsimple.com/health/fitness-exercise/stretching-yoga/types-yoga">many types of yoga</a> available, including bikram, power, ashtanga, iyengar, hatha, and more. Try your local athletic club for yoga classes. Some employers even offer them for free, as they are very beneficial to the workforce.</p> <h2>4. Patience</h2> <p>They say it's a virtue. When we're kids, we don't have it. When we're in our 20s, we fake it. By the time we're in our 30s, we often let it slide because &quot;I've been doing this a long time and I deserve what I want, when I want!&quot; Now, after hitting 40, it has dawned on me that learning how to be patient is something I should have done a long time ago. And it's not difficult.</p> <p>The most important part of learning patience is figuring out what triggers your impatience. For example, one of my biggest bugbears is lateness. If people aren't on time, I get irritated&hellip;quickly. Or at least, I used to. Now, I try to remember that my attitude cannot change their schedule. I can either be annoyed, or use the time wisely. I breathe deeply, remember what good things are happening on that day, and realize that some things are just out of my control.</p> <h2>5. Arguing</h2> <p>In a perfect world, we wouldn't have to argue with other people. Then again, it sounds like quite a dull world, too. Arguments happen wherever there are other people to argue with. They are unavoidable. However, learning how to argue is going to save you a lot of time, energy, and even money. In our youth, arguments can be childish and uncivilized. There can be name-calling and hurtful statements. The arguments can start out being about something small, and end up becoming monstrous. Knowing how to argue well, or fairly, can really be of great service to yourself, and those around you.</p> <p>Try to see things from the other person's point of view. Always think before speaking, and make sure that whatever you are saying has a positive intention. You want to reach an agreement, not hail yourself as a victor and puff up your chest. If you're in your 40s, you should be beyond such trivial wins anyway. You want the best for both parties, and you get that by listening, having empathy, and working as a team trying to solve a problem.</p> <h2>6. Forgiveness</h2> <p>For many years in my 20s, and even into my 30s, I had a passionate dislike of certain people. And the reason &mdash; they did something to me that I just couldn't forgive. As it turns out, the &quot;unforgivable&quot; acts were very easily forgivable, I was just young when I was hurt, and let it build up into a mountain of disdain over time. This is no way to live. A famous quote says &quot;holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.&quot; Oh, how true.</p> <p>So, start learning how to really forgive people now. You don't have to forget what that person did to you, but you can make a concerted effort to talk it over with them, and offer your genuine forgiveness. Remember, the person suffering the most from these feelings is you. The other person probably doesn't think about it half as much as you do, so let it go. Forgive them, move on, and you'll feel better.</p> <h2>7. Thinking on Your Feet</h2> <p>You could also call it decision making, but that doesn't put the emphasis on time. I was in a restaurant a few weeks ago, and I heard a couple trying to figure out what they were going to eat. After 20 minutes, they still hadn't decided. It was starting to become a heated argument, and for what? The difference between ordering lasagna or spaghetti? In many aspects of life, quick thinking is invaluable. And the biggest enemy of it is self-doubt, or second-guessing. By the time you hit 40, you should know what you like, what you want, and where you're going. Trust your gut, listen to yourself, and stop umming and <em>aaahing</em>. This doesn't mean making hasty decisions, but it does mean getting to the right decision quickly, and confidently.</p> <h2>8. Letting Go</h2> <p>We have a dogged determination to stick with things in our teens, 20s, and 30s. If we give up, we fail. We don't want to be seen as failures, so we will often keep on going with something that should have been dead and buried long ago. This can apply to anything, from personal projects and careers, to relationships and ambitions.</p> <p>Now, I know some people will think &quot;You should never let go of your dreams,&quot; but what if your resoluteness to achieve something unattainable is getting in the way of something that could be just as great? Some teens want to be astronauts. Is that something to keep gunning for when you hit 40? Are you in a relationship that you keep promising yourself will get better? Maybe it's time to let go. It can also be as simple as walking out of an awful movie. Think about it. Time is a precious resource, and one that we have less of every day. Is it worth sticking things out when we could move onto greener pastures?</p> <p><em>What lessons have you learned at 40? </em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/paul-michael">Paul Michael</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-secrets-to-a-joyful-life">6 Secrets to a Joyful Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-work-habits-from-country-music">5 Work Habits From Country Music</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/learn-all-the-frugal-skills-you-need-with-these-9-great-video-tutorials">Learn All the Frugal Skills You Need With These 9 Great Video Tutorials</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving">Is Your Personality Sabotaging Your Saving?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development 40s life skills middle-age wellbeing Wed, 27 May 2015 21:00:08 +0000 Paul Michael 1432205 at http://www.wisebread.com Is Your Personality Sabotaging Your Saving? http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/nervous_guy_000034996236.jpg" alt="Man with personality type that sabotages savings" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>They say it takes all types &mdash; but some types have a harder time <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-unexpected-ways-stay-at-home-parents-save-big">saving</a> than others. Are you allowing some of your less flattering character traits to derail your finances? Here are four personality types that sabotage saving.</p> <h2>1. The Insecure</h2> <p>In a consumer economy, advertisers work tirelessly to link products to personality. Do you drive a domestic car, or an import? Are the countertops in your home Formica or granite? Are you a Mac person or a PC person? Often, the answers don't simply explain what we prefer &mdash; they suggest who we are, or at least who we'd like to be.</p> <p>Playing upon consumers' insecurities works like a charm. Ego sells lots of products and keeps huge swaths of the population on a treadmill of debt. Fight back by getting comfortable in your own skin and learning little ways to feel more confident every day.</p> <h2>2. The Impulsive</h2> <p>Let's admit it: we live in a consumer-centered universe. Every screen we gaze into promises to deliver more delights to our doorstep (with free shipping and cashback rewards, of course). There are entire armies of designers, marketers, and retailers whose sole purpose is to anticipate what will tickle us next and magically make our wallets fall open.</p> <p>In a consumer Candyland like ours, those who haven't learned how to overcome impulse spending don't have a chance. Without a dependable restraint system, they're sure to wander toward the Gumdrop Mountains, fall into the Molasses Swamp, and never be heard from again.</p> <h2>3. The Impatient</h2> <p>Just one word separates a saver from a spender. A saver says, &quot;I need it.&quot; A spender says, &quot;I need it <em>now</em>.&quot; Purging that one pesky word from our consumer vocabulary can save us thousands of dollars over a lifetime. &quot;Now&quot; eliminates the option of shopping around for the best deal, it means we don't have to plan and save, and it means we'll think about the consequences to our budget later. If you're trying to spend wisely, stop being impatient and start thinking of &quot;now&quot; as a hair-curling, four-letter word.</p> <h2>4. The Fearful</h2> <p>Spending wisely and saving for the future takes a bit of fortitude. To make real progress, we have to know who we are deep down, learn how to conquer fear, and take a few chances. Those who are afraid of money likely don't understand it, or grew up in households where money was a constant source of anxiety. They might be able to pinch a few pennies, but profound success will always be elusive. The fearful wouldn't dream of negotiating on price, they don't feel comfortable making independent investment decisions, and they're afraid to spend when presented with real wealth-building opportunities.</p> <p>Saving money over the long term is no different than achieving any other goal. We have to duck and weave around our own insecurities and impulses and surround ourselves with like-minded people who can cheer us on and serve as role models for success. If you find yourself struggling, it might be time to take a hard look at the company you keep.</p> <p><em>Is there someone in your life who's sabotaging your saving success or their own?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/kentin-waits">Kentin Waits</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-inspiring-people-who-each-paid-off-over-100000-in-debt">5 Inspiring People Who Each Paid Off Over $100,000 in Debt</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-create-a-financial-5-year-plan">How to Create a Financial 5 Year Plan</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-smart-things-to-do-with-your-bonus">6 Smart Things to Do With Your Bonus</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/when-to-use-savings-to-pay-off-debt">When to Use Savings to Pay Off Debt</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-does-the-fannie-mae-and-freddie-mac-bailout-affect-you">How does the Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac bailout affect you?</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Debt Management Personal Development money personality savings self sabotage Thu, 21 May 2015 11:00:10 +0000 Kentin Waits 1424390 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Foods That Feed Your Creativity http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-foods-that-feed-your-creativity <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-foods-that-feed-your-creativity" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/creative_woman_food_000022925486.jpg" alt="Woman eating foods to feed her creativity" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on the foods that spur creativity, clever kitchen tips and tricks, and the cities with the lowest taxes in America.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://gigabiting.com/7-foods-to-feed-your-creativity/">7 Foods to Feed Your Creativity</a> &mdash; A few bites of dark chocolate gives you three hours of increased blood flow to the brain! [Gigabiting]</p> <p><a href="http://christianpf.com/kitchen-tips-tricks/">15 Kitchen Tips &amp; Tricks that would Make MacGyver Proud</a> &mdash; Got sticky ingredients? Spray your measuring cups and spoons with non-stick spray, first, and they'll come right off. [Christian PF]</p> <p><a href="https://smartasset.com/taxes/lowest-taxes-in-america">The Lowest Taxes in America</a> &mdash; Anchorage, Alaska has no income or sales taxes! [SmartAsset]</p> <p><a href="http://www.shebudgets.com/lifestyle/15-types-texts-never-send-anyone-ever/57459">15 Types of Texts You Should Never Send to Anyone, Ever</a> &mdash; Don't be a jerk. If you want to break up with someone, do it in person. [SheBudgets]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Lessons-Moms-Taught-Us-34691895">11 Things Our Moms Said That Turned Out to Be 100 Percent True</a> &mdash; Always bring a jacket! Thinking ahead and being prepared for the unexpected will give you the tools to handle whatever comes. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.epicgardening.com/5-great-vegetable-garden-ideas">5 Great Vegetable Garden Ideas</a> &mdash; A vertical garden allows you to plant more without using a lot of space. [Epic Gardening]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/7-cheap-or-free-ways-to-have-fun-this-weekend">7 Cheap or Free Ways to Have Fun This Weekend</a> &mdash; Host potluck night! Invite your friends and neighbors over, and ask them to bring a dish to share. [Parenting Squad]</p> <p><a href="http://www.creditsesame.com/blog/good-credit-buy-a-home-zero-down/">Got Good Credit? Here&rsquo;s How to Buy a Home With Little or Zero Down</a> &mdash; Your state or county may be able to help you with your down payment. [Credit Sesame]</p> <p><a href="http://www.cheapism.com/blog/3560/cheap-landscaping-ideas">10 Tips for Landscaping on the Cheap</a> &mdash; Find out which plants are native to your region. They won't need much attention, so you'll save on fertilizer, pesticides, and water. [Cheapism]</p> <p><a href="http://gradmoneymatters.com/money-making-ideas/5-ways-to-prepare-for-an-interview.html">5 Ways To Prepare For An Interview</a> &mdash; Always bring extra copies of your resume and other paperwork. [Grad Money Matters]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-foods-that-feed-your-creativity">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-3"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-make-you-happier">7 Foods Scientifically Proven to Make You Happier</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-increase-your-sex-drive">7 Foods Scientifically Proven to Increase Your Sex Drive</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-tested-tips-for-creative-efficiency">15 Tested Tips for Creative Efficiency</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-places-to-go-for-inspiration">10 Places to Go for Inspiration</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-boost-creativity">25 Ways to Boost Creativity</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Food and Drink Personal Development best money tips creativity Fri, 08 May 2015 19:00:09 +0000 Amy Lu 1416511 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Things You Can Do to Be Happier http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-things-you-can-do-to-be-happier <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-things-you-can-do-to-be-happier" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/happy_woman_sunshine_000049123168.jpg" alt="Woman learning what she can do to be happier" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on science-backed ways to be happier, things we tend to miss when budgeting, and supermarket tricks to get you to buy more.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Happiness-Studies-30444303">9 Things You Can Do to Live a Happier Life, According to Science</a> &mdash; Happiness really is infectious! Surround yourself with positive people and you'll feel happier, too. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.northerncheapskate.com/7-things-you-might-miss-when-budgeting/">7 Things You Might Miss When Budgeting</a> &mdash; When you set a budget, it's easy to forget about things like home maintenance and activities for the kids because these expenses don't come up very often. [Northern Cheapskate]</p> <p><a href="http://adebtfreestressfreelife.com/supermarket-tricks-that-get-you-to-buy-more/">Supermarket Tricks That Get You To Buy More</a> &mdash; You're more likely to overspend when you shop with a larger cart. [A Debt Free Stress Free Life]</p> <p><a href="http://pakwired.com/5-motivation-killers-to-beware-of/">5 Motivation Killers to Beware Of</a> &mdash; Failure can suck the motivation right out of you, and you're more likely to fail if you set unrealistic standards. [Pakwired]</p> <p><a href="http://www.moneyunder30.com/how-being-organized-can-save-money">How Being Organized Can Save Money: Organization Ideas For All Corners Of Your Life</a> &mdash; Take your mail organization to the next level by creating a command center for mail and everything you'll need when you step out the door. [Money Under 30]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/Saving-Money/2015/0428/How-to-fix-these-three-common-credit-card-reporting-errors">How to fix these three common credit card reporting errors</a> &mdash; If you find incorrect details on your credit report, call the bank or lender that is providing the credit agency with the information. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://www.mydollarplan.com/3-important-legal-documents-for-unmarried-couples/">3 Important Legal Documents for Unmarried Couples</a> &mdash; A power of attorney will give your partner the ability to make health related decisions on your behalf if you are unable to do so. [My Dollar Plan]</p> <p><a href="http://www.thousandaire.com/smart-ways-to-finance-your-failing-business/">Smart Ways to Finance Your Failing Business</a> &mdash; Offer prepayment discounts to some of your bigger customers. [Thousandaire]</p> <p><a href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/money/10-signs-youre-committing-financial-suicide-though-you-dont-feel-you-are.html">10 Signs You&rsquo;re Committing Financial Suicide Though You Don&rsquo;t Feel You Are</a> &mdash; You're in for a rough ride if you decide to have kids before you're financially stable. [Lifehack.org]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/6-things-i-actually-want-for-mothers-day">6 Things I Actually Want for Mother's Day</a> &mdash; Unsurprisingly, sleep is at the top of the list! [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-things-you-can-do-to-be-happier">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-4"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-7-exercises-are-scientifically-proven-to-increase-happiness">These 7 Exercises Are Scientifically Proven to Increase Happiness</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-feel-better-fast">25 Ways to Feel Better Fast</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/25-ways-to-be-a-better-person-today">25 Ways to Be a Better Person Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-things-scientists-say-will-boost-your-happiness-today">11 Things Scientists Say Will Boost Your Happiness Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/big-list-of-things-to-be-happy-about">Big List of Things to be Happy About</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips happiness Wed, 06 May 2015 19:00:31 +0000 Amy Lu 1414063 at http://www.wisebread.com 10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/child_manners_000019524370.jpg" alt="Kid learning basic manners from his parents" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>I'm sorry, but it's going to be a lot harder than you thought to teach manners to your children. You behaved at home, as a child, and then you went to college, where you likely <em>misbehaved.</em> Eventually, you found yourself in a relationship, and were probably very free about what you said and did. And then came the children, who are just tiny sponges. They soak up everything their parents say and regurgitate it, most often inappropriately.</p> <p>Time to clean up your act.</p> <p>The best way to teach manners to your children is not to immediately hand them the 18th Edition of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061740233/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0061740233&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=2UL2RQJJZHRWNIE5">Emily Post's Etiquette</a> (although I do think that's a lovely graduation gift). They need to learn the rules below before they can read. They need to learn them from you, their parents, and you need to <em>model</em> these manners. Consistently.</p> <p>You want your kids to be successful and get ahead in life, and they won't be able to get through job interviews without shaking hands properly. They need to know they cannot talk on their cells at the symphony. They will need to write thank-you notes. If you don't show them how, who will?</p> <p>Below are 10 types of etiquette rules you really need to teach your children. These are not <em>behaviors</em>, such as not being a bully; they are the rules of a civilized society.</p> <h2>1. Etiquette 101</h2> <p>Here we have the holy grail of beginning etiquette for children. Master these four phrases, and practice them around, and with, your kids.</p> <ul> <li>&quot;Please, may I&hellip;?&quot;</li> <li>&quot;Thank you.&quot;</li> <li>&quot;No, thank you.&quot;</li> <li>&quot;Excuse me.&quot;</li> </ul> <h2>2. Do Not Interrupt</h2> <p>I work with a guy who interrupts anyone and everyone, all the time. Every time he does it, I think, &quot;Your mother failed.&quot; It is rude to not let someone finish their thought. Children are, by their nature, impatient &mdash; but they need to learn patience, which includes not interrupting. When the interruptions happen, say &quot;Please don't interrupt. Let me finish what I was saying.&quot;</p> <h2>3. Introductions</h2> <p>Making introductions is difficult for adults, let alone children. As an adult, though, isn't it nice when someone introduces you? I have found that kids can master this, but they are going to need prompting to remember (&quot;Ben, did you introduce your friends?&quot;). Even the very young can handle &quot;This is Jason, and this is Katie.&quot;</p> <p>If an adult comes to your house, your child should stop what they are doing, and come say hello. Ideally, the child should offer their hand to shake, and say &quot;Hello, Mrs. ____.&quot; If their friends are present, further introductions should be made by the child. When the adult leaves, the child should come and say good-bye. Many children are very shy about introductions, so be patient and keep working on it.</p> <h2>4. Responding to a Polite Question</h2> <p>Following an introduction, or a greeting, an adult will usually attempt to talk to a child. Most of the time, the question will be &quot;How are you?&quot;</p> <p>Respond to the adult and let them know how you are, kiddo. But then, ask the adult how<em> they</em> are. Here is how Uriah, age four and two doors down, handles this one:</p> <p>&quot;How are you today, Uriah?&quot;</p> <p>&quot;I'm GREAT! I have T-ball today! Uhh, how are you? Do you want to see me hit this ball? I had CAKE today! Last week I made it to third base!&quot;</p> <p>Yes, I find him completely charming. Most children, though, I find, just ignore the adults. That's not okay, parents. Even if your child is shy, teach them to smile and say &quot;I am fine, thank you. How are you?&quot;</p> <h2>5. How to Behave at the Table</h2> <p>It is my sincere hope that your family, no matter what its makeup, sits together at least for the dinner meal. A good chore for even young children is to learn to set the table. Once seated, you may say grace, or have a family custom &mdash; but please, no cell phones or other electronic devices at the table. Use this time to reconnect as a family, and instill some basics.</p> <ul> <li>Before each meal, wash your hands.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Do not chew with your mouth open.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Do not interrupt another family member's story. This is an important time for everyone to share their day.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>If the child wants second helpings, this is when we use &quot;Please pass the ___.&quot; When the food is passed, they should say &quot;Thank you.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Burps happen. They should be silent, and followed by &quot;Excuse me.&quot; No belching contests, please.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>If you have a cold or cough, sneeze or cough into your tissue, and then go dispose of the tissue and wash your hands again. If you have no tissue, sneeze into your sleeve, and then go wash.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Absolutely no picking or scratching.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>When the child is done with dinner, they should say &quot;Please, may I be excused?&quot; and when permission is granted, they should take their plate, utensils, and napkin to the kitchen (and follow whatever cleanup rules you have).<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Do not nag (&quot;I told you a thousand times...&quot;) at the table. Just keep correcting, or the dinner experience becomes associated with battles.</li> </ul> <p>You will be really glad you taught them table manners at home before you take them to restaurants, which can be intimidating to children who have no practice with napkins, silverware, and complicated place settings.</p> <h2>6. How to Behave at a Play, Concert, or Movie</h2> <p>Movies are a good place to start teaching your children about how to behave at a public performance. Hit the bathroom and get snacks ahead of time, and encourage them to be quiet, or whisper. Next, try a play or concert, and talk about intermissions, listening, watching quietly, and staying in your seat. Before the event, explain the usher's job. Not okay: Gum, candy wrappers, cell phones, or kicking the seat ahead of you.</p> <h2>7. Writing Thank-You Notes</h2> <p>Being able to compose and send a thank-you note is another skill that will serve a person all their lives. You should write them with the child until approximately age eight or nine, when they should have the ability to write their own. You may need to help them get started.</p> <p>My &quot;trick&quot; in getting thank-yous done was to get out a nice array of stationery, cards, stickers, fun stamps, and colorful pens. I also had my address book at the ready, and mugs of cocoa and snacks. Then, we would do our notes <em>together</em>.</p> <h2>8. How to Shake Hands</h2> <p>Ah, the limp handshake. It still exists, which surprises me every time I encounter it. It's so easy to do it correctly! Here are the instructions.</p> <p>Stand up. Extend your hand. Using a firm grip (not a bone-crusher), grasp the other person's hand and grip/shake while you introduce yourself and the other person introduces him/herself. Here is a great video of some kids who have this <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0CH6hq2gGA">handshake skill</a> down!</p> <h2>9. Avoiding Bad Language</h2> <p>It's very simple: if you swear in front of your kids, they are going to swear, too. The problem is (and I'm Exhibit A): They will use these words at some very inappropriate times. Often, they may not know what the bad words mean, and explaining can help (they will probably be horrified).</p> <h2>10. When Not to Use Electronics</h2> <p>This is especially hard because adult modeling is so poor. You can be a part of that change, though. Readers will probably disagree, but I don't think electronics, or most specifically cell phones, belong at the table, movies, concerts, performances, weddings, funerals, churches, or school. I will hopefully assume you do not use your cell while driving (and that includes texting), which is simply dangerous.</p> <p>I was recently at a picnic, and one of my old friends did not bring her daughter, saying &quot;She is too much of a brat.&quot; I remember thinking, well, that's your fault, and what a shame, because the other children were having so much fun. Yes, teaching manners to children will try your patience, but it will ease their passage into adulthood when they master the basics.</p> <p><em>Anything we've missed? What manners do you consider absolutely essential?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/marla-walters">Marla Walters</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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Today we found some great articles on how to think like a millionaire, tips to grow the best organic garden, and money-saving ways to use cornstarch.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.goodfinancialcents.com/millionaire-mindset/">4 Ways to Think Like a Millionaire</a> &mdash; Millionaires have an internal locus of control &mdash; they see themselves as being in charge of their own lives. [Good Financial Cents]</p> <p><a href="http://afewshortcuts.com/2015/04/10-tips-for-the-best-organic-garden">10 Tips for the Best Organic Garden</a> &mdash; Learn about companion planting so your plants can help each other grow. [A Few Short Cuts]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Uses-Cornstarch-35705053">18 Uses For Cornstarch That Will Save You Money</a> &mdash; Make a paste of cornstarch and water. Spread it over a sunburn or bug bites to soothe sore skin. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/Saving-Money/2015/0425/Best-hotel-promotions-this-Spring">Best hotel promotions this Spring</a> &mdash; A number of hotel chains are offering bonus reward points or free nights for their spring promotions. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/10-necessary-items-for-healthy-shopping-list.html">10 Necessary Items For A Healthy Shopping List</a> &mdash; Fill your basket with dark green leafy veggies. The paler variety, like iceberg lettuce, will contain less quality nutrition. [Lifehack.org]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://blog.highperformancelifestyle.net/how-to-be-happy/">Want To Be Happy? Optimize Your Downtime (3 Easy Steps)</a> &mdash; Step 1: Spend about half an hour making a list of your happiest moments ever. [High Performance Lifestyle]</p> <p><a href="http://www.moneycrush.com/gaining-extra-space-on-a-shoestring/">Get Extra Space Without Breaking the Bank</a> &mdash; Take inventory of any and all free space in your home. Empty area in the middle of the kitchen? Write it down. Half a closet is clear of stuff? Write that down, too. [Money Crush]</p> <p><a href="http://blog.mint.com/how-to/how-to-spend-less-and-get-healthy-042715">How to Spend Less and Get Healthy</a> &mdash; Try making international dishes &mdash; many contain less pricy ingredients like rice, beans, and chickpeas. And if you live near an ethnic market, check them out for your grocery needs! [Mint Life]</p> <p><a href="http://www.themoneyprinciple.co.uk/dont-worry-about-money-sort-out-your-life-instead/">Don&rsquo;t Worry About Money: Sort out Your Life Instead</a> &mdash; If you don't have a handle on your financial situation, then other parts of your life are probably a mess, too. Once you have those in order, then your money situation will improve, too. [The Money Principle]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/7-brilliant-ways-for-kids-to-keep-in-touch-with-grandparents">7 Brilliant Ways for Kids to Keep in Touch with Grandparents</a> &mdash; Use technology to play games with relatives who live far away. Play board games online, enter a fantasy sports league, or play 20 questions via text messages. [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-how-to-think-like-a-millionaire">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-6"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s">The 8 Life Skills You Must Learn in Your 40s</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving">Is Your Personality Sabotaging Your Saving?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-self-improvement-apps-to-make-you-smarter-stronger-and-happier">10 Self-Improvement Apps to Make You Smarter, Stronger, and Happier</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips millionaire Wed, 29 Apr 2015 19:00:20 +0000 Amy Lu 1406334 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Surprising Things That Are Stressing You Out http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-surprising-things-that-are-stressing-you-out <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-surprising-things-that-are-stressing-you-out" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_stressed_out_000010547363.jpg" alt="Woman stressed out for surprising reasons" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on surprising things that are stressing you out, handy spring cleaning tips, and frugal ways to celebrate Mother&rsquo;s Day.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Surprising-Things-Cause-Stress-31010213">7 Surprising Things You Didn't Know Were Stressing You Out</a> &mdash; Loud noises can wear you out because it triggers your fight-or-flight response, which increases adrenaline and blood pressure. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.getorganizedwizard.com/blog/2015/04/spring-cleaning-tips-for-an-organized-home/">Spring Cleaning Tips For An Organized Home</a> &mdash; Cut a lemon in half and scrub the cut part on your bathroom fixtures to remove tough water stains. [Get Organized Wizard]</p> <p><a href="http://freefrombroke.com/frugal-save-mothers-day/">Don&rsquo;t Go Broke Celebrating Mother&rsquo;s Day &ndash; 7 Frugal Ideas</a> &mdash; Going out on Mother's Day can be hectic and expensive. Opt to make dinner for your mom instead, or treat her to breakfast in bed! [Free From Broke]</p> <p><a href="http://www.thepennyhoarder.com/reduce-reuse-recycle-earth-friendly-ways-to-save-money/">Reduce, Reuse and Recycle: 11 Earth-Friendly Ways to Save Money</a> &mdash; Repurpose glass jars in chandeliers, soap dispensers, or food containers! [The Penny Hoarder]</p> <p><a href="http://everythingfinanceblog.com/13591/6-cheap-family-activities-enjoy-outdoors.html">6 Cheap Family Activities to Enjoy Outdoors</a> &mdash; Have a backyard campout, complete with a mini campfire and an outdoor stove. [Everything Finance]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://frugalbeautiful.com/blog/5-ways-curb-overspending/">6 Ways to Curb Overspending</a> &mdash; Try to only shop at stores with easy return policies &mdash; in case buyer's remorse hits. [Frugal Beautiful]</p> <p><a href="http://gradmoneymatters.com/money-making-ideas/freelancing-before-looking-for-clients.html">8 Things You Must Do Before You Even Start Looking for Clients</a> &mdash; If you're new to freelancing, make sure to have a portfolio and a website ready before you start looking for clients. [Grad Money Matters]</p> <p><a href="http://www.creditsesame.com/blog/home-improvement-tips-sell-your-home-for-more/">7 Low-Cost Home Improvement Tips to Sell Your Home for Top Dollar</a> &mdash; Spruce up your bedrooms with new coverings &mdash; think shams, sheets, throw blanket, throw pillows, and comforter. They won't be sold with your house, but they'll make it look more attractive to buyers. [Credit Sesame]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/18-ways-to-celebrate-earth-day-all-year-long">18 Ways to Celebrate Earth Day All Year Long</a> &mdash; Earth Day has passed, but we can celebrate Mother Nature every day! Turn your yard into a wildlife habitat by planting native vegetation, setting up bird feeders and birdbaths, and creating inviting spaces for other animals. [Parenting Squad]</p> <p><a href="http://www.doughroller.net/money-management/surprising-lifetime-cost-car-ownership/">The Surprising Lifetime Cost of Car Ownership</a> &mdash; What if you took the money you would spend on car ownership over a lifetime and invested it instead? [Dough Roller]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-surprising-things-that-are-stressing-you-out">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-7"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-free-or-really-cheap-ways-to-relieve-stress">20 Free (or Really Cheap) Ways to Relieve Stress</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-little-ways-to-de-stress-and-enjoy-life-more">6 Little Ways to De-Stress (and Enjoy Life More)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-ways-you-can-go-easier-on-yourself">12 Ways You Can Go Easier on Yourself</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/4-signs-youre-burned-out-and-how-to-recover">4 Signs You&#039;re Burned Out (and How to Recover)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-nervous-tics-you-need-to-stop-right-now">6 Nervous Tics You Need to Stop Right Now</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips stress Fri, 24 Apr 2015 19:00:08 +0000 Amy Lu 1400764 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Habits That Lead to Wealth http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-habits-that-lead-to-wealth <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-habits-that-lead-to-wealth" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_weathly_habits_000019856685.jpg" alt="Woman using helpful habits to create personal wealth" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on the habits that lead to wealth, the best real-life cheats, and DIY health and beauty products you can make with essential oils.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.moneyspruce.com/7-habits-that-lead-to-wealth/">7 Habits That Lead to Wealth</a> &mdash; Being creative will help you deal with financial plans that have gone off course. [Money Spruce]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Good-Life-Hacks-34274441">41 of the Best Real-Life Cheats</a> &mdash; Skip voicemail instructions and go straight to leaving message by pressing 1. If that doesn't work, try * or #. [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://www.northerncheapskate.com/5-diy-natural-health-beauty-products-using-essential-oils/">5 DIY Natural Health &amp; Beauty Products Using Essential Oils</a> &mdash; All you need to make your own shower vapor disks is baking soda, water, and your choice of essential oils. [Northern Cheapskate]</p> <p><a href="http://www.mydollarplan.com/ways-to-save-money-on-diy-home-renovations/">7 Ways to Save Money on DIY Home Renovations</a> &mdash; Concentrate your reward points toward gift cards from the home and garden stores where you'll be getting your tools and supplies. [My Dollar Plan]</p> <p><a href="http://www.forbes.com/sites/jrose/2015/04/21/5-ways-to-prevent-your-70-year-old-self-from-hating-you/">5 Ways To Prevent Your 70-Year-Old Self From Hating&nbsp;You</a> &mdash; Always keep an eye out for new business opportunities! [Forbes]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://christianpf.com/10-frugal-landscaping-ideas-to-make-your-yard-amazing/">10 Frugal Landscaping Ideas to make Your Yard Amazing</a> &mdash; It's easy to make your own rain barrel from a 55-gallon plastic drum, and it's fun to decorate however you like! [Christian PF]</p> <p><a href="http://moneyaware.co.uk/2015/04/10-clothing-tips/">10 clothing tips that'll save you money</a> &mdash; Save money on your wardrobe by learning how to remove different kinds of stains and making your own stain removers! [Step Change Money Aware]</p> <p><a href="http://www.bankonyourself.com/5-financial-myths.html">5 Financial Myths that Are Destroying Your Wealth</a> &mdash; Some people think that, after they retire, their basic expenses will decrease. Odds are they won't be any lower in retirement! [Bank on Yourself]</p> <p><a href="http://adebtfreestressfreelife.com/12-promises-to-make-if-youre-serious-about-getting-out-of-debt/">12 Promises To Make If You&rsquo;re Serious About Getting Out of Debt</a> &mdash; Promise yourself to take control and responsibility for your financial situation. [A Debt Free Stress Free Life]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/6-reasons-to-do-a-digital-spring-cleaning">6 Reasons to Do a Digital Spring Cleaning</a> &mdash; Protect yourself by deleting the private information that can be accessed from your devices. [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-habits-that-lead-to-wealth">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-8"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-more-things-people-who-make-a-lot-of-money-do">12 More Things People Who Make a Lot of Money Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-dumb-little-things-you-need-to-stop-saying-today">9 Dumb Little Things You Need to Stop Saying Today</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-break-bad-habits">How to Break Bad Habits</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-habits-you-must-start-right-now-and-be-a-better-person">20 Habits You Must Start Right Now and Be a Better Person</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-nervous-tics-you-need-to-stop-right-now">6 Nervous Tics You Need to Stop Right Now</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips habits Thu, 23 Apr 2015 19:00:06 +0000 Amy Lu 1399274 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Cheap Ways to Boost Your Brain http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-cheap-ways-to-boost-your-brain <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-cheap-ways-to-boost-your-brain" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_thinking_000047095866.jpg" alt="Woman thinking of cheap ways to boost her brain" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on cheap ways to power up your brain, genius ways to use leftover produce, and eco-friendly ways to change up your laundry routine.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.moneytalksnews.com/7-cheap-science-backed-tips-boost-brain-power/">7 Cheap Ways to Boost Brain Power</a> &mdash; Believe it or not, playing action video games like StarCraft can improve your brain's cognitive flexibility. [Money Talks News]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Uses-Leftover-Fruit-Vegetables-35106060">26 Genius Uses For Leftover Fruits and Vegetables</a> &mdash; Didn't sleep well last night? Potato peels can fix the dark circles under your eyes! [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <p><a href="http://momsneedtoknow.com/green-laundry-routine">How To Green Your Laundry Routine</a> &mdash; Use a rag with essential oil in place of dryer sheets, which are wasteful, hard on our environment and full of chemicals. [Moms Need to Know]</p> <p><a href="https://getoutofdebt.org/88213/10-most-affordable-communities-for-renters">10 Most Affordable Communities for Renters</a> &mdash; The percent of median income needed to rent in Delaware County, Ohio, is only 14%. With an unemployment rate of just 3.6%, it's a good option for renters who want to live in the Columbus metro area. [Get Out of Debt Guy]</p> <p><a href="http://blog.credit.com/2015/04/money-tips-vacationing-with-friends-114289/">5 Money Tips for Vacationing With Friends</a> &mdash; It's important to be flexible when you're on a joint vacation. Be willing to try new foods, activities, and travel and lodging options&hellip;but you might also want to put some time apart in your itinerary. [Credit.com]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://www.modestmoney.com/3-home-security-strategies-to-help-protect-your-family/">3 Home Security Strategies to Help Protect Your Family</a> &mdash; Most intruders enter homes through the front door, so secure yours with a door brace. [Modest Money]</p> <p><a href="http://phroogal.com/blog/5-things-you-need-to-ask-about-your-credit-cards/">5 Things You Need To Ask About Your Credit Cards</a> &mdash; Does your credit card's issuer offer leniency in case you have to make a late payment? [The Smile Lifestyle]</p> <p><a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/Business/Saving-Money/2015/0417/Five-DIY-projects-that-don-t-save-you-money">Five DIY projects that don't save you money</a> &mdash; The cost of candle-making supplies easily exceed what you'd pay for candles from a store. [The Monitor]</p> <p><a href="http://www.cheapism.com/blog/3515/renting-out-your-home">14 Things to Know Before Putting Your Place on Airbnb</a> &mdash; Airbnb is certainly popular, but you'll increase the chances of having your place seen and booked if you list on multiple platforms. [Cheapism]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/4-books-to-spark-the-fun-and-imagination-of-your-child-s-mind">4 Books to Spark the Fun and Imagination of Your Child&rsquo;s Mind</a> &mdash; &quot;Why Is the Moon Following Me&quot; is filled with fun poems that teach kids about the night sky. [Parenting Squad]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-cheap-ways-to-boost-your-brain">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-9"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s">The 8 Life Skills You Must Learn in Your 40s</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving">Is Your Personality Sabotaging Your Saving?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-self-improvement-apps-to-make-you-smarter-stronger-and-happier">10 Self-Improvement Apps to Make You Smarter, Stronger, and Happier</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips brain Mon, 20 Apr 2015 19:00:06 +0000 Amy Lu 1393859 at http://www.wisebread.com 10 Relationship Rules You Should Be Breaking http://www.wisebread.com/10-relationship-rules-you-should-be-breaking <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/10-relationship-rules-you-should-be-breaking" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/happy_couple_heart_000043736474.jpg" alt="Happy couple breaking common love and relationship rules" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>I don't know what it was like to be in a serious relationship back in the day &mdash; pre-social media, I mean &mdash; but I can imagine that it was much easier than it is in 2015. So much has changed over the past 20 &mdash; heck, even 10 &mdash; years that some of the most trusted and seemingly infallible relationship rules are now all but obsolete. The new school of thought on the issue? Adapt your relationship to today, or face certain doom.</p> <p>To catch you up to speed, here's a look at some of the most prominent relationship rules of yore that you should start kickin' to the curb.</p> <h2>1. Not Going to Bed Angry</h2> <p>My parents still adhere to this rule &mdash; or at least this is a piece of advice that my mother gives me when my marriage hits a rough patch &mdash; but I don't buy it. When we first started out, we tried to resolve the issue at hand before bed, but it rarely resulted in a truce, and the more time wore on, we were just like, screw it, I'm tired, let's resume our battle stations in the morning.</p> <p>I know we're not alone.</p> <p>&quot;If you follow this rule, it could mean a lot of late nights, and nothing escalates an argument more than sleep deprivation and mental exhaustion,&quot; says Dr. Jared DeFife, a clinical psychologist and relationship coach. &quot;I see couples in my practice who feel like they have to adhere to this rule or resolve an argument right away, leading them to drawn-out disputes where nothing gets accomplished and everyone's nerves are fried. When it comes to arguments, it's ok to take a break; in fact, it might even be necessary. You can use that time to calm down, understand your emotions, and return with a level head and a more nuanced perspective.&quot;</p> <p>And hey, there's always the possibility of make-up sex in the morning!</p> <h2>2. Thinking That Love Means Never Having to Say You're Sorry</h2> <p>Excuse while I LOL at this one. Whatever narcissistic dude came up with this (and I'm 100% certain it was a dude) was smokin' the good stuff &mdash; and I want some. Because the truth is, sometimes we're real capital Bs to our partners, and apologies are absolutely necessary.</p> <p>&quot;Nobody's perfect,&quot; Dr. DeFife reminds us. &quot;Sometimes we're grumpy or short-tempered or do the wrong thing. The mark of a good partnership is not in never screwing up or having conflicts, but in being able to recognize those concerns and to effectively make repairs when things go awry. A well-thought through and meaningful apology can actually strengthen a relationship in areas of discontent or disconnection.&quot;</p> <p>I think I'll have that quote printed on a stack of Post-it Notes and hide them in my husband's desk.</p> <h2>3. Playing Hard to Get</h2> <p>Playing hard to get can be fun. But giving the guy or girl the runaround for an extended period of time so you can feed your own ego as they try harder and harder to get your attention also can be dangerous.</p> <p>&quot;This includes waiting an X amount of days or minutes before calling or texting, dumping men who do not initiate contact, and only scheduling activities on certain days or times of the day,&quot; explains Dr. Carolyn C. Ferreira, a licensed clinical psychologist. &quot;Playing hard to get is unattractive to both sexes, and it also prohibits people from being their real selves and expressing their true feelings, which is an overall bad way to begin a relationship.&quot;</p> <h2>4. Waiting a Set Amount of Time After a Breakup</h2> <p>Breaking up or getting a divorce can sometimes feel like somebody died. You've spent most of your time with your partner for however many months or years you were together, then all of a sudden, they're gone. If this was a serious relationship, grieving this loss is a normal emotional reaction, but you shouldn't let other people dictate how long you take to heal. Whenever you feel like you're ready to get back out there and find your next future ex, put on your going-out pants and get back in the game.</p> <p>&quot;People grieve loss at their own pace; someone may be over a divorce in a month, whereas it might take someone else six months,&quot; Dr. Ferreira says.</p> <h2>5. Perpetuating Gender Stereotypes at Home</h2> <p>My husband and I have battled with this since the day we moved in together &mdash; and we're two dudes. Speaking as a man then, it's kind of insulting when someone expects that you'll do the cooking and cleaning because that's traditionally what the female in the relationship does. Not that I mind doing it &mdash; for the most part &mdash; but I don't want it to be an expectation because I'm the smaller, more creative partner in the relationship. I still have dude parts, dude. This type of thinking applies to any scenario, and as far as I'm concerned you can take that &quot;Honeymooners&quot;<em> </em>BS and shove it.</p> <p>&quot;Adhering to household tasks based on gender roles and stereotypes should also be reconsidered by couples,&quot; adds Dr. Ferreira. &quot;Instead of completing tasks because you're the man or woman, couples should look at their strengths and weaknesses as a couple in order to decide who does what. For example, it does not make sense for the man to take care of the finances if he does not know what an Excel spreadsheet is, but his wife does because she's a business owner.&quot;</p> <p>Might be time to start shakin' things up on the homefront, eh?</p> <h2>6. Believing That Fighting Is Healthy</h2> <p>Having lovers' quarrels every now and then is okay; it's good to get issues off your chest. Screaming in each other's face on a regular basis isn't. It's wise to note too that the term &quot;fighting&quot; is relative, and it behooves you to keep your definition of it in check to avoid a dangerous downward spiral.</p> <p>&quot;There are many myths and expectations about fighting in marriage,&quot; says Dr. Tina B. Tessina, psychotherapist and author of &quot;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1598693255/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1598693255&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=UA6JX7TPBBEN43YK">Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage</a>.&quot; &quot;Couples come into my office frequently believing that fighting is a necessary part of being a couple, that all married couples fight, and it's a normal part of marriage. But the fact is that fighting accomplishes nothing, and it isn't necessary for couples to argue, to yell, or to have heated discussions to get problems solved. Hanging on to these ideas makes it difficult to let go of fighting.&quot;</p> <p>P.S. Don't ever let anybody hit you. Ever. It's not your fault, and you don't deserve it.</p> <h2>7. Searching for Your Soulmate (When You May Not Have One)</h2> <p>What if your soulmate died before you had a chance to meet? Too depressing? I'll let Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, relationship experts and co-authors of &quot;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1627780289/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1627780289&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=WLVCALKVABMAJAMI">Partners in Passion</a>,&quot;&nbsp;explain why you may not have a soulmate in a more palatable way.</p> <p>&quot;In contemporary society, there is a very common superstition that finding one's soulmate &mdash; sometimes called a 'twin flame' &mdash; is the key to having a true pair-bond, and that in the absence of this 'other half,' no intimate relationship will be fully satisfying,&quot; Johnson and Michaels say. &quot;Two very damaging concepts are implicit in this belief: first, that there is a single, ideal partner out there in the world for every individual, and second, that people are incomplete until they find their 'other half.'&quot;</p> <p>In other words, stop holding out and start living more. You never know who you'll encounter along the way.</p> <h2>8. Accepting That Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus</h2> <p>Society &mdash; especially American culture &mdash; wants us to believe that men and women are so different that it's like we're each from separate planets. Yes, we have differences, but we also have many similarities that nobody ever seems to want to talk about because it's not interesting enough to sell 50 million books worldwide.</p> <p>&quot;We're not the first to observe that people of all genders are from Earth,&quot; Johnson and Michaels explain. &quot;Beyond that, men and women have more in common with each other than with any other creature on the planet. To make blanket generalizations is not helpful except on the most superficial level. This model builds on older myths &mdash; the concepts of 'opposite sexes' and 'the battle of the sexes' &mdash; and reconfigures them in therapeutic terms. Despite this reframing, the model is still an adversarial one, and adversarial models are not optimal for nurturing harmonious relationships or fueling sexual passion, except in very small doses. Having the sense that you're on opposing teams will only foster conflict.&quot;</p> <h2>9. Assuming That Monogamy Is Natural and Optimal</h2> <p>So I don't get in trouble down the road for providing my personal opinion on long-term relationships and monogamy, I'll let Johnson and Michaels give you theirs.</p> <p>&quot;If human biology inspires us both to form intimate pair bonds and to seek contacts outside of those bonds, then what makes for a healthy relationship is considerably more complex than dogmatic advocates of monogamy (or non monogamy for that matter) would have us believe,&quot; say the pair. &quot;At the same time, the impulse to bond deeply with another is not something that should be dismissed lightly. Our species varies a great deal, and it's a mistake to think about absolutes when it comes to monogamy and non-monogamy.&quot;</p> <h2>10. Dating Within Your Type</h2> <p>Just like I don't want all skinny, redheaded, melanin-free friends, I don't think it's very interesting to pursue a certain &quot;type&quot; of person in a romantic capacity. I've dated all types of guys &mdash; white, black, Asian, Indian, Middle Eastern, and Latino &mdash; and it has only served to broaden my horizons. Still, I have plenty of friends &mdash; especially the religious ones &mdash; who refuse to date outside their race or faith. To each their own of course, but I totally think they're missing out.</p> <p>Relationship expert April Masini agrees.</p> <p>&quot;One of the best ways to get out of a dating rut is to date a Republican if you're a Democrat, or someone rich if you're poor, or a creative type if you're by the book,&quot; she says. &quot;Date out of your religious or racial group. Date someone your mother wouldn't fix you up with &mdash; were you to let her. It'll shake up any rigidity you've succumbed to, and it's a great way to find love. It also expands your resources and gives you a bigger dating pool.&quot;</p> <p><em>What are some of the relationship rules that you think we should be breaking? Let me know in the comments below.</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-relationship-rules-you-should-be-breaking">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-10"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-worst-mistakes-good-spouses-make">5 Worst Mistakes Good Spouses Make</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-be-happy-and-married-24-tips-from-a-24-year-old-marriage">How to Be Happy and Married: 24 Tips from a 24-Year-Old Marriage</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/happily-ever-after-how-to-stay-married-for-29-years-and-counting">Happily Ever After: How to Stay Married for 29 Years (and Counting)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-questions-couples-should-ask-in-the-money-talk">5 Questions Couples Should Ask in the Money Talk</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-first-thing-you-need-to-work-on-if-you-want-a-better-relationship">The First Thing You Need to Work on If You Want a Better Relationship</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development couples Dating love marriage partnership relationships rules Wed, 15 Apr 2015 13:00:09 +0000 Mikey Rox 1382352 at http://www.wisebread.com 7 Foods Scientifically Proven to Make You Happier http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-make-you-happier <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-make-you-happier" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_chocolate_000031568798.jpg" alt="Woman eating bar of chocolate to make herself happier" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>If you're still fighting off the lingering effects of seasonal affective disorder with unhealthy comfort foods, try eating some of these seven foods instead. They're healthier than cheesy chips and proven to make you feel happier.</p> <h2>1. Chocolate</h2> <p>How couldn't it be? Not surprisingly, chocolate is a <a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2014/04/07/why-chocolate-really-is-the-secret-to-happiness-2/">certified feel-good food</a> containing chemicals proven to alter mood. Caffeine, for starters, is known to make us bouncy and awaken our muscles. As another bonus, the compound anandamide has been singled out for positively <a href="http://www.rsc.org/chemistryworld/Issues/2004/July/anandamide.asp">affecting anxiety and depression</a>. So keep eating chocolate!</p> <h2>2. Shellfish</h2> <p>Oysters are one of the most zinc-rich foods we have, resulting again in lowered anxiety and depression. Clams are full of vitamin B12, a vitamin that your doctor has almost certainly reminded you to ingest more of due to the brain's need to make mood-improving dopamine and serotonin. Unless you suffer a shellfish allergy, try these as an indulgent way to get your brain boost.</p> <h2>3. Coffee</h2> <p>The world runs on coffee! Here's why: Women who drank more than two cups of coffee per day were 15% less likely to suffer from depression. This is partly thanks to beloved caffeine, which can <a href="http://www.prevention.com/health/healthy-living/infographic-health-benefits-coffee">increases dopamine and serotonin</a> levels within 30 minutes.</p> <h2>4. Salmon</h2> <p>Vitamin D is literally the sunshine we need to keep going, as our body converts sunlight into this mood-balancing and health-regulating nutrient. Salmon, and other foods packed with omega-3 fatty acids, are already good for you. But did you know that salmon is also rich in vitamin D? A deficiency in vitamin D is proven to <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2908269/">contribute to depression</a> and mood swings. If you can't get out in the sun a little bit each day, try eating vitamin D rich foods like salmon, tuna, mackerel, beef liver, cheese, and egg yolks.</p> <h2>5. Broccoli</h2> <p>Eating your vegetables is not only great for overall health and weight loss, but their nutrients also make your brain happier. Broccoli has trace levels of chromium, a mineral in which many of us are deficient. Chromium increases brain function by <a href="http://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Chromium-HealthProfessional/#h6">regulating insulin</a> and metabolizing food, which in turn stabilizes mood. If you've ever had wild mood swings from a blood sugar crash, eating more whole foods like fresh broccoli could help.</p> <h2>6. Almonds</h2> <p>Keeping a stash of nuts at your desk is a good idea. Almonds, peanuts, and cashews are all well stocked in magnesium, a mineral that greatly <a href="http://umm.edu/health/medical/altmed/supplement/magnesium">aids serotonin development</a> in the brain. Lacking adequate levels of magnesium in your diet can have a visibly negative impact on your mood, contributing to depression. Keep almonds and other magnesium-rich snacks around for an afternoon pick-me-up.</p> <h2>7. Yogurt</h2> <p>Probiotics are well known as a force of good in your gut, but did you know that fixing your gut could also help fix your brain? When your digestive system has an flora imbalance in favor of &quot;bad&quot; bacteria, it can generate negative <a href="http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2013/11/18/244526773/gut-bacteria-might-guide-the-workings-of-our-minds">signals to your brain</a> that lead to distressed and depressed behavior. A healthy balance of good bacteria such as lactobacillus rhamnosus can keep you calmer and more even-keeled throughout the day. Plus, the calcium in yogurt (especially when paired with vitamin D) <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11834431">helps regulate mood</a> as well.</p> <p><em>What foods do you eat to boost your mood?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amanda-meadows">Amanda Meadows</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-make-you-happier">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-11"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-best-and-worst-nuts-by-nutrition-and-price">The Best and Worst Nuts, by Nutrition and Price</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/end-potato-prejudice-10-reasons-why-you-should-eat-potatoes">End Potato Prejudice: 10 Reasons Why You Should Eat Potatoes</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-increase-your-sex-drive">7 Foods Scientifically Proven to Increase Your Sex Drive</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-foods-with-the-most-bang-for-your-buck">10 Foods With the Most Bang for Your Buck</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-foods-scientifically-proven-to-make-you-more-beautiful">7 Foods Scientifically Proven to Make You (More) Beautiful</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Food and Drink Personal Development food for depression food science healthy eating nutrition Tue, 14 Apr 2015 17:00:19 +0000 Amanda Meadows 1382361 at http://www.wisebread.com 3 Supposed Etiquette Faux Pas That Actually Make You Look Good http://www.wisebread.com/3-supposed-etiquette-faux-pas-that-actually-make-you-look-good <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/3-supposed-etiquette-faux-pas-that-actually-make-you-look-good" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman_stressed_000018231991.jpg" alt="Woman made etiquette faux pas that made her look good" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Etiquette's a jungle, and there are any number of ways to find yourself on the wrong side of both Miss Manners and your social circle.</p> <p>But what about social faux pas that really aren't such terrible mistakes? Yes, technically committing any of these errors is a social no-no, but they can also make you look good, particularly if you own them. Here are three etiquette mistakes that can actually improve your social standing:</p> <h2>1. Forgetting the Name of an Acquaintance</h2> <p>I made the most embarrassing social faux pas of my life when I was about 14 years old and ran into a classmate and her father at the grocery store. When she said &quot;Hi, Emily!&quot; with great friendliness, I responded &quot;Good to see, you Jessica!&quot;</p> <p>That wasn't her name. (And it got worse.)</p> <p>I immediately realized my mistake and tried to correct it. &quot;I'm sorry, Sarah. I know who you are.&quot;</p> <p>At this point, her father leaned in and said, &quot;It's Yvonne.&quot;</p> <p>While I have never had another experience that bad &mdash; partially because in response to this embarrassing incident, I got in the habit of saying &quot;Hi, YOU!&quot; to anyone I ran into outside of their usual context &mdash; this was by no means the last time I couldn't place the name of someone who knew exactly who I was.</p> <p>Every time it happens, I feel a momentary panic and worry that I'll screw up again. The funny thing about my worst-name-forgetting-story-ever is that Yvonne and I became good friends afterwards. (She did call me by other names on purpose for a while, though.)</p> <p>That's because a <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e5zH4N3ohR0&amp;feature=youtu.be">memory lapse</a> of a name &mdash; even for someone you know fairly well &mdash; happens to every single person on the planet. Owning your mistake and being willing to laugh at yourself can help humanize you. It actually takes courage to own up to your memory lapse or wrong-name-calling mistake. You look much better for acknowledging that you are not perfect, and that can disarm even the sourest of socializers.</p> <p>Don't be like me, though. If you're not sure of the name of someone you know you have met, a quick, &quot;Forgive me, but can you remind me of your name?&quot; paired with a charming smile can smooth over the awkward situation while making you seem endearing.</p> <h2>2. Crying at Work</h2> <p>This is one of the most deeply-entrenched etiquette rules for the workplace, but I know very few professionals who have not broken it at least once. Letting frustration, sadness, or anger be expressed through tears is often considered career suicide (although there does seem to be more judgment of <a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/03/21/the-perks-of-crying-at-work.html">women who cry at work</a> than men).</p> <p>While it's true that professionalism does require at least some distance between our emotions and our actions &mdash; we can't go all <a href="http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/the-big-baby/n11215">Will Ferrell</a> when things get too hard at the office &mdash; the no-crying-at-work rule can seem like an impossible expectation when we spend a third of our lives and most of our energy there. But when tears indicate weakness and unprofessional emotions, it's difficult to bounce back from a crying jag in copy room.</p> <p>Actually, crying at work can do a lot of good. According to Peggy Drexler of <a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2013/03/21/the-perks-of-crying-at-work.html">The Daily Beast</a>,&nbsp;&quot;People tend to connect with what they view as an authentic display of emotion. Often, crying invokes in coworkers and employees a natural empathy and a desire to help. Tears can also be persuasive: they show that we're deeply moved, which in turn moves our audience.&quot;</p> <p>Tears can indicate how deeply you care about an issue at work, or how overwhelmed you are by life issues that are affecting your work &mdash; and that can help your coworkers and boss have a better understanding of you and your situation. In addition, crying can help clear the air when something is festering at work.</p> <p>That is not to say that crying at work is always a good thing. But if you are generally a well-respected employee with a professional demeanor, finding yourself overcome by tears could help to make a point that your words cannot.</p> <h2>3. Requesting &quot;No Gifts&quot; on a Party Invitation</h2> <p>According to traditional etiquette, one should never mention gifts on an invitation. That's because the mention of gifts suddenly puts an emphasis on them, and the word magically turns your invitation into a shakedown, even if all you are trying to do is stop the endless flow of stuff into your life. Even the evasive &quot;Your presence is our present!&quot; is considered to be rude, as it seems to make the suggestion that the invitee owes a present at all.</p> <p>Miss Manners suggests that you simply say nothing about gifts, other than profuse thanks for any that are given. (She further recommends recycling unwanted gifts, thereby making the gift-giving a waste of money and time for all parties, in this writer's humble opinion.)</p> <p>This is a situation wherein etiquette simply has not kept up with social conventions. It's all well and good for Miss Manners to claim that no one is thinking about presents when they are invited to a wedding or a birthday party, but we know that's not the case. The social expectation is that you bring a present to a party. No one needs to say it for the expectation to be there.</p> <p>In fact, the real problem with &quot;No gifts&quot; on party invitations is that people don't know what it means. Some believe that the host is angling for money or gift cards, and others bring gifts for fear of being the only non-gift-giver at the party.</p> <p>So take the etiquette bull by the horns and give your guests an alternative to gifts. Specify a charity you would love your guests to support in lieu of a gift. Request that each person bring a funny story about or a picture of the guest of honor. Make it a Hobbit party, where all the <em>guests </em>get a present, rather than the birthday child.</p> <p>Miss Manners might recoil, but spelling out exactly what you expect to happen (non) gift-wise will be an incredible relief to your guests. They know that there is a social gift expectation for a party, but they have no idea what &quot;No gifts&quot; means unless you make it perfectly clear. Doing this will help your guests to think of you as a selfless and fun host, rather than someone who impolitely mentions gifts on an invitation.</p> <h2>Be Yourself</h2> <p>All three of these faux pas are really about being your genuine and authentic self. Own these &quot;errors,&quot; and know that others will likely respect you even more for them.</p> <p><em>Which etiquette rules have you broken only to have your social standing improve as a result? Be polite and share in comments!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/emily-guy-birken">Emily Guy Birken</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/3-supposed-etiquette-faux-pas-that-actually-make-you-look-good">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-12"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/18-things-people-with-good-social-skills-never-do">18 Things People With Good Social Skills Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-ways-youre-driving-your-coworkers-insane">12 Ways You&#039;re Driving Your Coworkers Insane</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/if-youre-doing-this-on-your-first-date-youre-not-getting-a-second">If You&#039;re Doing This on Your First Date, You&#039;re Not Getting a Second</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/13-things-people-with-good-table-manners-never-do">13 Things People With Good Table Manners Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development crying etiquette faux pas forgetting gifts manners Fri, 10 Apr 2015 15:00:08 +0000 Emily Guy Birken 1378122 at http://www.wisebread.com Best Money Tips: Hurdles That Keep You From Being Wealthy http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-hurdles-that-keep-you-from-being-wealthy <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/best-money-tips-hurdles-that-keep-you-from-being-wealthy" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/financial_struggle_000026300090.jpg" alt="Couple paying bills and worrying about not becoming wealthy" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Welcome to Wise Bread's <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/topic/best-money-tips">Best Money Tips</a> Roundup! Today we found some great articles on the hurdles that keep you from being wealthy, ways to ensure your side hustle is productive, and foods you can freeze for at least six months.</p> <h2>Top 5 Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://www.moneyspruce.com/6-hurdles-keeping-you-from-being-wealthy/">6 Hurdles Keeping you from Being Wealthy</a> &mdash; You're putting your financial health (and your family's financial health) at risk if you don't have adequate insurance. [Money Spruce]</p> <p><a href="http://www.onesmartdollar.com/5-ways-to-make-sure-your-side-hustle-is-productive/">5 Ways to Make Sure Your Side Hustle is Productive</a> &mdash; Designate a power hour where you shut down all distractions and work straight for an hour. Power through as much work as you can, then take a break. [One Smart Dollar]</p> <p><a href="http://bargainbabe.com/5-foods-you-can-freeze-6-months-or-longer/">5 Foods You Can Freeze For 6 Months &ndash; Or Longer</a> &mdash; You can store unopened blocks of hard cheese (like cheddar and Parmesan) for six months in the fridge. Freeze sliced and shredded cheeses for up to four months. [Bargain Babe]</p> <p><a href="http://www.cheapism.com/blog/3493/leftover-recipes">11 Ways to Spice Up Leftovers</a> &mdash; Reinvent your leftovers by using them in cheap and easy quesadillas. [Cheapism]</p> <p><a href="http://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/How-Make-Coach-Feel-Like-First-Class-36514384">How to Make Coach Feel More Like First Class</a> &mdash; Many airlines give their first-class passengers pajamas to change into &mdash; and you can bring your own into coach! [PopSugar Smart Living]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/15-things-that-always-make-me-happy">15 Things That Always Make Me Happy</a> &mdash; When times are hard, remember the small things that make you happy &mdash; like the smell of freshly baked bread or a beautiful sunset. [Parenting Squad]</p> <p><a href="http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2015/04/01/buying-a-house-without-a-real-estate-agent-mistakes-to-avoid.html">Buying a House Without a Real Estate Agent: Mistakes to Avoid</a> &mdash; Don't assume anything! Be very clear about the terms when you are negotiating. [Everybody Loves Your Money]</p> <p><a href="http://www.thousandaire.com/5-reasons-i-love-my-high-deductible-health-plan/">5 Reasons I Love my High Deductible Health Plan</a> &mdash; HDHPs cover 100% of preventative care, including check ups, well visits, and vaccines. [Thousandaire]</p> <p><a href="http://www.aspiringmillionaire.com/2015/04/having-positive-mindset-can-help-your.html">Having a Positive Mindset Can Help Your Finances</a> &mdash; We all face financial setbacks from time to time, but when we think positively, we become more open to potential positive outcomes. [Aspiring Millionaire]</p> <p><a href="http://www.moneyunder30.com/how-to-do-work-you-love-without-taking-an-oath-of-poverty">How To Do Work You Love Without Taking An Oath Of Poverty</a> &mdash; Before you leave your day job to pursue your passion, be sure to first lower your living expenses, build your cash reserve, and pay off as much debt as you can. [Money Under 30]</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/amy-lu">Amy Lu</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-hurdles-that-keep-you-from-being-wealthy">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-13"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-8-life-skills-you-must-learn-in-your-40s">The 8 Life Skills You Must Learn in Your 40s</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/is-your-personality-sabotaging-your-saving">Is Your Personality Sabotaging Your Saving?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life">Feeling Stuck? 100 Ways to Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-basic-manners-you-must-teach-your-kids">10 Basic Manners You Must Teach Your Kids</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-self-improvement-apps-to-make-you-smarter-stronger-and-happier">10 Self-Improvement Apps to Make You Smarter, Stronger, and Happier</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development best money tips wealthy Thu, 09 Apr 2015 19:00:09 +0000 Amy Lu 1379352 at http://www.wisebread.com 5 Worst Mistakes Good Spouses Make http://www.wisebread.com/5-worst-mistakes-good-spouses-make <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/5-worst-mistakes-good-spouses-make" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple_000019703451.jpg" alt="Young couple who make common marriage mistakes" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Marriage is hard. Almost anyone can tell you that. It takes constant effort to nurture this relationship so that it remains close, connected, and dedicated as the years pass.</p> <p>&quot;But,&quot; you say, &quot;I'm a good spouse. I don't cheat. I love my partner. I accept their faults and I work on my own. Won't my relationship last?&quot;</p> <p>Well, I don't have a crystal ball, but I do know this: Even good spouses aren't perfect. Even with a huge amount of love and the best intentions, it is easy to make mistakes that can hurt your relationship.</p> <p>But the first step is knowing what to look out for. Specifically, this list of the most common mistakes that good spouses make.</p> <h2>1. They Stop Putting in the Effort</h2> <p>When you feel lovey-dovey about your partner, it's easy to do the little things that make them happy. Maybe you prep his coffee pot for the morning, or bring her a glass of wine in bed. With that loving feeling, these things seem to come naturally.</p> <p>Fast forward a couple of years down the road, though. Your job is hard. Your spouse is stressed about money. Even the best spouses have days when they come home and collapse on the couch. When this happens, not only are you not thinking about the coffee or the wine, but you don't even want to make dinner.</p> <p>When you're stressed and tired, it's easy to let the little kindnesses, the things you do just because they make your spouse happy, slide. However, while you may not be able to do all the things you once did for your partner, you can still put forth the effort to show them that they're valuable.</p> <p>Be the one who offers to make (or pick up) dinner. Set an alarm on your phone so you remember to make the coffee. Surprise your spouse, even if it's only with takeout from their favorite restaurant. These little efforts remind your spouse that they are important to you, even when things are hard and busy.</p> <h2>2. They Speak Disrespectfully</h2> <p>Good spouses respect their partners. They listen when their partner speaks and they honor what is said, even when they disagree.</p> <p>Even good spouses, though, can lose respect for their partner in the middle of a heated conversation. This comes through in the tone of voice they use, the things they say about their partner or their partner's ideas, and whether or not they can give their partner the benefit of the doubt. It can even come through in what they say about their partner to other people, later on.</p> <p>Even if the argument is really and truly over and you're exaggerating or kidding around later, talk to and about your partner respectfully. If you can't do so, ask for a break until you feel like you can again.</p> <p>Even if you do respect your partner and you're just upset, speaking disrespectfully can harm your relationship. It can cause your partner to doubt your respect for them overall, and if that becomes a habit, it can change the way you think about your spouse in general.</p> <h2>3. They Believe Their Happiness Depends on Their Partner</h2> <p>Sure, you're close to your spouse. After all, you're a great partner. But there's a difference between being close and depending on someone else for your own happiness. Whether you feel like you need your partner to change in order for you to be happy, or you feel like everything is chugging along just fine until your partner falls into an illness or a depression; giving someone else that much control over your happiness is never a good idea.</p> <p>Instead, focus on yourself. Who do you want to be? What do you want to do? Work towards your own goals and you will be happier than if you hand over control of your satisfaction to someone else.</p> <p>Also, being in charge of your own happiness makes you an even better spouse. Your partner won't feel like they have to be someone or something they're not just for you. And they will know that, whatever happens, even if they get depressed or seriously ill, they won't take you down with them.</p> <h2>4. They Wait Until They Feel Like It to Have Sex</h2> <p>Sure, you like sex. Sometimes you even love it. And you're a great spouse, so you make sure your partner enjoys it, too. But the longer you're with your spouse &mdash; even when you love them dearly &mdash; the easier it is to let other things get in the way of physical intimacy. And it's even easier when you tell yourself that it's better to wait until you're in the mood.</p> <p>However, physical intimacy is important to a marriage. While it doesn't feel romantic to approach your spouse (or let them approach you) sexually when you're tired, stressed, and really just want to watch TV, your marriage will be better if you do it.</p> <p>Remember that you enjoy sex, even when it's not the first thing on your &quot;Want&quot; list, and choose to engage your partner on this level. Take it slow, and you may find yourself enjoying it a lot more than you thought you would, even if you weren't in the mood.</p> <h2>5. They Let Arguments Get off Topic</h2> <p>Even good spouses get upset sometimes. I mean, anytime you have two people together in the same space for longer than a couple of hours, they're likely to disagree. The fact that you and your spouse sometimes argue has nothing to do with how good of partners you are or how much you love each other.</p> <p>When you do argue, though, try to stay on topic. Work through one issue at a time. If things are so heated that you or your partner keep bringing up other issues, step back for a while to cool down and refocus.</p> <p>If things come up that you really want to talk about, write them down. Then you can bring them up after the original issue is settled, or later on when things are cooler between the two of you. It's perfectly fine to talk about all of your issues, but best not to talk about them all at once.</p> <p><em>Do you consider yourself a good spouse? What mistakes have you made in your marriage?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-worst-mistakes-good-spouses-make">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-14"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-relationship-rules-you-should-be-breaking">10 Relationship Rules You Should Be Breaking</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-questions-couples-should-ask-in-the-money-talk">5 Questions Couples Should Ask in the Money Talk</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-time-tested-ways-to-make-a-relationship-work">6 Time-Tested Ways to Make a Relationship Work</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-navigate-3-common-money-arguments-with-your-significant-other">How to Navigate 3 Common Money Arguments With Your Significant Other</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-be-happy-and-married-24-tips-from-a-24-year-old-marriage">How to Be Happy and Married: 24 Tips from a 24-Year-Old Marriage</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development arguments household marriage partnerships relationships spouses Thu, 09 Apr 2015 13:00:02 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1376576 at http://www.wisebread.com You Can Too: 7 Amazing Things People Have Accomplished in Under a Year http://www.wisebread.com/you-can-too-7-amazing-things-people-have-accomplished-in-under-a-year <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/you-can-too-7-amazing-things-people-have-accomplished-in-under-a-year" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/man_map_000041834602_0.jpg" alt="man accomplished goals within a year and traveling with map" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>There are days when I feel incredibly productive, and others when I do not even get off the couch. Can you relate? On those couch days, I enjoy marveling at the accomplishments of others.</p> <p>Imagine what you could achieve by stringing together a few of those productive days&hellip;or even 365 of them! Here are a few incredible, inspiring, productive things your fellow humans have done in a year. Let the motivation begin!</p> <h2>1. Stroll the Continent</h2> <p>There are a number of people who have either run or <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_people_who_have_walked_across_the_United_States">walked across the United States</a> in less than a year's time. Many embark on such an adventure to raise awareness of certain medical or social causes. Take Louis Michael Figueroa, for example. He was only 16 when he ran from New Brunswick, NJ to San Francisco, CA as a promise to a friend who was dying of bone cancer. Figueroa became the youngest person to make the trek &mdash; in just 60 days. It makes that recommended <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/50-ways-to-walk-more">10,000 steps a day</a> seem like not such a big deal. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-adventurous-things-you-should-do-before-you-die?ref=seealso">7 Simple Ways to Get Motivated for Your Workout</a>)</p> <h2>2. Sail the World</h2> <p>Here's another distance feat: Francis Joyon <a href="http://www.worldrecordacademy.com/sports/fastest_round_the_world_sailing_world_record_set_by_Francis_Joyon_80127.htm">sailed around the world</a> solo in 57 days, 13 hours, 34 minutes, and six seconds back in 2008. To put that in perspective, he made that wicked fast time journeying nearly 21,600 nautical miles. In less than two months. Alone at sea. Whoa.</p> <h2>3. Pay Off Debt</h2> <p>I am majorly inspired by the story of Jackie (<a href="http://thepaleomama.com/2013/08/how-we-paid-off-more-than-27000-of-debt-in-6-months-and-still-ate-paleo/">The Paleo Mama</a>) and her husband. The duo were able to pay off more than $27,000 in debt over the course of just six months using the Ramsey Method and some smart planning. Along with taking a hard look at their budget and bills, the family made some big modifications to their lifestyle as a whole, including selling one of their cars, buying most things second hand, canceling cable and expensive smart phones, and using a cash system for most purchases. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-inspiring-people-who-each-paid-off-over-100000-in-debt?ref=seealso">5 Inspiring People Who Each Paid Off Over $100,000 in Debt</a>)</p> <h2>4. Raise Millions</h2> <p>We've all heard of crowdsourced fundraising campaigns, and some are certainly more successful than others. Take the GoFundMe campaign for <a href="https://medium.com/@vonwong/my-video-raised-2-million-in-less-than-a-year-heres-how-you-can-do-it-too-46c0ed26b6fe">Eliza O'Neill</a>, a beautiful four-year-old girl with a degenerative brain disease called Sanfilippo syndrome. The amazing story, as told by photographer/videographer Benjamin Von Wong, raised more than $2 million in less than a year. This money will all go toward a clinical trial to find a cure.</p> <h2>5. Plant a Forest</h2> <p>In September 2010, a Pakistani soldier named Muhammed Yousuf Jamil <a href="http://www.treehugger.com/culture/pakistani-soldier-plants-20101-trees-in-one-day-sets-new-world-record.html">planted 20,101 trees</a> in just 18 hours and 40 minutes. As you can imagine, this accomplishment set a new world record in the Guinness book. For those of you curious about the math, that's a whopping 18 trees per minute. The previous record? An impressive 15,170 trees, held by Canadian Ken Chaplin back in 2001.</p> <h2>6. Lose All Fear</h2> <p>I first heard the term &quot;rejection therapy&quot; a few months ago on <a href="http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2015/01/16/377239011/by-making-a-game-out-of-rejection-a-man-conquers-fear">Invisibilia</a>, but concept has stuck with me. <a href="http://fearbuster.com">Jia Jiang</a> claims he completely broke through his fears of rejection through requesting crazy things from strangers for 100 days straight &mdash; so, less than a year. He is now featured on everything from Ted Talks to The Huffington Post to Forbes for this unusual, effective method of self-rehabilitation.</p> <h2>7. Read Books</h2> <p>Many of us set some reading goals for the new year, but I've never heard one quite like Nina Sankovitch's. She <a href="http://www.readallday.org/blog/tolstoy-and-the-purple-chair/">read a book per day</a> for an entire year after her oldest sister died of cancer in 2005. That's 365 books by 365 different authors in 365 days. Sankovitch chronicled this chapter in her life by writing a memoir called &quot;<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061999857/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0061999857&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=WNMAEHTFW46MELLC">Tolstoy and the Purple Chair</a>.&quot;&nbsp;</p> <p><em>Please share your favorite inspiring story &mdash; maybe it stars you!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/ashley-marcin">Ashley Marcin</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/you-can-too-7-amazing-things-people-have-accomplished-in-under-a-year">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-15"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-self-improvement-apps-to-make-you-smarter-stronger-and-happier">10 Self-Improvement Apps to Make You Smarter, Stronger, and Happier</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/successful-new-years-resolutions-have-this-one-thing-in-common-does-yours">Successful New Year&#039;s Resolutions Have This One Thing in Common — Does Yours?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-places-to-go-for-inspiration">10 Places to Go for Inspiration</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/but-i-dont-want-to-secrets-to-self-motivation">But I Don&#039;t Want To! Secrets to Self-Motivation</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-have-more-eureka-shower-moments">How to Have More Eureka! Shower Moments</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Personal Development Productivity goal setting goals inspiration persistence Fri, 27 Mar 2015 13:00:10 +0000 Ashley Marcin 1358025 at http://www.wisebread.com