setting goals http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/3302/all en-US Vision Boards: Dream Big, Play with Pictures, and Watch your Life Change http://www.wisebread.com/vision-boards-dream-big-play-with-pictures-and-watch-your-life-change <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/vision-boards-dream-big-play-with-pictures-and-watch-your-life-change" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/envisioning your future.JPG" alt="vision board" title="vision board" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="172" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span>As referenced to in a few previous articles <a href="/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life" target="_blank">here</a> and <a href="/the-prosperity-game-play-the-game-and-find-new-money-for-real" target="_blank">here</a>, you have the ability to change your life in amazing ways by opening up your creative juices and dreaming on a grand scale. </span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span> </span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span>A fun way to do this exercise (and something that the whole family can do) is to create a vision board. Here&#39;s how:</span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span> </span></p> <ol> <li><span><strong>Get a large piece of cardboard</strong> (the bigger the better, but try to make it at least three times bigger than a letter-sized piece of paper) - one for each family member doing this exercise. </span></li> <li><span><strong>Collect all the old magazines you can find.</strong> Ask friends for magazines they no longer want, ask the doctor&#39;s office for their old ones, and stockpile your own subscriptions. If you can, try to amass a variety of different magazines, and the more pictures they have, the better. </span></li> <li><span><strong>Go through the magazines</strong> and cut out pictures of places you want to go to, things you want to have, and images you want to make reality. You can also cut out words that are inspirational, or that represent further things you want to do or be in life. Just cut out anything that speaks to you on any level, even if you can&#39;t define it. </span></li> <li><span>Start pasting it all together! <strong>Create a collage</strong> on the cardboard of your pictures and inspirations. If you can&#39;t find pictures but know what you want, then draw it. Be as creative as you likeā€¦it isn&#39;t homework that the teacher is going to grade you on. </span></li> <li><span>Once complete, <strong>leave your vision board in a prominent place</strong> where you can look at it. Maybe you want it above your bathroom mirror to admire while you&#39;re getting ready in the morning. Maybe beside your bed so you can wake up and go to sleep with those visions in your mind. Maybe the fridge is the perfect place to remind yourself of your goals and dreams. </span></li> </ol> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span> </span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span>I did this a few years ago myself, and not only was it just plain fun to do, but I&#39;ve had a few startling realizations since then. When I created the board, I lived a very urban rich lifestyle. Interestingly none of my pictures were particularly material in nature; I didn&#39;t have a big house, fast car, or dollar bills in my vision board. I had a tent on the side of a remote waterfall in the mountains, a fit woman running through a lava field (a North Face running shoe ad), and a pen and paper as three of my prominent images. </span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span> </span><img src="http://healthcarehacks.com/files/fruganomics/u290/envision__lava_.jpg" alt="lava" width="249" height="187" align="right" /><img src="http://healthcarehacks.com/files/fruganomics/u290/envision__crescent_falls_.jpg" alt="crescent falls" width="177" height="236" align="left" /></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span>Amazingly, the tent image became a reality when I sold everything and moved to the Rocky Mountains last year. The lava field image materialized when I found myself unexpectedly living in Hawaii for six months (where I currently am). And to complete that picture, I have lost weight and become considerably more fit since creating the vision board, and I even have the North Face running shoes (they were a gift). As for the pen and paper, they actually materialized for me as a lapt</span><span>op computer instead, as I travel the world and write for a living.</span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span> </span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span>All this was &quot;dreamed up&quot; while I lived a very different life in a very different place. I had no expectations of that vision board ever becoming a reality; it was really just something fun to do. </span></p> <p class="MsoPlainText"><span>But in ways I could never have imagined, envisioning my future with pictures was actually an exercise in creating it. </span></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/nora-dunn">Nora Dunn</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/vision-boards-dream-big-play-with-pictures-and-watch-your-life-change">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-cost-of-full-time-travel">The Cost of Full-Time Travel</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/seven-ways-to-be-the-life-of-every-party">Seven Ways to be the Life of Every Party</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/looking-for-answers-in-life-heres-your-key">Looking for Answers in Life? Here&#039;s your Key...</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-key-to-happiness-a-case-study">The Key to Happiness: A Case Study</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-costa-rica-lesson-awwwwwww-they-got-me">The Costa Rica Lesson: Awwwwwww They Got Me</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Life Hacks Lifestyle Art and Leisure collage creativity setting goals vision board Mon, 18 Feb 2008 07:37:02 +0000 Nora Dunn 1814 at http://www.wisebread.com Setting Great Goals...and Achieving Them http://www.wisebread.com/setting-great-goals-and-achieving-them <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/setting-great-goals-and-achieving-them" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/4666537583_186f3748b5_z.jpg" alt="winning goal" title="winning goal" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="167" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>My life has always been pretty good. Bad things have happened, tragedies even, but even those things haven't stopped me from being able to do what I've wanted to do and try what I've wanted to try. I've never had to push hard or dig deep to fulfill a wish or a dream. In spite of all of this, I realized recently that the things I want out of life aren't going to happen if I don't go after them. Since then, I've started to explore setting goals to chase down some of these dreams. I wrote a little about that process <a href="/can-you-afford-to-follow-your-dreams-can-you-afford-not-to#comment" title="follow your dreams!">here</a>. Now, I want to offer some things about goal-setting that I learned in the process. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/trade-in-new-years-resolutions-for-achieving-life-goals">Trade in New Year's Resolutions for Achieving Life Goals</a>)</p> <!--break--><!--break--><h3>1. Set short, medium, and long-term goals.</h3> <p>Yeah, yeah, everyone says this. And they give all sorts of different reasons for saying it. <a href="http://www.mygoals.com/helpGoalsettingTips.html#shortTerm" title="My Goals-Tips">MyGoals</a> explains that we should do this because the long-term goals keep us focused while the short-term ones give you momentum. I agree with this to a point. But my main reason for having all terms of goals is that it keeps the gratification coming. As much as most of us don't like to admit it, we're focused on immediate or <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-case-of-the-martini-is-instant-gratification-financially-responsible">short-term gratification</a>. This isn't always evil, as it's this instinct that kicks in when we need to eat NOW! or when we get ourselves out of a bad situation before it gets worse. But it can also keep us from achieving our goals if we don't have at least some that can be done in the short-term. First-time goalsetters tend to set high goals for themselves. This is fine, but they won't keep with the goals very long if there's not something they can do in the short-term.</p> <p>Achieving a goal makes you feel good. When something makes us feel good once, we want to do it again. Thus, if we get a stead flow of feel-good chemicals in our brains, we will continue to repeat the action that produces them. If achieving a goal is that action, we'll stick with our long-term goals longer if we have short and medium-term goals that precede them. If we structure our goals right and achieve them on time, we can produce a steady flow of this feel-good motivation for ourselves. As much as we don't want to admit needing it, we do, and this process will help.</p> <h3>2. Make sure your goals are your own.</h3> <p>Often, when I'm setting goals, I'll bounce my ideas off another person before I choose exactly what goal I want to claim. This is good for me--talking helps me know what I'm thinking. But it can be bad when the other person has vastly different ideas about how I should go about doing what I want to do, particularly when that person is deeply invested in my life and me in theirs. Now, if the person is an expert in whatever you want to achieve, listening to their different opinion might be valid. In fact, it might be valid even if they aren't an expert. But if you end up setting a goal that you don't believe in because of what someone else says, it's time to re-evaluate. The lack of belief and passion behind the goal will keep you from going after it, because you won't believe it is right for you. You have to truly change your mind before you can change your goal.</p> <p>Also, experts on a topic will disagree. How long into your marathon training should you go before you actually have a marathon in mind? How much of a manuscript should you send to an editor? There are exprets with different, contradictory opinions on these questions. To set a goal, you have to choose a philosophy and go with it. If it doesn't work, you can always change things later.</p> <h3>3. Do your research.</h3> <p>One of my goals is to publish a book. Part of that probably means getting an agent at some point. While I know a lot about the process of publishing a book, I know almost nothing about getting an agent. In order to set realistic goals for this, I have had to research (and I actually need to do more). If you want to set realistic, achievable goals, get on the internet or go to your nearest library or bookstore and do some research. It can't hurt and it might help you avoid major frustration later.</p> <h3>4. Don't be afraid of not achieving what you set out to do.</h3> <p>Honestly, it has been this <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/financial-fear-factors">fear</a> that has kept me from setting solid goals for most of my life. What will it say about me if I don't achieve them? Will I be able to live with myself? What will people think if they find out? While I can focus on these questions more than many people do, they are not uncommon in the land of goal-setting. But the truth is that goals change. If I were to find out tomorrow, for instance, that I was pregnant, my goals would change drastically. Some of them would have to be put off, others sped up, and others put on hold for an indefinite length of time. If my car dies on the day that I'm supposed to meet my favorite author at a book signing and who knows when she'll be back, it's ok. If I get really involved in a project at work and don't write outside of that for several weeks or months, my goals still survive.</p> <p>What is becoming important to me is setting the goals, having them there and part of my life. When I die, I won't want to wonder if I could have achieved my dreams. I want to have gone out there and tried. If I write 37 books and none get published I'll be disappointed. I will, though, feel better than if I had not written at all because I was afraid of not being published (and someday, maybe someone who really understands will find those 37 manuscripts and then? Then I'll be published!).</p> <p>I'm still crafting my own goals, still looking at the things I love and trying to figure out what is really important to me and how to gel it all together into something solid and realistic. Thinking about these things has helped me and I hope it helps you, too. Look at the following links if you want more to think about on this topic (including some opinions that differ from mine!).</p> <ul> <li><a href="http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/08/how-to-set-goals-you-will-actually-achieve/" title="Goals...by Pavlina">Steve Pavlina</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.steve-olson.com/why-reaching-your-goals-will-never-make-you-happy/" title="Goals...by Olson">Steve Olson</a></li> <li><a href="http://ririanproject.com/2007/02/12/207-great-tips-to-make-2007-your-best-year-ever/" title="Goals...by Ririan Project">Ririan Project</a></li> <li><a href="http://lifehacker.com/software/goals/how-to-choose-achievable-goals-203908.php" title="Goals...by Lifehacker">Lifehacker</a></li> <li><a href="http://www.goalsguy.com/Knowledge/t_01_commandments.html" title="Goals...by GoalsGuy">Goals Guy</a></li> </ul> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/setting-great-goals-and-achieving-them">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-steps-to-achieving-all-your-goals">6 Steps to Achieving All Your Goals</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/vision-boards-dream-big-play-with-pictures-and-watch-your-life-change">Vision Boards: Dream Big, Play with Pictures, and Watch your Life Change</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/look-where-you-want-to-go">Look where you want to go</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/you-can-too-7-amazing-things-people-have-accomplished-in-under-a-year">You Can Too: 7 Amazing Things People Have Accomplished in Under a Year</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-cheap-ways-to-lower-your-blood-sugar">13 Natural and Easy Ways to Lower Your Blood Sugar</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Life Hacks achieve achieving goals goals setting goals Thu, 19 Apr 2007 22:05:48 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 453 at http://www.wisebread.com