Law of Attraction http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/6124/all en-US The Secret Really Does Have A Secret (or Ten Tenets for Arranging Your Rich - Part 3) http://www.wisebread.com/the-secret-really-does-have-a-secret-or-ten-tenets-for-arranging-your-rich-part-3 <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/the-secret-really-does-have-a-secret-or-ten-tenets-for-arranging-your-rich-part-3" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/iStock_000002889340XSmall.jpg" alt="Genie in a bottle - Image from iStockPhoto.com" title="Genie in a bottle - Image from iStockPhoto.com" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="205" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>There's been a ton of debate over whether or not The Secret is worth your time, so let's put it to rest right now: The Secret really does have a &quot;secret&quot;, but most of us are missing it.</p> <p>For those of you that aren't familiar with The Secret, its message isn't really new. In fact, there's some world-renowned self-help gurus that have been preaching about manifestation for years.</p> <p>And this is where the debate begins: are we really to believe that we can simply manifest things into our lives? That if we &quot;desire&quot; wealth, then wealth we shall have? That everything that happens to us is the result of our own thoughts, whether conscious or otherwise?</p> <p>Well, yes and no.</p> <p>See, some people read this and say, &quot;ok, so all I have to do is meditate on money and I'll get rich&quot;.</p> <p>Um..no.</p> <p>And yet others read this and say, &quot;oh, please... I didn't ask for the flat tire. I didn't ask to have the flu and I certainly didn't ask to work a crappy job for minimum wage.&quot;</p> <p>And I see your point. I wouldn't ask for those things either. </p> <p>But the secret to manifesting money (or anything else for that matter) isn't some magic mojo that makes good things just &quot;appear&quot; in your lap.</p> <p>Quite the contrary, the idea behind positive thought is that it motivates you into positive action. And with positive actions, you're much more likely to see some positive results.</p> <p>Years ago, my husband and I went to the West End in downtown Dallas to enjoy a leisurely lunch and just walk around. If you've never been to the West End, it was a little self-contained area full of retail shops, bars, restaurants and even a movie theater. The roads were brick and cars weren't allowed on the main street so you could just walk up and down without worrying about getting ran over by some guy trying to make the light.</p> <p>Anyway, as we were coming out of the restaurant, we noticed a large group of people standing in the street cheering and clapping. Curious, we ventured over to see what was going on.</p> <p>At one end of the crowd was a stack of cardboard boxes and I mean, they were stacked - maybe 8 foot high. At the other end of the crowd was this guy - shorter than me (I'm 5'6&quot;), hunched down like a runner might be while waiting for the race to start.</p> <p>Everyone's yelling and we're standing there trying to figure out why. And then it hits me:</p> <p>He's going to try and jump those boxes.</p> <p>No way, I'm thinking. There's just no way.</p> <p>The guy jumps up and down a few times then takes off running. About halfway, he launches into a couple of flip-flops (head over feet over head), hits the ground hard with his feet and jumps into the air, somersaulting over the boxes. </p> <p>The boxes never moved.</p> <p>My point? Well, besides the fact that it makes for a really good story, the only difference between me and that guy was that I looked at the boxes and said &quot;no way&quot;. But he looked at them and said, &quot;yeah, I can do that.&quot;</p> <p>Yes, he probably had quite a bit of practice but he had to have that positive perspective in order to even attempt it. I've wanted to do an aerial (cartwheel with no hands) since I was in grade school yet I never really put any effort into making that little wish a reality for me. Obviously, visualizing myself doing such an impressive feat is nice but if I really want to add this little trick to my resume, I'll need to go outside and physical practice until I get it right.</p> <p>And the same is true here.</p> <p>Manifesting wealth doesn't stop with a little meditation or a money-oriented mantra. The idea of &quot;drawing wealth to you&quot; doesn't necessarily mean that a million bucks will just magically appear in your bank account. And if it does, you might wait on spending it... I hear the banks are pretty good about finding those kinds of errors lickity split.</p> <p>What it does mean however, is that maybe you begin to attract new opportunities to increase your income and thereby grow your overall wealth. Maybe you get a new job offer. Maybe you make the leap and launch that online store you've been talking about. Or maybe you just get really committed to saving and paying off your debts. In any case, you're going to see some positive results.</p> <p>Yes, to manifest wealth or anything else for that matter, you must first believe that you deserve it. Why? Because if you don't stop that nagging little voice in your head that can't stop whining about how bad everything is, you're never going to be able to approach life with a fresh perspective. This is where the meditation and positive thinking comes in. You are literally &quot;opening&quot; yourself up to new possibilities. You are saying to yourself and the Universe that you're ready to start living again instead of just going through the motions.</p> <p>But this is where most people stop.</p> <p>They've meditated. They've practiced some positive self-talk and then they wait. Anyday now... money is just going to start falling out of the sky. It will... I visualized it so it will happen.</p> <p>Unfortunately, when it doesn't rain money, they get discouraged and one of two things happens: either they meditate harder (I'm just not doing it right) or they throw in the towel and come away with an even poorer outlook than they had going in (see? even the Universe is screwing me over!)</p> <p>What they should do instead is start looking for ways to turn those visualizations into real actions.</p> <p>This is what our greatest mentors have meant when they said &quot;I make my own luck&quot;.</p> <p>You make things happen. You look for new ways of doing things and new ideas that could put you a little further along on your metaphorical path. You open yourself up to the notion that &quot;anything is possible&quot; and at some point you realize that anything is.</p> <p>And that is when things will start to happen.</p> <p>Not because you visualized them in your head but because you put yourself in a position to take advantage of new things when they come along.</p> <p>So, what does all this have to do with &quot;living large on a small budget&quot;?</p> <p>Well, maybe the budget doesn't have to be so small after all. Maybe &quot;living large&quot; also includes getting the most out of life which would certainly be achieved by taking new risks and opening yourself up to new opportunities.</p> <p>Or maybe, just maybe, it really is an essential step in arranging your rich. After all, how many millionaires do you know who got that way by thinking &quot;I can't&quot;?</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/kate-luther">Kate Luther</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-secret-really-does-have-a-secret-or-ten-tenets-for-arranging-your-rich-part-3">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/ten-tenets-for-arranging-your-rich-part-1-rich-is-relative">Ten Tenets for &quot;Arranging Your Rich&quot; - Part 1: Rich is Relative</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-same-actions-will-produce-the-same-results-ten-tenets-for-arranging-your-rich-part-2">The Same Actions Will Produce The Same Results (Ten Tenets for Arranging Your Rich: Part 2)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/when-should-you-say-no-to-those-who-want-to-borrow-money-from-you">When Should You Say No to Those Who Want to Borrow Money from You?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/looking-for-answers-in-life-heres-your-key">Looking for Answers in Life? Here&#039;s your Key...</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/three-e-books-to-help-you-make-money-travel-and-change-your-life">Three E-Books to Help You Make Money, Travel, and Change Your Life</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> Career and Income Life Hacks Lifestyle arranging your rich Law of Attraction Making Extra Cash money The Secret Tue, 23 Jun 2009 06:47:05 +0000 Kate Luther 3302 at http://www.wisebread.com Book Review: Excuse Me, Your Job is Waiting! http://www.wisebread.com/book-review-excuse-me-your-job-is-waiting <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/book-review-excuse-me-your-job-is-waiting" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/new_job.jpg" alt="New job sign" title="help wanted sign" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="160" height="240" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>A few weeks ago, I won a copy of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1571745297?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wisebread-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=1571745297">Excuse Me, Your Job Is Waiting: Attract the Work You Want</a> from <a href="http://www.consumerismcommentary.com/" title="Consumeris Commentary">Consumerism Commentary</a> (thanks, Flexo!). If the sign above describes your job, then this book is for you! </p> <p>Actually, I&#39;m not currently looking for employment, but I was interested to know what Laura George had to say about it from a &quot;Law of Attraction&quot; point of view. </p> <p>Before I read this book, I knew very little about the Law of Attraction, other than the fact that I&#39;d seen it several places on the &#39;net and that it had something to do with that Oprah book, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1582701709?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wisebread-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=1582701709">The Secret</a>. I didn&#39;t know if George would expand on it in this book since the focus is on finding employment, but I figured it was worth reading to see what I could see.<br /><strong><br />Summary</strong></p> <p>As it turned out, George had a lot to say about the Law of Attraction. Basically formulated, it states that like attracts like. She applies it specifically to the realm of feelings, saying that if we feel positively about the world and our place in it, we will attract good things. On the other hand, if we feel negatively or mediocre, we will attract negative or mediocre things. What we are sending out and attracting is, according to George, energy. She explains how to use this to &quot;flip&quot; the negative things we tell ourselves (that cause us to send out negative energy) into positive things (so we will send out, and attract, positive energy), how to build up positive energy when we are in the middle of something draining and difficult like a job search.</p> <p>In the middle section of her book, George discusses practical ways to go about an actual job search. As someone who has worked in human resources for years, she has a ton of good insights and ideas for thinking about and producing resumes, cover letters, follow-up letters, interviews and, eventually, job offers. I especially liked her list of common articles of clothing and their connotations (sexuality, power, or approachability) and which connotations you might want to be producing in interviews. She is articulate and funny, and if I ever find myself wanting to really go after a particular job, I&#39;ll come back to this part of the book for sure.</p> <p>The last section of the book covers some sundries that didn&#39;t seem to fit anywhere else. She talks about rejection, and how to formulate positive thoughts when you don&#39;t get a job you thought you wanted and really fit in to. She discusses going solo, starting your own company or freelancing, and is honest about the pros and cons of that. While this part of the book isn&#39;t as structured as the rest, it addressed some questions I&#39;d had as I was reading the rest and I was excited to read her answers.</p> <p><strong>Evaluation: Job Searching</strong></p> <p>I&#39;m breaking my evaluation of the book into two sections, because I have two very different responses to the book on two different levels.</p> <p>George&#39;s insights into job searching are spot-on. After reading the section on resumes, I feel like I know more about resume-writing than I ever have before (things like, be sure to include keywords from an ad or a posting in the resume, because sometimes they&#39;re scanned and evaluated initially by computers). For the first time, I can see how a follow-up letter could be not annoying, but professional and appropriate, and I feel like I could write one. </p> <p>I also have a much better grasp of what goes on behind the scenes in most companies when they&#39;re hiring. Having been there for years, George knows this intimately and explains it with a candor that surprised me. Those sorts of details have always been hush-hush, at least in the companies I&#39;ve worked for. To know what has to happen internally before anyone can be hired gives me patience and understanding for the people I&#39;ve been so frustrated with in the past! Her understanding and explanation of some of the labor laws helps me see why some of the hoops that I have felt so stupid jumping through are necessary and appropriate.</p> <p>Overall, this is one of the best &quot;practical advice for getting a job&quot; books that I&#39;ve ever read.<br /><strong><br />Evaluation: Law of Attraction/Energy Theory<br /></strong><br />This part of the book didn&#39;t make a lot of sense to me. It felt like George was taking observations she&#39;d had and was trying to find a theory that made sense of them. While I like her observations, I&#39;m not so sure about the theory. </p> <p>It&#39;s true that positive people tend to sell themselves better and get jobs they want, while negative people tend to have long job searches and struggle to find any job, let alone one that helps them thrive. However, the Law of Attraction doesn&#39;t make sense as a cause of this phenomenon.</p> <p>When George first talks about &quot;energy,&quot; she seems to indicate that the energy she&#39;s referring to is physical energy, from the human body. What I don&#39;t understand is how my emotions change that, and how other events have charges. When I&#39;m happy, am I actually emitting positively charged particles? When I&#39;m angry and frustrated, am I emitting negative ones? If the energy is truly physical, then this has to be true. I&#39;ve only done a little digging on this, but I&#39;ve found nothing to indicate that the energy in a physical human being changes at all, let alone based on his emotional state. </p> <p>In addition to this question, I wonder how events get charges. Does &quot;car accident&quot; necessarily come with negatively charged particles, which are attracted to my negatively charged particles when I&#39;m upset? Does &quot;super fantabulous job that will let me work part-time from home&quot; somehow carry a positive charge?</p> <p>I have a feeling that people are going to tell me that I&#39;m just a little slow and skeptical, and that it&#39;s really an emotional thing where &quot;energy&quot; is the best word to describe it. In response, I would like to note that George is the one who emphasizes the physical. I don&#39;t think that offering a physical explanation when the energy is actually something else is fair, even if the purpose of the book is not to explain the Law of Attraction but to help people use it to get jobs. If anyone has a coherent explanation of this energy, where it comes from and how events get it, please feel free to leave a comment. As it stands, I don&#39;t understand.</p> <p>As someone who has a little psychological training, it seems like there are other explanations for the phenomena George is trying to explain. I agree that people who are positive, upbeat, and who believe they are the perfect candidate for the jobs they apply tend to get the jobs they want, and they tend to be happier in their jobs than people who are negative, low-energy, or don&#39;t believe in themselves. But this does not have to happen because of some mechanical/natural process. As human beings, we are complex creatures who respond to each other in complex ways. While I can&#39;t go into all the details here, it seems sufficient to say that those doing the hiring respond positively to people who are positive because of human interaction or relationship, not because their energies are somehow meeting and complimenting each other.</p> <p>I could go into a lot more detail and write a book of my own, but my point is not that my explanation is true, but that there are other, legitimate explanations to the phenomena George explains through the Law of Attraction. Since that &quot;Law&quot; has some logical problems, it seems like the best bet is to examine these other explanations.</p> <p><strong>Conclusion</strong></p> <p>George has written a book about getting a job that will make you feel like you can go out and conquer the world. I felt that way after I read it, and I&#39;m not even looking for different employment! She also has tips and insights that will seriously help the process along. The focus on the Law of Attraction makes some of that difficult to read, but I found that her job advice was good even though I couldn&#39;t buy in to the Law of Attraction. If you&#39;re looking for a job, or might be some day and don&#39;t know much about what you&#39;ll be throwing yourself into, give this book a look. You have to do some weeding to get around the Law of Attraction stuff, but the rest is quality.</p> <p>In the spirit of continuing to give, I&#39;m going to pass my copy of the book on to another reader. Leave a comment telling me why I should send it to you (as opposed to anyone else) by next Tuesday at noon, Pacific Time. I&#39;ll pick the one I like the best (I know, I&#39;m SO subjective) and send it along. If you want to actually be able to get the book, please make sure we can contact you by email. </p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/book-review-excuse-me-your-job-is-waiting">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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