General Tips http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/8131/all en-US 12 More Grammar Mistakes That Are Making You Look Stupid http://www.wisebread.com/12-more-grammar-mistakes-that-are-making-you-look-stupid <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/12-more-grammar-mistakes-that-are-making-you-look-stupid" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/businessman-writing-450814525-small.jpg" alt="businessman writing" title="businessman writing" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Having bad grammar can be a job killer.</p> <ul> <li><a href="https://hbr.org/2012/07/i-wont-hire-people-who-use-poo/">Some employers won't hire people who use poor grammar</a>.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Even in industries, such as IT, <a href="http://www.techrepublic.com/blog/career-management/would-you-hire-someone-with-poor-grammar-skills/">good grammar is a requirement</a>.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Human resource experts see <a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/news/why-sloppiness-is-killing-your-job-search/">bad grammar as an obstacle to landing the job</a>.</li> </ul> <p>Simply put: If you're not able to distinguish the difference between &quot;your&quot; and &quot;you're,&quot; employers may not be comfortable with your learning curve.</p> <p>So take action today, and fix these 12 more grammar mistakes that are making you look stupid. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-grammar-mistakes-that-are-making-you-look-stupid?ref=seealso">12 Grammar Mistakes That Are Making You Look Stupid</a>)</p> <h2>Mixing Up Words</h2> <p>At the top of the list of grammar mistakes is the misuse of homonyms (words that sound alike). Let's look at some common mixups.</p> <h3>1. Its vs It's</h3> <ul> <li><em>Its</em> is a possessive pronoun</li> <li><em>It's</em> is a contraction of &quot;it is.&quot;</li> </ul> <p>The test to determine whether or not you're using &quot;it's&quot; correctly is to replace it for &quot;it is.&quot; For example, &quot;<em>It's</em> an apple&quot; is correct (&quot;<em>It is</em> an apple&quot; makes sense), and &quot;<em>It's</em> red car is awesome&quot; is incorrect (&quot;<em>It is</em> red car is awesome&quot; doesn't make sense).</p> <h3>2. Lose vs Loose</h3> <p>That extra &quot;o&quot; makes a world of difference.</p> <ul> <li>Use <em>lose</em> to indicate that you're unable to find something or someone, or fail to win a game or contest. For example, &quot;when I play chess with grandpa, I <em>lose</em> all the time!&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>On the other hand, use <em>loose</em> when something is not tightly fastened, attached, or held. For example, &quot;wearing <em>loose</em> pants is very comfortable.&quot;</li> </ul> <h3>3. To vs Too vs Two</h3> <ul> <li><em>To</em> indicates place or direction. (&quot;I moved from Maryland to Hawaii.&quot;) <em>To</em> is also used when you're using a verb in its infinitive form. (&quot;<em>To</em> make that move was great!&quot;)<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li><em>Too</em> means also. (&quot;I made that move, <em>too</em>!&quot;)<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li><em>Two</em> is the number after one. (&quot;<em>Two</em> people moved from Maryland to Hawaii.&quot;)</li> </ul> <p>Now that you know the difference, test yourself with this sentence: &quot;I'm to/too/two tired to/too/two help you carry these to/too/two suitcases to/too/two the taxi.&quot;</p> <h3>4. Accept vs Except</h3> <p>While these words may sound alike, they have very different meanings. Generally <em>except</em> is a preposition (it can also be a verb or conjunction) and <em>accept</em> is a verb. Here are some examples.</p> <ul> <li>The most common use of except is to exclude somebody or something. For example, &quot;the family was all there <em>except</em> Uncle Jerry.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Use accept when you take or receive something, such as in the event that &quot;you <em>accept</em> the Oscar on behalf of Leonardo DiCaprio.&quot;</li> </ul> <h3>5. Advice vs Advise</h3> <p>Confusing these two words can sound like nails scratching on a chalkboard. <em>Advice</em> is a noun and <em>advise</em> is a verb.</p> <ul> <li>Use <em>advice</em> to refer to guidance or recommendations. (&quot;I accept your <em>advice</em>.&quot;)<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>On the other hand, use <em>advise</em> to indicate the action of giving suggestions or recommendations. (&quot;I <em>advise</em> you to go home.&quot;)</li> </ul> <h2>Idioms</h2> <p>An idiom is an expression whose meaning is not predictable from the usual meanings of the words that make it up. The most mistakes with idioms involve verbs and their associated prepositions.</p> <h3>6. Distinguish From vs Distinguish Between&hellip; And&hellip;.</h3> <p>Both idioms are correct, but you need to use the right prepositions at the right time.</p> <ul> <li>Incorrect: &quot;Some people can't <em>distinguish</em> Monet <em>and</em> Manet.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Correct: &quot;Some people can't <em>distinguish between</em> Monet <em>and</em> Manet.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Correct: Some people can't <em>distinguish</em> Monet <em>from</em> Manet.&quot;</li> </ul> <h3>7. Consider</h3> <p>When you use &quot;consider,&quot; you don't add the preposition &quot;as.&quot;</p> <p>I <em>consider</em> this a common mistake because people think of the similar idiomatic expression, &quot;regard as.&quot;</p> <h3>8. Supposed To</h3> <p>In this case, the problem is not the preposition but the verb tense in the idiom.</p> <ul> <li>Incorrect: &quot;I was suppose to call you last weekend.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Correct: &quot;I was <em>supposed to</em> call you last weekend.&quot;</li> </ul> <h2>Made Up Words or Phrases</h2> <p>These words don't even exist, yet somehow end up in our speech and writing. Here are some terrifying abuses of the English language.</p> <h3>9. Irregardless</h3> <p>Holy double negatives, Batman!</p> <p>&quot;Irregardless&quot; is not a word. When you're trying to say &quot;anyhow&quot; or &quot;anyway&quot; use &quot;regardless.&quot; When you use &quot;regardless&quot; at the beginning of a sentence, add the preposition &quot;of.&quot;</p> <ul> <li>Correct: &quot;They knew it was going to rain; they went to the park <em>regardless</em>.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Correct: &quot;<em>Regardless of</em> the rain, they went to the beach.&quot;</li> </ul> <h3>10. Could of, Would of, and Should of</h3> <p>When said quickly &quot;I would've gone to the movies if you had invited me,&quot; some people may hear &quot;would of.&quot; This happens because &quot;would have&quot; is contracted as &quot;would've.&quot;</p> <p>&quot;Could of,&quot; &quot;would of,&quot; and &quot;should of&quot; are speech slurs of &quot;could've,&quot; &quot;would've,&quot; and &quot;should've.&quot; When writing out these expressions, make sure to spell them correctly as &quot;could've,&quot; &quot;would've,&quot; and &quot;should've.&quot;</p> <h3>11. Doggy-Dog World</h3> <p>A &quot;doggy-dog&quot; world sounds like a wonderful paradise filled with tiny, fluffy, and cuddly puppies.</p> <p>If you're trying to say that the world is a vicious place filled with people that will betray one another to get to the top, then you must be referring to a &quot;dog-eat-dog world.&quot;</p> <h3>12. Dangling Participle</h3> <p>Last but not least, here is my second favorite grammar pet peeve: the dangling participle.</p> <p>Also known as dangling modifier, the dangling participle is one of the most common grammar mistakes. Not only will this error make you look dumb, but also it will render your speech or writing almost unintelligible.</p> <ul> <li>Incorrect: &quot;By studying every day, the grade increased from 70 to 90.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Correct: &quot;By studying every day, Mike increased his score from 70 to 90.&quot;</li> </ul> <p>Notice that a modifier (&quot;By studying every day&quot;) attaches to the first noun it meets. Since grades don't study, the modifier is misplaced in the first example. In the second, it modifies &quot;Mike,&quot; and we understand how he improved his score.</p> <p>Modifier phrases, such as participles, must be right before or right after the noun that they're modifying. Take a look at this next example:</p> <ul> <li>Incorrect: &quot;After declining for months, the company turned around its revenue.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Better: &quot;After declining for months, the revenue was turned around by the company.&quot;<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Best: &quot;The company turned around the revenue, which had been declining for months.&quot; (This is the best choice because it avoids the use of passive voice.)</li> </ul> <p>By paying attention to these grammar mistakes, you are improving the chances of landing your dream job.</p> <p><em>What are your grammar pet peeves? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-more-grammar-mistakes-that-are-making-you-look-stupid" class="sharethis-link" title="12 More Grammar Mistakes That Are Making You Look Stupid" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/damian-davila">Damian Davila</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-more-grammar-mistakes-that-are-making-you-look-stupid">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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But, yes, emergencies do happen. And while you'd be foolish to spend time preparing for any of <em>those</em> three disasters, it's smart and doubly worthwhile to prep for some of the more common ones. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-emergency-situations-you-must-prepare-for-and-5-you-can-ignore?ref=seealso">5 Emergency Situations You Must Prepare For</a>)</p> <p>Read on for our round-up of likely red alert scenarios, complete with tips on how to prevent and get out of them.</p> <h2>1. A Bad Case of Frostbite</h2> <p>If you spend time at high altitudes or in sub-zero climes, chances are you've flirted with frostbite. A mild case can mean your skin becomes partially frozen &mdash; and when it warms back up it's going to hurt like heck. But a bad case of <a href="http://www.ncemi.org/cse/cse1104.htm">frostbite can lead to severe blistering</a>, permanent cold sensitivity, and long-term loss of feeling. Not to mention it's a warning sign of life-threatening hypothermia.</p> <p>So if you think you've been exposed to frostbite of this magnitude &mdash; or if you're at all uncertain &mdash; it's important to remove yourself from the elements as quickly as possible and seek professional emergency medical treatment. As you make your way to the medics, keep in mind two important don'ts. Never use friction to warm body parts that have been exposed to frostbite, for this can further damage the tissue. And never rewarm frostbitten skin while you're still out in the elements &mdash; you'll run the risk of refreezing and doubly damaging your skin.</p> <h2>2. Flat Tires And Blowouts</h2> <p>Prior to 2007 when tire pressure monitoring systems were installed in all vehicles, the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration estimated flat tires and blowouts as the cause of 414 fatalities, 10,275 non-fatal injuries, and 78,392 crashes on American roads annually. Tire pressure monitoring systems have made us safer, but <a href="http://www-nrd.nhtsa.dot.gov/Pubs/811617.pdf">tire troubles are still one of the most common problems faced by drivers</a>. That's because the tires are the only part of the car that are in constant contact with the road, making them extremely vulnerable.</p> <p>The best way to prevent a faulty tire situation is to check your air pressure regularly, rotate your tires every time you change the oil, and keep an eye on the treads, making sure to replace any tires that appear worn out. And <a href="http://www.procarcare.com/icarumba/resourcecenter/encyclopedia/icar_resourcecenter_encyclopedia_emergency2.asp#blowouts">if you do hear a tire pop</a> or experience a sudden lack of control in steering while whizzing down the highway, follow these steps: Get a firm grip on the wheel and slowly apply the brakes (sudden braking can propel your car into a spin-out), pull over to the side of the road, and activate your flashers. Once you're safely stopped out of the way of traffic, change the tire yourself or call for help.</p> <h2>3. A Severe Storm Threat</h2> <p>Be it a hurricane, blizzard, or wildfire, Mother Nature can wreak havoc on our lives. Where you live will help determine what kind of storm event you ought to prepare for, but nonetheless most disaster kits contain many of the same key ingredients. These kits should be assembled well in advance of an emergency, and they should contain <a href="http://www.ready.gov/build-a-kit">everything you need to survive for 72 hours</a>.</p> <p>Some of those items include nonperishable food for you and your pets, bottled water, a sleeping bag or warm blanket for everyone in your household, prescription medications, first aid supplies, matches, a flashlight with extra batteries, and a whistle to signal for help. Be sure to keep your kit in a secure location &mdash; and be sure that everyone in the house knows where it is. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-safest-cities-in-america-from-natural-disasters?ref=seealso">Safest Cities in America From Natural Disasters</a>)</p> <h2>4. Getting The Pink Slip</h2> <p><a href="http://www.gallup.com/poll/168563/job-loss-quickly-lead-hardship.aspx">Four in 10 Americans would feel financial hardship</a> a month from now if they were to lose their job today. Gallup's 2014 Economy and Personal Finance Poll also found that 23% of Americans earning $50,000 or less said they are very or fairly likely to lose their job in the near future. For Americans earning more than $50,000, it's 12%.</p> <p>&quot;With long-term unemployment a serious problem in recent years, many U.S. workers are not in a position financially to go a month, or even a week, without finding a new job if laid off,&quot; the Gallup poll concludes. &quot;That underscores the economic hardship that unemployment of any length can bring on U.S. families, particularly for younger and lower-income workers.&quot;</p> <p>One of the top reasons so many Americans fall into a financial black hole when they lose employment is that they didn't see it coming. So the best way to prevent yourself from falling into this trap is to prepare for the unexpected by creating an emergency savings fund. Paul Golden, spokesman for the National Endowment for Financial Education, recommends setting aside three to six months of living expenses to <a href="http://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/2013/12/26/why-you-need-an-emergency-fund-in-the-new-year">offset any future potential job loss</a>. During a recession, that amount should increase to six to nine months of expenses, Golden says.</p> <h2>5. House Fires</h2> <p>Every year there are <a href="http://www.nfpa.org/research/reports-and-statistics/fires-by-property-type/residential/home-fires">more than 360,000 house fires</a>, killing about 2,500 people and causing more than $7 billion in property damage in the U.S. Cooking equipment is the leading cause of house fires, followed by cigarette smoking and faulty heating equipment. And since two of every five house fires starts in the kitchen, one of the best ways to prevent one in your home is to fire-proof the area around your stove by removing anything flammable (think dish towels, anything made of paper or plastic) within three feet of the burners. It's also important to install and <a href="http://www.redcross.org/prepare/location/home-family/prevent-home-fires">test your home smoke alarm</a> to ensure that it's working properly.</p> <p><em>Are you prepared? For what? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-survive-the-5-most-common-emergency-situations" class="sharethis-link" title="How to Survive the 5 Most Common Emergency Situations " rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/brittany-lyte">Brittany Lyte</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-survive-the-5-most-common-emergency-situations">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-2"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-6-stages-of-dealing-with-financial-disaster">The 6 Stages of Dealing With Financial Disaster</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-weird-ways-to-keep-you-and-your-stuff-safe">7 Weird Ways to Keep You and Your Stuff Safe</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-more-grammar-mistakes-that-are-making-you-look-stupid">12 More Grammar Mistakes That Are Making You Look Stupid</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/3-cheap-and-easy-formulas-for-homemade-windshield-de-icer-plus-bonus-tips">3 Cheap and Easy Formulas for Homemade Windshield De-Icer (Plus Bonus Tips)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-really-easy-ways-to-unclog-drains">10 Really Easy Ways to Unclog Drains</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips disasters emergencies insurance preparation Thu, 20 Nov 2014 12:00:07 +0000 Brittany Lyte 1257139 at http://www.wisebread.com 10 Critical Steps to Protect Your Data in the Cloud http://www.wisebread.com/10-critical-steps-to-protect-your-data-in-the-cloud <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/10-critical-steps-to-protect-your-data-in-the-cloud" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/man-working-laptop-186066717-small.jpg" alt="man working laptop" title="man working laptop" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>While movies have portrayed hackers as both good (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0307949486/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0307949486&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=H5TI6KQEDOMORY32"><em>The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo</em></a>) and evil (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000VNMMR0/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B000VNMMR0&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=IDSOEIWF6ERDSE5A"><em>Live Free or Die Hard</em></a>), the one thing that is clear is that they can do a good deal of damage.</p> <p>Several female celebrities, such as Kate Upton, Jennifer Lawrence, and Hayden Panettiere, became victims of malicious hackers, who nabbed several <a href="http://news.yahoo.com/apparent-hollywood-hack-attack-nabs-stars-nude-pix-013137802.html">intimate pictures from the celebrities' cloud storage accounts</a>.</p> <p>And if you think that this just happens to celebrities, think again. <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/snapchat-hacked-the-snappening-2014-10">Even common folks like you and me are being exploited by malicious hackers</a>. It is time to step up the security of your data on the cloud with these 10 useful tips.</p> <h2>1. Create a Stronger Password</h2> <p>A strong password is your very first line of defense against anybody trying to hack your account. Unfortunately, your password is usually the weakest link. In fact, <a href="http://www.cloudentr.com/latest-resources/industry-news/2014/3/19/weak-passwords-among-top-causes-of-data-breaches-tips-for-password-security">76% of cyber attacks on corporate networks</a> are due to weak passwords.</p> <p>Strengthen your password using these <a href="http://windows.microsoft.com/en-us/windows-vista/tips-for-creating-a-strong-password">security tips from Microsoft</a>:</p> <ol> <li>Make the length of your password at least eight characters. If you want to make it absolutely uncrackable use <a href="http://www.infoworld.com/article/2655121/security/password-size-does-matter.html">15 characters or more</a>.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Skip using your real name, last name, or company name.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Don't build entire words with only letters.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Use a combination of numbers, uppercase and lowercase letters, and symbols (@, #, $, and %), if applicable.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Update passwords regularly and make them significantly different from previous ones.</li> </ol> <p>Using these guidelines, you can create a strong password like this one: ILuv2PlayB@dm1nt()n. By picking characters from the full set of allowed printable characters, you force hackers to guess from <a href="http://www.bu.edu/infosec/howtos/how-to-choose-a-password/">645 trillion possible combinations</a>.</p> <h2>2. Store Your Passwords Securely</h2> <p>That's not a typo. Yes, you need several passwords. Hackers exploit the fact that about <a href="http://nakedsecurity.sophos.com/2013/04/23/users-same-password-most-websites/">55% of Internet users use the same password</a> for several services. The last thing that you want is that after your Dropbox account gets hacked, your online banking account becomes the next target.</p> <p>It goes without saying, keep your password to yourself. Don't store it on visible places, such as taped to the back of your keyboard or smartphone.</p> <p>In a perfect world, you would just memorize them. However, a more realistic approach is to keep an offline notebook in a secure place or use a password management application, such as <a href="http://keepass.info/">KeePass Password Safe</a>, <a href="http://lastpass.com">LastPass</a>, <a href="http://agilebits.com/onepassword">1Password</a>, or <a href="http://passwordsafe.sourceforge.net/index.shtml">Password Safe</a>.</p> <h2>3. Activate Two-Factor Authentication</h2> <p>On top of your password, you can often add an extra layer of security by activating two-factor authorization (also known as 2FA). Without 2FA, hackers only need your username and password to access your data.</p> <p>Several cloud-based services, such as <a href="http://www.cnet.com/how-to/how-to-enable-dropbox-two-step-verification/">Dropbox</a> and <a href="http://www.cnet.com/news/multifactor-authentication-extended-to-all-office-365-users/">Office 365</a>, offer 2FA by sending you a code via text or phone call that you need to access your account. It's an extra step, but once you've set it up on all of your devices, you are good to go.</p> <h2>4. Keep Your Birth Date Private</h2> <p>But don't just stop there.</p> <ul> <li>The name of your first pet</li> <li>Mom's maiden name</li> <li>Last four digits of your social security number</li> <li>Name of the street that you grew up in</li> </ul> <p>What do these have in common? They're all potential answers to security questions to retrieve your password or access to your account. When selecting your security questions, make sure that their answers are not a simple Google search away.</p> <p>Hide your birth date and any other private information from your bio section from any social media sites, online forums, or websites. The more private your personal information is, the less likely that a hacker can find it through search engines.</p> <h2>5. Learn the Process to Report Hackers</h2> <p>Almost every service has a way to submit a report when you think somebody else is using your account. Here is an example from <a href="https://account.live.com/ResetPassword.aspx">Microsoft</a>.</p> <p>By investing the time in becoming familiar with the process of recovering access to your account, you are better prepared for the day that you have to rely on this process. This will help you keep some sanity during that stressful time and know what information is necessary.</p> <h2>6. Be Wary of Public Wi-Fi</h2> <p>Over <a href="http://www.gfi.com/blog/survey-95-6-of-commuters-in-the-us-put-company-data-at-risk-over-free-public-wi-fi/#!">95% of American commuters use free public Wi-Fi</a> to complete work on the go.</p> <p>The problem is that about 60% of them admit they will utilize any free Wi-Fi source they can find. Data transfers happening over public Wi-Fi networks aren't encrypted, so hackers can exploit these public networks to tap into tablets and smartphones.</p> <p>By setting up &quot;hot spot honeypots,&quot; digital thieves tempt people with the offer of free Internet, and gain access to all kinds of private data. And they're not doing anything too high tech: hackers just need a <a href="http://hakshop.myshopify.com/products/wifi-pineapple?variant=81044992">$100 device</a> and can be <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/Business/story?id=3454066">up to 100 feet away</a> from their victims.</p> <p>Use these strategies when attempting to connect to a public Wi-Fi:</p> <ul> <li>Verify the official name of the network with the place offering it. Don't assume that every business or public space offers free Wi-Fi.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Only activate the Wi-Fi feature of your device, when you are about to access a Wi-Fi network that you have verified.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>If planning to review work files, use your company Virtual Private Network (VPN) network, if one is available. VPN encrypts all your data during your session and and hides the identity of the servers to which you are connected. Depending on the nature of your industry, you may never want to risk viewing company files without a VPN connection.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Keep your device's operating system up to date. For example, Apple is constantly releasing security updates to address system vulnerabilities for iPhones and iPads.</li> </ul> <h2>7. Prevent Automatic Upload of Media</h2> <p>If you keep the default settings from cloud storage services, such as iCloud or Dropbox, then all of your photos and videos may be automatically uploaded to the cloud.</p> <p>If you're planning to take some photos and videos that are meant for your eyes only, make sure to update the settings of your cloud storage accounts. Nobody can hack for intimate photos or videos if there are none available online in the first place.</p> <ul> <li>iPhone Users: To prevent photos from automatically uploading from your iPhone or iPod to your iCloud account, you can go to Settings &gt; iCloud &gt; Photo Stream, and turn off My Photo Stream.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Android Users: You need to check any auto-backup settings you can find on individual apps. Some examples of apps uploading media automatically to the cloud are Facebook, Twitter, and Dropbox. Check the settings menu of your apps and disable any photo-syncing that you're not comfortable with.</li> </ul> <h2>8. Backup Your Media Offline</h2> <p>While it is important to prevent undesired media from ending up in the cloud, it is equally important to backup the data that is important to you. An offline backup of your media is not only important for when your phone is lost, stolen, or severely damaged, but also for when somebody hacks into your cloud account and deletes all of your data!</p> <p>Most smartphones provide a way to back up your device's media that is not cloud-based and that can be stored in your personal computer. For example, Apple devices can leverage <a href="http://support.apple.com/kb/ht1766">iTunes to create backups</a>, and Samsung devices can backup through the <a href="http://www.samsung.com/us/kies/">Kies software</a>.</p> <h2>9. Beware Fake Messages</h2> <p>If you use cloud based storage services, be on the lookout for phishing emails.</p> <p>These emails may look like real messages from the developers of the service, but they are not. Hackers are trying to trick you into providing your personal information.</p> <p>Here are some red flags to watch out for:</p> <ul> <li>The spelling of the sender's email is funny looking. For example, instead of <a href="mailto:xxx@dropbox.com">xxx@dropbox.com</a>, it reads <a href="mailto:xxx@dropboxx.com">xxx@dropboxx.com</a> or <a href="mailto:xxx@drop-box.co">xxx@drop-box.co</a>.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>The hyperlinked URLs have misleading domain names. For example, if you hover over a link, you notice that instead of going to the apple.com domain, it goes to apple-com.info.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>The message contains plenty of misspellings or typos.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>You are asked to submit your password or personal information, such as mailing address, phone number, or social security number, via email.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>The message includes a form in Word or PDF format for you to fill out.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>You're asked for money to cover for expenses.</li> </ul> <p>If you see any of these red flags, don't click on any of the links, and delete the email immediately.</p> <h2>10. Delete What You Don't Want Anybody to See</h2> <p>In an era of potentially unlimited storage through the cloud, we are tempted to keep everything.</p> <ul> <li>THOSE pictures from your bachelorette party,</li> <li>Intimate videos or sexts with your current or past partners,</li> <li>Progress pictures when you started your diet,</li> <li>Financial or tax documents over 5-years old, or</li> <li>Scanned copies of IDs from several years ago.</li> </ul> <p>If you don't want anybody else getting their hands on your data, delete it. This is the only way that you can be sure.</p> <p><em>What steps have you taken to protect your data in the cloud? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-critical-steps-to-protect-your-data-in-the-cloud" class="sharethis-link" title="10 Critical Steps to Protect Your Data in the Cloud" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/damian-davila">Damian Davila</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-critical-steps-to-protect-your-data-in-the-cloud">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-3"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-free-apps-to-boost-your-online-productivity">8 Free Apps to Boost Your Online Productivity</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-complete-idiots-guide-to-speed-reading-a-book-review">The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Speed Reading: A Book Review</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/that-what-if-you-knew-you-were-going-to-die-question">That &quot;What if you knew you were going to die&quot; question</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/the-7-stages-of-procrastination-read-this-right-now">The 7 Stages of Procrastination (Read This Right Now!)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/shhhhh-how-to-block-out-noise">Shhhhh: How to Block Out Noise</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Productivity cloud backup computer security computers hackers Thu, 13 Nov 2014 12:00:08 +0000 Damian Davila 1253966 at http://www.wisebread.com 10 Surprising Ways to Use Bungee Cords http://www.wisebread.com/10-surprising-ways-to-use-bungee-cords <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/10-surprising-ways-to-use-bungee-cords" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/bungee%20cord.jpg" alt="bungee cord" title="bungee cord" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Everyone has a bungee cord or two hanging around the house or garage. They're handy little things for securing items, come in a wide variety of lengths, and they're inexpensive.</p> <p>They're also really, really versatile. Here are 10 useful and creative ways to use your bungee cords.</p> <h2>1. A Second Curtain Panel Holder</h2> <p>Look around the hardware stores and you'll see that the price of a double curtain rod is double the price of a single. That's annoying, as most of the time that second panel is made of something much more sheer, and is not the focus of the window treatment. So, instead of buying a double, simply stretch a bungee cord between the fittings and put your sheer panels on that. The front panels will hide the bungee cord ends, and they take just seconds to fit. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-unexpected-uses-for-tension-rods?ref=seealso">20 Unexpected Uses for Tension Rods</a>)</p> <h2>2. A Ball/Cuddly Toy Holder</h2> <p>You know those ball holders they have in places like Target and Walmart, that use long elastic cords to keep the balls in place? Well, they can be made using bungee cords. Just find a space in your garage and stretch handful of bungee cords vertically from a shelf, or the wall, to some hooks screwed into the garage floor. Now, you can keep all your balls, toys and other loose items behind them. Everything is easy to access, but is kept firmly in place until needed. You can also stretch them horizontally between the studs to hold balls, tools and other loose items.</p> <h2>3. Holding Down the Garbage Can Lid</h2> <p>Even if the lid of the garbage can lock on its own, it's rarely strong enough to stop a stiff breeze from blowing it open. On windy days, that means your garbage can spill all over the street, the lawn, and the neighbors' property. It can also be raided by critters like raccoons. Some tight bungee cords can keep the lid held firmly in place.</p> <h2>4. New Handles for Old Totes</h2> <p>Are your bag handles looking a little worse for wear? Don't throw the whole thing away. Replace the old handles with colorful bungee cords. They're flexible, stretchy, and come in a variety of colors and patterns. You can even swap them out with your mood.</p> <h2>5. Keep Bags and Groceries Steady in the Car</h2> <p>Wrap a bungee cord around the headrest, and hook your bag handles over the ends. No more runaway bags. You can also use bungee cords in the trunk to keep bags and boxes from shifting around in traffic.</p> <h2>6. Secure Your Ironing Board Cover</h2> <p>When you're doing some precision ironing, you do not need the hassle of an ironing board cover that refuses to stay firmly in place. You can solve that problem with bungee cords. Make a few holes in the undersides of the cover and stretch the bungee cords between them; one or two cords across the width of the board, and one down the length. That cover will not move again.</p> <h2>7. Emergency Suspenders</h2> <p>If you are out of belts or suspenders and your jeans are falling down, two bungee cords make an excellent back-up plan. They fit perfectly through the belt loops, and are surprisingly comfortable. With a sweater or t-shirt over the top, no one will even know your little secret. They're also great when you're doing DIY or grubby jobs around the house, and don't want to get a good belt or pair of suspenders dirty.</p> <h2>8. Windproof Your Tablecloth Outdoors</h2> <p>Anyone who has ever had a picnic in the park, or gone camping with tablecloths, will know the pain of a windy day. The tablecloth whips up and flies everywhere, and you usually have to weigh it down on each corner with something heavy. Of course, the second anyone moves that big bottle of ketchup or bowl of nuts, the whole plan is over. Use two bungee cords stretched across the ends of the table, and your tablecloth will stay put on the windiest day.</p> <h2>9. Repair a Broken Chair or Sofa</h2> <p>When the strapping on the back of a chair breaks, or the cushion support starts to give way, bungee cords can come to the rescue. If you string cords where the strapping used to be, and keep them as tight as possible, they will easily support a person's weight as they lean back, or sit down. For extra strength, weave the cords horizontally and vertically, over and under, for a solid lattice framework. With the cushions over the top, they won't even be seen. Or, you can make a feature of them on garden furniture.</p> <h2>10. Exercise</h2> <p>Resistance bands are becoming a common part of workout routines. You can use bungee cords as a cheap and effective alternative. If you are having trouble holding the ends, fashion a small handle from a width of thick wooden dowel, or a broom handle. They can also be used to add extra resistance to weight training routines.</p> <p><em>Do you have an ingenious use for bungee cords? What is it?</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-surprising-ways-to-use-bungee-cords" class="sharethis-link" title="10 Surprising Ways to Use Bungee Cords" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/paul-michael">Paul Michael</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-surprising-ways-to-use-bungee-cords">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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While you may think that your body has no limits, you may be very close to the point in which you are going to experience absolute exhaustion and overall disinterest. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-little-ways-to-de-stress-and-enjoy-life-more?ref=seealso">6 Little Ways to De-Stress and Enjoy Life More</a>)</p> <p>To avoid burnout, here are the four signs to watch out for and how to address them.</p> <h2>1. Severe Lack of Motivation</h2> <p>Burnout makes you think that caring about work or home is a total waste of energy. You feel as if nothing you do can ever make a difference or is appreciated. This general feeling of dissatisfaction makes you overthink everything and leaves you stuck in a state of &quot;paralysis by analysis.&quot; You just don't know where to get started.</p> <p>What's even worse is that you don't even care because you believe that it doesn't affect anybody. This is a common sign for people that feel disengaged at work. <a href="http://www.gallup.com/strategicconsulting/163007/state-american-workplace.aspx">Only 30% of American employees feel engaged at work</a>. If you're stuck in a job that is going nowhere, it may eventually get to you. The group that is largest victim of this type of job-related burnout are <a href="http://www.nbcnews.com/id/45357267/ns/business-forbes_com/t/why-some-women-are-burning-out-work/?fb_ref=.TsvEvx98ch4.like&amp;fb_source=home_multiline">under-30 millennial women</a>.</p> <p>If you have severe lack of motivation, you may engage regularly in unhealthy coping strategies, such as binge drinking, smoking, or overeating junk food. Pay attention to these unusual behaviors.</p> <h2>2. Frequent Mood Swings</h2> <p>If you have frequent mood swings that are inexplicable, you may be suffering from burnout. You may experience a constant state of emotional exhaustion because you go back and forth between absolute happiness and extreme depression.</p> <p>This rollercoaster ride of emotions can lead to <a href="http://www.naswassurance.org/pdf/PP_Burnout_Final.pdf">depersonalization, alienation, and depression</a>. These three feelings blur your mind and turn even the simplest task into an overwhelming challenge. You have an overall feeling of dissatisfaction and become unpredictable.</p> <h2>3. Physical Exhaustion</h2> <p>On top of your emotional exhaustion due to mood swings, you also feel physically tired all the time. It's not that you have less energy than usual, you feel completely spent.</p> <p>The main culprit is that you are not sleeping well. Not getting enough rest and sleep for several days is a surefire way to burn out.</p> <h2>4. Frequent Skin Breakouts, Rashes, and Blemishes</h2> <p>Our bodies are amazing organisms that provide us clear signals that are taking on more than we can handle. You can wear the effects of burnout on your face, skin, and hair.</p> <p>If you have burnout, you may experience a larger number of skin breakouts, rashes, and blemishes. If left untreated, those ailments may turn for the worse. A study at Yale University showed a correlation between prolonged stressful life events and the diagnosis of melanoma, the deadliest form of skin cancer. When compared to people that didn't have skin cancer, people with melanoma had experienced a more stressful life before the diagnosis.</p> <p>The American Academy of Dermatology suggests that <a href="https://www.aad.org/media-resources/stats-and-facts/prevention-and-care/stress-and-skin">stress can also increase hair and nail problems</a>. Beyond suffering the direct effects of stress on your body, people with burnout tend to worsen those problems by abusing their skin through scratching, pulling, or rubbing.</p> <p>Now, that you know the four signs of burnout, let's talk about how to address them.</p> <h2>Avoiding Burnout</h2> <h3>1. Take More Vacations</h3> <p>If you recognize the four signs of burnout, you need to take a vacation. Don't become part of the <a href="http://www.businessinsider.com/why-employees-dont-use-vacation-days-2014-8">two in five Americans that don't use all their paid vacation days</a>. Vacations are good for your body and your career.</p> <ul> <li>Vacations allow you to catch up on some well-deserved shut eye and readjust your sleeping patterns.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>People who engage in more leisure activities find <a href="http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=111887591">more meaning in life</a>.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>The more frequent the vacations, the longer that men live, according to findings from the <a href="http://www.framinghamheartstudy.org">Framingham Heart Study</a>.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li><a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16834516">Vacations have positive effects</a> on wellbeing and performance-related outcomes.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Employees that take vacations have a lower chance of work burnout.</li> </ul> <h3>2. Get Some Sleep</h3> <p>You need to recharge your batteries. While a scheduled nap is a great way to get a second wind from a late night, a nap can't make up for several nights of bad sleeping.</p> <p>Develop a wind-down routine to help your body prep your sleep. Eat dinner before 7 p.m., take a warm bath, avoid electronics before bedtime, and allow yourself to relax. Proper sleep is necessary for your body and mind to recover. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-ways-to-sleep-better-in-fewer-hours?ref=seealso">7 Ways to Sleep Better in Fewer Hours</a>)</p> <h3>3. Consult a Physician</h3> <p>This is how to recover from the effects of stress on your body:</p> <ul> <li>If you notice any abnormalities in your skin, hair, or nails, take that as a cue to slow down and relax.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Consult a dermatologist to address the symptoms and ask for a plan of action during periods of extreme stress. Have an &quot;emergency kit&quot; ready, or learn how to procure one fast.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Resist playing, touching, or scratching those sensitive spots. That only worsens the problems.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Pay attention to the triggers of your hair, nail, or skin problems, and minimize those stressful situations.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Smile more because it helps relax the skin in your face. A relaxed face has a smaller chance of developiing obstructed pores.</li> </ul> <h3>4. Seek Support From Others</h3> <p>Victims of burnout tend to <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/high-octane-women/201205/where-do-you-fall-the-burnout-continuum">isolate themselves from others and decrease their number of social interactions</a>. This is a vicious cycle. Burnout leads to isolation and isolation further worsens burnout.</p> <p>Break the cycle and reach out to your relatives, co-workers, and friends. Talking and hanging out with others allows you to put things in perspective, provide an opportunity to vent, and learn tips that have worked for others that experienced burnout.</p> <p><em>Have you experienced any of these signs of burnout? What did you do to reduce your stress?</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/4-signs-youre-burned-out-and-how-to-recover" class="sharethis-link" title="4 Signs You&#039;re Burned Out (and How to Recover)" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/damian-davila">Damian Davila</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/4-signs-youre-burned-out-and-how-to-recover">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-5"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-nervous-tics-you-need-to-stop-right-now">6 Nervous Tics You Need to Stop Right Now</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-little-ways-to-de-stress-and-enjoy-life-more">6 Little Ways to De-Stress (and Enjoy Life More)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-productive-ways-to-reduce-stress">15 Productive Ways to Reduce Stress</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-simple-ways-to-fight-burnout">5 Simple Ways to Fight Burnout</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-times-youre-wasting-mental-energy-without-realizing-it">7 Times You&#039;re Wasting Mental Energy Without Realizing It</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Personal Development burnout fatigue stress Thu, 30 Oct 2014 11:00:05 +0000 Damian Davila 1246350 at http://www.wisebread.com 3 Unbelievable Visualization Board Success Stories http://www.wisebread.com/3-unbelievable-visualization-board-success-stories <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/3-unbelievable-visualization-board-success-stories" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/vision%20board.jpg" alt="vision board" title="vision board" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Visualization boards, collaged with images and words depicting our goals and desires, are a popular technique for manifesting what we want out of life. It's really quite simple: Paste visual representations of your wishes and intentions on poster board, thereby activating the subconscious mind to focus its energies on manifesting them to come true. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/one-thing-you-need-to-do-to-be-happy-and-improve-your-relationships?ref=seealso">One Thing You Need to Do to be Happy and Improve Your Relationships</a>)</p> <p>&quot;If you repeat the word, 'blue, blue, blue,' and you start looking around the room, all the blue things will start popping out,&quot; says sociologist and life coach Martha Beck. &quot;Part of it is quantum physics&hellip; We know now, scientifically, that <a href="http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Go-Beyond-The-Secret_1">consciousness brings matter into being</a> where there was energy. So it's not even necessarily that it draws it toward you. The conclusion is you're literally creating some of this stuff.&quot;</p> <p>It's a concept that has been given <a href="http://www.oprah.com/spirit/O-Dream-Board-Envision-Your-Best-LifeTM">the gold star of approval by the likes of Oprah.</a> But if it sounds a little hokey to you, you've got company. Dr. Neil Farber, an expert in psychology, writes that <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/neil-farber-md-phd">visualization boards fall short in helping us achieve our goals</a> because they don't require us to take any real action. Rather, they are all about letting our thoughts do the work for us.</p> <p>&quot;Fantasizing about your perfect world and your perfect life may make you feel better in the short term but will limit your ability to transform your dreams into reality,&quot; Farber writes. &quot;Dream about it, envision how you will realistically do it or get it, and then get off your tush and make it happen.&quot;</p> <p>So: Do visualization boards really work?</p> <p>It's a controversial question, and there's little scientific evidence to support or deny the blessings they're meant to bring into our lives. But there are certainly believers among us. Read on for our roundup of the most amazing visualization success stories out there. You just might be inspired to create your own.</p> <h2>1. Manifesting Love</h2> <p>Life Coach Cheryl Richardson said she pasted a photo of a man on her visualization board. Not just any man &mdash; a man representing the person she wanted to fall in love with and marry. <a href="http://www.oprah.com/spirit/The-Law-of-Attraction-Real-Life-Stories_1/7">Now she's married to a man who looks like the picture of the man on her visualization board</a>. Coincidence? Maybe, but Richardson says no. It didn't happen overnight &mdash; in fact, it took years &mdash; but Richardson said she firmly believes she manifested her love and marriage from her visualization board into real life.</p> <p>Richardson's marriage may be the most miraculous thing she's manifested, but she said her visualization board has brought her many other successes. &quot;Phil Donahue was on here, and that's the first national show I ever did after I put him on the board,&quot; she said.</p> <h2>2. 15 Minutes of Fame</h2> <p>When Lisa Nichols, a struggling single mom turned successful entrepreneur, made her visualization board, she included the following words: &quot;<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U9Rvcx2L2CI">Lisa Reveals All On Oprah</a>.&quot; A few years later, that's exactly what she did. Nichols, a motivational speaker, was invited by Oprah to discuss her visualization board experience on the show as part of a segment inspired by <a href="http://www.thesecret.tv/index.html">The Secret</a>, a movie about the law of attraction in which the main character manifests his dream home from a visualization board.</p> <p>&quot;It's like if you were at a restaurant and you ordered something,&quot; Nichols said, describing her own visualization board process. &quot;You fully expect it to come served that way. That's how the universe is. You're putting out orders consciously and unconsciously and expecting it to come back. So if you say, 'I'm never going to have a good relationship.' &mdash; you just placed an order.&quot;</p> <h2>3. Olympic Motivation</h2> <p>When three-time Olympian Ruben Gonzalez was a kid, he wrote Sports Illustrated asking where he could learn how to luge. The magazine mailed Gonzalez a photograph of a man racing on a luge, and Gonzalez framed it so <a href="http://www.thelugeman.com/success-vision-board.htm">he could see it from his bed every morning when he woke up</a>.</p> <p>&quot;Every morning, the first person I saw when I woke up was 'The Luge Man,'&quot; Gonzalez wrote. &quot;Seeing 'The Luge Man' was a constant reminder that I was training for the Olympics. He reminded me to eat right, to work out, and to surround myself with winners. At night, before turning out the lights, the last person I saw was 'The Luge Man.' All night long, I dreamt about the luge and the Olympics.</p> <p>&quot;During the day, the picture focused my conscious mind on the dream. At night, it conditioned my unconscious mind to aim for my goal.&quot;</p> <p>Gonzalez is now such a believer in the success that visualization boarding brought to his life that he has an entire website dedicated to encouraging others to try it for themselves.</p> <p><em>Do you use a visualization board? Has it worked for you? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/3-unbelievable-visualization-board-success-stories" class="sharethis-link" title="3 Unbelievable Visualization Board Success Stories" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/brittany-lyte">Brittany Lyte</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/3-unbelievable-visualization-board-success-stories">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-6"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/successful-women-have-these-7-things-in-their-bags-do-you">Successful Women Have These 7 Things in Their Bags — Do You?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/change-your-life-by-learning-how-to-admit-youre-wrong">Change Your Life by Learning How to Admit You&#039;re Wrong</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-things-people-with-good-communication-skills-never-do">12 Things People With Good Communication Skills Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/masters-of-small-talk-never-do-these-10-things-do-you">Masters of Small Talk Never Do These 10 Things — Do You?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-dumb-little-things-you-need-to-stop-saying-today">9 Dumb Little Things You Need to Stop Saying Today</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Personal Development optimism positive thinking success visualization board Tue, 21 Oct 2014 17:00:07 +0000 Brittany Lyte 1239950 at http://www.wisebread.com 15 Productive Ways to Reduce Stress http://www.wisebread.com/15-productive-ways-to-reduce-stress <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/15-productive-ways-to-reduce-stress" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/businessman-golf-135224775-small.jpg" alt="businessman golf" title="businessman golf" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>There's no way to avoid stress altogether &mdash; unless you know something we don't know &mdash; but there are plenty of positive ways you can reduce it before it gets out of hand. Let's look at 15.</p> <h2>1. Take Your Business to the Golf Course</h2> <p>Mixing a little business with pleasure on the links is a great way to relieve stress, says Tony Gomes, president of a financial services company that helps manage wealth.</p> <p>&quot;My job can be stressful at times, like many people's, but I find one of the most <a href="http://tonygomesonline.com/reasons-why-every-business-professionals-needs-to-learn-how-to-play-golf/">productive ways to reduce stress</a> is to go on a business golf outing,&quot; he says. &quot;It is well known that a lot of business gets done on the golf course, but also, golf is seen as a very relaxing way to spend time. People may think that there are some emotional peaks and valleys that enter when playing a round of golf, but if you are out there for other purposes (business, exercise, etc.), then it can be one of the more relaxing activities.&quot;</p> <h2>2. Get Your 'Om' On With Meditation</h2> <p>Barb Schmidt is the author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0757317987/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0757317987&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=NWME563IWK26U7WB">The Practice: Simple Tools for Managing Stress, Finding Inner Peace and Uncovering Happiness</a>, and she counts meditation among her top stress-relieving tactics.</p> <p>&quot;Starting your day in stillness and peace is setting the tone for your whole day,&quot; she says. &quot;In a 5-minute meditation, you are training your mind by placing your attention on your breath, practicing being patient, and spending time with yourself, connecting with that deep place of calmness and strength. This time in the morning grounds you as you go into your day with the knowing you are carrying this peace with you.&quot;</p> <p>If you're not necessarily into that holistic way of thinking, perhaps you're keen to know that there's <a href="http://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/in-depth/meditation/art-20045858">scientific evidence that meditation is ideal for stress management</a>.</p> <h2>3. Plan Your Tomorrow Today</h2> <p>You can eliminate a decent amount of stress by thinking ahead, according to Dr. Joshua Jacobi, a board certified cardiologist.</p> <p>&quot;Plan out the day in advance the night before,&quot; he suggests. &quot;I like to think of the analogy of driving in a car. If my day is planned out, then I know where I am going. If my day is not planned out in advance, then I feel like I am lost driving around in my car. Being lost stresses me out.&quot;</p> <p>Put this advice to use right now. Pick out your outfit, make your lunch, and make a to-do list for tomorrow. Your stress level is almost guaranteed to go down at least a little.</p> <h2>4. Sweat It Out the Old Fashioned Way</h2> <p>Feeling overwhelmed and a little anxious? Send those stress symptoms packing by getting that body in motion.</p> <p>There are <a href="http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/stress-management/in-depth/exercise-and-stress/art-20044469">a number of benefits to working out</a>, like increased production of endorphins (neurotransmitters that give you the feel-goods), letting your mind concentrate on something else besides your burdens, and better sleep. Have you ever noticed how upbeat your fitness-minded friends are? They're in on the secret, and you should be too.</p> <h2>5. Add More Yoga to Your Routine</h2> <p>Like meditation, yoga is beneficial when you're dealing with stress. You're able to concentrate on a positive activity while practicing yoga instead of harping on the negatives in your life.</p> <p>&quot;The <a href="http://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/features/yoga-for-stress-management">benefits of yoga include decreased stress</a> and tension, increased strength and balance, increased flexibility, lowered blood pressure and reduced cortisol levels,&quot; said Beth Shaw, Founder/President of Yogafit Training Systems.</p> <p>So grab your mat, practice your Downward Dog, and let that stress slip away.</p> <h2>6. Put Your Problems on Paper</h2> <p>As a writer, I can tell you that putting my thoughts down on paper is a cathartic experience when I'm under a lot of stress. Have you heard that piece of advice that when you're mad at something, particularly a person, you should write them a letter and then burn it afterward? It's not a bad suggestion, because in most cases you'll calm down during the writing process and you'll get your issues out so you can handle them in a more positive way.</p> <p>Life mastery coach Jason Treu agrees.</p> <p>&quot;Write a letter forgiving someone else,&quot; he says. &quot;You never have to deliver it. Bottling up anger and resentment causes high levels of stress. Forgiveness doesn't take two parties &mdash; just one. You write the letter, then stand in front of a mirror and read it. It's pretty amazing at what happens.&quot;</p> <h2>7. Look Into the Benefits of Acupuncture</h2> <p>Acupuncture dates back many millennia &mdash; like way back to the BCE &mdash; so there's reason to believe that it's an effective treatment for stress relief.</p> <p>A 2013 study published in the Journal of Endocrinology demonstrated that acupuncture blocks the chronic effects of stress, according to Nicole Murray, a licensed acupuncturist.</p> <p>&quot;First, acupuncture regulates the sympathetic nervous system 'fight or flight' response. Second, acupuncture regulates the hormones that affect the body's reaction to stress, mood and emotions,&quot; she explains. &quot;In our clinic, Beach Community Acupuncture in San Diego, stress is the primary reason many of our patients seek treatment. Stress also contributes to other, more serious health conditions. Patients overwhelmingly report stress relief and relaxation after receiving acupuncture. Even better, there are more and more community acupuncture clinics popping up around the country to make these treatments more affordable.&quot;</p> <h2>8. Eliminate the Unnecessary</h2> <p>A feeling of peace washes over me when I cut something out of my life that was causing me stress. I'm sure you've experienced this before, too. It's a practice we should do a bit more often perhaps.</p> <p>Licensed psychologist Dr. Anita Marchesani says that all of her clients arrive stressed out &mdash; and she's ready to help them overcome it.</p> <p>&quot;The first thing we do is figure out what needs to go from their lives or businesses,&quot; she explains. &quot;This means saying 'no' or 'not right now' to certain demands that do not align with their primary objectives, no matter what they are. Good, solid, and consistent boundaries are a foundational stress management tool. It increases focus, and therefore increases productivity. People get results when they do this&hellip; although no one 'likes' to do this.&quot;</p> <h2>9. Express Your Feelings More Freely</h2> <p>I've never been known to mince words, so I totally agree with Dr. Fran Walfish &mdash; psychotherapist and expert panelist on the upcoming WE TV show &quot;Sex Box&quot; &mdash; when she advocates for saying exactly what's on your mind as a way to relieve stress.</p> <p>&quot;Express your feelings in the moment,&quot; she encourages. &quot;Do not allow anger and disappointment to build up inside you. Say what you feel clearly and respectfully. It will free you.&quot;</p> <p>Bottling those feelings up will only drag you down in the long run. Let it out.</p> <h2>10. Activate Dance Therapy</h2> <p>This is one of the more interesting and super fun ways to relieve stress that I've heard: Dance! The advice comes from Kim Hardy, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0978618750/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0978618750&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=W6U3HW6I5EJ7KV6K">RELAUNCH!: 5 Keys to Getting Past Stuck and Stress at Work and Life</a>.</p> <p>&quot;At the end of a stressful day, I like to go into my garage and turn up the music as loud as I can until I'm able to feel the music vibrating in my soul, and then I dance,&quot; she confesses. &quot;My musical guests range from Michael Jackson to James brown, and sometimes I sprinkle in a little country to mix it up.&quot;</p> <p>Let's get this stress-free party started!</p> <h2>11. Breathe, Relax, Daydream</h2> <p>If your day won't allow for yoga or an impromptu dance party, you can still lower your stress. Try this three-prong approach detailed by Dr. Lori Schade &mdash; a licensed marriage and family therapist who often treats patients for stress-related depression, anxiety, and relationship problems &mdash; anytime, anywhere.</p> <ul> <li>Breathe with your diaphragm. Under stress, people have a tendency to breathe shallowly in their chest, and deep breathing begins to reverse the stress response.<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Engage in a progressive muscle relaxation exercise in which you start at the top of your head and tighten muscle groups as tight as you can and then release, releasing stress in the process (moving from the top of the head to neck, shoulders, chest, arms, stomach, etc., down to your feet).<br /> &nbsp;</li> <li>Create an image for yourself while you breathe, somewhere peaceful. Research shows that by imagining yourself relaxed, the brain will start to respond in ways as if you are participating in that scene.</li> </ul> <h2>12. Spend Time on an Activity That Requires Little Thought</h2> <p>When life gets complicated and stress starts to take over, engage in something decidedly mundane.</p> <p>New York-based artist Imani Powell-Razat says that she allows her mind to &quot;completely zone out&quot; with boring daily tasks like washing the dishes, sweeping the floor, or stretching a canvas.</p> <p>Take a cue from Imani the next time you feel stress taking over by finding something to do that requires little no thought.</p> <h2>13. Ditch the Diet</h2> <p>&quot;A study conducted at UCLA found that dieting increases both perceived stress as well as the stress hormone cortisol,&quot; says Dr. Ellen R. Albertson, a licensed wellness coach and founder of <a href="http://www.smashyourscale.com">SmashYourScale.com</a></p> <p>The gist of this premise, according to the psychologist behind the study, Dr. A Janet Tomiyama, is that if not eating food makes us feel badly, then eating food must make us feel good. &quot;As a stress researcher, I realized that I can empirically measure whether food can or cannot relieve stress,&quot; she says.</p> <h2>14. Clear the Clutter</h2> <p>Similar to how you can lower stress by eliminating unnecessary people and things from you life, clearing the clutter can be a beneficial tactic in finding more inner peace, too.</p> <p>Modern feng shui master Dana Claudat says that &quot;by spending even 10 minutes a day sifting through a junk drawer, weeding out a closet, eliminating extra paperwork and the like, you can dramatically decrease stress. Electronic clutter &mdash; emails, social media, files on computers &mdash; is just as important these days to clear as the obvious clutter of papers, extra stuff, piles for donation, and everyday mess.&quot;</p> <h2>15. Treat Yourself</h2> <p>Many of these suggestions on how to lower stress have come from doctors and other experts, but this one is all me.</p> <p>When I'm stressed, I like to take a step back and evaluate everything that I've got going on. My stress is usually a result of being too busy. But being too busy generally means that I'm being productive &mdash; and that's cause for a little self-praise. I like to give myself a pat on the back (because who else will?) for handling my responsibilities the best way I know how and continuing to truck on.</p> <p>I also like to treat myself to something special (like a piece of chocolate cake) or engage in an activity that helps me unwind (like retail therapy) to take my mind off life for a bit. If you're not taking time for yourself and treating yourself to small pleasures along the way, life will pass you by (and give you <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/face-it/201203/does-stress-cause-wrinkles-and-gray-hair-fact-or-fiction">gray hair and wrinkles faster</a>), and you might not realize it until it's too late. Step back, relax, and do something nice for yourself today. You deserve it.</p> <p><em>Do you have other productive ways that we can lower stress? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-productive-ways-to-reduce-stress" class="sharethis-link" title="15 Productive Ways to Reduce Stress" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-productive-ways-to-reduce-stress">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-7"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/4-signs-youre-burned-out-and-how-to-recover">4 Signs You&#039;re Burned Out (and How to Recover)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-nervous-tics-you-need-to-stop-right-now">6 Nervous Tics You Need to Stop Right Now</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-little-ways-to-de-stress-and-enjoy-life-more">6 Little Ways to De-Stress (and Enjoy Life More)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-times-youre-wasting-mental-energy-without-realizing-it">7 Times You&#039;re Wasting Mental Energy Without Realizing It</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/change-your-life-by-learning-how-to-admit-youre-wrong">Change Your Life by Learning How to Admit You&#039;re Wrong</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Personal Development stress stress reduction Tue, 21 Oct 2014 11:00:05 +0000 Mikey Rox 1240247 at http://www.wisebread.com 11 Ways to Get Over Rejection http://www.wisebread.com/11-ways-to-get-over-rejection <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/11-ways-to-get-over-rejection" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/boy-rejected-relationship-177307922-small.jpg" alt="boy rejected" title="boy rejected" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="141" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Rejection sucks.</p> <p>That, my friends, is a cold, hard fact. No matter what realm of life you've lost out on &mdash; work, school, relationships, home &mdash; not being chosen is hard.</p> <p>It's easy to let a rejection or two make you feel like, just maybe, there's something wrong with you. Maybe it really is you and not them. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mend-a-broken-heart-without-breaking-the-bank?ref=seealso">Mend a Broken Heart Without Breaking the Bank</a>)</p> <p>While getting past a rejection and finding your spirit and energy again can be a difficult process, taking your time to examine the situation and learn from it is one of the best ways to grow. This gives you the opportunity to make some changes to your behavior for next time, and to become more secure in who you are, so that rejection doesn't rock you as hard next time.</p> <h2>Understanding Rejection</h2> <p>Before you can start to get over your rejection, it helps to understand why being rejected sucks so much.</p> <h3>Fear of Rejection Is Hard-Wired</h3> <p>Being an essential and valued part of a group used to be even more important than it is now. Think about it: In ancient societies, it would have been nearly impossible to find food and water and defend yourself all on your own. If your social group left you behind, you would be almost sure to die. Thus, <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/thriving101/201012/rejection-losers-guide">the human brain is wired to fear being alone</a>.</p> <p>While not getting a job or a date don't have life-and-death significance now, our brains don't know that, and so we end up feeling desperate and lost when we are rejected.</p> <h3>Rejection Leads to Insecurity</h3> <p>Because rejection once meant that our very existence became much less secure, our brains began to associate the experience of being rejected with feeling insecure. Security came from being part of the group, and death &mdash; the ultimate insecurity &mdash; came from being separated from them.</p> <p>Since being part of a group is so important to us, <a href="http://www.professional-counselling.com/dealing-with-rejection.html#.VCLvAC5dUlh">we tend to feel worthless when we experience rejection</a>. We feel like there's no way we can possibly survive, and so we begin to think our very existence does not mean much.</p> <h2>Getting Over It</h2> <p>Now that we have a basic understanding of why rejection hurts so much, it's time to start overcoming it.</p> <h3>1. Take Care of Yourself</h3> <p>When you're feeling worthless, it's easy to let self-care go out the window. What's the point, when you feel like you're going to die no matter what you do? But caring for yourself shows that you value who you are, even if other people don't. Start by caring for your body: eat well, sleep enough, and exercise on a regular schedule.</p> <h3>2. Choose Reality</h3> <p>While you may feel like you're going to die, you're not actually going to die. This rejection is one person's opinion of you at one particular moment in time. The person who rejected you might not even know you very well. Choose to believe what is real. This rejection is not an authoritative opinion on who you are or what you are worth. And choose this again and again, whenever you begin to dwell on the rejection.</p> <h3>3. Know That the Pain Will End</h3> <p>Rejection tends to feel like it's never going to end. You may feel like you will hurt forever, until you die or it kills you. The truth, though, is that you will not die. At some point, the pain will end. You will feel better. You will feel like life is worth living again. Just being able to tell yourself that truth can make the difference between getting stuck in your rejection and getting over it.</p> <h3>4. Let Yourself Grieve</h3> <p>When you get rejected, you'll have big feelings. These may feel scary or threatening, or be so unpleasant that you just want to forget all about them. However, you won't get past your rejection if you don't let yourself feel your feelings. You may go through the stages of grief. You may spend a lot of time feeling angry or depressed. Whatever you're feeling, spend some time with these feelings. Give them time to wash over and through you.</p> <h3>5. Share Your Feelings</h3> <p>Spend some time sharing your feelings with people you trust. This can help lessen your feelings of rejection, because you will remember that you are not entirely alone. One person may not have chosen you, but that doesn't mean that there isn't anyone who wants you around. Sharing your feelings can also help you process them and leave them behind, because other people can offer you insights and opinions that you might not have come to on your own.</p> <h3>6. Stop Obsessing</h3> <p>Post-rejection, it's easy to let yourself replay your interactions with the rejector over and over again. You might be looking for something you did wrong, or replaying a place in the conversation where you're pretty sure you made a misstep. Either way, replaying the scene over and over and over again is going to keep you tied to that moment, rather than allowing you to let it go and move on.</p> <h3>7. Counter Critical Thoughts</h3> <p>Most people blame themselves when they get rejected. &quot;If only I wasn't so&hellip; &quot; they think, over and over and over again. One way to get out of these self-critical thoughts is to counter them. For instance, after being rejected for a job, someone might think, &quot;If only I had taken that internship last summer instead of traveling.&quot; You can counter that thought with, &quot;No, I wouldn't have been happy at that internship, and I learned more traveling than I've ever learned working anywhere.&quot; This can help you become more objective about the rejection, realizing that it likely wasn't all your fault.</p> <h3>8. Avoid Getting Stuck</h3> <p>There's a balance between feeling your feelings and processing them and getting stuck in them. If you feel your grief turning into bitterness or an anger or depression that doesn't seem to lift, do whatever you need to do to get out of those feelings. Some people may simply need to choose to risk again. Others may need to talk to a counselor or take medication. All of these are legitimate ways to deal with a rejection that won't go away.</p> <h3>9. Learn the Lesson</h3> <p>There is a lesson in every rejection, and finding it can help you leave the rejection behind and move forward again. You may find your lesson in talking about your rejection, or in journaling about it, or even in thinking about what you would do if you found yourself in the same situation again. The lesson may be something that you want to do differently next time, but it can also be something like accepting that not everyone values the same things you do.</p> <h3>10. Consider Some Changes</h3> <p>Even if you did nothing wrong in the situation where your rejection happened, you may decide to make changes in how you handle similar situations in the future. For instance, you may choose to practice your interview before you go to one next time, or to not participate in online dating.</p> <h3>11. Get Back Out There</h3> <p>In the end, the only way to truly move beyond your rejection is to get back in the game. Apply for another job, meet a new friend, or ask someone else out on a date. You don't have to do this immediately, but it should be on your radar from the beginning. If you're nervous or finding it particularly hard to do this, think about small victories that might help you get your confidence back. You might try a mock interview with someone you know who does hiring, so you can get feedback, or you might take a friend on a date, to get comfortable with that whole scene again.</p> <p><em>When have you been rejected? What helped you get over it? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-ways-to-get-over-rejection" class="sharethis-link" title="11 Ways to Get Over Rejection" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-ways-to-get-over-rejection">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-8"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-tips-on-what-to-do-before-moving-in-together">5 Tips on What to Do Before Moving in Together</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-ways-to-be-a-better-friend-without-any-effort">6 Ways to Be a Better Friend Without Any Effort</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-stop-being-afraid-and-live-your-dreams">How to Stop Being Afraid and Live Your Dreams</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-more-grammar-mistakes-that-are-making-you-look-stupid">12 More Grammar Mistakes That Are Making You Look Stupid</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/3-cheap-and-easy-formulas-for-homemade-windshield-de-icer-plus-bonus-tips">3 Cheap and Easy Formulas for Homemade Windshield De-Icer (Plus Bonus Tips)</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips break-ups denied failure rejection relationships Fri, 17 Oct 2014 11:00:07 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1236762 at http://www.wisebread.com 15 Savvy Tips for a Smoother Move http://www.wisebread.com/15-savvy-tips-for-a-smoother-move <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/15-savvy-tips-for-a-smoother-move" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/couple-moving-boxes-453682599-small.jpg" alt="couple moving" title="couple moving" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Whether you're moving into the house of your dreams or simply to a new apartment across town, the process can be daunting. I've been there, recently, and I'm only now recovering from the exhaustion of it all. Along the way, I learned some of the major DOs and DON'Ts related to moving, and I'm going to share them with all of you! (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-ensure-you-get-the-home-loan-you-want?ref=seealso">How to Ensure You Get the Home Loan You Want</a>)</p> <h2>1. Simplify</h2> <p>Now's the time to go through your stuff and weed out the extras. Throw away any trash that might be lingering in your junk drawers. Give away anything you no longer use to friends or donate to a local charity (some will come and pick up your items from you!).</p> <p>A good place to start? Give your closet a long, hard look to see where you can pare down. Fewer things to move equals fewer headaches. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-essential-pieces-for-your-capsule-wardrobe?ref=seealso">8 Essential Pieces for Your Capsule Wardrobe</a>)</p> <h2>2. Sell</h2> <p>What you don't trash or donate, you should consider selling in a yard sale. Check to see if your community organizes any neighborhood-wide sales, which can help with getting more traffic to your location. Otherwise, use sites like Craigslist or even local Facebook boards to unload your items and earn some cash to help with your moving expenses.</p> <h2>3. Make a List</h2> <p>Everyday life can get rather hectic when all your stuff starts piling up in boxes. So, prepare yourself by making a list of what you need to accomplish during your move. This list might include any appointments you have, bills that need to be paid, or other obligations. Also put a couple moving-related points on there like changing your address with USPS or ordering checks and other necessities with your new number on them. Hang your list on the refrigerator so it doesn't get lost in the shuffle.</p> <h2>4. Start Early</h2> <p>As soon as we knew we'd be moving, I started packing. I packed away everything nonessential and even slimmed down my wardrobe to 10 simple, mix and match pieces. By packing early, you eliminate a lot of mess and everyday cleaning that would otherwise need to happen on top of all the other things you're doing. Designate one room in your house or apartment for boxes if you can, and pile them tall. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-cheap-ways-to-make-your-apartment-awesome-without-losing-your-deposit?ref=seealso">Cheap Ways to Make Your Apartment Awesome</a>)</p> <h2>5. Pack a Bag</h2> <p>Likewise, once you've determined what your essential items are, get a backpack or overnight bag out that you'll reserve for the move itself. You'll want these items handy when everything else in your life is in boxes. Our large suitcase contained a change of clothes, pajamas, personal care items, important documents, our laptop, and some other valuables.</p> <h2>6. Set Time Aside</h2> <p>I rather cavalierly thought we'd be able to pack our entire home in a couple hours each evening for a few days. Boy, was I wrong. Especially if you have children, it's important to set aside dedicated time for packing &mdash; preferably when your little one is being taken care of elsewhere. Not only is a half-packed home dangerous for young kids (lots of choking hazards hanging around), but it's also nearly impossible to finish everything you need to do. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/this-is-why-your-projects-always-take-longer-than-you-expect?ref=seealso">This Is Why Your Projects Always Take Longer Than You Expect</a>)</p> <h2>7. Reserve</h2> <p>If you plan to rent a moving truck, reserve it as early as you have your move date. We learned the hard way that vans get scheduled quickly, and if you live in a smaller area &mdash; it can be hard, if not impossible, to find alternatives. Also be sure to check your local paper or the company's website for any deals they might be running. And read all the fine print before you sign on the dotted line.</p> <h2>8. Organize</h2> <p>When it comes to packing, don't toss everything in a box. Come up with an organization method that works for you. Maybe you pack all your office items in one box or all your dinnerware in another. Label the boxes clearly &mdash; including which boxes contain fragile items and even which box goes into what room &mdash; so when you arrive at your new digs, there's no guesswork involved.</p> <h2>9. Hunt Around</h2> <p>And speaking of boxes, don't immediately go out and buy brand new cardboard. Check grocery and big box stores for sizes big and small that will be recycled. We were able to get all the boxes we needed for our move with a few trips to a grocery store across town. Call ahead before making any big trips to see if the store offers its boxes to the public. Before you recycle them after the move, see if you can pay it forward to a friend.</p> <h2>10. Think Outside the Box</h2> <p>Better yet, pack what you can without the use of boxes. Suitcases can hold a good number of your clothes, tote bags can carry stuffed animals and other soft items, zip bags can house small items, and laundry bins are golden. You can even keep your clothes in the dresser drawers, just remove them while moving the dresser itself to lighten the load.</p> <h2>11. Repurpose</h2> <p>If you run out of packing material (bubble wrap, newspaper, etc.), use towels, socks, and even old plastic grocery bags to help cushion delicate items. You can use paper plates to cradle fragile china. I even used a couple pillows and big blankets to keep our television and other electronics safe from dings and dents during their travels.</p> <h2>12. Dig Deep</h2> <p>Reach into the far back of your pantries and freezers to use up any last bits of food you have hiding. It's best to keep fresh food purchases to a minimum in the week before your move to eliminate any waste that might occur in transit. Plus, there's nothing more gratifying than filling up your new refrigerator with a stock of fresh groceries.</p> <h2>13. Incentivize</h2> <p>For basic moves, you might need a few more hands. Invite your friends over and offer pizza and beer (or a quinoa bake and herbal tea &mdash; you get the idea) for their efforts. As much as moving is hard work, the whole thing is made much more pleasant when you spend the time with friends and family. And while you're at it, make sure that everything is ready to move when they arrive so no one is standing around awkwardly waiting.</p> <h2>14. Hire Help</h2> <p>For very large or tricky items (think pianos!), you might want to consider hiring movers. Did you know you don't need to contract them move all your stuff? Call and arrange for a quote for just the biggest, heaviest, and otherwise trickiest pieces of furniture. You may save yourself some money this way, as well as hold onto potential dollars you otherwise sink into medical bills or replacement items that are damaged by your amateur schlepping techniques.</p> <h2>15. Make Time</h2> <p>If it's at all possible, try to get some overlapping dates for your move. For example, explore the idea of pre-possession or post-possession if you're buying a home. Many lawyers don't love drafting up the extra paperwork involved, but we got pre-possession of our home for an extra two days and it made a huge difference. Just FYI: You'll need to arrange for insurance coverage and cover utilities during this time, among a few other considerations that your agent can help walk you through.</p> <p><em>What smart tips do you have for people on the move?</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-savvy-tips-for-a-smoother-move" class="sharethis-link" title="15 Savvy Tips for a Smoother Move" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/ashley-marcin">Ashley Marcin</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/15-savvy-tips-for-a-smoother-move">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-9"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/build-a-bed-for-cheap-and-look-good-doing-it">Build a Bed for Cheap (and Look Good Doing It)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-places-to-find-cheap-good-looking-new-furniture">10 Places to Find Cheap, Good-Looking New Furniture</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-downsize-and-declutter">How to Downsize and Declutter</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-really-easy-ways-to-unclog-drains">10 Really Easy Ways to Unclog Drains</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/14-effective-grease-and-oil-stain-removal-tips">14 Effective Grease and Oil Stain Removal Tips</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Home Shopping furniture moving new apartment new house packing Thu, 16 Oct 2014 15:00:03 +0000 Ashley Marcin 1235112 at http://www.wisebread.com How to Fix 18 Common Wardrobe Malfunctions http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-fix-18-common-wardrobe-malfunctions <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/how-to-fix-18-common-wardrobe-malfunctions" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/shoe-polish-144880382-small.jpg" alt="shoe polish" title="shoe polish" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>It happens to me all the time. I've got an important meeting and suddenly my hem falls out or a button falls off in the worst possible place. It's no Super Bowl 2004, but it's still embarrassing and frustrating. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/make-your-clothing-fit-perfectly-with-these-10-no-sew-fixes?ref=seealso">Make Your Clothing Fit Perfectly With These 10 No-Sew Fixes</a>)</p> <p>But fear not, because we've got some life-saving (or at least, blouse-saving) tips and tricks when you're in a last minute bind before an important meeting or a potential date.</p> <h2>Zippers</h2> <p>Few things are worse than having a zipper go wrong miles from home.</p> <h3>1. Paper Clip It</h3> <p>If you've pulled off a zipper pulling on your jacket, use a paper clip or key ring as a temporary fix. It might not look amazing, but it'll get the job done until you can get a more permanent solution.</p> <h3>2. Glue It</h3> <p>According to <a href="http://shannonmakesstuff.blogspot.com/2012/03/fixing-broken-zipper-without-replacing.html">Shannon Makes Stuff</a>, you can fix broken zipper teeth with hot glue and a little patience. These are untested waters for me, but if you have this problem, it's worth a shot!</p> <h3>3. Unstick It With Graphite</h3> <p>If you've ever gotten stuck in a jacket, you know how frustrating it can be. Find a graphite pencil and rub it on the teeth of the zipper. If this doesn't work, grab some lubricant &mdash; windex, bar soap, or lip balm. And most importantly: be patient and slow. The more frustrated you get, the more the zipper becomes a Chinese finger trap and you're stuck in there forever.</p> <h2>Stains</h2> <p>You need to act fast to keep a stain from holding fast if you want to save a favorite piece from losing its place in your wardrobe.</p> <h3>4. Carry a Stain Remover</h3> <p>Yes, it's obvious, but purchase <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0037KMI0K/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B0037KMI0K&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=SGJQCLVV7AHHXUHP">Tide To Go</a> or <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0000DIWIK/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B0000DIWIK&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=5OL3UJADGIA6MDZE">Shout Wipe &amp; Go</a> and keep them in your bag, desk drawer, or car. You never know when you might need them, and they're worth having just in case.</p> <h3>5. Sprinkle Baby Powder to Remove Oil</h3> <p>If you've ever had oily spots, baby powder is great for removal of oil, wine, or makeup stains. Sprinkle some on and take a white cloth to remove.</p> <h3>6. Use Baby Wipes on Deodorant Stains</h3> <p>If you have deodorant stains at random times and ALWAYS when you're running late, grab some baby wipes. They'll get the stains off and they won't come back after the spot dries.</p> <h2>Hems</h2> <p>Hems come undone from time to time, but you can fix them on the go quickly and easily.</p> <h3>7. Fix It With Double-Sided Tape</h3> <p>If you're in the office, ask around for some double-sided tape to quickly fix your pants. I've also used packing tape when I was out of options.</p> <h3>8. Try Stitch Witchery</h3> <p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0001DSIHI/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B0001DSIHI&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=4J2B5C6LG7UHCGZD">Stitch Witchery</a> has saved my day more than once. Once you put the tape around and fold up, grab an iron (or flat iron if you don't have an iron around), press the hem and you're good to go! Stitch Witchery is washable and dry cleanable.</p> <h3>9. Safety Pin It</h3> <p>You can also use a few safety pins to put your hem back together. These also work for pretty much every other problem.</p> <h3>10. Sew It Yourself &mdash; It's Easy!</h3> <p>Last option, <a href="http://www.wikihow.com/Hand-Sew-a-Hem">sew it yourself</a>.</p> <h2>Buttons</h2> <p>Maybe the best way to replace a button is to keep it from falling off in the first place.</p> <h3>11. Secure With Clear Nail Polish</h3> <p>To prevent buttons from falling off, use clear nail polish to help secure them. This will keep the thread from unraveling.</p> <h3>12. Sew It Back On</h3> <p>If you have a sewing kit handy (or someone in your office does), follow <a href="http://www.instructables.com/id/How-to-sew-on-a-button/">this guide</a> to sew on a button.</p> <h3>13. Twist Tie It Back On</h3> <p>You can also use a twist tie to temporarily attach a button back on. <a href="http://howto.menshealth.com/fix-popped-button-hurry">Men's Health</a> has a step-by-step guide that shows you how to quickly and effectively put the button back on.</p> <h2>Shoes</h2> <p>Don't let scuff marks on your shoes spoil a great outfit.</p> <h3>14. Polish With Improvisation</h3> <p>If your shoes are scuffed up, but you don't have any polish handy, you can always use bananas or vaseline to remove the scuffs. Use the inside of the banana peel, and then wipe with a paper towel.</p> <h3>15. Remove Odor With Rubbing Alcohol</h3> <p>If your shoes are stinking up the office, grab some rubbing alcohol wipes from the first aid kit and wipe down your feet and in the inside of your shoes. For a more permanent fix, use your washer and dryer, a machine deodorizer, and new insoles.</p> <h2>Static Cling</h2> <p>When the weather gets dry and windy, our clothes get close and clingy!</p> <h3>16. De-Ionize With a Wire Hanger</h3> <p>Static cling can be a nightmare, but luckily someone still makes wire hangers out there somewhere. Just use the wire hanger and rub it on the material causing the cling. If you've thrown away all your wire hangers like your mother always taught you, use hairspray or another metal object, such as a thimble.</p> <h3>17. Deploy Static Prevention Devices During the Wash</h3> <p>To prevent the cling from happening, ball up tinfoil in the washer (but not the dryer!), use fabric softener, or a dryer sheet. They can all reduce static cling.</p> <h3>18. Stick Your Skirt Down With Moisturizer</h3> <p>If static cling is causing your skirt to ride up, dab some moisturizer on your legs and it'll solve it right away.</p> <p><em>What are your solutions to these &mdash; or other &mdash; common clothing problems?</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-fix-18-common-wardrobe-malfunctions" class="sharethis-link" title="How to Fix 18 Common Wardrobe Malfunctions" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/jennifer-holder">Jennifer Holder</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-fix-18-common-wardrobe-malfunctions">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-10"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-tricks-that-make-you-look-skinnier-without-being-skinner">12 Tricks That Make You Look Skinnier (Without Being Skinner)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/13-diy-clothing-projects-for-men">13 DIY Clothing Projects for Men</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/defensive-laundry-9-ways-to-help-your-clothes-last-longer">Defensive Laundry: 9 Ways to Help Your Clothes Last Longer</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/5-smart-ways-to-save-on-back-to-school-clothing">5 Smart Ways to Save on Back-to-School Clothing</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/where-to-buy-discounted-designer-clothing-online">Where to Buy Discounted Designer Clothing Online</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Style clothes clothing clothing fixes fashion quick fixes sewing Thu, 16 Oct 2014 11:00:05 +0000 Jennifer Holder 1235390 at http://www.wisebread.com Masters of Small Talk Never Do These 10 Things — Do You? http://www.wisebread.com/masters-of-small-talk-never-do-these-10-things-do-you <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/masters-of-small-talk-never-do-these-10-things-do-you" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/business-group-talking-160613541-small.jpg" alt="business people talking" title="business people talking" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Have you been in the situation of needing to make conversation with people you did not know well? Weddings, cocktail parties, and business conferences can be anxiety-provoking if you don't know how to make small talk. Although you may dread it, though, small talk can be a great thing. Chatting can make simple exchanges more pleasant; it can also start the beginning of a great conversation or even friendship. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-fun-practically-free-ways-to-make-new-friends?ref=seealso">10 Fun, Practically Free Ways to Make New Friends</a>)</p> <p>It is estimated that between 7% and 13% of humans suffer from <a href="http://www.anxietybc.com/resources/social.php">social anxiety</a>. What is there to talk about? What should you never bring up? What subjects are safe? Well to start, below are 10 things that small-talk masters know never to do.</p> <h2>1. They Don't Assume They Are Alone in Their Anxiety</h2> <p>It may seem like everyone in the room knows each other, but that's unlikely. I guarantee there are other people there who are as anxious as you are about social situations. Take a deep breath, square your shoulders, and smile. Take a moment to survey the situation and see if maybe there is somebody there that you do know. If not, no need for panic. It's just an event, and it will pass.</p> <p>My trick is to anticipate the worst and let the dread &quot;in;'&quot; nearly all the time, I end up enjoying myself.</p> <h2>2. They Never Forget to Introduce Themselves</h2> <p>Even if I do know someone at an event or party, I do not depend on them to introduce me to others. They may have forgotten my name, or how they know me, or whatever. Don't barge in on people in deep conversations, but if you see an opening, simply walk up and say, &quot;Hi! I'm Jane Smith&quot; and extend your hand for a handshake. If there are other people in the group, repeat the process.</p> <p>How to remember names? Repeat the name (&quot;Hi, Tom, it's really nice to meet you.&quot;). You might try a little trick to remember the name, like a song, or a nursery rhyme, that makes a word association for you. Once introductions are made, people will usually ask where you work, or how you know the bride or groom, or birthday person, or where you're from. The ball is then rolling.</p> <h2>3. They Never Forget to Introduce Someone Else</h2> <p>My friend Sylvia, a seasoned networker, makes the best introductions. They usually go something like this: &quot;Everyone, I would like you to meet John Smith. John has this awesome travel website and he is my travel guru! He also makes the world's best homemade bread.&quot; In her introduction, she gives people clues about things to ask John. She has also given him several compliments, which strengthens his self-confidence and make him smile.</p> <h2>4. They Never Have Bad Body Language</h2> <p>People are receptive to good body language. Take note of your posture, first of all. Are you slumping? Stand up straight. What are you doing with your hands? Do not cross your arms &mdash; that is defensive posture. Holding your hands together in front of you, or behind your back, are both &quot;open&quot; gestures. It may help you to have a drink to hold, if you are nervous. Try not to hold it in the hand you shake with, though, or you'll be shaking hands with a cold hand. Make eye contact, but don't stare. Engage. Smile. Listen. The world is full of talkers, but a good listener is hard to find. Nod your head, and ask the occasional question. Don't keep checking your cell phone. If you get a call, excuse yourself politely and take it.</p> <h2>5. They Never Discuss Religion</h2> <p>This was one of my mom's rules, and will serve you well. While it can be a very interesting subject, it is not a &quot;safe&quot; one in that you might easily offend someone you do not know well.</p> <h2>6. They Almost Never Discuss Politics</h2> <p>Another &quot;mom&quot; rule, and a harder one to avoid. But do, because this topic gets heated, quickly. This rule can go out the window if you are at a political fundraiser, because you are likely on the same page the other people, of course. Just tread carefully.</p> <h2>7. They Never Forget How to Use Openers</h2> <p>People who are good at small talk, I have noticed, are really good at asking questions, or &quot;openers.&quot; Use the information you glean from your first question to ask more questions.For instance, &quot;So when you went to Portland, did you go to Jake's Seafood?&quot; Or, &quot;What a beautiful scarf! Where did you buy it?&quot;</p> <p>Hopefully, the person you are conversing with will in turn ask you questions, which will keep the small talk going. Sometimes, the person you are trying to chat up is really reticent. Here is a trick: &quot;So before this event, what did you do, today?&quot; There is almost always some usable material in that response.</p> <h2>8. They Don't Forget to Expand the Circle</h2> <p>So, if a few moments ago, you were the &quot;odd man out,&quot; be aware of people who may be hovering and want to join in, too. Make eye contact, extend your arm for a handshake, and introduce yourself (and the others, if you can remember their names). After introductions, you may need to backtrack (&quot;We were just talking about where the best breweries are in this town&quot;) and give the newbie a chance to get involved. They will be grateful to you for your help.</p> <p>Also, in the world of small talk, It's bad form to stay and talk shop with one person the whole time. If someone is monopolizing you, it is perfectly fine to say something like, &quot;Well, Ben, my wife will shoot me if I don't get over there and visit with her great-aunt for a while. Good to see you.&quot;</p> <h2>9. They Don't Go Into Small Talk Unprepared</h2> <p>Unless you are having pretty dramatic weather, I wouldn't lead with that. For a conference or company event, do some homework and have some relevant topics ready to bring up. Movies, television shows, current events, or hobbies are usually safe and interesting for cocktail parties. Ask for activity or restaurant recommendations, if you are from out of town. Read the local paper, watch the local news. Just gather up a few possible subjects for your arsenal.</p> <h2>10. They Don't Make a Poor Exit</h2> <p>This is easier to do if you are in a little group, when you simply say, &quot;Excuse me, I need to go say hello to my regional VP.&quot; Or, &quot;Hey, I am going to go get a fresh cocktail.&quot; If it is just you and another person, when there is a graceful lull in the conversation, something like, &quot;John, it has been great talking to you and I enjoyed meeting you. I hope we can stay in touch.&quot; Shake hands again, and go. If you are in a business setting, you might give one of your cards.</p> <p><em>So, tell us: How do you handle small talk?</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/masters-of-small-talk-never-do-these-10-things-do-you" class="sharethis-link" title="Masters of Small Talk Never Do These 10 Things — Do You?" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/marla-walters">Marla Walters</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/masters-of-small-talk-never-do-these-10-things-do-you">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-11"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-things-people-with-good-phone-skills-never-do">9 Things People With Good Phone Skills Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-things-people-with-good-communication-skills-never-do">12 Things People With Good Communication Skills Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-rules-of-etiquette-everyone-should-know-and-follow">10 Rules of Etiquette Everyone Should Know (and Follow!)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/change-your-life-by-learning-how-to-admit-youre-wrong">Change Your Life by Learning How to Admit You&#039;re Wrong</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/13-things-people-with-good-table-manners-never-do">13 Things People With Good Table Manners Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Personal Development conversation etiquette networking Wed, 15 Oct 2014 21:00:06 +0000 Marla Walters 1235111 at http://www.wisebread.com 6 Signs That You're Sleep Deprived http://www.wisebread.com/6-signs-that-youre-sleep-deprived <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/6-signs-that-youre-sleep-deprived" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/tired-businesswoman-178042724-small.jpg" alt="tired businesswoman" title="tired businesswoman" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Yawns, irritability, lack of oomph. These are the tell-tale signs of sleep deprivation we're all familiar with. But studies show a shortage of slumber can have far greater &mdash; and stranger &mdash; consequences on our bodies and minds. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/8-hours-9-hours-this-is-how-much-sleep-you-really-need?ref=seealso">8 Hours? 9 Hours? This Is How Much Sleep You REALLY Need</a>)</p> <p>Read on for our roundup of some of the less-than-obvious repercussions of sleep loss.</p> <h2>1. You've Got a Shortened Attention Span</h2> <p>A shortened attention span can result directly from sleep deprivation. Now for the scary part: It can also be irreversible. Leading researchers this year found <a href="http://www.uphs.upenn.edu/news/News_Releases/2014/03/veasey/">evidence of brain damage in people suffering from chronic sleep loss</a>.</p> <p>&quot;In general, we've always assumed full recovery of cognition following short- and long-term sleep loss,&quot; said Sigrid Veasey, the lead researcher behind the study. &quot;But some of the research in humans has shown that attention span and several other aspects of cognition may not normalize even with three days of recovery sleep, raising the question of lasting injury in the brain.&quot;</p> <h2>2. You've Got High Blood Pressure</h2> <p>A single night of inadequate sleep in people suffering from existing hypertension can trigger elevated blood pressure. Researchers believe this may explain <a href="http://healthysleep.med.harvard.edu/healthy/matters/consequences/sleep-and-disease-risk">the correlation between sleep deprivation and cardiovascular disease and stroke</a>.</p> <h2>3. You're Gaining Weight</h2> <p>Poor sleep is now considered a risk factor for obesity, right up there with overeating and lack of exercise. Studies show that people who sleep less than six hours per night are much more likely to have a higher than average body mass index. People who habitually sleep eight hours or more have the lowest BMI.</p> <p>The bodies of people who are sleep deprived also tend to secrete greater amounts of insulin following a meal. Insulin promotes fat storage, and higher levels of insulin are associated with weight gain, which is a risk factor for diabetes.</p> <h2>4. You're Making Mistakes Left and Right</h2> <p>Sleep deprivation can impair job performance &mdash; and the consequences can be mammoth. Investigators have determined that <a href="http://healthysleep.med.harvard.edu/healthy/matters/consequences/sleep-performance-and-public-safety">sleep deprivation played a role in the explosion of the space shuttle Challenger</a>, the Exxon Valdez oil spill, and the nuclear disasters at Three Mile Island and Chernobyl.</p> <p>Sleep loss is also the culprit behind an untold number of medical errors in hospitals. More than a million injuries and up to 100,000 deaths each year result from preventable medical errors, and many of these may be caused by insufficient sleep, according to Institutes of Medicine.</p> <h2>5. You've Been In a Car Crash &mdash; And It Was Your Fault</h2> <p>A National Sleep Foundation survey found that 60% of adult drivers &mdash; about 168 million people &mdash; have been drowsy at the wheel in the past year, and that more than 100 million people have actually dozed off while strapped in the driver's seat. Another estimate by the Institute of Medicine points to drowsy driving as the cause of 20% of all motor vehicle crashes. That would mean that poor sleep causes approximately 1 million crashes, 500,000 injuries, and 8,000 deaths each year in the U.S.</p> <h2>6. You're Feeling Depressed</h2> <p>Lack of sleep may trigger depression &mdash; especially in teens. <a href="http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2014/02/06/272441146/less-sleep-more-time-online-amp-up-teen-depression-risk">Teenagers who don't get enough sleep</a> are four times as likely to develop major depressive disorder as their peers who sleep more, according to research from the University of Texas Health Science Center in Houston.</p> <p>Ironically, sleep deprivation is also being studied as a <a href="http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-sleep-deprivation-eases-depression/">treatment for depression</a>, the very mental ailment it's known to cause. Research shows that sleep deprivation is successful up to 70% of the time when used as a method to boost the mood of a person who's feeling depressed. But here's the kicker: It only lasts until the person falls asleep.</p> <p><em>Can't get a good night's sleep? What are you doing to sleep more? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-signs-that-youre-sleep-deprived" class="sharethis-link" title="6 Signs That You&#039;re Sleep Deprived" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/brittany-lyte">Brittany Lyte</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-signs-that-youre-sleep-deprived">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-12"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-naturally-reset-your-sleep-cycle-overnight">How to Naturally Reset Your Sleep Cycle in One Night</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/these-at-home-exercises-will-give-you-a-gym-quality-workout-for-free">These At-Home Exercises Will Give You a Gym-Quality Workout for Free</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/healthy-people-have-these-10-things-in-their-homes-do-you">Healthy People Have These 10 Things in Their Homes — Do You?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/get-better-sleep-with-these-5-great-sleep-tracking-apps">Get Better Sleep With These 5 Great Sleep-Tracking Apps</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-easy-ways-to-have-energy-after-work">7 Easy Ways to Have Energy After Work</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips fitness insomnia lack of sleep sleep sleepiness Wed, 15 Oct 2014 11:00:04 +0000 Brittany Lyte 1235109 at http://www.wisebread.com 12 Tricks That Make You Look Skinnier (Without Being Skinner) http://www.wisebread.com/12-tricks-that-make-you-look-skinnier-without-being-skinner <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/12-tricks-that-make-you-look-skinnier-without-being-skinner" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/woman-mirror-shopping-163217849-small.jpg" alt="shopping mirror" title="shopping mirror" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Everyone has days when they feel fat, bloated, and otherwise less-than-beautiful. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the numbers on the scale. On other occasions it's the direct result of a recent holiday cookie binge. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-style-secrets-for-women-that-flatter-every-shape?ref=seealso">7 Style Secrets for Women That Flatter every Shape</a>)</p> <p>Fortunately, there quite a number of tricks discovered and perfected by the fashion industry to give your body an instant slim-down without all the dieting, sweating, and weigh-ins. Read on for our round-up of the easiest ways to look trim &mdash; even when you're feeling anything but.</p> <h2>1. Wear Horizontal Stripes</h2> <p>Contrary to popular belief, it's horizontal stripes &mdash; not vertical ones &mdash; that <a href="http://i-perception.perceptionweb.com/journal/I/article/i0405">make a person appear thinner than they are</a>, according to new research by a British psychologist. For the most slimming look, go for white garments with narrow, black horizontal stripes. As for those vertical stripes you thought had a slimming effect, this piece of research found that verticals actually make you look more bloated.</p> <h2>2. Grow Your Hair Out</h2> <p>Long hair elongates the face and neck, creating the illusion of a longer, leaner body.</p> <h2>3. Get Some Sun</h2> <p>There's nothing like a sunkissed glow to make the body appear more slender. For a safer alternative, opt for a spray tan or a contour tan, which uses shadows and coloring to <a href="http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/03/can-spray-tanning-give-me-gwyneth-paltrow-abs.html">create faux features like ab muscles</a> and high cheekbones.</p> <h2>4. Wear Body-Hugging Clothing</h2> <p>A major misconception about dressing for a fuller figure is that baggy clothing hides a person's extra weight. On the contrary, loose clothing makes a person look larger, fashion experts say. Rather, it's form-fitting clothing paired with flowy layers like a sweater or scarf that creates a more slimming silhouette.</p> <h2>5. Tease Your Hair</h2> <p>Don't be afraid to channel your inner Diana Ross. Big hair creates the illusion of a narrower (read: more slender) face.</p> <h2>6. Accentuate Your Waist</h2> <p>Use a belt, shirt tuck, or ruching to draw all eyes and attention to the narrowest part of your torso. This timeless trick will keep focus away from any sags or bulges.</p> <h2>7. Wear Heels</h2> <p>The taller you are, the skinnier you appear. So don't be afraid to add a little extra height. If you're clumsy on your feet, opt for a platform or wedge heel rather than the more precarious stiletto. Men, too, can get an extra boost from a pair of boots with a large sole or dress shoes with a small heel.</p> <h2>8. Wear Dark Bootcut Pants</h2> <p>Bootcut pants that are black, navy, or a deep shade of indigo have a slimming effect on the abdomen, pelvis, and rear end. The bootcut style in particular makes the legs look longer and therefore more trim.</p> <h2>9. Embrace Shapewear</h2> <p>Undergarments that smooth, shape, and tuck away folds, rolls, and bloat can be the confidence boost you need to really strut your stuff. Women can achieve a trimmer waistline using products like <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000CODK4M/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B000CODK4M&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=KZFOXQ4EAA327KLT">the mid-thigh shaper</a> or <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0037WYFWC/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B0037WYFWC&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=NZYVNSWPRVWVTSFQ">the open-bust camisole</a> by SPANX. For the boys, try <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004R9670M/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B004R9670M&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=6T4XIIJQGYXTF3JT">the crew neck body shaper</a> by 2(x)ist or <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00BFE9B00/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B00BFE9B00&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=wisbre03-20&amp;linkId=PJ45QXNYLMSCIZCX">the long leg brief girdle</a> by Underworks.</p> <h2>10. Accessorize With a Super-Long Necklace</h2> <p>A long necklace directs the eye away from the often problematic hips and mid-section. It also lengthens the entire frame, giving the illusion of a trimmer body.</p> <h2>11. Choose Your Fabrics Wisely</h2> <p>For a svelte look, spandex, jersey, cashmere, and fine cotton are your go-to fabrics because they help shape the contours of the body. But steer clear from corduroy, crushed velvet, metallic, leather, sequin-adorned materials, and suede. These heavily textured fabrics will add pounds as well as pizzazz to your look.</p> <h2>12. Opt For a V-Neck</h2> <p>All hail the V-neck &mdash; a simple neckline that works effortlessly to slim down the frame by creating the illusion of height. It's the most flattering neckline out there and it does the trick every time.</p> <p><em>What are your favorite shape-shifting and slimming tricks? Please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-tricks-that-make-you-look-skinnier-without-being-skinner" class="sharethis-link" title="12 Tricks That Make You Look Skinnier (Without Being Skinner)" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/brittany-lyte">Brittany Lyte</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-tricks-that-make-you-look-skinnier-without-being-skinner">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-13"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-fix-18-common-wardrobe-malfunctions">How to Fix 18 Common Wardrobe Malfunctions</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-to-build-a-downsized-wardrobe-you-love">How to Build a Downsized Wardrobe You Love</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/wardrobe-staples-every-man-should-own">Wardrobe Staples Every Man Should Own</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/13-diy-clothing-projects-for-men">13 DIY Clothing Projects for Men</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-simple-and-stylish-diy-clothing-projects-for-women">20 Simple and Stylish DIY Clothing Projects for Women</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Style appearance clothing fashion slimming Tue, 14 Oct 2014 11:00:07 +0000 Brittany Lyte 1233185 at http://www.wisebread.com People Who Love Expanding Their Minds Do These 13 Things — Do You? http://www.wisebread.com/people-who-love-expanding-their-minds-do-these-13-things-do-you <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/people-who-love-expanding-their-minds-do-these-13-things-do-you" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/puzzle-cube-86511536-small.jpg" alt="puzzle cube" title="puzzle cube" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>There are those out there who refuse to let their brain get into a rut. The intellectually stimulated, the cranially curious, the people who love expanding their minds. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/13-easy-ways-to-improve-your-brain?ref=seealso">13 Easy Ways to Improve Your Brain</a>)</p> <p>Are you one of them? If so, you just may engage in one or more of these 13 pursuits on a daily basis.</p> <h2>1. Doing Puzzles</h2> <p>Whatever their favorite sort of puzzle, whether it's a jigsaw puzzle, Sudoku, a crossword, or a logic game, people who love expanding their minds know that <a href="http://www.daisybrains.com/blog/brain-teasers/more-please-why-our-brains-cant-seem-to-get-enough-of-brain-teasers-and-logic-puzzles/">it's good for your brain</a>. You'll learn to concentrate better, have overall higher brain activity, remember better, and have improved sleep. Puzzles can also be quite a lot of fun, so solving them won't feel like work. Instead, you'll be helping your mind and having fun at the same time.</p> <h2>2. Writing by Hand</h2> <p>If you value expanding your mind, chances are you value having a lot of creative ideas and being able to communicate them to others. As it turns out, people who write out their thoughts and ideas on an actual piece of paper, not a computer screen, <a href="http://www.rd.com/advice/parenting/why-handwriting-makes-you-smarter/">have more active minds and express more ideas</a> than people who only type. Try writing by hand for a few minutes every day, and see what changes you notice.</p> <h2>3. Learning Math</h2> <p>Math may not be your favorite, but people who want to expand their minds know that if you want your brain to fluidly process letters and numbers and to have greater facility in your first language and others, you should <a href="http://healthland.time.com/2013/04/23/your-brain-on-math/">spend some time studying math</a>. It turns out that the areas of your brain that understand mathematical concepts and process numbers are related to the areas that do these other things, too. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/11-useful-genius-math-tricks-that-are-actually-easy?ref=seealso">11 Genius Math Tricks That Are Actually Easy</a>)</p> <h2>4. Exercising</h2> <p>Exercise doesn't just make us happier, it makes our brains work better. People who love expanding their minds know that they are better at <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/belle-beth-cooper/10-surprising-things-that-benefit-our-brains_b_4275770.html">focusing, solving problems, and even reasoning after they have exercised</a>. While it can take a lot of energy to get off the couch and out the door, even a quick walk boosts the brain's overall performance.</p> <h2>5. Studying a New Language</h2> <p>Learning a new language literally <a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/10/121008082953.htm">makes your brain grow</a>. Sure, language learning can be hard work. But it's so good for your brain, and it helps your mind learn to make new connections, too, so fans of expanding the mind will put in the effort.</p> <p>When your brain makes new connections you will become more creative, and you'll be able to communicate with a greater portion of the world. You can even study online, with <a href="https://www.duolingo.com/">Duolingo</a> and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/you-can-learn-a-new-language-just-use-one-of-these-3-apps">other resources</a>. There's not much more fun than taking a trip to a place where you know the language because you've studied hard. Maybe you can set a vacation as a goal after all your study!</p> <h2>6. Reading Novels</h2> <p>Reading a novel seems to raise the connectivity in your brain and cause other positive neurological changes <a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/brain-function-boosted-for-days-after-reading-a-novel-9028302.html">for up to five days after you finish</a> your book. Anyone who loves expanding their mind could tell you that if you'd like your brain to work smoother and more efficiently, pick up your favorite page-turner. You don't have to read a classic work or anything like that. In fact, it seems like the important factor is that the book is written well enough that you feel you're in the main character's place.</p> <h2>7. Practicing Meditation</h2> <p>Meditation can help <a href="http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-12793/how-meditation-changes-your-brain-a-neuroscientist-explains.html">enhance your brain function</a> in areas that tie to learning, memory, taking different perspectives, regulating your emotions, and more. People who want to expand their minds know that, if you want your mind to work better, it's worthwhile to learn meditation.</p> <p>It's easy to be intimidated by the prospect of meditating. We tend to think that it is something that gurus do, or only enlightened people. Fortunately, it doesn't have to be hard at all. There are many <a href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/8-ways-to-make-meditation-easy-and-fun/">easy ways to incorporate meditation</a> into your busy daily life.</p> <h2>8. Playing Board Games</h2> <p>People who grow their minds often play board games. <a href="http://examinedexistence.com/can-playing-games-make-you-smarter/">Different games have different benefits</a>, but overall you can improve your linguistic intelligence, improve your math and reasoning skills, improve how you negotiate and work with people, and improve your critical thinking. Try a lot of different games, and you could greatly improve your brain's capacity to work on a lot of different levels.</p> <h2>9. Listening to Music</h2> <p>Listening to music has <a href="http://greatist.com/happiness/unexpected-health-benefits-music">all sorts of benefits</a>, but notable among these is that it improves cognitive functioning, eases stress, and helps you perform better in difficult situations. And people who want better functioning brains know that it's easy, too &mdash; just play music from your phone in the car or carry headphones if you commute by transit.</p> <p>Expand your mind even more by listening to music that isn't familiar to you. Do this with someone who loves the music and understands it, so you can ask questions about what you're hearing and have them help you understand it. This will help you in taking on new and different perspectives, too.</p> <h2>10. Reading Poetry</h2> <p>Poetry can be intimidating. It only takes one bad memory from high school English class to put you off it for a long, long time. However, people who want better brains make the effort anyway, because <a href="http://blogs.hbr.org/2012/11/the-benefits-of-poetry-for-pro/">reading poems expands your mind</a> in some interesting and important ways. To understand most poems, you have to be able to look at things as both simple and complex. It also enhances the parts of your brain that think empathically, and help you become more creative, because it teaches you how to make connections between seemingly unrelated things.</p> <h2>11. Overcoming Fears</h2> <p>When you're afraid of something, you shut yourself off to that thing and anything that might lead to it or spring from it. For instance, if you're afraid of flying, it's easy to become shut off from travel and everything you can learn by doing that. You never get to experience new cultures, new foods, or the different perspectives that people in other cultures have. When you overcome your fears, you open yourself not only to the thing you're afraid of, but to everything that comes with that, too.</p> <p>Overcoming fears can be hard work, especially if they are deeply entrenched, but people who love expanding their minds love the benefits they reap when they make the effort. It will help you to <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-techniques-that-can-help-you-conquer-any-fear">identify what you're afraid of</a> and where that fear comes from. However, you may need to work with a therapist to overcome particularly difficult fears.</p> <h2>12. Mind Mapping&hellip; Anything</h2> <p>When you make a mind map, you're giving your mind free range, at least within certain parameters. A mind map is basically a way of organizing information visually. You put your main idea in the center, then draw lines to show how it connects to other ideas. This can be as complicated of as simple as it needs to be to help you think.</p> <p>It can also help you see the connections between different ideas, and possibly between things that you might never have connected otherwise. Proponents of mind mapping for brain expansion say that <a href="http://www.edudemic.com/benefits-of-mind-mapping/">it helps them</a> understand their problems and solutions, organize their thoughts, make these new connections, and communicate with other people.</p> <h2>13. Getting Some Sleep</h2> <p>People who love expanding their minds know that getting plenty of sleep cannot possibly be overrated. They may not always want to go to bed on time, but they know one simple fact: when you sleep, <a href="http://www.helpguide.org/life/improving_memory.htm">your mind works better</a>. You learn better and recall what you've learned faster and easier. In fact, you may not be able to expand your mind in the other ways mentioned on this list if you're not getting enough sleep.</p> <p>While <a href="http://sleepfoundation.org/how-sleep-works/how-much-sleep-do-we-really-need">there's not a magic number</a> of hours of sleep that will work for everyone, it's good to aim for 7-9 hours every night. Use some trial and error and commit to figuring out what works for you, and your brain will be better off.</p> <p><em>How do you expand your mind? How do you fit it into your busy schedule?</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/people-who-love-expanding-their-minds-do-these-13-things-do-you" class="sharethis-link" title="People Who Love Expanding Their Minds Do These 13 Things — Do You?" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/sarah-winfrey">Sarah Winfrey</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/people-who-love-expanding-their-minds-do-these-13-things-do-you">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-14"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/you-can-learn-a-new-language-just-use-one-of-these-3-apps">You CAN Learn a New Language — Just Use One of These 3 Apps</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/change-your-life-by-learning-how-to-admit-youre-wrong">Change Your Life by Learning How to Admit You&#039;re Wrong</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-things-people-with-good-communication-skills-never-do">12 Things People With Good Communication Skills Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/masters-of-small-talk-never-do-these-10-things-do-you">Masters of Small Talk Never Do These 10 Things — Do You?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-dumb-little-things-you-need-to-stop-saying-today">9 Dumb Little Things You Need to Stop Saying Today</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Personal Development brains intelligence learning smarts Mon, 13 Oct 2014 11:00:07 +0000 Sarah Winfrey 1231186 at http://www.wisebread.com 9 Things People With Good Phone Skills Never Do http://www.wisebread.com/9-things-people-with-good-phone-skills-never-do <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/9-things-people-with-good-phone-skills-never-do" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://www.wisebread.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/man-phone-conversation-466941591-small.jpg" alt="man phone conversation" title="man phone conversation" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>You may be the king or queen of good manners, but what about your phone etiquette? The person you're speaking with may not bring annoying behavior to your attention, so it's important that you know the difference between proper and poor phone skills. (See also: <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-things-people-with-good-communication-skills-never-do?ref=seealso">12 Things People With Good Communication Skills Never Do</a>)</p> <p>Here's a list of nine things people with good phone skills never do.</p> <h2>1. They Don't Interrupt</h2> <p>You wouldn't dare interrupt a person when speaking face-to-face, so why would you interrupt a person on the other end of a phone conversation? Conversations with relatives and close acquaintances tend to be more casual, but this isn't license to jump in. It doesn't matter if you're busy, overly excited, or simply want the conversation to move faster, interrupting is rude and appears as if you don't respect or appreciate the other person's viewpoint or feelings.</p> <h2>2. They Don't Immediately Jump Into Conversations</h2> <p>If you're the caller and the other person says, &quot;hello,&quot; don't jump straight into the conversation without identifying yourself. Never assume the person on the other end recognizes your voice. And even if they do, it doesn't take much effort to say a brief greeting and ask about their day.</p> <h2>3. They Don't Blindside With the Speakerphone</h2> <p>Phones have a speaker option for a reason. If you're driving, it's easier to carry a phone conversation when the person's on speaker, and speakerphone comes in handy when your hands are tied up at other times. However, if you're going to use speaker, notify the person on the other end of the call &mdash; especially when others are in earshot of the conversation. If not, the person you're speaking with might say something he doesn't want others to hear.</p> <h2>4. They Don't Multitask While on the Phone</h2> <p>Whether it's a restaurant or a bank, never conduct business while talking on the telephone. This is rude to the person on the line, and to the person trying to provide services. Both need your undivided attention, and when you attempt to speak to two people at the same time, your listeners will have a difficult time following the conversation. They won't know whether a comment is meant for them or the other person.</p> <p>This rule of thumb also applies to phone conversations at home. Sometimes, you might have to pause a phone conversation to speak with your kids or spouse, but don't make this a habit. The person on the other end doesn't want to hear you fussing or conversing with your kids between every other word.</p> <h2>5. They Don't Continue Calls After Meeting Someone</h2> <p>When you're meeting up with someone, you may talk on your phone to occupy time until your friend arrives. However, when they do arrive, it's common courtesy to end the phone conversation. There's nothing more annoying than meeting up with someone for lunch, and then having to sit quietly 10 or 15 minutes as the other person rudely talks on the phone.</p> <h2>6. They Don't Leave Friends Hanging</h2> <p>It isn't only rude to continue a conversation after meeting up with someone; it's also rude to accept a call and engage in a long conversation when you're already with someone. There are times when you may need to take an important phone call. In this case, apologize in advance and step aside to take the call &mdash; but keep it brief and return as soon as possible. Don't step away for several minutes and leave your friend hanging. If you believe a phone conversation will take longer than a couple of minutes, return the call later.</p> <h2>7. They Don't Forget the Phone Volume</h2> <p>Your speakerphone might be off, but if the phone's volume is turned up, people nearby might be able to hear the person on the other end of the phone. On several occasions I've sat besides someone on their cell phone and heard everything the other person said. To keep your private conversations private, turn down the speaker volume before starting your conversation.</p> <h2>8. They Don't Talk at Inappropriate Times</h2> <p>Cell phones let us communicate with people anytime, anyplace, but there are times when using a phone is inappropriate. People with good phone skills never yank out their phones at the movies, church, or any other place that requires silence. If there's an emergency and you have to take a phone call, step into the lobby or outside.</p> <h2>9. They Don't Talk on the Phone While Eating</h2> <p>We all multitask; and sometimes, we have to take care of business during a lunch or dinner break. This is understandable, but the people you speak with on the phone don't want to hear you munching away. Besides, cell phones don't always offer the clearest sound. Between background noise, your mouth too close to the microphone, and poor reception, a mouthful of food can make it hard for others to understand what you're saying.</p> <p><em>What other rules of phone etiquette should people follow? Hang up and please share in comments!</em></p> <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-things-people-with-good-phone-skills-never-do" class="sharethis-link" title="9 Things People With Good Phone Skills Never Do" rel="nofollow">ShareThis</a><br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/mikey-rox">Mikey Rox</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/9-things-people-with-good-phone-skills-never-do">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-15"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/masters-of-small-talk-never-do-these-10-things-do-you">Masters of Small Talk Never Do These 10 Things — Do You?</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/12-things-people-with-good-communication-skills-never-do">12 Things People With Good Communication Skills Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-rules-of-etiquette-everyone-should-know-and-follow">10 Rules of Etiquette Everyone Should Know (and Follow!)</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/change-your-life-by-learning-how-to-admit-youre-wrong">Change Your Life by Learning How to Admit You&#039;re Wrong</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/13-things-people-with-good-table-manners-never-do">13 Things People With Good Table Manners Never Do</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div> General Tips Personal Development conversation etiquette phone calls telephone Fri, 10 Oct 2014 11:00:03 +0000 Mikey Rox 1230389 at http://www.wisebread.com