social life http://www.wisebread.com/taxonomy/term/9477/all en-US 7 Social Situations All Introverts Fear http://www.wisebread.com/7-social-situations-all-introverts-fear <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/7-social-situations-all-introverts-fear" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/anxious_man_000050324690_0.jpg" alt="Man learning worst social situations for introverts" title="" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="140" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>Some of us are social butterflies, happily flitting from person to person in social gatherings and loving every minute of it. But not everyone is so comfortable in these surroundings. In fact, to some <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/6-reasons-introverts-make-the-best-employees">introverts</a>, social situations can be a living hell; particularly (but not limited to) these seven stressful situations for soloists.</p> <h2>1. The Wedding Speech</h2> <p>Whether you're the best man, the father or mother of the bride, or the maid of honor, a speech is mandatory. And as this is a wedding, although there is obviously room for sentiment and love, there is an expectation of humor; especially from the best man.</p> <p>Comedians spend years perfecting their skills in front of live audiences, testing material, and honing it until they get laughs. If you're chosen to do a speech, you have one shot at it. There are places to improve your skills, including local toastmasters clubs, but it's still nerve-racking for an introvert. With the entire wedding party looking your way, the cold sweats and shakes can come on quickly.</p> <p>If you want to get through this, practice, practice, practice. And unless you are 100% sure that your bawdy joke or embarrassing true story about the bride/groom will go over well, don't tell it. You do not want to upset the happy couple in front of everyone they care about.</p> <h2>2. The Long Elevator Ride</h2> <p>Or worse, trapped in an elevator&hellip; aargh! Elevators are not fun for introverts. They are small, claustrophobic spaces filled with strangers. Getting on at the first floor and riding to the very top can feel like an eternity. There is this pressure to acknowledge the other people, but if you make eye contact they may just want to have a little chat. That's when you, as an introvert, will be looking everywhere for a way out. Some people will get off on the wrong floor and walk the rest of the way, just to avoid the conversation with a complete stranger.</p> <p>If you take a daily ride in an elevator, and it takes more time than you're comfortable with, bring something to look at. A phone is great, and so is a magazine or newspaper. With your head buried, you can avoid conversations and eye contact.</p> <h2>3. Alone at a Bar</h2> <p>There is something that stings true whenever an introvert is alone at a bar, party, club, or any other place where people gather for fun and drinks; the worst time to feel alone is in a crowded room. For extroverts, it's no problem. If they're alone, they remedy that by talking to strangers, sparking up conversations, and dancing with people. Introverts don't have that ability.</p> <p>As an introvert, being alone in a crowded place is tough. Really tough. You see conversations everywhere. People are laughing and joking with each other, having a great time, and you're stood, or sat, cradling a drink and looking at the exit sign. It's not easy. If it's not too busy, talking to the person behind the bar can bring some relief, as you have a legitimate reason to interact. There's always the phone as a standby, but that can be depressing. Your best bet here is whenever possible, arrange to meet people at the place you're going, or always go out with a group.</p> <h2>4. The Eulogy</h2> <p>Seinfeld said it best: &quot;According to most studies, people's number one fear is public speaking. Number two&hellip; is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you're better off in the casket than doing the eulogy.&quot;&nbsp;</p> <p>As social situations go, this one already has some major baggage. There has been a death of a friend, relative, or loved one, which is bad enough. There are a whole lot of people gathered in one place, trying to make conversation to relieve some of the tension. And to top it off, making a speech to a crowd of people, many of whom you don't know, is a social nightmare of an introvert.</p> <p>Luckily, there is no pressure here to be funny, although you can be. But still, with all eyes on the speaker for a few minutes, this is not good for any introvert. Once again, you should definitely try your eulogy out on a few close friends, if you are nervous about it. At the very least, practice in front of a mirror, and work out any kinks. Plus, take note cards. No one will fault you for having a memory aid.</p> <h2>5. Packed Trains and Buses</h2> <p>Commuters who take the subways every day will know this pain all too well. Train compartments are not designed for personal space. They have seats, they have standing room, and at rush hour in big cities, they are filled to the brim with people trying to get to work, or get home. It's bad enough when you have to sit next to someone who is a chatterbox, but when you're standing elbow-to-elbow with a bunch of complete strangers, the anxiety can increase tenfold.</p> <p>These situations are definitely best handled with either reading material (a phone, paper, puzzle book) or music and headphones. If you are in your own world, people are less likely to try and start any kind of conversation with you. And of course, try and avoid eye contact; especially with those people who seem eager to chat your ear off.</p> <h2>6. Surprise Parties</h2> <p>Introverts often have to attend social functions, there's just no getting around them. But, with enough time to prepare for the event, it's something that can be dealt with. A surprise party eliminates that buffer, and throws a big social event at someone who may not be mentally ready to be there.</p> <p>Whether it's a birthday, a baby shower, a retirement, or anything else, these events put the introvert at the center of the gathering. The spotlight is on them, and they want to duck inside their shell and crawl away. If you are an introvert, you may want to drop hints that you <em>really </em>don't like surprises; especially surprise parties. If one is suddenly thrust upon you, take some deep breaths, smile, and try and find just a few people to focus on, instead of the whole crowd.</p> <h2>7. The Open Plan Office</h2> <p>So technically, this may not be a social situation like the others, but let's not beat around the bush&hellip; it forces introverts to be more social, regardless of how they feel about it. The basic issue is a lack of privacy. Introverts do not want to live their lives in public. They don't want to make calls in front of other people. They don't want to be seen doing their jobs, especially if the open plan makes it very easy to interrupt them with idle chit-chat.</p> <p>If you are an introvert in an open plan office, you need to find ways to get the personal time you need. Don't eat lunch at your desk; instead, find a way to take a walk or go somewhere else. Wear headphones if you can, or even ear defenders, to block out noise and create your own space. And find creative ways to build a more private area for yourself, even if it's in the way you position your computer or the furniture.</p> <p><em>What social situations are tough for you? How do you get through them?</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/paul-michael">Paul Michael</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/7-social-situations-all-introverts-fear">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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Today we found some great articles on improving your social life, alternatives to joining the gym, and shopping and cooking for one.</p> <h2>Top Articles</h2> <p><a href="http://20andengaged.com/how-to-improve-your-social-life-in-2012">How to Improve Your Social Life in 2012</a> &mdash; Improve your social life in 2012 by joining a few Meetups! [20 and Engaged]</p> <p><a href="http://freefrombroke.com/alternatives-to-joining-the-gym/?utm_source=rss&amp;utm_medium=rss&amp;utm_campaign=alternatives-to-joining-the-gym">Alternatives to Joining the Gym</a> &mdash; Instead of joining a gym, opt to purchase your own exercise equipment. [Free From Broke]</p> <p><a href="http://beingfrugal.net/2012/01/02/shopping-and-cooking-frugally-for-one/?owa_medium=feed&amp;owa_sid=">Shopping and Cooking Frugally for One</a> &mdash; When shopping frugally for one, make sure to stock your pantry with pasta and canned tuna. [Being Frugal]</p> <p><a href="http://cashmoneylife.com/improve-credit-score-without-credit-cards/">Improve Your Credit Score without Using Credit Cards</a> &mdash; Want to improve your credit score without using credit cards? Make sure there are no errors on your credit report. [Cash Money Life]</p> <p><a href="http://www.bucksomeboomer.com/make-2012-your-best-year-ever/">Make 2012 Your Best Year Ever!</a> &mdash; Make 2012 your best year ever by writing down your goals and looking at them every day. [Bucksome Boomer]</p> <h2>Other Essential Reading</h2> <p><a href="http://personaldividends.com/money/briana/6-things-to-do-with-your-tax-return">6 Things To Do With Your Tax Return</a> &mdash; This year, use your tax return to pad your emergency fund. [Personal Dividends]</p> <p><a href="http://www.savvysugar.com/How-Reassess-Job-Search-6963119">Reassess Your Job Search For the New Year</a> &mdash; If you keep getting close to getting a job but continually fail to get hired, work on your follow-up skills. [SavvySugar]</p> <p><a href="http://savingsscoop.com/tips-save-roommate/?utm_source=feedburner&amp;utm_medium=feed&amp;utm_campaign=Feed%3A+SavingsScoop+%28Savings+Scoop%29">5 Tips to Save with a Roommate</a> &mdash; If you are thinking about saving money by living with a roommate, be sure to pick a roommate with a steady job who can pay his or her share of the bills. [Savings Scoop]</p> <p><a href="http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/sf/trashcans-recycling/what-to-do-with-all-those-packing-peanuts-163771">What to Do with All Those Packing Peanuts</a> &mdash; Use your extra packing peanuts on the tips of sharp tools to keep yourself from getting poked the next time you rummage through a drawer. [Apartment Therapy]</p> <p><a href="http://parentingsquad.com/9-must-do-bath-safety-tips">9 Must-Do Bath Safety Tips</a> &mdash; To keep bath time safe, take the time to learn CPR. [Parenting Squad]</p> <h2>News &amp; Events</h2> <p><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/top-100-most-popular-personal-finance-blogs/news/2012/01/wise-bread-tweetchat-wbchat">Wise Bread Tweetchat (#WBChat)</a> &mdash; Don't miss our weekly #WBChat at 12pm PST! We will be giving away prizes!</p> <p>Be sure to check out our <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/top-100-most-popular-personal-finance-blogs/news">News &amp; Events Calendar</a> to see all the awesome upcoming events in the personal finance world!</p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/ashley-jacobs">Ashley Jacobs</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/best-money-tips-improve-your-social-life">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. Read more great articles from Wise Bread:</div><div class="view view-similarterms view-id-similarterms view-display-id-block_2 view-dom-id-1"> <div class="view-content"> <div class="item-list"> <ul> <li class="views-row views-row-1 views-row-odd views-row-first"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/10-really-easy-ways-to-unclog-drains">10 Really Easy Ways to Unclog Drains</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-2 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/how-baking-soda-took-my-bathroom-from-yuck-to-yes">How Baking Soda Took My Bathroom from “Yuck” to Yes!</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-3 views-row-odd"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/20-office-potluck-dishes-everyone-loves">20 Office Potluck Dishes Everyone Loves</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-4 views-row-even"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/51-uses-for-coca-cola-the-ultimate-list">51 Uses for Coca-Cola – the Ultimate List</a></span> </div> </li> <li class="views-row views-row-5 views-row-odd views-row-last"> <div class="views-field-title"> <span class="field-content"><a href="http://www.wisebread.com/14-effective-grease-and-oil-stain-removal-tips">14 Effective Grease and Oil Stain Removal Tips</a></span> </div> </li> </ul> </div> </div> </div> </div><br/></br> General Tips best money tips social life Thu, 05 Jan 2012 11:01:13 +0000 Ashley Jacobs 855157 at http://www.wisebread.com 4 Ways to Save Money at the Bars http://www.wisebread.com/4-ways-to-save-money-at-the-bars <div class="field field-type-filefield field-field-blog-image"> <div class="field-items"> <div class="field-item odd"> <a href="/4-ways-to-save-money-at-the-bars" class="imagecache imagecache-250w imagecache-linked imagecache-250w_linked"><img src="http://wisebread.killeracesmedia.netdna-cdn.com/files/fruganomics/imagecache/250w/blog-images/two_dollar_pints.jpg" alt="People at a bar" title="People at a bar" class="imagecache imagecache-250w" width="250" height="160" /></a> </div> </div> </div> <p>We all love to go out with friends, but I for one am hesitant to pay $8 for a glass of wine at a bar when I know I can buy the whole bottle at my friendly neighborhood wine store for only a few dollars more. Here are a few tricks I've developed to pinch my pennies without hurting my social life:</p> <h3>Shop Around for Happy Hour Specials</h3> <p>It might seem obvious, but my un-budget-conscious friends tend to go where we always go rather than considering deals. So, suggest a new locale. To find deals, you could try a site like <a href="http://www.happy-hour.com/">www.happy-hour.com</a>, but in my smaller town I've had more luck simply Googling &quot;happy hour specials&quot; and going with a local site (ours is compiled by a local magazine). Or you can also check out the websites of different establishments to get an idea of current specials.</p> <h3>Check Out Restaurant.com for 40-60% Off Coupons</h3> <p>These can be used on food as well. One caveat to these coupons, however: Read the fine print carefully. The restaurant whose coupon you&rsquo;re purchasing generally sets stipulations regarding the coupon&rsquo;s use, including days of the week that they can be used, minimum dollar amounts of purchases, etc. Also, smaller towns have a more limited selection of participating locations. If you&rsquo;re hung up on the fact that a minimum purchase is required, try convincing your group to go in on one. A bonus for signing up for a free <a href="https://www.restaurant.com/register-login.asp?pgn=x">Restaurant.com user account</a> is that you can choose to receive e-mails that will regularly offer you 70% &ndash; 90% off the coupon price. I recently bought three $25 coupons for a total of $6.</p> <h3>Eat Before You Meet</h3> <p>Planning a later happy hour or time to meet friends gives you the opportunity to eat at home beforehand. I know, sometimes the point of meeting friends is to have a fun night out that includes trying new restaurants. If it&rsquo;s more about the socializing, though, pushing back your meeting time gives you the chance to eat at home, which is almost always a more frugal option. Another plus: You have time to take the dog out and change out of your work clothes, an opportunity I always welcome. If you are actually excited to try the food somewhere when meeting friends, you can always eat at home first and then order an appetizer or dessert with drinks, which will also cut down on overall spending.</p> <h3>Drink Less, or Not at All</h3> <p>To some, this sounds like a terrible idea. But I promise you, drinking less (or teetotaling) is not the worst idea I've ever had. In the past several years, medical research has pointed out the benefits of consuming alcohol in moderation, including reducing your risk of developing heart disease, dying of a heart attack, or developing diabetes. If you feel awkward not having something in your hand at all times, try ordering a &quot;<a href="http://allrecipes.com/Recipes/drinks/mocktails/Main.aspx">mocktail</a>.&quot; Alternatively, you could try alternating alcohol with a glass of water &mdash; not only will it rehydrate you and prevent you from drinking too much in one evening, but it will also prevent you from lightening your wallet by spending too much on alcohol!</p> <p><em>What tricks do you use to save money at bars? Share your ideas in the comments!</em></p> <br /><div id="custom_wisebread_footer"><div id="rss_tagline">This article is from <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/janey-osterlind">Janey Osterlind</a> of <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/4-ways-to-save-money-at-the-bars">Wise Bread</a>, an award-winning personal finance and <a href="http://www.wisebread.com/credit-cards">credit card comparison</a> website. 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