I didn't know that this was so prevalent. I can't imagine life without beer. How long do most people stay on these medications? Is it a lifetime thing?
This is a very tough thing for me to have as a college freshman, and was really tought in highschool where i was an active football player. Even thinking about taking a shot of liquor puts chills down my spine and beer is hard to chug...Damn acid reflux! I laugh at those commercials where people say "im on day 4" for prilosec otc...I'm on day 945...
Thanks for the kind words, Omini. I agree, women do tend to feel the need to be accepted and approved of. Nothing scares me more than leaving a situation and thinking, "The people back there think I'm a jerk."
I have been in situations where I got laughed at for asking for a certain amount of money. It was in NYC, and I had calculated that to live where I was living, I would need to make about 45K per year. This was in 1999. I was interviewing at an ad agency, and when the woman asked me what I wanted to make, I said, 45K. She laughed outloud and said that the best that I could hope for was 15K. I asked how anyone could possibly live in Manhattan on 15K a year, and she said, "Live with your parents." I explained that that would be a damn long commute, seeing as how my parents lived on the opposite side of the country. She just shrugged, picked up the phone, and I assumed the interview to be over. :)
Also, thanks to Wireless Jobs for including this post in their carnival!
...does anyone have a digital Rebel lying around that they'd give me(or sell for a good price). Kits with multiple flashes, lenses, a battery-housing grip will be given preference.
I HATE those stupid machines! I've done all that you have said, but I swear that the vast majority are rigged. What usually happens to me is I will get the claw around a toy, and it won't grip it at all. I really feel like that kind of thing should be illegal.
The 'lazy, well-meaning' bit was simply referring to the fact that they wanted to share their stuff, and were too lazy to go through the rigamarole of selling it. I fit myself into the same category -- I am both well-meaning and lazy. Don't worry, we love our friends and appreciate their generosity. I certainly wouldn't call it leeching: this isn't "Please can't I crash on your couch for one more week and eat all your food and not wash dishes and practice the art of electric guitar at 3 am nightly?" This is "hey that phone that you are not using and is taking up space in the clutter of your drawer, I'd love to take it off your hands and put it to use." I think it's up to each person to express their appreciation as they see fit -- in the case of the camera, I made cookies. Certainly not a monetary equivalent to the camera, but it was important to me that my friend knew how grateful I was for his generosity.
Now then, as far as the pride issue, again it's a personal call. But remember, these people are your friends. They are not there to judge you, and I certainly hope they are not judging you based on your current financial status -- money comes and goes, for all of us. When I have stuff that is excess, I'm happy to share it too. To me, it has little to do with money: when I lent a friend a guitar long-term, not expecting anything in return, I wasn't at all thinking he was too poor to afford one. My thinking was simply, "at least someone is using it."
While at first glance this seems like a great idea I think the savings are not as much as you think. 50$ sneakers are expensive for a six year old and I dont know any child that hasnt run their sneakers into the ground in the first year or so. I never as a kid had a pair of sneakers that could last three years, even if they did grow with my foot.
I can't imagine letting my friends know that I need a new laptop. There's no pride in that, in fact if they did find out that I needed a new laptop and offered me theirs, I would insist on paying for it.
I feel bad enough asking people for rides or when people offer to give me things or to buy me lunch. I even feel marginally guilty bumming cigarettes. Perhaps I have a complex, or maybe I just don't have the grace to ask people for things without thinking of myself as a mooch.
"Your lazy, well-meaning friends are a much better source for the goods you crave."
I've had times in my own life when I was much better off than many of my best friends and I did give them things I would have otherwise donated to Goodwill. If I ever saw them say something like the above quote, however, I'd never help them again. Goodwill would get my stuff long before they would.
Not only that, but whether my 'friend' upgrades their laptop or not, the thing is valuable - if not to them, then to me - and I can't imagine *taking* it without offering some form of payment, even if it meant I would buy them dinner at a nice restaurant next time we were together.
I love your posts, Andrea. This is so true. I deal every day with many women who work on a freelance basis and it's incredible the amount of money they settle for. I think women feel the need to please and be approved of. We are scared to ask for what we deserve because we don't want to disappoint anyone.
It took me a while to learn my lesson, but I really learned it. Now I just go into every new relationship with the attitude that I have nothing to lose. I have my minimum price and it's take it or leave it. I figure if people are unwilling to accept my rate, probably they won't appreciate my services or trust me anyway. So, it works out in the end. I get what I deserve and the client gets good service. We all win!
...is not the best choice for a child's growing feet. They need good support and a well made shoe, or they'll face problems. I strongly advise against cheap shoes, which is why I wrote this post.
They have all sorts of folks giving things away in the FREE section. I've seen old laptops, TVs, fridges, cars...it's a frugal shoppers treasure trove.
... your friends have money, stuff and are the kind of people that replace their still new things with newer things. What do you do if all your friends are poorer than you or are all frugal?? Sigh... maybe I need to make friends with your friend Mandy!
I was hyped at first, thought it would be a great place to back up my big video files, but it says you can only download 10MB at a time. That means that backed-up files can't exceed 10MB if you want them back. I wonder if that restriction is on sharing or if the uploader can download the same files.
This is THE worst part of an interview. Even though i do salary research, make an acceptable range and practice telling a future employer my expected pay... it sure scares me. What am I really afraid of? Probably not getting the job or worse, being laughed at my the interviewer. Of course, if I'm stating a realistic amount and either of those two responses was given, I probably don't want to be working there anyways. Here's what happened at my last job. I gave a reasonable range, of which the lowest number was also what I know I needed to make to make ends meet. The interviewers (and also principals of the small company) told me straight out that that was high. It shouldn't have been, because I had done my research. Maybe it was because they were hoping to pay less or because they were a very small company... who knows. So, they said they would get back to me. A day later they called to offer me the job, but at less than what I had asked. They also said they would consider me for a pay raise within a couple of months. Since I needed the job, I took it. To make this long story short... I got the pay raise in 3 months (a first in their company) after they said I had proved myself to be capable and worth every penny. (A nice thing to hear from an employer.) Also, I found out later, that I was one of the highest paid employees in my category.
Popping a P'sec now....things that have made mine a lot better have been: avoiding orange juice--just looking at a bottle puts me in danger, do not under any circumstances even think about bending down, laying down, reclining or doing back-flips until at least 30 minutes after your last meal. I know these work, because the times I've done otherwise have been hellacious.
I tried both. Prilosec didn't do anything, Prevacid cleared it up in 2 weeks. Ask your doctor for it.
I didn't know that this was so prevalent. I can't imagine life without beer. How long do most people stay on these medications? Is it a lifetime thing?
I meant "everyday" in a non-literal sense. As in "you could do it everyday if you wanted to." You people are so literal.
This is a very tough thing for me to have as a college freshman, and was really tought in highschool where i was an active football player. Even thinking about taking a shot of liquor puts chills down my spine and beer is hard to chug...Damn acid reflux! I laugh at those commercials where people say "im on day 4" for prilosec otc...I'm on day 945...
Thanks for the kind words, Omini. I agree, women do tend to feel the need to be accepted and approved of. Nothing scares me more than leaving a situation and thinking, "The people back there think I'm a jerk."
I have been in situations where I got laughed at for asking for a certain amount of money. It was in NYC, and I had calculated that to live where I was living, I would need to make about 45K per year. This was in 1999. I was interviewing at an ad agency, and when the woman asked me what I wanted to make, I said, 45K. She laughed outloud and said that the best that I could hope for was 15K. I asked how anyone could possibly live in Manhattan on 15K a year, and she said, "Live with your parents." I explained that that would be a damn long commute, seeing as how my parents lived on the opposite side of the country. She just shrugged, picked up the phone, and I assumed the interview to be over. :)
Also, thanks to Wireless Jobs for including this post in their carnival!
...does anyone have a digital Rebel lying around that they'd give me(or sell for a good price). Kits with multiple flashes, lenses, a battery-housing grip will be given preference.
;)
I HATE those stupid machines! I've done all that you have said, but I swear that the vast majority are rigged. What usually happens to me is I will get the claw around a toy, and it won't grip it at all. I really feel like that kind of thing should be illegal.
The 'lazy, well-meaning' bit was simply referring to the fact that they wanted to share their stuff, and were too lazy to go through the rigamarole of selling it. I fit myself into the same category -- I am both well-meaning and lazy. Don't worry, we love our friends and appreciate their generosity. I certainly wouldn't call it leeching: this isn't "Please can't I crash on your couch for one more week and eat all your food and not wash dishes and practice the art of electric guitar at 3 am nightly?" This is "hey that phone that you are not using and is taking up space in the clutter of your drawer, I'd love to take it off your hands and put it to use." I think it's up to each person to express their appreciation as they see fit -- in the case of the camera, I made cookies. Certainly not a monetary equivalent to the camera, but it was important to me that my friend knew how grateful I was for his generosity.
Now then, as far as the pride issue, again it's a personal call. But remember, these people are your friends. They are not there to judge you, and I certainly hope they are not judging you based on your current financial status -- money comes and goes, for all of us. When I have stuff that is excess, I'm happy to share it too. To me, it has little to do with money: when I lent a friend a guitar long-term, not expecting anything in return, I wasn't at all thinking he was too poor to afford one. My thinking was simply, "at least someone is using it."
While at first glance this seems like a great idea I think the savings are not as much as you think. 50$ sneakers are expensive for a six year old and I dont know any child that hasnt run their sneakers into the ground in the first year or so. I never as a kid had a pair of sneakers that could last three years, even if they did grow with my foot.
I can't imagine letting my friends know that I need a new laptop. There's no pride in that, in fact if they did find out that I needed a new laptop and offered me theirs, I would insist on paying for it.
I feel bad enough asking people for rides or when people offer to give me things or to buy me lunch. I even feel marginally guilty bumming cigarettes. Perhaps I have a complex, or maybe I just don't have the grace to ask people for things without thinking of myself as a mooch.
"Your lazy, well-meaning friends are a much better source for the goods you crave."
I've had times in my own life when I was much better off than many of my best friends and I did give them things I would have otherwise donated to Goodwill. If I ever saw them say something like the above quote, however, I'd never help them again. Goodwill would get my stuff long before they would.
Not only that, but whether my 'friend' upgrades their laptop or not, the thing is valuable - if not to them, then to me - and I can't imagine *taking* it without offering some form of payment, even if it meant I would buy them dinner at a nice restaurant next time we were together.
This isn't saving money, it's leeching.
I love your posts, Andrea. This is so true. I deal every day with many women who work on a freelance basis and it's incredible the amount of money they settle for. I think women feel the need to please and be approved of. We are scared to ask for what we deserve because we don't want to disappoint anyone.
It took me a while to learn my lesson, but I really learned it. Now I just go into every new relationship with the attitude that I have nothing to lose. I have my minimum price and it's take it or leave it. I figure if people are unwilling to accept my rate, probably they won't appreciate my services or trust me anyway. So, it works out in the end. I get what I deserve and the client gets good service. We all win!
The Samsung player comes with rechargeable batteries.
Based on the reviews at Amazon it sounds like you get what you pay for...no battery operation and poor reliability.
...is not the best choice for a child's growing feet. They need good support and a well made shoe, or they'll face problems. I strongly advise against cheap shoes, which is why I wrote this post.
They have all sorts of folks giving things away in the FREE section. I've seen old laptops, TVs, fridges, cars...it's a frugal shoppers treasure trove.
... your friends have money, stuff and are the kind of people that replace their still new things with newer things. What do you do if all your friends are poorer than you or are all frugal?? Sigh... maybe I need to make friends with your friend Mandy!
Mr DR told me to prop one end of the bed up just a little and that will help stop the acid rising while you sleep.
...just very very difficult. How proud you must be.
I was hyped at first, thought it would be a great place to back up my big video files, but it says you can only download 10MB at a time. That means that backed-up files can't exceed 10MB if you want them back. I wonder if that restriction is on sharing or if the uploader can download the same files.
This is THE worst part of an interview. Even though i do salary research, make an acceptable range and practice telling a future employer my expected pay... it sure scares me. What am I really afraid of? Probably not getting the job or worse, being laughed at my the interviewer. Of course, if I'm stating a realistic amount and either of those two responses was given, I probably don't want to be working there anyways. Here's what happened at my last job. I gave a reasonable range, of which the lowest number was also what I know I needed to make to make ends meet. The interviewers (and also principals of the small company) told me straight out that that was high. It shouldn't have been, because I had done my research. Maybe it was because they were hoping to pay less or because they were a very small company... who knows. So, they said they would get back to me. A day later they called to offer me the job, but at less than what I had asked. They also said they would consider me for a pay raise within a couple of months. Since I needed the job, I took it. To make this long story short... I got the pay raise in 3 months (a first in their company) after they said I had proved myself to be capable and worth every penny. (A nice thing to hear from an employer.) Also, I found out later, that I was one of the highest paid employees in my category.
I have actually won at all of those
This is one of the coolest ideas I hears. My originality, the million dollar page doesn't even come close not mentioning linkexperiment
I am sure they will write a book about it and will sell the car itself for 10 times its price after the trip.
Popping a P'sec now....things that have made mine a lot better have been: avoiding orange juice--just looking at a bottle puts me in danger, do not under any circumstances even think about bending down, laying down, reclining or doing back-flips until at least 30 minutes after your last meal. I know these work, because the times I've done otherwise have been hellacious.
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