It's so good to know I'm not crazy for hiring a cleaning lady twice a month. I am willing to make cuts in other areas of my life to have this....otherwise, I would probably go crazy.
My ultimate favorite thing to do is to go pick up some super cheap (and super delicious) french fries, burger and shake at Dick's on Queen Anne Hill. And then go to Kerry Park (particularly on a clear, dark summer night) and munch on the food and stunning scenery with friends.
Great post. My girlfriend and I were just in Seattle over Labor Day Weekend. There is a water tower in Volunteer Park with a great view of the skyline for free. The Conservatory is technically free, but they do ask a $3 donation from each vistor.
Mary it is indeed refreshing to read a well written and persuasive article.
One of the great myths about celebrating family business as a form of economic union is to focus on the longevity of the firm as the ultimate measure of its success.
In my new book, Every Family Business, I argue that gifting operating business to family is one of the greatest wealth destroying and family destroying ideas. When a founder denies their children or other family members the experience of risking their own capital to buy the business at market value they deny them the ultimate gift. By skipping this step a founder of a closely-held business will plant the seeds of wealth destruction. Businesses that are gifted to the next generation seldom succeed at driving innovation -- always difficult to change something that has been gifted. Its even harder to sell a gift and this is preceisely how generational wealth is destroyed. The most successful family dynasties have understood that knowing when to exit a business is as important as knowing when to start or invest in one. Pursuing the longevity of a business is fools gold.
Thomas William Deans Ph.D.
Author, Every Family's Business
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possibly tell me that you have never experienced women putting other women down at work, gossiping and/or generally bullying other women.
It is possible to lift others up without putting yourself down.
This article does not say that we need to be sacrificial lambs and let other women use us as a stepping stone.
The point is proven in the article that you shared:
"Respondents’ comments revealed that when women behave in ways that are traditionally valued for men leaders (e.g., assertively), they are viewed as more competent, but also not as effective interpersonally as women who adopt a more stereotypically feminine style."
I'm sure that respondents were BOTH male AND female. We must wonder, why, if a man tells us something *assertively* we think that he is confident and if a woman does then she is a b****? Women often take business personally! This leads to ill-feelings and gossip. Have you ever wondered why guys don't seem to talk about the people that they work with as much as women?
This is a destructive cycle, and we all need to play the game or get out. Don't take things so personally! And before you gossip about another woman, ask yourself why that is necessary. If you have a woman supervisor that is encouraging to the entire team, then that is great! But before you say that it is sexist to say "men sabotage women just as much as women"...just note the next time you hear someone gossiping about another woman in at your workplace. Or making a snide put-down.
I'd be willing to wager it is a woman.
I certainly don't like it. And I definitely don't think it is right. I just want to understand it.
I second the recommendation of the Gene Leahy Mall/Heartland of America Park. My friends and I used to go down there a lot when we were really broke. There are some great walks, and it's also right by the main library.
Not so much a touristy thing, but if you want to catch a movie, Stockyards Movies 8 (the 'dollar theater') is $1.50 with a $1 matinee, except on Thursdays when the matinee is only $0.50. Westwood Cinemas is $2.50, or $2 for a matinee. The Omaha World-Herald has online movie listings for these theaters: http://www.omaha.com/index.php?u_page=2100
You won't quite make it under the $5 mark this way, but if you have a zoo membership somewhere else, you may be able to get into the Omaha Henry Doorly Zoo at a half price ($5.50 adults/$3.50 children age 3-11/$4.75 seniors). The list is here: http://www.omahazoo.com/members/Reciprocal408.pdf
The Omaha Zoo is one thing in town that is definitely worth spending a little extra money on if you haven't seen it yet. It's one of the best zoos in the country, and it's easily an entire day's worth of entertainment.
The last two years have been very scary for our family. My husband was overcome with bipolar mental illness and plunged all my good intentions into an abyss of debt like I'd never seen before. As his illness progressed and was misdiagnosed, he became unable to work, so I became the sole breadwinner, working 2 jobs and trying to help with his illness, too. Our house, which we are in no danger of losing, has fallen into disrepair, because there just is no money. He recently found a medication that seems to hold a lot of promise, and I have gotten a little help from relatives. But we still have an unbelievable amount of debt, and one working spouse.
Your post was a nice reminder that things will be better someday and to not let my dreams and hopes fall by the wayside. I know things are now improving for us, and there have been "positives" to what has happened, too. I've learned a lot about myself, a lot about marriage, and a lot about stretching pennies. Probably, had this not happened, I'd be lacking in a lot of wisdom that I have now. As "they" say, "Wisdom comes from experiences, and mistakes". How very true.
Small world. I used to live in Blair before moving to my current home (Tekamah). It sure was much less complicated to drive to Omaha when I was closer. But I still enjoy visiting at least once a month!
"I have personal experience in this area; by expecting the woman across the desk from me to be kind and nurturing, I have botched interviews..."
I'm sorry, but we're supposed to be "kind and nurturing" on top of being competent businesswomen? Respectful yes, but nurturing? It's a sexist assumption that women need to be mothers/nurturers in the office. I don't see businessmen being asked to nurture anyone.
My current manager is a woman VP, and she's a sharp, savvy, impressive person. She supports ALL her team because that way she's successful too. I've had just as many male managers "sabotage" their people as women.
I live in Blair (just north of Omaha) and I didn't know of some of those. With a family of six, it is nice to find some things to do that are inexpensive! Thanks!
Just an anecdote regarding small family owned businesses. Emphasis on small...and family. My father, in a small town in Maine late in the forties, started a small jobshop printing business in what used to be two horse stalls at the back of our garage. There went my dream of owning a pony! My mother did whatever mimeographing jobs which came into the shop. After our father taught us the letter case and showed us how to set type, my sister and I contributed to some jobs that way, but mostly we fed the press....repetitive, and with baseball games blaring from WHDH on the radio, conducive to daydreaming and learning how to block out unwanted noise. One day, when I was around 10, my father brought into the house a bunch of stamped envelopes (3 cents!!) and asked me to address them and stuff them with his advertising flyer. He was appalled to discover, later, that I, a bigtime Zane Gray reader, had concluded his spelling on the list of targets was wrong, and all the beauty salons were transformed into beauty saloons.....So much for independent thinking.......
Well, I already have all the gear for having good time on the snow. And I got it used and so cheap, that it didn't even touch my "winter funds". And I am happy with all the stuff I got - skis, boots, poles and jacket. I am not an eBay fan and don't recommend to anybody - it is just too much of pain to win the right auction on the right price and so on... I don't like to deal with "ebayers" either. All the used stuff I got I got it from http://galacticsnowsports.com and I have to admit - they really sell cheap and the items I got are in pretty good condition. Anyway - get ready for winter and even book a place to stay for your vacation.
Guest #1--I'm so glad this met you where you were at. Sounds like things have been rough lately. I hope your drought lifts soon!
Shanel--That's a fabulous link! Thanks for your encouraging comments. And you're right...for so many facing drought, it could be so much worse.
Khurt--Ouch! I feel for you and your wife. Fibromyalgia isn't fun--my mom has it. And it can be so hard to get relief! I like what Guest #2 said--"We're still here." You know, sometimes I think that victory is in looking around and suddenly realizing that you're still standing, after the wind and the rain have passed.
Guest #2--Well, I pretty much said it in my response to Khurt. Thanks for your words; they're good and true.
Uncommonadvice--Wow...that's rough. Here's hoping things come together for you.
Savings Toolbox--You're welcome. And I like your thoughts on how we need to be reminded of what we already know. It's so easy for us to despair when we don't need to. Our feelings get away from us, our fears seem larger than life, and we crumble. It's so true.
Neimanmarxist--Ok, first of all? Fab username. Secondly, you know, you're right. Everything ends...and most of the time, we're still standing.
Thank you for your comments. I could go on and on but I'll try to keep this short enough to read.
As a Papa Murphy's franchisee of 13 years I've seen it all.
Short of being in your store at all times it would seem to be impossible to get an entire crew at one time who will take care of things the way I (the owner) would like. So please use the customer feedback at the bottom of your reciept. We recieve feedback constantly (positive and negative). The company that does or customer feedback only gives us credit toward our percentage scores on a grade of 5. Anything below that is a zero so sometimes it's hard to read the reports but we do anyway. Be sure to mark yes on the area that asks if you would like to be contacted. Otherwise we will not contact you assuming you don't want to be bothered. Working at a Papa Murphy's is rewarding especially when you can make your customers happy. And very stressfull when you can't. I find explainations of some of the circumstances we deal with going through my head but I will not list them here as they sound like excuses. So...please let us know when you have a bad experience...and don't hesitate to give us a 5 if we deserve it. You get a discount on your next visit regardless of which way your feedback reads so what do you have to lose?
To all those comments that came before in this thread...Don't knock it until you try it...We make our dough fresh every day...We grate three kinds of cheese everyday(not from Costco)...There is no comparison between our pizza and Dominos, Pizza Hut, Little Ceasars etc. We use top quality ingrediants and way more than the other guys. I.E. Our Large Pepperoni pizza has 60 slices of pepperoni. We know we are on the right track if they touch each other when we are putting them on.
Excellent article. We do quite a bit of work with family businesses and you've captured the essence very well. We often struggle to deal with "founderitis" - when a business outgrows the founder or ability of the founding family to cope with the new complexity. The challenge is always to help them let go and see how they can potentially constrain their own business, unless they bring in and trust external expertise.
Very useful tips from all the comments. I'd add that in addition to you google 'coupon code' and look up discount offers listed at RetailMeNot, HerCoupon.com does a good job of filtering out invalid expired offers. I highly suggest visiting the above sites all before making your final purchase decision. For women shoppers, HerCoupon.com make a lot of sense and is a great place not to miss. Its name is easy to remember too.
Xin Li - you reside in an upscale area of CA as I do. Areas that were very much part of what I refer to as the 'False Housing Spike'. The 'False Spike' was brought about by artificially cheap money. Prices will undoubtedly fall harder in those areas that had seen the fastest price appreciation in the last few years.
We're seeing it happen right before our eyes here in San Diego.
I see at least a couple more years of pain - if not a few years. I'm presently renting but would love to buy my own place and expect to start looking in a year or two depending on market conditions.
When I do locate properties I like, I will be throwing 'stink bids' at it. That is a bid so low, so underneath the asking price, that even I don't expect to have it accepted.
It won't be a buyers market but, as a previous commentator said, a qualified buyers market. And there will be precious few of those and many, many distressed sellers.
It's so good to know I'm not crazy for hiring a cleaning lady twice a month. I am willing to make cuts in other areas of my life to have this....otherwise, I would probably go crazy.
My ultimate favorite thing to do is to go pick up some super cheap (and super delicious) french fries, burger and shake at Dick's on Queen Anne Hill. And then go to Kerry Park (particularly on a clear, dark summer night) and munch on the food and stunning scenery with friends.
Great post. My girlfriend and I were just in Seattle over Labor Day Weekend. There is a water tower in Volunteer Park with a great view of the skyline for free. The Conservatory is technically free, but they do ask a $3 donation from each vistor.
Mary it is indeed refreshing to read a well written and persuasive article.
One of the great myths about celebrating family business as a form of economic union is to focus on the longevity of the firm as the ultimate measure of its success.
In my new book, Every Family Business, I argue that gifting operating business to family is one of the greatest wealth destroying and family destroying ideas. When a founder denies their children or other family members the experience of risking their own capital to buy the business at market value they deny them the ultimate gift. By skipping this step a founder of a closely-held business will plant the seeds of wealth destruction. Businesses that are gifted to the next generation seldom succeed at driving innovation -- always difficult to change something that has been gifted. Its even harder to sell a gift and this is preceisely how generational wealth is destroyed. The most successful family dynasties have understood that knowing when to exit a business is as important as knowing when to start or invest in one. Pursuing the longevity of a business is fools gold.
Thomas William Deans Ph.D.
Author, Every Family's Business
www.ProtectingFamilyBusinessWealth.com
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Вот их сайт: mag-art.ru.
possibly tell me that you have never experienced women putting other women down at work, gossiping and/or generally bullying other women.
It is possible to lift others up without putting yourself down.
This article does not say that we need to be sacrificial lambs and let other women use us as a stepping stone.
The point is proven in the article that you shared:
"Respondents’ comments revealed that when women behave in ways that are traditionally valued for men leaders (e.g., assertively), they are viewed as more competent, but also not as effective interpersonally as women who adopt a more stereotypically feminine style."
I'm sure that respondents were BOTH male AND female. We must wonder, why, if a man tells us something *assertively* we think that he is confident and if a woman does then she is a b****? Women often take business personally! This leads to ill-feelings and gossip. Have you ever wondered why guys don't seem to talk about the people that they work with as much as women?
This is a destructive cycle, and we all need to play the game or get out. Don't take things so personally! And before you gossip about another woman, ask yourself why that is necessary. If you have a woman supervisor that is encouraging to the entire team, then that is great! But before you say that it is sexist to say "men sabotage women just as much as women"...just note the next time you hear someone gossiping about another woman in at your workplace. Or making a snide put-down.
I'd be willing to wager it is a woman.
I certainly don't like it. And I definitely don't think it is right. I just want to understand it.
Could it be possible that the video about a large, plentiful body of water influenced their willingness to spend less?
I second the recommendation of the Gene Leahy Mall/Heartland of America Park. My friends and I used to go down there a lot when we were really broke. There are some great walks, and it's also right by the main library.
Not so much a touristy thing, but if you want to catch a movie, Stockyards Movies 8 (the 'dollar theater') is $1.50 with a $1 matinee, except on Thursdays when the matinee is only $0.50. Westwood Cinemas is $2.50, or $2 for a matinee. The Omaha World-Herald has online movie listings for these theaters: http://www.omaha.com/index.php?u_page=2100
You won't quite make it under the $5 mark this way, but if you have a zoo membership somewhere else, you may be able to get into the Omaha Henry Doorly Zoo at a half price ($5.50 adults/$3.50 children age 3-11/$4.75 seniors). The list is here: http://www.omahazoo.com/members/Reciprocal408.pdf
The Omaha Zoo is one thing in town that is definitely worth spending a little extra money on if you haven't seen it yet. It's one of the best zoos in the country, and it's easily an entire day's worth of entertainment.
The last two years have been very scary for our family. My husband was overcome with bipolar mental illness and plunged all my good intentions into an abyss of debt like I'd never seen before. As his illness progressed and was misdiagnosed, he became unable to work, so I became the sole breadwinner, working 2 jobs and trying to help with his illness, too. Our house, which we are in no danger of losing, has fallen into disrepair, because there just is no money. He recently found a medication that seems to hold a lot of promise, and I have gotten a little help from relatives. But we still have an unbelievable amount of debt, and one working spouse.
Your post was a nice reminder that things will be better someday and to not let my dreams and hopes fall by the wayside. I know things are now improving for us, and there have been "positives" to what has happened, too. I've learned a lot about myself, a lot about marriage, and a lot about stretching pennies. Probably, had this not happened, I'd be lacking in a lot of wisdom that I have now. As "they" say, "Wisdom comes from experiences, and mistakes". How very true.
Small world. I used to live in Blair before moving to my current home (Tekamah). It sure was much less complicated to drive to Omaha when I was closer. But I still enjoy visiting at least once a month!
I agree with comment #11- what a load of drivel.
"I have personal experience in this area; by expecting the woman across the desk from me to be kind and nurturing, I have botched interviews..."
I'm sorry, but we're supposed to be "kind and nurturing" on top of being competent businesswomen? Respectful yes, but nurturing? It's a sexist assumption that women need to be mothers/nurturers in the office. I don't see businessmen being asked to nurture anyone.
My current manager is a woman VP, and she's a sharp, savvy, impressive person. She supports ALL her team because that way she's successful too. I've had just as many male managers "sabotage" their people as women.
Yeesh.
Yes, I agree with this article....except I am at a loss of how to overcome the sabotage and lack of support from my female supervisor.
OK... so the blame the fat post wasn't enough, you decided to finish things off with this?
Take a look at this study:
The Double-Bind Dilemma for Women in Leadership: Damned if You Do, Doomed if You Don’t
*Now* I'm considering unsubbing to this rss feed. What a load of drivel.
I live in Blair (just north of Omaha) and I didn't know of some of those. With a family of six, it is nice to find some things to do that are inexpensive! Thanks!
This would be a great series to start doing reguarly for Metro cities that aren't the top 10 cities in the US. Cool list for if I ever visit Omaha.
Just an anecdote regarding small family owned businesses. Emphasis on small...and family. My father, in a small town in Maine late in the forties, started a small jobshop printing business in what used to be two horse stalls at the back of our garage. There went my dream of owning a pony! My mother did whatever mimeographing jobs which came into the shop. After our father taught us the letter case and showed us how to set type, my sister and I contributed to some jobs that way, but mostly we fed the press....repetitive, and with baseball games blaring from WHDH on the radio, conducive to daydreaming and learning how to block out unwanted noise. One day, when I was around 10, my father brought into the house a bunch of stamped envelopes (3 cents!!) and asked me to address them and stuff them with his advertising flyer. He was appalled to discover, later, that I, a bigtime Zane Gray reader, had concluded his spelling on the list of targets was wrong, and all the beauty salons were transformed into beauty saloons.....So much for independent thinking.......
Excellent article, very well-written. It's amazing how many family-owned businesses of every size are thriving in Maine!
Well, I already have all the gear for having good time on the snow. And I got it used and so cheap, that it didn't even touch my "winter funds". And I am happy with all the stuff I got - skis, boots, poles and jacket. I am not an eBay fan and don't recommend to anybody - it is just too much of pain to win the right auction on the right price and so on... I don't like to deal with "ebayers" either. All the used stuff I got I got it from http://galacticsnowsports.com and I have to admit - they really sell cheap and the items I got are in pretty good condition. Anyway - get ready for winter and even book a place to stay for your vacation.
Take care,
Jordan
...if all the women in the world took steps to dress more modestly, we could put an end to sexual assault!
Right?
*crickets*
Unfortunately, our representatives in Congress have been selling their vote to lobbyists for a few decades now.
Guest #1--I'm so glad this met you where you were at. Sounds like things have been rough lately. I hope your drought lifts soon!
Shanel--That's a fabulous link! Thanks for your encouraging comments. And you're right...for so many facing drought, it could be so much worse.
Khurt--Ouch! I feel for you and your wife. Fibromyalgia isn't fun--my mom has it. And it can be so hard to get relief! I like what Guest #2 said--"We're still here." You know, sometimes I think that victory is in looking around and suddenly realizing that you're still standing, after the wind and the rain have passed.
Guest #2--Well, I pretty much said it in my response to Khurt. Thanks for your words; they're good and true.
Uncommonadvice--Wow...that's rough. Here's hoping things come together for you.
Savings Toolbox--You're welcome. And I like your thoughts on how we need to be reminded of what we already know. It's so easy for us to despair when we don't need to. Our feelings get away from us, our fears seem larger than life, and we crumble. It's so true.
Neimanmarxist--Ok, first of all? Fab username. Secondly, you know, you're right. Everything ends...and most of the time, we're still standing.
Thank you for your comments. I could go on and on but I'll try to keep this short enough to read.
As a Papa Murphy's franchisee of 13 years I've seen it all.
Short of being in your store at all times it would seem to be impossible to get an entire crew at one time who will take care of things the way I (the owner) would like. So please use the customer feedback at the bottom of your reciept. We recieve feedback constantly (positive and negative). The company that does or customer feedback only gives us credit toward our percentage scores on a grade of 5. Anything below that is a zero so sometimes it's hard to read the reports but we do anyway. Be sure to mark yes on the area that asks if you would like to be contacted. Otherwise we will not contact you assuming you don't want to be bothered. Working at a Papa Murphy's is rewarding especially when you can make your customers happy. And very stressfull when you can't. I find explainations of some of the circumstances we deal with going through my head but I will not list them here as they sound like excuses. So...please let us know when you have a bad experience...and don't hesitate to give us a 5 if we deserve it. You get a discount on your next visit regardless of which way your feedback reads so what do you have to lose?
To all those comments that came before in this thread...Don't knock it until you try it...We make our dough fresh every day...We grate three kinds of cheese everyday(not from Costco)...There is no comparison between our pizza and Dominos, Pizza Hut, Little Ceasars etc. We use top quality ingrediants and way more than the other guys. I.E. Our Large Pepperoni pizza has 60 slices of pepperoni. We know we are on the right track if they touch each other when we are putting them on.
Excellent article. We do quite a bit of work with family businesses and you've captured the essence very well. We often struggle to deal with "founderitis" - when a business outgrows the founder or ability of the founding family to cope with the new complexity. The challenge is always to help them let go and see how they can potentially constrain their own business, unless they bring in and trust external expertise.
Very useful tips from all the comments. I'd add that in addition to you google 'coupon code' and look up discount offers listed at RetailMeNot, HerCoupon.com does a good job of filtering out invalid expired offers. I highly suggest visiting the above sites all before making your final purchase decision. For women shoppers, HerCoupon.com make a lot of sense and is a great place not to miss. Its name is easy to remember too.
Xin Li - you reside in an upscale area of CA as I do. Areas that were very much part of what I refer to as the 'False Housing Spike'. The 'False Spike' was brought about by artificially cheap money. Prices will undoubtedly fall harder in those areas that had seen the fastest price appreciation in the last few years.
We're seeing it happen right before our eyes here in San Diego.
I see at least a couple more years of pain - if not a few years. I'm presently renting but would love to buy my own place and expect to start looking in a year or two depending on market conditions.
When I do locate properties I like, I will be throwing 'stink bids' at it. That is a bid so low, so underneath the asking price, that even I don't expect to have it accepted.
It won't be a buyers market but, as a previous commentator said, a qualified buyers market. And there will be precious few of those and many, many distressed sellers.